you salivate when you're stressed out, so maybe your nervouse

the monopoly guy:

also, why does it seem weird when a girl is dating a younger guy, but fine when guys date younger girls? I always found that odd

It isn't weird. Society just paints men as the "provider". The one who should be the caretaker, the older, "wiser", more "experienced" one. Kind of a macho thing. And society values youth in women (just open any magazine) as well as a certain degree of supposed innocence. A relationship where the woman is older just bucks the trend, and since it's less common, some people think it's odd. It's perfectly workable though. (I'm older than my boyfriend.)

well I don't think its weird, just that other people do. but society has too many expectations; especially for women

That makes a lot of sense..... Thanks.

I could only half read that because it made my eyes hurt. The first guy vs second guy scenario, anyway.

Now, I'd like to bring in a girl's perspective (my unique one, anyway). Why is the second guy a scumbag? Has HE dumped her on her birthday and broken up with her repeatedly or not committed to her? I mean, with you posting this, it's like you're assuming that we'll think you're the good guy in all of this, but I'm not falling for that trap and sympathizing. It sounds like *you* messed up and like *you* lost your chance.

If she's willing to dump you for messing with her life, I'm willing to bet if this other guy is a jerk too, she'll do the same thing to him. So, I'd agree with Darth and say move on and try not to repeat the same mistakes. In a few years, who knows? I wouldn't cut this girl out of your life completely. If you like her as much as you claim you do (though you haven't shown her that, it seems) then I'd say she's worth being friends with.

Is that hard? Hell yes.

Is it worth it in the end? Usually.

It's a little more complicated then that. The second guy is a scumbag because he doesn't care about the girl and will probably end up getting her pregnant or something, and is only interested in getting it on, and I'll admit, the first guy was a stupid jerk, but at least he cared enough about her to apologize, and in a way, by giving up on the relationship over and over again because she was lazy about it and thought that he'd understand every time she broke it off, she kinda drove him to blow up in her face because he had been secretly keeping all of his emotions about it to himself and not sharing them with other people. By the way, the first guy only has SLIGHT leftover feelings for the girl, but at the moment he doesn't care because he feels betrayed and has low self-esteem because the girl was willing the break off their relationship and throw everything the first guy gave her(emotionally) at the first sign of complication, but is willing to to anything to make the relationship with the second guy work because he's the conniving artsy troubled type who pretends to care, but really doesn't. Also, read the second half. I'm just saying.

Ace Jackson:
It's a little more complicated then that. The second guy is a scumbag because he doesn't care about the girl and will probably end up getting her pregnant or something, and is only interested in getting it on, and I'll admit, the first guy was a stupid jerk, but at least he cared enough about her to apologize, and in a way, by giving up on the relationship over and over again because she was lazy about it and thought that he'd understand every time she broke it off, she kinda drove him to blow up in her face because he had been secretly keeping all of his emotions about it to himself and not sharing them with other people. By the way, the first guy only has SLIGHT leftover feelings for the girl, but at the moment he doesn't care because he feels betrayed and has low self-esteem because the girl was willing the break off their relationship and throw everything the first guy gave her(emotionally) at the first sign of complication, but is willing to to anything to make the relationship with the second guy work because he's the conniving artsy troubled type who pretends to care, but really doesn't. Also, read the second half. I'm just saying.

ace jackson, are you and me twins in a paralell universe? i only ask because i am going through the exact same thing.
mate, shes just on the "rebound", dont worry about it, but like Darth said just move on for now. my ex broke up with me 2 and abit weeks ago, it was a shock at first but you learn from it really. i was just like you in the sense that i held my emotions inside, i was very insecure about myself, i was afraid that she could never like me for who i was cause my trust has been bashed severely over the years and i dont trust that well. but when she came along and said she loved me completely and trusted me i got scared, i wasnt exactly the best bf to her, but for the time we were together i made her feel like she was the only girl to me and she loved me more than anyone she'd ever loved before, that made it even harder when she told me i was breaking her heart.

not more than a week after and now shes going out with someone else, but that doesnt bother me cause i know she still cares for me. she will come back but im not gunna be waiting for her when she does, ill have moved on, but there will always be a space for her by my side if and when she decides to come back. she wont forget the fun and the times we spent together so soon i guaranteee that and when she realises what she had with me then she will come back. it doesnt help though that shes going out with one of my "friends", but with "friends like that, who needs enemies, needless to say he's been cut from my life.

