What should I do this weekend?

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I got some congratulations at my job for getting a shift with Saturdays and Sundays off. Everybody wants a shift like this. But I never go out on weekends anyway. What the heck would I even do? Clubs seem lame. I know I'm probably not gonna say hello to anyone. I'm a weird recluse, completely isolated. I have one contact on my phone, my brother. The only reason I'm asking is because I'm nearing thirty and have barely done any of the things people my age have done. I know I should, but I just... don't want to.

Maybe get Indian food, I recommend goat biryani, and sit down in front of a new video game? I'm trying to get into Neverwinter Nights on GOG.

Or go for a walk? See if there are any parks nearby, load up an audiobook or podcast onto your .mp3 player and walk for a little? Just to get some fresh air, see nature and have a few hours of quiet contemplation while enjoying a little activity?

Furious masturbation, obviously

Join a random meetup event to your liking that is being held on that weekend.

Beer-ienteering.

It's a game I invented where you and some friends go on a separate pub/club crawl routes, whereby the last pub is the one you all eventually end up at (hopefully).

You have to consume two schooners of standard strength lager or ale each at select pubs you drew from a hat, finding the quickest means to beat lines to the taps, successfully pay for your drinks, consume them, and get to the next pub you drew as quickly as you can ... repeating the process so many times as you want journeyed pubs along the way + 1 (being the finalpub you all end up at).

Winner gets whatever is in the pot of how much you equally chipped in, of which usually halfis consumed when they buy everyone a consolation drink. Best played in groups of two per route for safety's sake, and obviously no private vehicle use. I wouldn't suggest any marathons runs.

You will need friends/acquaintances, however ... so you should make some.

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In all seriousness, what's so important about Saturday and Sundays off if you don't really want to spend time with anyone?

Is it like you have too many shifts already and just want time to relax? If you're not liable to be going out much and conversing with other people, I'd have thought you'd want weekdays off so you can get penalty rates over the weekend.

I assume that they give weekends off to people that are thought to actually want weekends off? If you take weekdays off instead, you could day-study another qualification part time if you want to stay reclusive with your spare time. If that's more yur speed maybe youcould see if you can trade timetables with someone else?

I don't know ... just spitaballing what I'd do in your situation ... either makesome friends to enjoy popular nightlife in your local city or instead opt for a timetable that meant I could do stuff over weekdays like additional study.

Addendum_Forthcoming:
Beer-ienteering.

It's a game I invented where you and some friends go on a separate pub/club crawl routes, whereby the last pub is the one you all eventually end up at (hopefully).

You have to consume two schooners of standard strength lager or ale each at select pubs you drew from a hat, finding the quickest means to beat lines to the taps, successfully pay for your drinks, consume them, and get to the next pub you drew as quickly as you can ... repeating the process so many times as you want journeyed pubs along the way + 1 (being the finalpub you all end up at).

Winner gets whatever is in the pot of how much you equally chipped in, of which usually halfis consumed when they buy everyone a consolation drink.

Best played in groups of two per route for safety's sake, and obviously no private vehicle use.

Sounds a bit like pub golf. Rules are simple - estimate the distance from your current location (your workplace usually) to the first pub, and equate this into a golf par (<250m for Par 3, 250m - 450m Par 4 and >450m Par 5). When arriving at destination boozer you must then drink a number of drinks equal to that pub's Par before calculating the Par to the next pub and then the next pub, and then the next pub, and then ... you get the idea. Interesting game, your beerienteering, I might have to suggest it to our group the next time we're out for someone's birthday.

OT - Give your brother a call, OP, ask him to rally some of *his* friends at your nearest outdoor pursuits place, and spend the afternoon paint-balling, quad-biking, canoeing, maybe even trying a spot of archery. By the end of the day you'll all have something in common, and you can then head back into town and play pub golf. :)

Grouchy Imp:

Sounds a bit like pub golf. Rules are simple - estimate the distance from your current location (your workplace usually) to the first pub, and equate this into a golf par (<250m for Par 3, 250m - 450m Par 4 and >450m Par 5). When arriving at destination boozer you must then drink a number of drinks equal to that pub's Par before calculating the Par to the next pub and then the next pub, and then the next pub, and then ... you get the idea. Interesting game, your beerienteering, I might have to suggest it to our group the next time we're out for someone's birthday.

