Mmm I've been single for years now. I'm not particularly unhappy with where I am in terms of relationships really. I have other priorities on my mind. You know, if I find a girl I'm interested in, I pursue it, but otherwise I don't actively search.

Personally though, getting a girl who's a hardcore gamer as I am would probably be ideal. Actually, one of my fantasies is to have a girl totally destroy me at Quake III and then proceed to make me "feel good" :P. Problem here is that most gamer chicks don't play Q3.

Amnestic:

What, is having a (wo)man like some sort of badge of passage?

My 'friend' seemed to think this. To win (I use that term loosely) some arguments against me, he would fall back on "Well I've got a girlfriend." even when such a thing wasn't even related to the argument. It was one of those moments for the "You win because you're an idiot." thread. You can't argue with it simply because its stupidity has skyrocketed beyond normal human bounds.

Well, when you're 13-14, having a girlfriend is sort of an instant VIP.

Lord Krunk:
Well, when you're 13-14, having a girlfriend is sort of an instant VIP.

Eh, it goes beyond that age. People tend to be incredibly shallow and fickle up until about the age of 24-25, and they'll say all sorts of stuff to your face that is 100% bullshit simply because they don't want to offend you.

Amnestic:
Dated a girl like that for 3 months, she broke it off because I wasn't a Christian. Probably a good thing too, one of her friends who I talk to a lot has been complaining about how batshit bonkers and how much of a bitch she is these days.

Definitely a good thing. Batshit insane people like that tend to appear initially appealing until you realise that the basis for their views and their "interesting" personality is completely ridiculous and unbelievable. They tend to circle around and bite you in the ass when you least expect it, too, feeding on your entrails like a giant, pulsating leech.

So apparently the OP asked what some awesome things to do while single are... I don't know if anyone actually answered that but.. I didn't spend my single time trying to change who I am as a person so other people would like me, though I did come close to it once during a more lonelyish time, I instead contemplated what it was I actually wanted in a partner. I know this sounds simple, but it can actually be something deeply philosophical (unless I used the wrong word, then maybe its deeply something else!).

I'm sure everyone has some ideas of what they want, but those are more like fantasies, and dont cover the full spectrum of who someone is. There are thousands of questions you can ask yourself, and try to find for yourself what things you can live with and what things you cant handle. I for instance never wanted to date a girl who smokes. If I'm going to commit myself to a person and be with them for the rest of my life, I dont want them slowly killing themselves... I'd love them too much to be able to handle it even if they were perfect in every other way. But there are tons of issues you could think on like... how many kids you want? What kind of vehicle? What are your morals/views/values/upbringings and can you compromise those? Its not easy to do it, how well must a partner fit yours? Can you ever date someone who thinks a certain way, treats you a certain way, etc?

I pursued a lot of girls in highschool and before that even, and found myself lusting after a lot of girls who really werent what I wanted anyways. This was due to societies influence on me, basically telling me to ask out girls who are, in their eyes, beautiful. But I needed to find what beautiful meant to me, and what a real partner was in my mind. It took a long time but I finally found someone who is much much more of what I want, and I couldnt be happier.

Thats just my experience though...

poleboy:

That means bangs right? Because all the other definitions I could find made no bloody sense, unless you consider yourself a major center of population.

Also, I don't get why anyone would do that. If he didn't like the way you looked/acted, why was he interesed you in the first place? Boggles the mind.

Fringe = Bangs. I'm quite particular about my fringe, like it straight cut, thick and in the middle. The ex liked to try and sweep it to the side like an emo fringe and I'd go ballistic.

I'll never understand the guy though. He took great pleasure in winding me up but when he did he found out how evil I could be. I think he was more into the chase before hand but when he got me I think he made it his goal in life to try and turn me around. Sounds kinda cliched really.

He also wanted me to be jealous about him being around other girls because he was jealous as hell when I was with my mates, most of which are guys. He didn't like me telling him the truth that I wasn't jealous about that because if he did give a toss about me, he wouldn't do anything with anyone else. I don't see the point in lying about something to someone, water it down just because they can't handle the truth.

Shirahime:
I don't really cope well in relationships because I like being on my own way too much. I like having my own space and being able to do what I want without having the restraints of a signifigant other.

A relationship with me would be hilariously epic. Know why? Because I also like being on my own a hell of a lot. We'd pretty much avoid getting on each others' nerves to the extent that any time spent together would be awesome--kinda like having food you love eating once or twice a month, so that it doesn't get boring.

There's the little issue of me being in Yorkshire and you in Scotland, but it might not even *be* an issue. Hell, it might be one of the reasons why the relationship would be epic--the distance would amplify the feeling of "I have my own space". :D

This thread alternates between making me laugh and making me cringe.

But i must admit its never ceased to be entertaining.

Lord Krunk:

Amnestic:

What, is having a (wo)man like some sort of badge of passage?