ive discovered who my real friends were, the ones who always had my back, the ones who were always there even when i wasnt with them cause i was mostly with my ex, those are the friends i cudnt be happier to have on my side in this time. do the same, go out, have a good time, spend time with ppl you havent spent time with in a long time, just ignore your ex and her scumbag of a "boyfriend" for now, it wont last between them. ive learnt from my mistakes from our relationship, she needs to learn her own mistakes, only then can she fully appreciate what it is that you/we had together.

dont let it get you down mate, things will be fine:)

im off to work now so be back later on, glad i could help ya out mate.

Well, I have a question.

I was on a class trip with a girl I like.
During the trip, we both kind of found out we like each other.
BUT, afterwards, we both found it awkward to talk to each other.
And it wasn't any fun that way.
So after the trip, we just agreed to stay friends, and I still had some feelings for her.

But now, she SAYS that I'm her friend, but rarely talks to me.
But when we do talk, it's just.. Meh..;;

So now, I'm kind of in a state of confusion.
Like, I don't know what she thinks of me, lmao.
It just frustrates me, in a way.
What should I do? Move on?
Anyone got any replies? Advice?

EDIT-----------------------------------

I don't get why women go after guys who treat them like nothing.
They ignore them, and ignore them.
But the women are constantly trying to get the attention from that person.

I think that the women that do that are shallow.
They don't care how they get treated, but they go for the looks.
What do you think?

Thanks for the kind words of advicedom, guys. It really helps to know that I'm not the only one, although it's what you automatically think when you're put in that kind of situation. You know, it probably didn't help that she was the guy's best friend's sister.... that was complicated. Also, I hate artsy guys. They pretend that they're so troubled or some crap, like their paint is a blend of their tears and pain or something. I hate that stuff. Thats why I only draw stick figures, or use MS paint, to prevent myself from becoming talented at painting or drawing, because then I become amazing at it and I love it, but then something tragic happens, and I decide never to do it again, but then I decide to take it up again, but my paintings are only symbols for my internal ethical struggle between my urge to paint for my love of it, or paint with the blood of my future victims, and then some girl tries to convince me to the side of good, and then we get together, and I paint because I want to, not because I have to, but then she dies or something, and then I kill myself, but just before, I finish a magnificent painting of roses and blood or something tragic, and it turns out she wasn't dead, and she takes up painting to remember me, and then the sad music gets a little louder as the scene fades to black and into the credits. And thats why you shouldn't paint.

so there's this female that i have been crazy about and respected whole-heartedly for several years now, and over the last roughly 10 years, we have become close friends. I had thoughts about asking if she would be able to think of me as more than a friend, butshortly afterwards, she almost seemed to ignore me, although she assured me it was because she simply hadnt seen me. I don't know if she's interested at all, or if i should just be satisfied with the friendship, or how to find out if she is interested without going behind her back or making her uncomfortable. I want to convince her to give me the one chance i need, but any way i can think of seems to be forcing her into it, and i really don't want to do that. what should i do?

@Daryni: Well, it seems that you guys have been friends for a LONG time. I guess she kind of sees you as a brotherly figure.
But I don't know.
Wait on more advice from others.

i guess i can understand that, because i have done my best to be there for her and any of my friends whenever they need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to vent to. I just hope that hasnt completely cut me off from her romantically.

Daryni:
i guess i can understand that, because i have done my best to be there for her and any of my friends whenever they need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to vent to. I just hope that hasnt completely cut me off from her romantically.

The whole "close guy friend" thing has been a conundrum since the dawn of relationships. It's definitely not uncommon for friends of the opposite sex to have feelings for one another but never admit it for fear of ruining the friendship. So far as what to do about it, I think it varies from instance to instance and I doubt that any one of us is going to be able to tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, what the best option would be. You know her better than we do, that's for sure, and it's all in how you think she'll handle it. If you think she'd laugh at you and shrug it off and that your relationship wouldn't be affected if she didn't think of you in a romantic way, then go for it. But if she's the kind who gets spooked easily, I wouldn't risk it. A good indicator of this is if she's friends with her ex boyfriends or not. If she can maintain a good friendship even with residual feelings, then she could probably handle it if you asked her how she felt about you romantically. But if she's the kind of girl that breaks all contact with guys she dumps, your friendship may not be able to handle it.