It leads to some hilarity as often you'll end up in situations you're counting down the seconds till the next bus, using shortcuts, etc. All while your head is slowly filling with liquid amber .... it's a great way to learn the chaotic, fractured, broken system of Sydney buses and trains... and by the time all the teams meet back up you're already fairly soused, just happy to be there.

Think of it as the Amazing Race, only with potential vomiting.

You'll come away with it with at least some interesting stories. Like one of us fell into the Harbour and ended up having to dry off on an exterior pub table, smelling like sin for the rest of the night.

Your pub golf sounds like a fairer game, however. Sometimes you get some serious bad draws in beerienteering depending on the scope of the area chosen.

If your area has a Chinatown, go for Dim Sum. Invite some work buddies, make some friends.

Go people watch. I'm very much an introvert, but I do enjoy a bit of a crowd wherein I can blend and observe; it's nice (and healthy) to get out from yourself from time to time. I'm fortunate enough to have a girlfriend who's pretty sociable, so she drags me out of myself fairly often to keep me from imploding. Find a local pub (NOT a "club;" there's very much a difference,) order the beverage of your choosing, then sit back and enjoy the show: watch people who can't dance try to, watch couples in love get drunk and fight, listen to some bad karaoke, watch a "girls night out" turn into pandemonium filled with streaked mascara and someone inevitably missing a single high heel, etc. My personal preference is shooting pool; for a buck, I can own some significant real estate in a bar, focus on something that's not the general din and still appear to be a normal part of the crowd. I've actually met quite a few friends in bars; something about those places that level the social playing field and make people easier to deal with. Regardless of the general worries of the world, everyone in a bar is usually there for the same reason: relax and shrug it all off.

A local bar is a good place to normalize, even for a recluse. My girlfriend and I are a part of a "regular" crowd at a local place near our house; we and our clique meet there pretty often for a cocktail or two; we each have a time we show up, a time we leave; the bar tenders know our drinks; we rarely have anything of import to say to each other, but just being together in a noisy bar and its smoky patio before we have to return to the obligations of adulthood is... refreshing? I didn't get the TV show "Cheers" until I moved to Texas by myself and had to find a place to belong. A bar is a great place to be, and most importantly be accepted as, yourself. At our place alone, I know at least one person of every archetypal personality type; whether we get along or not, we understand each other and we each have our place.

Xprimentyl:
until I moved to Texas by myself and had to find a place to belong.

I would go to Texas just for that delicious Texas BBQ. Those burgers just look so gooooooood.

Anyways if you have some money you could also book a weekend trip to some place you've never been. A change of scenery can be really refreshing. You can go sightseeing and taste the local cuisine. I love walking through town and having all these new impressions and then stopping for coffee and cake. :p

stroopwafel:

Xprimentyl:
until I moved to Texas by myself and had to find a place to belong.

I would go to Texas just for that delicious Texas BBQ. Those burgers just look so gooooooood.

The barbecue and Mexican food bonuses are offset by several detriments: there's been a massive influx of people in the Dallas-Fort Worth area (where I'm at) where jobs and corporate America are booming; a one bedroom, 500 square-foot apartment goes for about $950,000 a month. You measure distance in time because there's so much construction, it's not uncommon for a 2 mile commute to take half an hour. And the WORST... Dallas Cowboys fans *shudder*; if you look up "obnoxious" in the dictionary, you'll see a picture of an overweight, middle-aged white guy in a weathered #9 jersey, holding a Bud Light, mouth open in a cock-sucking "O" and the iconic silver and blue lone star painted on his cheek. Oh, and you'll likely see me, slightly out of frame, my foot up to the ankle in his ass.

