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Gooble
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I'd say possibly-I didn't get out much in earlier secondary school due to gaming mostly, which may have given me more confidence now, or I might have met someone who actually likes me.

But overall I'd say it's more down to me not being overly attractive, the lack of confidence to actual ask people out, and atm there's no one who I'm really in to

Lance Icarus
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While keeping details to a bare minimum, gaming has not affected my sex life and I don't believe the two are mutually exclusive.

The Rogue Wolf
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I think I would love it if we as a (society|nation|species, pick one) would stop treating sex as the most important thing we could ever be doing with our lives and using it as some sort of measure of how worthwhile our lives are.

Then again, that might just be the jaded misanthrope who has decided that human interaction should be avoided as much as possible in me speaking. That, not my gaming habits, is what influences my "sex life".

BlazeTheVampire
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I've never had a problem with the two. Then again, I'm a girl, so I think it's a different set of rules. Guys find the fact that I play games attractive and it has never been a turn off in a relationship. The only points where I can see issues:
1) Guy plays games at a near-constant rate, not spending time with family, friends, girlfriend, work, or shower. At which point, this guy needs to go out and have some human interaction, because this level of antisocial behavior is in no way healthy, and if he does have a girlfriend, she has a right to be angry and withhold the sexy time.

2) Guy manages to level out gaming and social interaction, but girlfriend is entirely too clingy and paranoid that his gaming habits will lead him to an extreme level of antisocial behavior. She demands all of his time and doesn't tolerate "hold on until I get to a save point". At which point, guy needs to a get a better girlfriend, because she's trying to change him and therefore never liked who he was to begin with.

My guy friends tend to have the latter issue. To put it briefly, they shouldn't affect each other, although I've always deemed a relationship as more important.

YuppySlime
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TheMadDoctorsCat:
and have very little sex life. But that might just be down to my excessive and annoying pedantry that makes me compulsively correct other people's use of words like "xenophobic".

Amen to that

TheMadDoctorsCat
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(Just to make this clear: you know I was joking, right?)

L.B. Jeffries
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Never been an issue but there's a helluva lot more to talk about on dates if she's into it. There is certainly an art to making my gaming habit sound cool when they ask about it though.

YuppySlime
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TheMadDoctorsCat:
(Just to make this clear: you know I was joking, right?)

I had no clue, hahahaha.

Which means its my first time making an ass out of myself on the escapist!

Thats sort of like a forum milestone you know?

Jallil Vlos
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*Arching a brow, Jallil looks at the one named Yuppy Slime*

You know that's not a good thing right?

PedroSteckecilo
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I'm a hardcore gamer and though my significant other and I are going through a bit of a dry spell at the moment, but we're not INactive all together and it has nothing to do with my gaming habits.

YuppySlime
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Jallil Vlos:

You know that's not a good thing right?

Well, its sort of bound to happen if you stay somewhere long enough. And most of the time its a misunderstanding. Like this time. In my defense, its hard to discriminate between a joke/sarcasm and the real deal when you're reading it.

And you know, I only said that to sort of loosen things up after said misunderstanding. Of course its never a good thing to unintentionally make an ass out of yourself.

werepossum
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Jallil Vlos:
Got a question of my own. What gives when your playing a game, and suddenly your phone is ringing, there are people wanting favors, but as SOON as you shut the game off, said things go away?

That one's easy - telephones are the tool of the devil. Nothing good comes across the telephone. If you win the Publisher's Clearing House sweepstakes they come to your house. If you miss a Publisher's Clearing House payment they call you on the phone.

Lance Icarus
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BlazeTheVampire:

2) Guy manages to level out gaming and social interaction, but girlfriend is entirely too clingy and paranoid that his gaming habits will lead him to an extreme level of antisocial behavior. She demands all of his time and doesn't tolerate "hold on until I get to a save point". At which point, guy needs to a get a better girlfriend, because she's trying to change him and therefore never liked who he was to begin with.

Most of this one can be blamed on the girlfriend's friends going "Oh, your boyfriend's a gamer? You know all those things they say about gamers, right?" Guys, if you tell your girl that you just bought WoW and she completely flips out and starts crying, her friends are why.

But to be fair, relationships are all built on a certain level of compromise. It's all about what you're willing to give up in order to get something in return. Just realize that people do change and your significant other will not always be the person you fell in love with.

Silvertounge
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I'd say the opposite. Gaming + Sex = Awesome.

Think about it, gamers have the most in common of all groups (and probably argue the most as well), so you always have something to talk about. When you do fight, it's probably going to be about something stupid, like what game is the best, and then you go and prove it by playing it (instead of say, "why are you sleeping with my sister?" it is "No, MGS4 is not the best in the series!")

And, if your girlfriend/boyfriend is NOT a gamer, how the hell are you going to make them dress up as Samus or Guybrush?

Gitsnik
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Well I for one try and stay away from gamer girls - way to many bad experiences. But my game time doesn't affect my sex life (in a detrimental way), if anything it improves it.

