I won't recommend you change a thing about yourself or your behavior, because honestly, that strength of character is a good quality - a sexy quality, even, once you grow into the right circumstances- and you should hold onto it, because what seems like a liability now will become your greatest asset later on.
For the moment, however, all I can advise is to have patience with your peers, and to seize opportunities when they arise. It's okay to let be love be a matter of an urgency, a diem that must be carpe'd today. If you like a girl, ask her out as soon as possible. Don't wait to get to know her better first; that's what dating is for. Just seize the opportunity before she writes you off as unattainable, because you didn't make a move.
Also consider looking outside your school, for girls who don't have as many preconceived notions about what box you should or shouldn't fit into.
But in the meantime, be who you are, because in the end, that's what women really want, not someone who changes his behavior to fit an arbitrary standard of what "hetereosexuality" looks like.
I'm a 20-year old guy who's been single for about a year now. Truthfully, I consider myself "attractive enough", except for one shortcoming: I suffer from premature baldness. It's already well on its way. Most of the front of my hair is already non-existent, and I've got a pretty large bald spot.
I already have some pretty geeky interests girls my age find hard to identify with, and there isn't much of a market for short bald guys my age. I'm not scared of talking to girls or anything, but it certainly kills my confidence once in a while. Sometimes it seems like girls don't really see me in that way, and it's hard to shake the feeling that dating would be easier if only I had a full head of hair.
I guess my question is - are my fears unfounded? Do girls not really care all that much? And how can I get them to look past the crappy hair and get them to notice the awesome guy that I know I am?
Young Lex Luthor
Don't ask them to look past your bald spot. Own it. Shave that head and work your skin with swagger.
A man who is unashamed of his bald head is incredibly sexy: It screams confidence, experience, and a man who kicks all of the asses and gives none of the fucks.
Don't believe me? Just ask Patrick Stewart, Vin Diesel, Laurence Fishbourne, Bruce Willis, Taye Diggs, Jason Statham, Omar Epps, The Rock and the millions of other men out there working their shiny pate for all its worth. Women don't care as much about baldness as you think they do. It's probably your own self-doubt that's hurting you most, not the lack of hair.
So if you're going bald, don't fight it. Shave it. Be bald, and be beautiful.
After all, the ladies didn't love Cool J because he had a full head of hair.
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