But OT again, go for a drive. I drive basically the same roads to the same places every day, but on unplanned days off, I like to drive the roads less traveled. Put on some good music or perhaps a book on CD, and just drive with no destination in mind. Find a two lane highway and see where it goes. Drive randomly through neighborhoods with expensive houses. Find some mom-'n-pop diner and order something you've never tried before. I find there's no better way to spend time with nothing to do than doing nothing in particular.

Splatfest this weekend is action movies versus comedy movies.

Push yourself where you can towards any activity that will get you out and about with peoples or person, as being isolated for long enough does make the act of socialising or even going out to do your own thing much more difficult the longer you leave it. I have no idea of your current environment and what opportunities there are, but the internet does give access to local information . Though from the sounds of it, like many other people in familiar situations, the biggest obstacle to overcome will be your own mind. Any first step will be initially uncomfortable, that is unavoidable, it depends on how much you desire the change however. A presentation that may help, the overall sentiment is related even if the speaker's goals are aligned elsewhere.

Meet people at the library by chuckling to yourself now and then as you read, and occasionally really let rip with a proper belly laugh. People will be drawn to you as everyone likes people who wear their heart of their sleeve. Obviously choose appropriate reading material, no one is going to be your friend if The Diary of Anne Frank gives you the giggles.

When in doubt blow things up. Failing that, you could spend a day contemplating blowing things up.

Ezekiel:
I got some congratulations at my job for getting a shift with Saturdays and Sundays off. Everybody wants a shift like this. But I never go out on weekends anyway. What the heck would I even do? Clubs seem lame. I know I'm probably not gonna say hello to anyone. I'm a weird recluse, completely isolated. I have one contact on my phone, my brother. The only reason I'm asking is because I'm nearing thirty and have barely done any of the things people my age have done. I know I should, but I just... don't want to.

Find a movie theater playing "The Shape of Water."

That's what I'm going to be doing anyway since there is not a single venue in my hometown of 400,000 that is playing it (fucking philistines! I bet if it starred Adam Sandler they'd be showing it everywhere). The closest place is an hour and a half away so a few of us are making a weekend of it.

Devise and implement a plan which causes a massive pack of meadow voles to swarm into the House of Representatives.

Watch games done quick.

Xprimentyl:

stroopwafel:

Xprimentyl:
until I moved to Texas by myself and had to find a place to belong.

I would go to Texas just for that delicious Texas BBQ. Those burgers just look so gooooooood.

The barbecue and Mexican food bonuses are offset by several detriments: there?s been a massive influx of people in the Dallas-Fort Worth area (where I?m at) where jobs and corporate America are booming; a one bedroom, 500 square-foot apartment goes for about $950,000 a month. You measure distance in time because there?s so much construction, it?s not uncommon for a 2 mile commute to take half an hour. And the WORST? Dallas Cowboys fans *shudder*; if you look up ?obnoxious? in the dictionary, you?ll see a picture of an overweight, middle-aged white guy in a weathered #9 jersey, holding a Bud Light, mouth open in a cock-sucking ?O? and the iconic silver and blue lone star painted on his cheek. Oh, and you?ll likely see me, slightly out of frame, my foot up to the ankle in his ass.

But OT again, go for a drive. I drive basically the same roads to the same places every day, but on unplanned days off, I like to drive the roads less traveled. Put on some good music or perhaps a book on CD, and just drive with no destination in mind. Find a two lane highway and see where it goes. Drive randomly through neighborhoods with expensive houses. Find some mom-?n-pop diner and order something you?ve never tried before. I find there?s no better way to spend time with nothing to do than doing nothing in particular.

What kind of property costs $950 grand a month? Or was there supposed to be a full stop and its $950.00 a month?

Play video games?

If you want to be social, find out if there is any place to play DnD nearby?

Do whatever makes you feel happy man. :)

Definitely try to head out and do something for a change! Maybe make one new friend.