That's the way I see it, anyhow.

to the guys who are saying they want to be more than friends with someone they've been friends with for a long time:

DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TELL HER YOU LIKE HER.

ok now thats out of the way, the way you go about it is not to actually tell her, let your actions do the talking. "accidently" brush your hand against yours. find any excuse to touch her(not in that way), "play" around abit with her, tease her.

if you tell her you like her then she will think shes already got you and will get you to do anything for her without her investing any emotions in to your ventures, and you will gladly do anything she says because you naively think she'll then let you be her bf.
dont be a softy about this, you have to take charge of the situation, dont let her think that you're scared to do anything.

if you tell her you like her then this will happen(its happened to me plenty a time before i "sussed" it):

obviously you're not gunna say this stuff verbatim so dont ridicule my crappy dialogue lol
you: hey there *insert girls name*, i have something to tell you.

her: what is it?

you: i....uh.... i kinda like you more than a friend.

her: .........i only like you as a friend.

you :O

did you see what happened there? you probs didnt so ill explain the best way i can.
when you said you liked her your air of mystery, or any mystery or allure about you that she had had previously went down the pan cause now she knows exactly why you act funny around her, why you look away quickly when she catches your eye. theres nothing left to know about you cause you've given everything away. this is why it gets awkward between you two cause she knows you like her now so shes gunna be watching you, being suspcious of you, well maybe suspcious isnt the word but i cant think of one that fits right now lol.

in other words
GAME OVER

NEW GAME....continued

right so this is what you do:

1. act like you dont care. ok let me explain this cause i dont want to come off as being insensitive. basically stop following her all over the place, stop calling her to "hang out", stop talking to her so much, make her miss you. atm im assuming shes seen you pretty much everyday for however long you've known her, stop doing that, go out with other friends, take up a new hobby, do different things. this not will only make her miss you cause you're not around her as much as you used to but you will also better yourself as a person.
if you havent contacted her much then she will probs ring, text, email, whatever you and ask where you are, thats exactly what you want.

2. play with her. dont just comply or agree with everything she says, "argue" with her, tease her, beg to differ and have fun with her, with her mind, not at her expense, im not talking publicly humiliating her here. play fight, just treat her like you would one of your guy mates, minus all the rough and tumble and burping and farting and just generally any male stuff that guys only do with guys around. but at the same time dont make her center of attention, dont put her up on a pedestal like most guys do.

3. get a life. i know that may sound harsh but allow me to elaborate. im sure all of you guys do sports or some kind of activity outside of school/college/uni/whatever. basically dont think getting a girl is the be all and end all of life. go out and party with friends, take up a hobby like ive said, meet new ppl, just enjoy life to the fullest. the benefit of this is two fold because 1. you will become a more knowledgeable and outgoing guy, you'll become more confident and be more open to new ppl as well as new ideas and 2. girls/women will see you as that fun loving, outgoing and confident guy and they will be attracted to you, no matter your financial status, looks or background etc, they will be attracted to you. so dont just do it for the women but do it for yourself too because you will be thankful you did.

4. make her think, keep her on her toes. if she does or says something which is ambiguous, turn it around to mean something else, most go the dirty route, do that, something that sounds suspect that she says turn it around and make it seem like shes suggesting something dirty.

example:
her: man im so wet(after stepping out from the rain)

you: huh? you're wet? i havent done anything yet though

her: :O

see what i did there? turned it around to suggest..........., well im hoping you guys can see what i did, if i need to explain then honestly you are lost lol.
just turn it around to make it seem like shes suggesting something dirty.
another one i like doing is moving in close to her face, like you're about to kiss her, she will most likely not move and just stare at you, then you get real close and pretend you're picking something out of her hair, eyebrow, anywhere on her face, take the imaginary thing, move away, pretend to throw it away and say "man that thing was bugging me" and just continue doing what you were doing before.
she'll see it in a questionable way, "does he like me or something?", just do things that suggest you like her but that keep her on her toes and always thinking about you, never let her mind think about anything else but you, the way you tease her and play with her will convey that you're a fun guy and that you're in control, of both yourself and the situation.

