I don't trust people as a general rule. If a friend stabs me in the back, they're no longer a friend. Simple as that. They're no longer a friend and their opinion holds no sway in what I do.

Always good to find someone who is of a similar opinion. My general rule is: Nobody is immune from retribution.

BlazeTheVampire:

Ultrajoe:

Lord Krunk:
Please, can we keep this thread serious? I mean, serious enough to avoid stupid questions.

And another "relatively serious" question:

How do guys prepare for "That time of the month"? I mean, do we hide in a nuclear bunker or something until the storm is over?

not a girl, but i myself have a strategy.

Know the warning signs, know the phrases that signal the meltdown, and then go into un-you mode

Un-you mode:

1) The girl wants a target, start conversations about her current arch-nemesis and then just nod and smile
2) Silence is golden
3) Do not question even the most stupid of opinions, nod and smile... nod and smile...
4) Coffee is your friend, fill her with it.
5) Never offer help if they are struggling, only if they are coping fine (or else you are patronizing, and thus the new target of their frustration)
6) don't grope boobs
7) If they start to cry for any reason SHUT YOUR FUCKING MOUTH, DO. NOT. SPEAK. NO. MATTER. WHAT... they will speak to you when they are good and ready, its not insensitive, just sit near them and for the love of god do not speak unless spoken to, and never forget rule 3 at this point.

Girls may find me offensive in my methods and mindset, but this is the solution that you ladies cause us to adopt, do not blame us, for hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn, Let alone her PMS.

And as far as that whole discussion goes... just pretend nothing out of the ordinary is going on whatsoever, because half of the time it's true. Not every girl goes into super-bitch mode once a month. With all of the birth control and stuff out there that controls hormones and therefore kills mood swings, girls only get upset because their boyfriend's treating them like a bomb about to go off.

where do you live, the women there rule, here PMS is a live and kicking.

and as for women seeing through 'the ugly'... some guys can, and so can some women, it comes down to... the level of ugly

elffymon:

maybe us gamer girls shouldn't be giving advice when it comes to 'girly girls', cause really where chemically quite different.

I doubt it. You can be seriously into gaming and into things like fashion. I'm very girly, but also a huge nerd. The two aren't mutually exclusive. I've been gaming since I was about 3, so I definitely grew up that way.

As for those posting in here and in the other thread, many of you seem REALLY young. I'm sure most of you are. Not that you magically gain super social skills with age, but time does help, especially given the increased number of opportunities you'll have to interact socially with all sorts of people.

If you feel really insecure at 15, there's a lot you can learn and many people to talk to, so that at 17, you'll be more confident. Confidence is key. Nothing exaggerated. Just find your strong points (and we all have strong points) and use those to increase your self-esteem.

i have a question! but its a girl asking guys question so sorry if this is the wrong place to post

its silly question but id like to know why guys are so nervous about talking to girls its not like were out to get you!

Timorous Meowth:
So basically, unless I hit it rich, I'm boned?

Plastic surgery is key to your predicament...

CatAttack:
i have a question! but its a girl asking guys question so sorry if this is the wrong place to post

its silly question but id like to know why guys are so nervous about talking to girls its not like were out to get you!

I'm quite shy myself. I think nearly everyone has some degree of this, male or female. when it comes to a potential date or relationship, then it's normal to fear rejection. This fuels the shyness. I think it also has to do with age and life experience.

Anarien:

CatAttack:
i have a question! but its a girl asking guys question so sorry if this is the wrong place to post

its silly question but id like to know why guys are so nervous about talking to girls its not like were out to get you!

I'm quite shy myself. I think nearly everyone has some degree of this, male or female. when it comes to a potential date or relationship, then it's normal to fear rejection. This fuels the shyness. I think it also has to do with age and life experience.

wow good answer thanks ^_^

Plus if guys are rejected there's the whole emasculation thing that goes along with it. That being said, I've never been asked out, I've always had to do the asking (I'm a guy).

