why do girls never say what they want? lets face it most guys suck at flirting and reading signals. and girls can read what a guy doesnt even know his body language is saying. so why are they never more clear??
1) I had a girlfriend once that no matter what could not have a vaginal orgasm. I mean we tried EVERYTHING in the book. As of now we've broken up, but if I ever encounter that little fracas I want to go in a little more prepared. What can I do in that situation (other than clitoral orgasm, mind you).
Keep in mind that the vagina itself has almost no nerve endings in it. This is by design. Remember the childbirth thing? Yeah, ow. So, minimal nerve endings. When you say vaginal orgasm, you are probably talking about G-spot orgasm. The G-spot is specific in location just like the clit, and doesn't work for every girl. You might be surprised, but there are a lot of women who don't come without specific clit stimulation. That's just the way it is. That's why we have fingers, tongues, and small vibes a woman can use without them getting in the way.
2) My ex can't sleep in anybody's bed but her own. How can I get her out of that habit? (we're still into each other)
Why not sleep at her place then? I admit, I'm the same. I have a hard time sleeping in any other bed. It's a pretty common thing, male or female.
Well quite frankly I'm impressed! I looked at hyde_myselfs post and had to have another shot of whiskey before reading it lmao! It seems that my idea that we live in a society where EVERYONE has there own unique opinion is reinforced. I believe that despite what people say the universe DOES revolve around you! We are all lucky to live in a time when we are all right and we do what is right for you as an individual. I consider myself to be insane though and if I'm not then I will try harder, if you like to talk about god and shit facebook me! willtreblar@hotmail.com
Because girls want to be the one person who can access the creamy center of the pricks and the jackasses and the assholes. 9/10 times there is no creamy center, but we go for it anyways. Bottom line, when a nice guy is nice to you its not as special. However, this phase usually goes away and in the end we will realize that we don't actually want to be with the guy who regards anyone who disagrees with remotely him as a dumbass, and that the guy who gives us pep talks and compliments is the one we want to be with.
So nice guys may finish last, but we certainly finish best. Some of us think clearly enough to let the head that's on our shoulders do the thinking.
Not really: usually jerks straighten out at some point and finish as well as--if not better than--nice guys.
do you like british accents, or any accent for that matter how do you know when a girl likes you (I ask that alot but never get an asnwer I can comprehend...) what about short guys? I myself laugh when I see a short guy with a tall girl even with me being fairly short
Why do you wear clothes that leave most of your upper body (you know what I mean) uncovered and then get all pissy when we look at your boobs?
Yeah, my brother's ex-wife was fucking horrible about that. She reported a guy at my Mom's work for staring at her breasts, and when she was talking to the manager, he happened to look down because she was POINTING at her breasts and then got even more offended... If you don't want to be treated like an object, USE COMMON SENSE! Have some modesty and you might actually earn the respect of the people around you.
Because girls want to be the one person who can access the creamy center of the pricks and the jackasses and the assholes. 9/10 times there is no creamy center, but we go for it anyways. Bottom line, when a nice guy is nice to you its not as special. However, this phase usually goes away and in the end we will realize that we don't actually want to be with the guy who regards anyone who disagrees with remotely him as a dumbass, and that the guy who gives us pep talks and compliments is the one we want to be with.
So nice guys may finish last, but we certainly finish best. Some of us think clearly enough to let the head that's on our shoulders do the thinking.
Not really: usually jerks straighten out at some point and finish as well as--if not better than--nice guys.
Way to shit all over my theory. You're theory doesn't always hold up either though. A girl being with assholes can be good and bad for nice guys. We can make them feel better than the assholes, but gaining their trust, knowing that you won't cheat on them or hurt them, is like pulling your own teeth out. How about a little trust sometimes??
Why do you wear clothes that leave most of your upper body (you know what I mean) uncovered and then get all pissy when we look at your boobs?
