La Luna

La Luna

Greg Tito | 2 Sep 2008 12:50
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While the social aspect went decently, Erin's attention visibly waned when we shifted to the dungeon crawling. "What do I do?" she'd ask when her turn came up on the initiative board. It just seemed that she didn't care whether those giant scorpions got smacked or not. Using miniatures and polyhedron dice surprised her. I don't think she realized how many accessories were involved.

Overall, I think my amateur DMing was at fault. In the hands of a more skilled storyteller who was able to create more tension in the storyline, I think Erin might have responded differently. Regardless, she now has a better understanding of what D&D is, but it is even clearer that it is not for her. "There is just so much stuff you have to know. I mean, I have this sheet with all these numbers on it, all my powers, and I have to take notes when I get hit and all that," she said. "I just don't have the attention span to learn it all."

What did she think about playing with people? "That part was cool. They were all really nice and supportive of me figuring it all out. But they really were dorks just like you," she said. "I mean, you guys were talking about books and stuff that I would never even know about if I didn't know you."


I think that was the biggest hurdle in indorktrinating my wife. She just doesn't respect the fantasy genre. Erin didn't grow up imagining she was Bilbo or even Ariel, and she had almost no frame of reference when I asked her what kind of character she wanted to be. I also believe that her spatial aptitude was a barrier between her and playing most videogames. She likes Wii bowling and can sing a mean tune on Rock Band, but games that involve manipulating a character like Mario Kart or WoW are prohibitively difficult for her. I can understand not enjoying a pastime because you are no good at it. That's probably why I don't golf, fish or go to church.

Introducing my wife to dorkdom was well worth it. Playing WoW and meeting my gaming friends around a D&D table, Erin has a clearer picture of what it is I'm doing most nights. We've cut through the stereotypes and misconceptions she had about gaming. Instead of only imagining what huge dorks we all are, she now knows for certain. And after witnessing Erin's willingness to experience the things that define me, I no longer begrudge that we are so different. Our fierce individuality is what creates such a strong partnership. That we respect each other is all that's important. I just hope she doesn't try to introduce me to reality TV.

Greg Tito is a playwright and stand-up comic residing in Brooklyn, NY. He is currently splitting time between World of Warcraft, a new D&D 3rd Edition campaign and finishing one of his many uncompleted writing projects. He also blogs semi-regularly at

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