Love is like a vice on the balls, it slowly tightens and squeezes the life out of you... but you go along with it, because its touching your balls.

Love is like a cold shower, wet, uncomfortable and your likely to get sick.

Love is like a roller-coaster, extremely fun until you have to get back in line.

Love is like a tesla coil, you don't want to touch it because its likely to hurt you... and then you do and it does, idiot.

Love is like a drug, expensive on the street but boring in the home.

Just thought those would best fit in here than anywhere else, and while we are on the subject;

Ladies, i have my own opinions of this, but how much does humor count?

Muphin_Mann:
Alright. I got a real quesiton for a lady, but it might not be easy to answer.

Why do girls insist on dating guys who are bad for them? Why are they drawn to, for instance, sociopaths? Or drug users?

I have watched guy friends train-wreck a relationship before, but it seems like its only the girls i know who truly encourage relationships with dangerous individuals.

I find it odd that the girls you know encourage relationships like that. IN my experience, it's always been an "oops" moment. Well, a lot of "oops" moments resulting from being entirely too trusting of other people.

From what I've found, girls are too trusting and too hopeful. It's the part in them that thinks they can change a man from his old ways: not because they're spectacular and people would bend over backwards to be with them, but because women have this pity-party part of them. It's why we're so susceptible to taking in stray kittens, lol. So women with "dangerous" men (I assume you mean criminals or guys who treat the girls like shit) probably A) Didn't get that impression right off the bat and had to delve deeper into the relationship to see that part of the guy they're with. Usually by that point, her feelings are too strong to abandon them, or B) Felt the insane urge to try and change the guy. Mind you, that's not a conscious thing. Girls don't think "I can save this man!" when getting into a relationship like that- they're just drawn to the situation unconsciously.

At least, that's my opinion on it. I'm no professional psychologist, so I could certainly be way off the mark. But when talking friends through a situation involving a guy that's wreaking hell on her life, I often hear them say "I can't do that to him because (insert lame excuse here).... I'd feel bad."

Ultrajoe:

Ladies, i have my own opinions of this, but how much does humor count?

Humor's huge for me. I'm the kind of girl who gets really stressed out quite often, and any guy that can say one word int he middle of a meltdown rant and make me burst into laughter has a ton of respect from me. Some of my closest guy friends are the ones who make me start laughing while I'm in the middle of crying. Laughter's the best medicine.

At the same time, a guy has to know when to stop trying to be funny. The class clown act gets old pretty fast. Sometimes we needs guys to be serious and quit cracking jokes.

Just thought those would best fit in here than anywhere else, and while we are on the subject;

I believe HK-47 had the best quote on the subject.

"Definition: Love is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope...Love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticle, and together, achieving a singular purpose against statistically long odds."

CatAttack:
i have a question! but its a girl asking guys question so sorry if this is the wrong place to post

its silly question but id like to know why guys are so nervous about talking to girls its not like were out to get you!

I think because most guys have experienced a girl responding with cruelty or sarcasm or disgust or otherwise being actually offended that the guy even tried talking to her, like his presumption in talking to her was so out of line he might as well have grabbed her boob or smacked her on the ass.

Cheeze_Pavilion:

CatAttack:
i have a question! but its a girl asking guys question so sorry if this is the wrong place to post

its silly question but id like to know why guys are so nervous about talking to girls its not like were out to get you!

I think because most guys have experienced a girl responding with cruelty or sarcasm or disgust or otherwise being actually offended that the guy even tried talking to her, like his presumption in talking to her was so out of line he might as well have grabbed her boob or smacked her on the ass.

Seconded.

I've recently tried smiling and nodding to people who pass me by as I walk down the street. I've noticed something. Aside from the tiny minority who smile back (Most of them people I already know), most women give me the "You presume too much, maggot" glare and most men give me the "You're a weird knobhead" glare. Interesting, eh?