Yeah, my brother's ex-wife was fucking horrible about that. She reported a guy at my Mom's work for staring at her breasts, and when she was talking to the manager, he happened to look down because she was POINTING at her breasts and then got even more offended... If you don't want to be treated like an object, USE COMMON SENSE! Have some modesty and you might actually earn the respect of the people around you.
ya, thats just insane. girls dont want ppl to look at their chest, yet are almost always wearing such revealing clothes, that you cant help but look, even if you try. if you dont want ppl looking at your chest, then don't show it off so much that ppl cant help but notice it
So nice guys may finish last, but we certainly finish best. Some of us think clearly enough to let the head that's on our shoulders do the thinking.
Not really: usually jerks straighten out at some point and finish as well as--if not better than--nice guys.
Way to shit all over my theory. You're theory doesn't always hold up either though. A girl being with assholes can be good and bad for nice guys. We can make them feel better than the assholes, but gaining their trust, knowing that you won't cheat on them or hurt them, is like pulling your own teeth out. How about a little trust sometimes??
Nope--doesn't hold up always. Some of the time though, certainly.
Of course, the opposite theory to your theory is that women are looking for guys who *were* jerks and have sown their wild oats and gotten it out of their system. A nice guy might only be as nice as his options, and when offered the chance to cheat later in life with a hot girl will take it, while the ex-jerk as already had his fill.
1) I had a girlfriend once that no matter what could not have a vaginal orgasm. I mean we tried EVERYTHING in the book. As of now we've broken up, but if I ever encounter that little fracas I want to go in a little more prepared. What can I do in that situation (other than clitoral orgasm, mind you).
In addition to Msh's post, orgasm's are passed down via genetics; so some women find it nay impossible to get them.
Because girls want to be the one person who can access the creamy center of the pricks
So nice guys may finish last, but we certainly finish best. Some of us think clearly enough to let the head that's on our shoulders do the thinking.
Not really: usually jerks straighten out at some point and finish as well as--if not better than--nice guys.
Way to shit all over my theory. You're theory doesn't always hold up either though. A girl being with assholes can be good and bad for nice guys. We can make them feel better than the assholes, but gaining their trust, knowing that you won't cheat on them or hurt them, is like pulling your own teeth out. How about a little trust sometimes??
Nope--doesn't hold up always. Some of the time though, certainly.
Of course, the opposite theory to your theory is that women are looking for guys who *were* jerks and have sown their wild oats and gotten it out of their system. A nice guy might only be as nice as his options, and when offered the chance to cheat later in life with a hot girl will take it, while the ex-jerk as already had his fill.
Ok that may be true in some cases. I would say that it wouldn't hold true for me, just because of how I am, but I see your point
1) I had a girlfriend once that no matter what could not have a vaginal orgasm. I mean we tried EVERYTHING in the book. As of now we've broken up, but if I ever encounter that little fracas I want to go in a little more prepared. What can I do in that situation (other than clitoral orgasm, mind you).
In addition to Msh's post, orgasm's are passed down via genetics; so some women find it nay impossible to get them.
Hmmmm, genetically huh? So what you're saying is ask their mother?
1) I had a girlfriend once that no matter what could not have a vaginal orgasm. I mean we tried EVERYTHING in the book. As of now we've broken up, but if I ever encounter that little fracas I want to go in a little more prepared. What can I do in that situation (other than clitoral orgasm, mind you).
In addition to Msh's post, orgasm's are passed down via genetics; so some women find it nay impossible to get them.
Hmmmm, genetically huh? So what you're saying is ask their mother?
Grandmother, it skips a generation.
Ooh you're gonna have nightmares about that one. :)
twilight_dweller: How can you tell if a girl is into you? I am getting some VERY mixed signals here.
Use the fool proff "ass-string" method, which ain't half as nasty as it sounds.
Statement A: Women like men's butts Statement B: Women are generally more into tidy than we are.
Ergo: Wear some dark jeans. Now get a short piece of white string and park it on your butt cheek. If she gets rid of it for you, well, she's had to grope your arse to get it. It's a start. If she don't....hooo boy, you're best of finding yourself another lass.
(For the reccord, please never ever actually do the above or take it as factual evidence of a girl's carnal lust for you.)
Why do girls always insist that they're looking for a nice considerate guy but always end up dating stupid pricks who treat them like shit? Then after they break up they start looking for the same type of guy again.