women dont like a guy who rolls over and is a pushover, they like someone who is in control, in control of themselves, the situations they're in and of the ppl they interact with, they want someone who oozes(ewww)manliness(for lack of a better word lol), someone who is strong but gentle at the same time, someone who knows how to push her buttons to satisfy her.

that is all for now, if anyone wants any other "tips" then just ask, ill be happy to ask.

sidenote to the girls in this topic:

i would in no way want to invalidate anything that you've said already, im not a woman so im not gunna preach that i know all, cause if anything i know nothing, i only know wat i have learnt and observed. you are all welcome to tell me anything that is wrong with what i have said, or if you find anything ive said offensive. we are all here to help after all:)

thank you for reading folks:D

The Lawn:
I have a question.

Why do most females wear those over sized sun glasses that make them look like idiots?

Also, why do they stop talking to me after I state my opinion about their sunglasses?

i myself wear the big glasses. it isnt a bad thing that u dnt lyk them...a lot of ppl dnt including my boyfriend. but thats really where u messed up.see as a chick we have this self conciouse thing where we have to look good in wutever we wear and when sum1 puts us dwn by say our clthes or maybe our sunglasses we get mad. try to watch wut u say to sum girls u neva know when 1 is jst gonna haul off and hit u.lol.

in response to Wlkncntrdiction's #1 strategy, i am faced with a few issues. We are both in High School and a few classes together, so i couldn't "ignore" her without skipping, something i couldnt do because if my parents or siblings found out, well, letsjust say i wouldnt be posting here anymore.

okay well my opinion... if u like a girl so much then why nt tell her? i mean if she finds out by sum1 else then ur screwed cuz it embaressing for her and especially u. the worst she could say is she dnt lyk u. and thats not rlly a bad thing cuz atleast youll know. i say o tell her u never know u might spark a relationship.

i for one hate it when a teenage guy lyks me and doesnt say anything about it lik a lil elemantry school crush.my bf wuz my bff b4 we got together and ha asked me," wut do i do when i lik a girl but dnt want to tell her?" and i gave him the same advice im givin all of u. now were together and rlly happy.

daryni, it may seem hard but read over my advice, think about it, and get back to me.

babyblueeyes:
okay well my opinion... if u like a girl so much then why nt tell her? i mean if she finds out by sum1 else then ur screwed cuz it embaressing for her and especially u. the worst she could say is she dnt lyk u. and thats not rlly a bad thing cuz atleast youll know. i say o tell her u never know u might spark a relationship.

i for one hate it when a teenage guy lyks me and doesnt say anything about it lik a lil elemantry school crush.my bf wuz my bff b4 we got together and ha asked me," wut do i do when i lik a girl but dnt want to tell her?" and i gave him the same advice im givin all of u. now were together and rlly happy.

but he didnt exactly tell you though did he?
he still said it in a way that made you thought(im assuming) "omg whos this girl hes talking about?"
thats another thing i shudve brought up, imo girls hate when you talk about other girls to them, makes them jealous, especially if she likes you, she will do everything she can to get your attention if some other girl has your attention.

@daryni. i guess i shudve been a bit more specific, but thanks for telling me your situation. i would say the same thing still applies, but more on a communication level, dont hang out with her at lunchtime, talk to other ppl in the class, dont always make a bee-line for her.

@babyblueeyes. i dont mean this to sound harsh but that is your own view, just like mine, but like you said "i for one hate...", not every girl will like it if you tell them, it could have the opposite effect to what he wants.

I'm going to make a few statements and if you disagree, please tell me why.

Statement 1) Girls always seem to completely ignore the guy they like and feign complete disinterest.
And then they wonder why the guy doesn't ask them out. Ahhhhh!! why do they do this? How are guys supposed to tell the difference between genuine disinterest and feigned disinterest. It will only work if the guy they like is El Confidento which isn't the case 99.999% of the time.

Statement 2) Girls always seem to like the guy that ignores them and treats them badly. (assuming he has some sex appeal.) And when they land up in a relationship with a jerk they feel unlucky. No, girls, maybe 40% of the time you're unlucky but the rest of the time you're not. As a nation, girls have proven time and time again that they only like the jerks. (at a young age anyway.) So, in order to get girls attention, a lot of guys start behaving like jerks. And you know what? It works.