Gordon_4:

Xprimentyl:

stroopwafel:

I would go to Texas just for that delicious Texas BBQ. Those burgers just look so gooooooood.

The barbecue and Mexican food bonuses are offset by several detriments: there?s been a massive influx of people in the Dallas-Fort Worth area (where I?m at) where jobs and corporate America are booming; a one bedroom, 500 square-foot apartment goes for about $950,000 a month. You measure distance in time because there?s so much construction, it?s not uncommon for a 2 mile commute to take half an hour. And the WORST? Dallas Cowboys fans *shudder*; if you look up ?obnoxious? in the dictionary, you?ll see a picture of an overweight, middle-aged white guy in a weathered #9 jersey, holding a Bud Light, mouth open in a cock-sucking ?O? and the iconic silver and blue lone star painted on his cheek. Oh, and you?ll likely see me, slightly out of frame, my foot up to the ankle in his ass.

But OT again, go for a drive. I drive basically the same roads to the same places every day, but on unplanned days off, I like to drive the roads less traveled. Put on some good music or perhaps a book on CD, and just drive with no destination in mind. Find a two lane highway and see where it goes. Drive randomly through neighborhoods with expensive houses. Find some mom-?n-pop diner and order something you?ve never tried before. I find there?s no better way to spend time with nothing to do than doing nothing in particular.

What kind of property costs $950 grand a month? Or was there supposed to be a full stop and its $950.00 a month?

That was my being facetious. Just saying it's expensive and congested 'round these parts.

Work, that's what I'm doing. Working 70 hours a week is a blast!

Agree with Saelune, a Tabletop roleplaying group would be a good solution to your problem, it'll get you hanging out with people that generally don't mind you being a recluse and it'll give you something to do that might be genuinely interesting.

jademunky:

Ezekiel:
I got some congratulations at my job for getting a shift with Saturdays and Sundays off. Everybody wants a shift like this. But I never go out on weekends anyway. What the heck would I even do? Clubs seem lame. I know I'm probably not gonna say hello to anyone. I'm a weird recluse, completely isolated. I have one contact on my phone, my brother. The only reason I'm asking is because I'm nearing thirty and have barely done any of the things people my age have done. I know I should, but I just... don't want to.

Find a movie theater playing "The Shape of Water."

That's what I'm going to be doing anyway since there is not a single venue in my hometown of 400,000 that is playing it (fucking philistines! I bet if it starred Adam Sandler they'd be showing it everywhere). The closest place is an hour and a half away so a few of us are making a weekend of it.

Saw it yesterday, it was really good and surprisingly it was absolutely packed in the cinema, I didn't buy tickets in advance because I figured not that many people would be there and I had to watch a showing an hour later than planned and I barely got seats which weren't even good seats, though I have a feeling that is because the Del Toro cult is way bigger in M?xico due to him being from Guadalajara, but yes this is a worthwhile time investment.

Well according to our new, and also newly ex-, member, you could be making $82 an hour at an online...um, joob...

Have you ever been rock climbing? Climbing in a gym is a pretty good activity to get out of the house, and there's people around so you can be social if you want to but it's also a solo activity so you don't have to be.

Well, it's Sunday and I didn't go anywhere again. I did cut my hair today and noticed that I'm becoming grey all over. Makes me more depressed about my coming thirtieth birthday and how it's gonna be like any other day.

Ezekiel:
Well, it's Sunday and I didn't go anywhere again. I did cut my hair today and noticed that I'm becoming grey all over. Makes me more depressed about my coming thirtieth birthday and how it's gonna be like any other day.

Hey dude. You sound really down in this post. Everything ok? Are you feeling a bit bored with life in general at the moment?

Try visiting a national park. Nature is apparently uplifting.

Ezekiel:
Well, it's Sunday and I didn't go anywhere again. I did cut my hair today and noticed that I'm becoming grey all over. Makes me more depressed about my coming thirtieth birthday and how it's gonna be like any other day.