The answer comes down to good old science. Underneath all our emotions, feeling morals and whatnot, we are animals, and being animals it's programmed into us from birth to reproduce for fear that the species die out. So that doesn't happen, we want the best chance for our offspring to survive long enough to reproduce themselves, and therefore want the best genes to be passed on through the generations, and in this case "Best" is defined as biggest, strongest, meanest and toughest. Essential qualities to survive circa caveman era. So, it boils down to "If you want your kid to survive, get the biggest, strongest, most ruthless Mate that you can. Not the small wimpy guy in the corner". A true example of "Survival of the Fittest".
Over these hundreds of thousands of years we changed. We don't fight for our lives every single day anymore, we live in comfort and ease. However our programming is the same. Our brain still tells us that we better pick the best guy out gene pool that we can, lest the resulting child wither and die.
Admitedly it's not what happens all the time, but it does happen. It's natural, and sad sometimes, but only because we've grown to understand ourselves enough that we realise it. Fun Reading
Why do girls always insist that they're looking for a nice considerate guy but always end up dating stupid pricks who treat them like shit? Then after they break up they start looking for the same type of guy again.
The answer comes down to good old science. Underneath all our emotions, feeling morals and whatnot, we are animals, and being animals it's programmed into us from birth to reproduce for fear that the species die out. So that doesn't happen, we want the best chance for our offspring to survive long enough to reproduce themselves, and therefore want the best genes to be passed on through the generations, and in this case "Best" is defined as biggest, strongest, meanest and toughest. Essential qualities to survive circa caveman era. So, it boils down to "If you want your kid to survive, get the biggest, strongest, most ruthless Mate that you can. Not the small wimpy guy in the corner". A true example of "Survival of the Fittest".
Over these hundreds of thousands of years we changed. We don't fight for our lives every single day anymore, we live in comfort and ease. However our programming is the same. Our brain still tells us that we better pick the best guy out gene pool that we can, lest the resulting child wither and die.
Admitedly it's not what happens all the time, but it does happen. It's natural, and sad sometimes, but only because we've grown to understand ourselves enough that we realise it. Fun Reading
My last girl was into extreme bondage and the like. I caught her hanging herself for sexual pleasure. I have not been able to talk to a girl since as anything other than a customer, a work colleague or if I know they're already in a relationship. Any other kind of interaction makes me clam up. What do I do?
With regard to the second to last comment, I once chose to date a guy who was more or less a geek, who was not so good looking, but was intelligent. I thought he'd naturally treat me better than some good looking boy racer with more STDs than braincells.
Turns out he didn't treat me well at all, and now I'm more happy dating a guy who I initially suspected was just a dense boy racer.
So the wimpy guy in the corner isn't always the nice considerate guy, and the big strong ruthless male isn't always the stupid prick he appears to be.
I have actually experimented with that before and discovered I am straight. The promise of the male prostate being incredible when manipulated did not live up to the hype.
why are you so damn easy to bludgeon, strangle, bundle in a carpet i got from my uncle, seal the ends with tape from my local k-mart, weigh down with bricks and dump in the local river under the pontoon i once caught a flathead off?
i've only done it once, but one blow to the head and you guys are out
what's with that? seriously its weird guys, your freaking me out here.
i was going to use this as a lead in to a serious question... but i have none, so now i just look freaky... damn
oooh, whats your opinion towards quirky, strange guys? is their to much of a good thing?
Chaos Marine: I have actually experimented with that before and discovered I am straight. The promise of the male prostate being incredible when manipulated did not live up to the hype.
A bit like halo 3.
Anyway, what you need to do is try and find a nice girl and take it slow. Well thats my opinion anyway.
In your opinion, what constitutes good and bad treatment?
Labyrinth: I appreciate the thought that I stand out in a crowd, if only due to the sheer contrast of milk pale skin against the orange monotone of the general population.
Not native to Austrailia I take it?
Labyrinth: As for the three opinions, it sounds fairly accurate, though I believe in saying a big "Fuck you!" to the first and paying more attention to what I want.