I would much prefer it if we didn't have to play tennis with our feelings, But we don't have a choice. If there's a girl that you like but she ignores you and you don't know if she's genuinely not interested or if she's just feigning disinterest, and nothing you try is getting her attention, (like trying to talk to her) you have no choice but to ignore her so she will stop ignoring you... and it begins.
Goodness, I'm getting tired just thinking about it

darth... ur the boards smart as# arent u.its not that im tellin everyone how to live or wutever u said, im jst tryin to help. though u may not agree with my anticks, sum1 else may. ur not the only one on this board ya know. this is my first day to chat on this sight and im not used to everyone. u have ur own opinion and i have mine not everybody has to be intitled to the same thing. im jst tryin to make friends and all and im trully sorry if i came off to sound lik a bit#$. im only 15 and never dated a girl...gross! ive got a boyfriend lik u got a gf.and actually, we havnt been together long so im not gonna say i luv him yet but we have been through a LOT already together and always seemed to make it through. i hope u and ur girl have the same luck...oh and im srry 4 everything sometimes i tend to speak outta my ass.

darth, i wouldnt mind a new beginning. i really am sorry though. i hope u understand.

babyblueeyes:
ive got a boyfriend lik u got a gf.and actually, we havnt been together long so im not gonna say i luv him yet but we have been through a LOT already together and always seemed to make it through.

correct me if im wrong but dont you have to love someone in order for them to be your bf/gf? just wondering.
i know its probably not a prerequisite to say you love someone but i wudve thought you would love them on some kind of level before they become your bf/gf

Darth Mobius:

AnGeL.SLayer:
Ahh Darth I think you need to take it easy on the new girl. She is after all just trying to help out. I don;t think she meant to come off as full of herself. Cut her some slack for wanting to help guys who just don't know what to do or don't have anyone else to ask. *Hands cookie to calm down*

^_^

Sorry, I just got a little offended that in her first post she claimed that everything my Girlfriend and I told one of our friends about starting a relationship and keeping a good conversation going was wrong, even though I have been doing this semi-successfully for years... And it was just general advice, and it was more successful than the advice she gave, which was how I actually started out dating... And it was more unsuccessful than my current tactic...

Thank you for the cookie, I LOVE sugar cookies...*Munches away contentedly for a minute*

Sorry, I didn't mean it, can we start over?

i rlly wouldnt mind a new beginning. i hope u and everyone else undersands that im sorry.

Cheeze_Pavilion:

Timorous Meowth:

Cheeze_Pavilion:
LONG POST IS LONG.

So basically, unless I hit it rich, I'm boned?

Nah, just means you've got a smaller chance of finding a quality girl than if you were.

edit: let me add, though, that there's a lot you can do besides hitting it rich. Just because a girl doesn't define being successful as being a decent person, that doesn't mean she *only* defines being successful as being rich. Everything from being a musician to being an EMT can qualify as being 'successful' to a girl. Maybe a girl wants someone who is *accomplished* at something noble and good; that girl wouldn't be attracted to a guy who is just 'nice' but she's still in the market for a guy who is admirable--you just have to be more 'admirable' than being a 'nice guy' with nothing to show for it.

Successfulness, beauty and all that won't save you if the girl thinks you're a prick, though. Being special to someone is not a question of being the best on the market; of course, having something to show off can act as a plus in the short term (not for every woman anyway) but in the long term? I doubt so.

nothing to say:
i have a friend whos a girl and shes thinks she funny...but shes REALLY NOT!
how do I tell her she's not funny?

do u mind if i jin in on this conversation? i MIGHT beable to help.

i have a question for the guys...and girls,

why is it that SOME guys act all sweet and cuddly when their alone with their girl and when their around their girl and their friends they act like slobs by grabbin ur as# and showing the girl off like some show girl in front of their friends. i asked my guy bout it and he said he jst wanted to make it clear that im all his and nobody can have me. which i understand that completely but some of the things he does rlly makes me feel like he is violating my personal space. what can i do and why does he really do the things he does?

