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Don’t Stick It in The Crazy

Lara Crigger | 8 Jul 2011 16:00
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Dear Love FAQ:

After my divorce, I have been lonely and in search of a meaningful relationship. A few days ago, an ex-girlfriend calls me out of the blue and asks me out.

We meet up, and after talking awhile, she tells me she's been in a relationship for the past 10 years. This came as a shock, but as we were both having fun, we decided to continue the date.

She kept reminding me throughout dinner how much I meant to her; I was her first boyfriend, and I was the first time she was intimate with someone. I kept feeling she was putting some moves on me... but then the conversation shifted back to her boyfriend. She began by saying "he is my soul mate", but then complained that she wasn't completely happy, and so on.

At the end of the night, she gave me her number and I told her we should meet again. She hesitated, but then agreed. And it was her who first invited me to have some "real" pizza in her house -- not like the pizza we were having in the restaurant, if you know what I mean.

So my question is, why did she call me? Is there any chance at all of her being interested in me for something more than friendship? I don´t want to get her into trouble, and taking someone else's girl seems to be the stupidest thing I could do... but what if she is indeed unhappy? I´m so confused!!!

-- The Loneliest Jedi

Dear The Loneliest Jedi:

IT'S A TRAP. For the love of Admiral Ackbar, run as fast and as far as you can.

She needs to figure out this on her own. Stay out of it. I don't care how many compliments she gives you, or how many "slices" of "pizza" she wiggles under your nose, don't get involved with this human black hole of crazy, because there's simply no escaping her event horizon.

It's okay to be lonely; the right one for you will come eventually. And this isn't it.

Should you decide to pursue her anyway, then scroll back up and read the previous answer. I have a feeling you're going to need it.

Disclaimer: LoveFAQ is written by Lara Crigger, who is by no means a trained psychiatrist or therapist or even a middle school guidance counselor - just a smart gal who wants to help out her fellow geek. LoveFAQ is meant for entertainment purposes only, so don't take it as a substitute for professional advice. If you have real problems, consult your physician.

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