Well I'm free on Sundays, maybe it would be possible to form an online tabletop group from people from here, I'd be will to GM if necessary though I'll admit I've never done that before, we could use like Roll 20 or Tabletop Sim or something if you wanted to do that.

Ezekiel:
[things I don't understand] seem lame.

Well if you've never given it a proper go, you're in no position to rate it. I know it can be awkward to step out of your comfort zone and try new things, but as time goes on you're going to increasingly wish that you had/have.

There's a saying that goes 'change only happens when the pain of staying the same grows stronger than the fear of change' As you age you will find that pain will eventually outweigh the fear. The best thing you can do is be proactively going beyond your comfort zone before that happens. Even the smallest victory, such as having a conversation with someone in a bar, becomes a monumental achievement when you realise you alone compelled yourself to do it.

Also remember- places, things and experiences you don't like/know/understand now don't always have to be that way. once you step out of your comfort zone it expands to accommodate your new experience. Keep at it and one day you'll look back and marvel at how little the things that once held you back do so now.

And hey- if so many people, all around the world, regularly go to clubs and enjoy it- perhaps it's worth investigating just to see what all the fuss is about? ;)

Ezekiel:
I'm a weird recluse, completely isolated. I have one contact on my phone, my brother. The only reason I'm asking is because I'm nearing thirty and have barely done any of the things people my age have done. I know I should, but I just... don't want to.

It sounds to me like the first step here is to find someone to really listen to you (in person preferably, but over the phone as a substitute) to try to see things from your point of view before you'll want to take any advice on board.

You need to be quite down to be posting things like this on a Forum of people you've not met in person. We can't really listen and see how you are feeling in this context and everyone will just give you advice without really understanding your situation. I think you need to find an understanding person who will really listen to you properly so you can sort your feelings out a bit and work out how you can start to feel better about yourself. I feel like there's a lot of turmoil going on in your head from reading this thread.

I think once you start to feel understood by someone you'll start feel a bit more liberated and have a better understanding of what you need to do next. It's a start. For example, I went to a counselor all last year after a serious illness that made me stop working. There's no shame in it and it really helped me to recover mentally. If you know any really empathetic people that can be just as good. Opening up to someone who really wants to listen (instead of just waiting for their turn to speak) is one of the most freeing things you can do.

I don't do a whole lot during the week. I work 3rd shift so much of my weekday is just destroyed by work. But I make it a point to get out of my house (well I just moved so apartment) every weekend. One of my pals is finishing his "man cave" basement and we can get into bumper pool or ping pong. If you live somewhere with it (semipro or minor league) local sports is fun to attend and fairly affordable as long as you stay away from major league sports. Even if it's just going to a movie or a restaurant you've never been to it at least gets me out of the apartment.

I've also tried culture. Checking out museums, historical sites, re-enactments... there's some pretty cool stuff there. Hell, this just opened in my hometown

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An old style arcade, the type I grew up in back in the 80's. I've been there for a few hours every weekend this year so far.

I don't understand the general obsession with going out at the weekend post-early 20's. Most of us are forced to leave the house 5 days a week to go somewhere we don't want to go for 10+ hours per day, I treat the week as my time out of the house, with weekends reserved for sitting at home indulging in whatever nerdy hobby I feel like pursuing.

Ask me out for drinks after work on a Thursday? Sure sounds great! Ask me to do anything that means I have to wear something other than underpants on Saturday/Sunday? Pfft, good luck with that, you'll need to taser me, hogtie me, and then drag me. Nothing weird about not wanting to pointlessly go into public, I think all the 'normal' people are weird for wanting to be around strangers for no good reason. It's odd behavior if you examine it and likely the left-overs of our primeval instincts.

"Ah yes this wine opens up beautifully, and the smell of my Italian seared steak is intoxicating, if only I had 200 random bodies to consume it next to whilst they also consume their own meals without any social interaction, that would really set this whole thing off".

It's like a giant web of co-dependency that everyone celebrates for some odd reason...

My point is don't worry about what you should have done or what normal people do, normal people are just as weird as the weridos, there're just more of them.

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