Blayze:
I've recently tried smiling and nodding to people who pass me by as I walk down the street. I've noticed something. Aside from the tiny minority who smile back (Most of them people I already know), most women give me the "You presume too much, maggot" glare and most men give me the "You're a weird knobhead" glare. Interesting, eh?

Ever notice, while walking down the street, how a large majority of people are either staring at the ground or at the sky? And that's if they're not already on a cell-phone or listening to an ipod. Most people are so concerned about their own lives they don't give a second thought to the people around them.

Necrohydra:

Blayze:
I've recently tried smiling and nodding to people who pass me by as I walk down the street. I've noticed something. Aside from the tiny minority who smile back (Most of them people I already know), most women give me the "You presume too much, maggot" glare and most men give me the "You're a weird knobhead" glare. Interesting, eh?

Ever notice, while walking down the street, how a large majority of people are either staring at the ground or at the sky? And that's if they're not already on a cell-phone or listening to an ipod. Most people are so concerned about their own lives they don't give a second thought to the people around them.

To the first, this doesn't happen to me. I don't smile at the majority of people as I live in a big city and spend a lot of time downtown, but I smile at a lot of people, and about 4/5 of the time I get some sort of smile back (if they saw me). I also get asked for directions a lot and I imagine it correlates with my friendly demeanor.

To the second, I don't believe this is the case. We're raised (at least I was) to not stare at people. Also you said walking, in which looking at the ground is a good plan.

I zone out when I'm walking, so I probably wouldn't even notice you smiling. If I did though, I admit I would be surprised enough that I might come off as unfriendly. I'm very used to the system.

I make eye contact as a habit, which evidently freaks people out when they don't know me. So I look at my feet when I'm walking. It's habit I need to break for the most part- the eye contact, I mean. I'll be traveling to Japan in a while and they get freaked right the hell out when you make eye contact. My Sensei told me I need to fix that or everyone will think I'm a weirdo.

elffymon:

maybe us gamer girls shouldn't be giving advice when it comes to 'girly girls', cause really where chemically quite different.

It's not chemicals that make us different, it's just simple individuality and nurture over nature. My dad's a D&D nerd, so I get my nerdiness from how he raised me. But we're still girls. We still offer a better perspective into our gender. Besides, you think the guys on here are going for "girly girls"? From what I've gathered, they're pretty smart guys, and probably aren't falling for Paris Hilton look-alikes. Unless I've overestimated them and they're all a bunch of morons :-P

BlazeTheVampire:
I'll be traveling to Japan in a while and they get freaked right the hell out when you make eye contact.

Japan? Pfft. Mechanus more like. I've heard stories of the stereotypical Japanese responses to the presence of gaijin, though. Apparently, you have special abilities that work on Japanese people such as Gaijin Repel and Gaijin Smash.

http://www.gaijinsmash.net/archives/gaijin_smash.phtml

and probably aren't falling for Paris Hilton look-alikes.

Heh. It was hot last weekend. Really hot. Went into McDonalds with three friends for milkshakes (Closest place to get them that would let us take them with us). As we were going in, six people walked out. Two males, four females. All four of the females looked the same. Same hair, same clothes (The colours varied), same accesories, same facial expressions, same everything. Judging by the appearance of the males, they were *clearly* Chavs or some bizarre offshoot of the Chav subculture.

The first thing that came to my mind when I saw them was "Paris Hilton much to answer for."

None of the six spoke a word, but I could feel my intelligence being leeched by the second. Where it was going, I don't know. Possibly it was being drained to power their hair bleach.

So yeah, if we're going by stereotypes then I'd pick the stereotypical geek girl over any other any day. It might be partially because I'd feel a kinship of sorts with her, but screw the reasons.

Larenxis:

Necrohydra:

Blayze:
I've recently tried smiling and nodding to people who pass me by as I walk down the street. I've noticed something. Aside from the tiny minority who smile back (Most of them people I already know), most women give me the "You presume too much, maggot" glare and most men give me the "You're a weird knobhead" glare. Interesting, eh?

