Big Brothers volunteer Brian, 23, is also from London and knows what great memories the program can create, having been a Little himself. "My time as a Little Brother was very memorable," he says. "My Big Brother Rob was and still is a great guy, was always a ton of fun to be around, and always made sure I had a blast while hanging out with him."
Matched with 10-year-old Kyle three months ago, Brian says plenty of laughter and smiles have resulted from their Mario Kart and Smash Bros. playtime. "I think it makes communication easier, because when you're having fun with someone, you tend to be more open with that person, I find," he says. "And if both people are enjoying the activity, then there's common ground established from the get-go."
Fellow Londoner Joe, 25, says he's also found gaming to be a great way to strengthen his friendship with Cody, his 13-year-old Little of four years. During games of Wii Sports or Rock Band, he says, "there are always relationship-building skills at work through basic communication. Many times our conversations will be about school or friends or life in general. ... As long as we are playing the game to have fun and don't take it too serious, then sometimes the more difficult conversations can become much easier because we are also occupied with the game."
"Videogames have for some time had a bad reputation, but I, on the other hand, find them a way for children, youth and adults to relate to one another," Joe said
Gaming has provided opportunities for conversation and learning between Bigs and Littles, but it's also just a great way to have fun. "I think [Timmy] was surprised that an adult could be into kid's activities, so he saw that I was a fun guy to be around," says Mike, who finds himself too busy to game alone. "I can now suggest outdoor activities, or things that are new to him, and he will have a good time because his fun Big Brother will be there."
All of the Big Brothers interviewed told stories of exuberant high-fives, friendly competition and the joy of seeing a usually reserved Little start whooping and hollering when he conquers an objective that once seemed impossible. Many also shared stories of moments when they realized the kids were starting to get better at the games than themselves, the seasoned veterans.
"It's like they have sprouted extra fingers to handle these massive game controllers," Mike says in defense of getting trounced consistently by Timmy.