I should explain, being an insomniac and able to run the mile without more than breathing heavily means that I can... ahem... go all night if I feel like it. Girlfriend tends to tire out way sooner than that, so in the "off" moments I can just go back to whatever game I was playing before hand, or reading a book. Gives her time to catch her breath, and gives me time to play games - Win win.

Sethran
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My girlfriend plays video games too.

So... yeah.

Anarchemitis
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Abstinent.

Girlysprite
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Silvertounge:
I'd say the opposite. Gaming + Sex = Awesome.

Think about it, gamers have the most in common of all groups (and probably argue the most as well), so you always have something to talk about. When you do fight, it's probably going to be about something stupid, like what game is the best, and then you go and prove it by playing it (instead of say, "why are you sleeping with my sister?" it is "No, MGS4 is not the best in the series!")

Actually, QFT. My bf and I have had quite some fights in the past about games we played. (You're level 60 already?! How am I going to catch up with you!)
Maybe fiddling with all the Wiimote also trains the wrists >:)

kitkatalice
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My other half LOVES video games. He's also hot and sweet and has an account here >.>....well anyway, as long as it isn't at the same time, I'm cool with it. So ya I guess he could say he has a great sex life. I also don't mind video games either. I would say he's the perfect balance of nerd and stud. lol

squirrelman42
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sometimes I prefer sex to games, but when I want sex I generally know how to get it.

Juan Regular
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I'd say gaming can be a problem for your sex life just like any other hobby that you choose to invest that much time in. Sex has always been kind of a weird thing for me. It's a bit like Halo for me: If I can have it for a while I won't say no, but I don't understand the hype about it. There are more important things in life.

TheMadDoctorsCat
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Squirrelman - really? Can you let us know, I could use some tips over here!

T.H.O.R
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My wife plays video games with me, AND she is the elven ranger in our D&D (4E) campaign. (I'm the DM)

We have a Very active sex life

wewontdie11
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PurpleRain:
I just hang out with girls that so happen to have boyfriends already. Tactics, I buy my time... (cries)

lol I too have a bit of that problem

Not very active sex life but I wouldn't totally write myself off in that department because of gaming, although there does seem to be an undeniable trend here.

Lance Icarus
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T.H.O.R:
My wife plays video games with me, AND she is the elven ranger in our D&D (4E) campaign. (I'm the DM)

We have a Very active sex life

Have you considered the Book of Erotic Fantasy? I've only known one person to have that D&D book and he was a very lonely and creepy man. I'm curious if that's the only type that finds a use for the book.

BlazeTheVampire
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Lance Icarus:

T.H.O.R:
My wife plays video games with me, AND she is the elven ranger in our D&D (4E) campaign. (I'm the DM)

We have a Very active sex life

Have you considered the Book of Erotic Fantasy? I've only known one person to have that D&D book and he was a very lonely and creepy man. I'm curious if that's the only type that finds a use for the book.

We pore through it at Border's, but we're poor. So don't worry, you're not that creepy.

Xwii360
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My girlfriend growls every time she chainsaws me to pieces in GoW... kind of makes me afraid of whats coming next....

SpikeTheRediculous
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i have a great sex life. i dont think the fact that i play video games hurts me at all.

Silvertounge
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Xwii360:
My girlfriend growls every time she chainsaws me to pieces in GoW... kind of makes me afraid of whats coming next....

I want a girlfriend like that. Especially with the implied finish.

Dovenwolf
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I've been playing games since I was about 6 and honestly there was little to say about my sex life through high school. I'd blame that mostly on the education system failing me and my dropping out which in turn led to the devastation of my social life. I have a wonderful girl now though, and I remember when I saw that she had an NES in her room and she asked if I wanted to play Contra I had a feeling we would get along just fine. She does take priority over gaming. That being said, I don't think gaming leads to a non-existent sex life but I can say it really helps if you find someone who shares that interest and you have your priorities right. Or at least find someone who has something they are enthusiastic about and tell them to bugger off and do that while you hunt down all the agility orbs in Crackdown.

Isaac Dodgson
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Games don't kill my sex life, not at all...Distance does, as she lives thirty miles away during the summer.

j-e-f-f-e-r-s
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Altorin:
Set up a laptop on the bed, and one on her back, and you can play TF2 and frag eachother while you frag eachother.

Best. Quote. Ever.

Anyways, I currently live out in the sticks, where womenfolk are ugly and scarce. Though I'm moving to the big city in a few months, where the ladies are blonde and slender. I may be a simple country bumpkin, but I know how to shake a lady's hay-bails. Gaming's never stopped me in that department.

chebmeh
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I'm on video games a lot, but as for my social and sex life, I couldn't really ask for more. I do disagree with the concept of casual, promiscuous sex and I value committment, but I'm not one to judge others. I'm going off topic.
My answer: It always depends on many different circumstances.

Crudler
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Well I have to say that it doesn't really, I'm underage but I've had a few girlfriends who didn't mind me gaming but I never let it take priority over them; that'd just be rude.

Programmed_For_Damage
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I have a very active sex life, however I'm yet to strike that goldmine of finding a girl who is into gaming. What that means is I have to get up at 5am, while she's sleeping and get a few hours of gaming in before I have to go to work. Serving two masters is killing me ;-)

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