Society is the worst judge of anything. If you've been taught anything, disregard it and learn it yourself. I'm probably even more annoyed by people who tell you what to think and expect you to accept it.
I think most of this confusion arises from the point that people are thinking there is a 'one system for all' sorta thing when there are multiple influences to be found (if not more). For example, just because another person is a guy doesn't mean I share the same likes and dislikes as him, likewise, not all girls like the 'wrong guys', not all girls like the 'nice guys' - they might like the right guy, but everyone, I am sure, has a different idea as to who that is (and if you're imagining one to compare yourself to - stop it - that's society's brainwashing - besides, knight armour in hot weather is impractical).
A good example is probably looks. Looks are well and nice (stereotype of men going for looks here - society again), but I could not stand it if I had to walk around with someone as dumb as a lamp-post. Not saying I'd walk with an asteroid either if it could spout quantum physics at me (how can you be intelligent and not look after yourself anyway). Besides, just because someone could spout quantum physics does not neccessarily make them smart either (it would be like saying knowing quotes off-by-heart makes you an expert on personality).
This means I'm in for the long-haul mind you - it's a difficult trait to find someone who thinks on the same level.
Labyrinth: Relax, kick back and take the time to assess a situation before you charge in and make a twit of yourself.
Logic and fail-safes stop working once the hormones and subconscious get involved. It feels anything but a 'chemical reaction'. For context; stare at a bright light closely for a good few seconds; then try to re-read this post. With the blurry, blotted obstruction of the vision due to over-stimulation, it now becomes impossible to read anything until it fades away. Done this? Good. In future, wear sunglasses all the time. Those big, over-sized ones.
Bad treatment is anything which, rather than boosting my ego or actually being a deserved criticism, is aimed to make one feel less important. Oh, and prejudice. No, I wasn't born Australian. I'm from New Zealand originally but I've lived in Australia for the last.. ohh, over a decade now. And fuck those sunnies. I have stylish, matrix-like sunglasses for when I want to feel chic.
theres this girl that i have known for a really long time, but i have wound up in that anoying situation where she thinks of me more as a brother then a love interest...
what should i do to get from being brother to being lover
Myredin: theres this girl that i have known for a really long time, but i have wound up in that anoying situation where she thinks of me more as a brother then a love interest...
what should i do to get from being brother to being lover
Myredin: theres this girl that i have known for a really long time, but i have wound up in that anoying situation where she thinks of me more as a brother then a love interest...
what should i do to get from being brother to being lover
unfortunately there is not much you can do. although because guys don't like to hear "you can't" here the next best advice. JUst try tobe something she likes and at the same time to be to far from your self.
if she likes people she can beatthe ever loving hell out of, and your stronger than her, it'll be noticable.
Myredin: theres this girl that i have known for a really long time, but i have wound up in that anoying situation where she thinks of me more as a brother then a love interest...
what should i do to get from being brother to being lover
I have asked this twice because I am impatient. and someone after me asked basically the same question as the second one
do you like british accents, or any accent for that matter how do you know when a girl likes you (I ask that alot but never get an asnwer I can comprehend...) what about short guys?
what about short guys, TMG? do we like short guys?
Personaly I do not like shorter guys I'd rather have some one atleast my height or within a few inches. Although it's not an auto breaker for me if he's short, but it deos feel wierd, having to be taller. Though being 6'1'' or 180CM, tallthis becomes a problem. although, more than a 12'' or 30.5 CM is a bit bad, and probably a breaker.
As for accents, well it depends on the person witht he accent, any accent can be good, but it depends on the person, again, I personally don't really like accents, but again, unless it's really horrible, it's not a breaker.
As for the last, I have the same problem, I'll be the first to admit we're complicated, manipulative and unclear about what we want. so it really depends on the person, I'll just come out and say it, so ya. But thats rare.
All of these though, really do depend on the person.
As for the last, I have the same problem, I'll be the first to admit we're complicated, manipulative and unclear about what we want. so it really depends on the person, I'll just come out and say it, so ya. But thats rare.
why do girls never say what they want? lets face it most guys suck at flirting and reading signals. and girls can read what a guy doesnt even know his body language is saying. so why are they never more clear??