Love FAQ

Love FAQ
Save the Whips and Chains Until the Second Date

Lara Crigger | 23 Dec 2011 16:00
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Dear Luck,

If she's not answering your messages, take the hint. She doesn't want to talk to you. Ever.

It sucks, yes, but there's no shortage of women out there looking for love, so do yourself a solid and stop obsessing over what you did wrong with this one. You'll just drive yourself crazy - especially since her rejection may have had nothing to do with you at all.

Sadly we don't always get satisfying answers or clean endings, and people may leave our lives without ever telling us why. Part of love-and life-is learning to accept that there are questions you will never know the answers to, and moving on anyway.

Dear Love FAQ,

I have a bit of a problem. I have this guy panting after me like a lost puppy, and it's gone beyond annoying to a little creepy.

He's a nice-ish guy, and we have been friends for a year. He has already asked me out once, and I turned him down! But still he insists on walking me to all of my classes, opening doors for me, and making sure to wear the same color I wear to a dance, etc. He texts me constantly, and he is always putting his arm around my shoulder.

People have started to ask me if we are going out, and when I say no, no one believes me. The worst thing is, I have someone I really like, and this guy is getting in the way of it. I don't want to hurt him, but I'm afraid I'm going to have to. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Not Looking for a Nintendog

Dear Nintendog,

Stop trying to be friends with someone who has already expressed he's not interested in such. You're only encouraging his behavior. Instead, minimize your contact with him, and when you can't avoid him, stay cool and aloof.

This means you don't walk through doors he opens for you; you open your own. When he tries to escort you to class, tell him, flat-out, you want to walk alone. Don't answer his text messages, don't sit next to him, and for chrissakes, if he asks what you're wearing to a dance, tell him it's none of his business.

Stop worrying about hurting his feelings, because he certainly isn't giving you the same consideration. You have every right to feel secure and safe in your own school, and only assertiveness will get this Creeper McCreeperson off your back.

Disclaimer: LoveFAQ is written by Lara Crigger, who is by no means a trained psychiatrist or therapist or even a middle school guidance counselor - just a smart gal who wants to help out her fellow geek. LoveFAQ is meant for entertainment purposes only, so don't take it as a substitute for professional advice. If you have real problems, consult your physician.

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