Ever notice, while walking down the street, how a large majority of people are either staring at the ground or at the sky? And that's if they're not already on a cell-phone or listening to an ipod. Most people are so concerned about their own lives they don't give a second thought to the people around them.

To the first, this doesn't happen to me. I don't smile at the majority of people as I live in a big city and spend a lot of time downtown, but I smile at a lot of people, and about 4/5 of the time I get some sort of smile back (if they saw me). I also get asked for directions a lot and I imagine it correlates with my friendly demeanor.

To the second, I don't believe this is the case. We're raised (at least I was) to not stare at people. Also you said walking, in which looking at the ground is a good plan.

You failed to mention your a female Larenxis. That makes a big difference when you think about it.

^_^

AnGeL.SLayer:

Larenxis:

Necrohydra:

Blayze:
I've recently tried smiling and nodding to people who pass me by as I walk down the street. I've noticed something. Aside from the tiny minority who smile back (Most of them people I already know), most women give me the "You presume too much, maggot" glare and most men give me the "You're a weird knobhead" glare. Interesting, eh?

Ever notice, while walking down the street, how a large majority of people are either staring at the ground or at the sky? And that's if they're not already on a cell-phone or listening to an ipod. Most people are so concerned about their own lives they don't give a second thought to the people around them.

To the first, this doesn't happen to me. I don't smile at the majority of people as I live in a big city and spend a lot of time downtown, but I smile at a lot of people, and about 4/5 of the time I get some sort of smile back (if they saw me). I also get asked for directions a lot and I imagine it correlates with my friendly demeanor.

To the second, I don't believe this is the case. We're raised (at least I was) to not stare at people. Also you said walking, in which looking at the ground is a good plan.

You failed to mention your a female Larenxis. That makes a big difference when you think about it.

^_^

I also failed to mention my experiences took place on a university campus - with primarily tech majors. Oh, and it's wintery around here for 4-7 months a year.

the monopoly guy:
well if a girl swung into my room only wearing a loincloth I would be happy-but then again I am a guy. and guys who will do whatever theyre girlfriend wants 'em to are little lapdogs in a mansuit, they are everyones bitch.

P.S. I have a pink shirt that says Meat is Murder-Tasty, Tasty Murder...is that as bad as the afformentioned lapdog?

No, that is a good thing.... Where can I get one?

Blayze:

Japan? Pfft. Mechanus more like. I've heard stories of the stereotypical Japanese responses to the presence of gaijin, though. Apparently, you have special abilities that work on Japanese people such as Gaijin Repel and Gaijin Smash.

http://www.gaijinsmash.net/archives/gaijin_smash.phtml

Heh. It was hot last weekend. Really hot. Went into McDonalds with three friends for milkshakes (Closest place to get them that would let us take them with us). As we were going in, six people walked out. Two males, four females. All four of the females looked the same. Same hair, same clothes (The colours varied), same accesories, same facial expressions, same everything. Judging by the appearance of the males, they were *clearly* Chavs or some bizarre offshoot of the Chav subculture.

The first thing that came to my mind when I saw them was "Paris Hilton much to answer for."

None of the six spoke a word, but I could feel my intelligence being leeched by the second. Where it was going, I don't know. Possibly it was being drained to power their hair bleach.

So yeah, if we're going by stereotypes then I'd pick the stereotypical geek girl over any other any day. It might be partially because I'd feel a kinship of sorts with her, but screw the reasons.

I thoroughly enjoyed the link- thank you.

I'd have to agree- my mom came to my University to pick me up for the summer. She stayed with the car (and the trailer, how embarrassing for me) because they were parked in a no-parking zone, while my dad, brother, girlfriend and I hauled everything out. The first time i came back to the car, she looked at me with wide eyes and went "Every girl here looks the same!" in this scared-as-hell "I see dead people" tone. It was pretty funny. I turn my head to the left and see three cars all parked next to each other. Three girls, all bleach blondes with chunky sunglasses, short shorts, and a pink cami (it was really warm that day) were loading clothes into their prospective cars. Even one of the moms looked like that too, chatting away on her cellphone and not even helping. And they were parked in real spaces, so there was no excuse, lol. It's absolutely terrifying.