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!

babyblueeyes:

Darth Mobius:

AnGeL.SLayer:
Ahh Darth I think you need to take it easy on the new girl. She is after all just trying to help out. I don;t think she meant to come off as full of herself. Cut her some slack for wanting to help guys who just don't know what to do or don't have anyone else to ask. *Hands cookie to calm down*

^_^

Sorry, I just got a little offended that in her first post she claimed that everything my
Girlfriend and I told one of our friends about starting a relationship and keeping a good conversation going was wrong, even though I have been doing this semi-successfully for years... And it was just general advice, and it was more successful than the advice she gave, which was how I actually started out dating... And it was more unsuccessful than my current tactic...

Thank you for the cookie, I LOVE sugar cookies...*Munches away contentedly for a minute*

Sorry, I didn't mean it, can we start over?

i rlly wouldnt mind a new beginning. i hope u and everyone else undersands that im sorry.

sooooooooo... is the board normally this dead or is it jst cuz im new?lol

babyblueeyes:
i have a question for the guys...and girls,

why is it that SOME guys act all sweet and cuddly when their alone with their girl and when their around their girl and their friends they act like slobs by grabbin ur as# and showing the girl off like some show girl in front of their friends. i asked my guy bout it and he said he jst wanted to make it clear that im all his and nobody can have me. which i understand that completely but some of the things he does rlly makes me feel like he is violating my personal space. what can i do and why does he really do the things he does?

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!

i wouldnt know personally, but when i was out with my ex all the time i wouldnt do that. i wouldnt do that to any woman tbh, its demeaning to them, but thats just me, im sure there are wankers out there who would do it though.

WlknCntrdiction:

babyblueeyes:
i have a question for the guys...and girls,

why is it that SOME guys act all sweet and cuddly when their alone with their girl and when their around their girl and their friends they act like slobs by grabbin ur as# and showing the girl off like some show girl in front of their friends. i asked my guy bout it and he said he jst wanted to make it clear that im all his and nobody can have me. which i understand that completely but some of the things he does rlly makes me feel like he is violating my personal space. what can i do and why does he really do the things he does?

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!

i wouldnt know personally, but when i was out with my ex all the time i wouldnt do that. i wouldnt do that to any woman tbh, its demeaning to them, but thats just me, im sure there are wankers out there who would do it though.

thanks. i know wut he does is way wrong!! im glad that ur not one of the guys who do that. do u think i should brake up with him? i been thinkin about it but i would lik a 2nd opinion.

There should be man purses!

If any one plays guitar here: I always leave pics in my pockets, then, when I need them, I can never find them.

on topic - I'm pathetic around girls I'm interested in and overly friendly/flirty with girls I have no interest in.

I guess I'm too nervous I might do something to make 'her' think I'm stupid or something. I'm pretty defensive and have trouble opening up to people.

I don't see how some people can just open up and tell the whole inner working of their mind and their problems.

"Imagine if you had to wear a jock strap all the time." - I'd feel alot safer around other people and my package would appear 10 times bigger...

babyblueeyes:

WlknCntrdiction:

babyblueeyes:
i have a question for the guys...and girls,

why is it that SOME guys act all sweet and cuddly when their alone with their girl and when their around their girl and their friends they act like slobs by grabbin ur as# and showing the girl off like some show girl in front of their friends. i asked my guy bout it and he said he jst wanted to make it clear that im all his and nobody can have me. which i understand that completely but some of the things he does rlly makes me feel like he is violating my personal space. what can i do and why does he really do the things he does?

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!

i wouldnt know personally, but when i was out with my ex all the time i wouldnt do that. i wouldnt do that to any woman tbh, its demeaning to them, but thats just me, im sure there are wankers out there who would do it though.

thanks. i know wut he does is way wrong!! im glad that ur not one of the guys who do that. do u think i should brake up with him? i been thinkin about it but i would lik a 2nd opinion.

woah woah woah, thats a totally different ball game right there lol. i can't tell you whether to break up with him or not just based on that. and no offense but you dont know me, and i dont know you, wow that sounds really bad how i said that lol.
what im getting at is that no one(even less a person over the internet)can tell you whether you should break up with your bf or not.
do you love him? i would say you're only 15, you have a long time until you could really love someone so i would yes. and based on what you've told me about him i would say(again im assuming)that he would be like that with other women, even in your presence he would be all over other girls.
theres only one good thing about this, that im anonymous and he cant find out who i am should it ever leak that i had something to do with you two splitting up haha lol.