My 'friend' seemed to think this. To win (I use that term loosely) some arguments against me, he would fall back on "Well I've got a girlfriend." even when such a thing wasn't even related to the argument. It was one of those moments for the "You win because you're an idiot." thread. You can't argue with it simply because its stupidity has skyrocketed beyond normal human bounds.

Well, when you're 13-14, having a girlfriend is sort of an instant VIP.

This was last year. We were 17.

Eggo:

I've always treated my times being single as an opportunity to spend all that free time and energy to actively and directly improve myself in as many ways as possible.

In the right relationship, you've got just as much free time as you do when you're single. There's not one thing that single life offers that wasn't just as available during my last relationship. If anything, my free time now is less...I don't know. It was great being out drinking with my friends or going to a show or hooking up with a new girl, and knowing there was someone I cared about that I could share my experiences with.

I guess that's the difference between having a relationship with a girl, and having a best friend who happens to be a girl you're in a relationship with. I guess when you've only experienced the former and never the latter, it looks like there are advantages to being single. When you've had the latter, well, not only do you not lose any of the advantages associated with being single, but those 'advantages' are even sweeter when you've got someone to share them with.

Blayze:

A relationship with me would be hilariously epic. Know why? Because I also like being on my own a hell of a lot. We'd pretty much avoid getting on each others' nerves to the extent that any time spent together would be awesome--kinda like having food you love eating once or twice a month, so that it doesn't get boring.

There's the little issue of me being in Yorkshire and you in Scotland, but it might not even *be* an issue. Hell, it might be one of the reasons why the relationship would be epic--the distance would amplify the feeling of "I have my own space". :D

HAHA! XD I think that is the problem I had with my ex, he wasn't far away enough. I was living in Leith and he was on the other side of Edinburgh. He used to call me over and over again for me to go to his flat and wouldn't leave me alone till I turned up but I used to do that just to shut him up. Half bloody 12 at night waiting on a bus for half an hour or forking out a tenner each time for a damn taxi, and he'd never come and meet me or anything. He hardly even visited my flat either. Ungreatful swine. ¬_¬

Then he tried being angry at me when I bleached his mankey bathroom. He didn't win. XD

Sounds like somebody needed a kick to the face. Anyway, the offer's open. ;)

Blayze:
Sounds like somebody needed a kick to the face. Anyway, the offer's open. ;)

Picking up girls over internet gaming forums?

Classy ;D

I did belt him one when he was being a total child in this bar we frequented. Yeah, his face looked like a smacked arse after. XD

Well, Im sixteen. I've got plenty of time. I'm fine...really

One of my oddest relationships (if we can even call it that) is one that lasted all but a few days. Had a girl over at my place to watch a movie (cheap dates ftw haha). Anyways, 3 days later I get an e-mail (no, not a call, a bloody e-mail). It contained the usual crap about "It wouldn't work out" and stuff like that. I was actually pissed.

She got REALLY defensive when I asked her to elaborate and I told her I didn't buy her reasons. Well I let it go only to find out later on that she "liked" 3 or so other guys at school. It was one of those lightbulb moments.

When I was in high school, I had a buddy, wasn't really a friend. He had a girlfriend who happened to be real hot. I got between them in a crazy way. I told him that she didn't like him (which turned out to be true). And that she would just leave him for someone else. Anyways we (us 3) went to the pool and went back to her place for a bit. He had to go home so we escorted him to the bus, and I made sure that I wasn't on my bus before he was on his >=). I made out with her that night.

Few days later they do break up and I try to step in. Didn't happen. Came out of it all empty handed. Those were the good old days rofl.

Ultrajoe:
Listening to the problems of any amount of women has that effect... they all think the same way when it comes to things like grief.

Err, believe it or not, but having fantastic listening and social skills come in really handy in situations other than shoulder support.

Ever been to a party or a formal social function? :p

Eggo:

Ultrajoe:
Listening to the problems of any amount of women has that effect... they all think the same way when it comes to things like grief.

Err, believe it or not, but having fantastic listening and social skills come in really handy in situations other than shoulder support.

Ever been to a party or a formal social function? :p

I endorse this message. People are all too happy to blather on about their 'interesting' lives at a moments notice, being a good listener gets you mucho brownie points.

Hell, there are even people who actually lead interesting lives which appreciate someone who can hold a good conversation with them.

Yes i see absolutely gorgeous girls every day since my bus goes through a school where there must be a law against ugly girls there.

Its depressing when i think about it but when i end up having to bear most of their tears on my chest because pricks hurt them kinda makes me afraid of becoming one of them.

slightly depressing..

Eggo:
Hell, there are even people who actually lead interesting lives which appreciate someone who can hold a good conversation with them.

You're obviously going to better parties and formal events than me ;/

Amnestic:

Blayze:
Sounds like somebody needed a kick to the face. Anyway, the offer's open. ;)

Picking up girls over internet gaming forums?

Classy ;D

Why not? It's efficient on both time and effort.

Blayze:

Why not? It's efficient on both time and effort.