I'm the same way, even with women. I don't think Paris Hilton or her band of followers are in any way hot. I think "they could be pretty, if they were themselves," but that's the extent of that. And if a guy is wearing two polos and has the collars popped, he's out of the question.

the monopoly guy:
well if a girl swung into my room only wearing a loincloth I would be happy-but then again I am a guy. and guys who will do whatever theyre girlfriend wants 'em to are little lapdogs in a mansuit, they are everyones bitch.

P.S. I have a pink shirt that says Meat is Murder-Tasty, Tasty Murder...is that as bad as the afformentioned lapdog?

You bought it on your own without your gf stuffing it down your throat, lol. Therefore it's okay. More than okay. Fantastic :-D

BlazeTheVampire:
I make eye contact as a habit, which evidently freaks people out when they don't know me. So I look at my feet when I'm walking. It's habit I need to break for the most part- the eye contact, I mean. I'll be traveling to Japan in a while and they get freaked right the hell out when you make eye contact. My Sensei told me I need to fix that or everyone will think I'm a weirdo.

I actually have two answers for this one. In my opinion, avoiding looking at people is a self-esteem issue. I was trained by the Coast Guard to walk with my head up and looking straight forward. My friend who spent most of his life in prison says that looking down is a sign of weakness. They are afraid to make eye contact lest someone take offense at being looked at. Nothing shows your inner thoughts like how you walk. When I am upset I tend to let my head hang low and look at the ground as I think. When I am in a good mood my head and back are ramrod straight and I pretty much strut down the street. (I was once told that my walking looks more like a strut than a walk, so be it.) And I see it that way too. If you are walking slowly down the street with your head hung, you have problems, and it just generally isn't good looking.

As for staring at the sky... Well, I would see that as someone filled with a sense of awe at the location and probably someone who isn't from arund here...

As for smiling at people who walk by... Well, around here in Oregon, everyone smiles at everyone all the time. The picture of the homeless guy who had a sign that says "Why Lie? I need a beer!" was taken in this city. Yes, he got a beer, many in fact. The attitudes of everyone here are so much different than where I grew up in Los Angeles. In L.A. people went out of their way to avoid making eye contact, here they seem to actively seek it out. People are friendly and outgoing, and I have been randomly stopped by people who asked me for directions even though I was walking and they were driving somewhere farther away. Luckily, I knew where it was, and how to get there, but I am still new around here.

BlazeTheVampire:

elffymon:

maybe us gamer girls shouldn't be giving advice when it comes to 'girly girls', cause really where chemically quite different.

It's not chemicals that make us different, it's just simple individuality and nurture over nature. My dad's a D&D nerd, so I get my nerdiness from how he raised me. But we're still girls. We still offer a better perspective into our gender. Besides, you think the guys on here are going for "girly girls"? From what I've gathered, they're pretty smart guys, and probably aren't falling for Paris Hilton look-alikes. Unless I've overestimated them and they're all a bunch of morons :-P

I don't even think we are different. You can't stereotype gamers as liking the same things and acting the same way unless you're saying something like "oooh look at all of those gamers playing games!"

Pffft. Anyway, I don't think it's a "chemical" thing in our brain either. I think it's a conscious decision to spend a lot of time playing the games and liking them. I think a lot of it is environment and some of it even coincidence. I was the little girl that always had to wear a dress and danced and cheerleaded and what not, but I have a six year older brother who introduced me to that big, chunky, gray gameboy that I love(d) so much. But yeah, not to get into rant mode here, but I still enjoy clothes shopping, hanging out with my guy, watching chick flicks... instead of painting my nails and reading CosmoGirl, I go and play WoW... or Resident Evil... or Call of Duty... Hehe.