Efficient...?

Oh the wonder and amazement brought by true love! :P

Blayze:

Amnestic:

Blayze:
Sounds like somebody needed a kick to the face. Anyway, the offer's open. ;)

Picking up girls over internet gaming forums?

Classy ;D

Why not? It's efficient on both time and effort.

Hey baby, wanna join MY collective?

Taerdin:

Blayze:

Why not? It's efficient on both time and effort.

Efficient...?

Oh the wonder and amazement brought by true love! :P

Precisely. It's time-efficient in that you don't need to set aside a specific time period during your day. You can simply go about your daily business and chat via any number of the fantastic message-sending tools (Or indeed, via a forum) we have at our disposal. This is also why it's effort-efficient as well. The person you're calling isn't at home, what do you do? Leave a message on the Internet.

Graustein:
Not to say I haven't been through the same "god I suck and are unloveable" phase, but it passes rather quickly. If (when) I meet a girl I like, I ask her out. After getting to know her first, so I don't end up dating a bitch. Actually that's not quite true, I still need to grow the balls to ask her out first. Which takes a while.

You don't need to get to know her before you ask her out. If you wait for a long time, she's going to assume that you're not interested. If you take her out and she's a bitch, don't ask her out again. I don't see why people seem to think that they need to know everything about someone before they go on a date.

As for growing the balls to do it, well, that's something you learn by doing. It doesn't take a while if you just force yourself to do it without leaving time to talk yourself out of it.

searanox:
That's a bit crass, and while I don't necessarily require all of those things in a partner, those are preferred. Sure, they don't have to be a huge fan of Western RPGs and Star Wars, but it certainly helps. I definitely could not tolerate somebody who is not open to those sorts of things, though, i.e. the generic "that stuff is for nerds" sort of attitude. All I ask is that they be receptive to learn new things, as I am. Sadly, in my experience, most females don't give a flying fuck past the latest Idol episode.

And exactly how is looking down on the cultural material that you happen to favor any different from you looking down on Idol? You sure are judgmental for someone who apparently doesn't think he's better than anyone.

I apologize if I'm coming across as crass, but you're coming across as misogynistic, so I guess I just don't respond well to that.

Bah my problem is that my love or at least feelings are more often than not unrequited. Take my current predicament, the person I am currently infatuated with has a boyfriend. The thing that makes this different is that despite going to the same school, I've only started speaking to her in the last few months and we have just really clicked as it were. She's too nice to leave her boyfriend for me, I'm too much of a coward to admit how I feel and I would feel, while elated horribly guilty. He's a knave anyway...
*Grumbles to self*
I think she knows how I feel anyway, just we're too meek to do anything about it.

Oh yeah and the last time I tried to act on something a bit like this I ended up horribly humiliated. Not a good memory to say the least.

Lord Krunk:

Well, when you're 13-14, having a girlfriend is sort of an instant VIP.

But to people like me, it just labels the guy as an asshole and the girl as a bimbo.

Go to the gym. Get the pump. You'll get lots of attention anytime you hold a gun show.

I'm too much of a coward to admit how I feel and I would feel, while elated horribly guilty.

Fuck cowardice. I don't use this phrase often, but "Man (the fuck) up!"

Invite her to hang out somewhere, get yourself sat down somewhere nice and just say it. There's nothing stopping you beyond yourself, and oddly enough most people actually can control themselves. Yeah, you may regret it if it doesn't work out entirely in your favour but jeebus Christ man, it's better to try than just sit around and pretend you're not interested. If, as you say, she has an idea then surely it's better to act? If she found the idea truly repulsive she'd have confronted you already. The fact that she hasn't means she's at the very least curious.

Woo her. Woo her hard.

Oh yeah and the last time I tried to act on something a bit like this I ended up horribly humiliated. Not a good memory to say the least.

So better to act on something to replace the humiliation memory. If such a thing holds you back now, how're you ever going to grow as a person? The fact that you'll actually make a move will impress her, irregardless of the gut-wrenching terror you feel inside.

Good morning blues:

Graustein:
Not to say I haven't been through the same "god I suck and are unloveable" phase, but it passes rather quickly. If (when) I meet a girl I like, I ask her out. After getting to know her first, so I don't end up dating a bitch. Actually that's not quite true, I still need to grow the balls to ask her out first. Which takes a while.

You don't need to get to know her before you ask her out. If you wait for a long time, she's going to assume that you're not interested. If you take her out and she's a bitch, don't ask her out again. I don't see why people seem to think that they need to know everything about someone before they go on a date.

As for growing the balls to do it, well, that's something you learn by doing. It doesn't take a while if you just force yourself to do it without leaving time to talk yourself out of it.

I don't need to know everything about her, but I don't want to ask her out only to find we have nothing in common. I like to know that we'll have something to talk about before forcing us into a situation where we're forced to do stuff. I don't intend to wait too long, just long enough to know that she's interesting and not a bitch.