Right. Here's the deal. I recentley proposed to my girlfriend. We have been going out six months. this is very unlike me as i'm usually a very much wait and see sort of person in relationship matters. She said she would, but wants to wait until we've been going out for a year until she officially says yes and makes it official as she has always told everyone thats what she feels is a decent amount of time.

So my question to you dear escapists is this. how long do you think is the minimum time you should wait before you should propose to someone or they propose to you?

(also those escapists who know me on facebook etc, this is still very hush hush among my friends and family so SHHHHH!)

It varies with the couple. But I personally would wait a year and see where the relationship is then with my hypothetical serious Boyfriend.

But never ever wait more than 3 years if you're out of school

Also congrats

3 or 4 years. Quite a while, you need to be certain you can last decades with this person.

Reuq:
As long as you like, I really don't think that marriage mean THAT much.

I never did before, but as they say, life changes you in unexpected ways.

I'd usually say 1 year minimum. From 2 years onward is normal in my eyes. But 1 year is enough.

Varies greatly. Depends how long it takes for one to know the other well enough to be able to say 'this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with'.

But as an absolute minimum I'd say a month or two at the least. Lust and crushes come and go and time is one key factor (at least in my opinion) of separating love from just a strong temporary crush. You also need time to see the other person in their bad moments, not just when everything is fine and dandy.

EClaris:

Also congrats

Thank you :)

Susan Arendt:
As long as the two of you feel is appropriate. There is no "correct" time period. Could be five years, could be two days. It depends entirely on the people involved, and their particular situation.

I do, however, highly recommend living with the person first, assuming your faith and personal morals allow such a thing.

Damn, ninja'd!

Although, I am normally against the idea of marriage, if you two love each other, it doesn't matter what I say or what anyone says. Do as you see fit but make sure you love each other.

Julianking93:

Susan Arendt:
As long as the two of you feel is appropriate. There is no "correct" time period. Could be five years, could be two days. It depends entirely on the people involved, and their particular situation.

I do, however, highly recommend living with the person first, assuming your faith and personal morals allow such a thing.

Damn, ninja'd!

Although, I am normally against the idea of marriage, if you two love each other, it doesn't matter what I say or what anyone says. Do as you see fit but make sure you love each other.

You two apeak alot of sense/truth. Generally i would be in the 1-2 year camp myself, funny how things turn out though.

My main reason for posting was that it sparked of a sudden intense curiousity about what other people, think on the matter as it usually isn't a topic that comes up often.

http://www.wearyourbeer.com/images/Humor_Wedding_Game_Over_Black_Shirt.jpg

Only joking, good luck with it

lazy_bum:

Julianking93:

Susan Arendt:
As long as the two of you feel is appropriate. There is no "correct" time period. Could be five years, could be two days. It depends entirely on the people involved, and their particular situation.

I do, however, highly recommend living with the person first, assuming your faith and personal morals allow such a thing.

Damn, ninja'd!

Although, I am normally against the idea of marriage, if you two love each other, it doesn't matter what I say or what anyone says. Do as you see fit but make sure you love each other.

You two apeak alot of sense/truth. Generally i would be in the 1-2 year camp myself, funny how things turn out though.

My main reason for posting was that it sparked of a sudden intense curiousity about what other people, think on the matter as it usually isn't a topic that comes up often.

Thank you. May your life and marriage be filled with happiness and love

FolkLikePanda:
http://www.wearyourbeer.com/images/Humor_Wedding_Game_Over_Black_Shirt.jpg

Only joking, good luck with it

I've always liked that t-shirt. might buy it for a chuckle one day. luckily she is a gamer as well so i can keep on playing. XD

Susan Arendt:

Even more importantly, make sure you like each other. If you're not friends, you're going to have a very rough time of it.

Got that one nailed, been friends for, oh, long enough for me to ferget how long we've been friends. lol. i actually had to spend time thinking about that one.

Until you love her and are willing to spend your entire life devoted to her happiness. There is no definite amount of time: it's a matter of your maturity, ability, and devotion.

Definitely wait. I would want to wait a year or two and yeesh, you're only twenty.

6 months to 2 years?

firedfns13:
6 months to 2 years?

Quite a range of time there.

lazy_bum:

firedfns13:
6 months to 2 years?

Quite a range of time there.

I probably should have looked at the op.

firedfns13:

lazy_bum:

firedfns13:
6 months to 2 years?

Quite a range of time there.

I probably should have looked at the op.

LOL it often helps,

out of curiousity why such a wide time frame?

Demented Teddy:
I don't want get married.
Why should I? If you love someone you should be able to just spend your life with them without a government document saying that you are officially in a relationship and that you both own eachother's stuff.

I know what you mean. i've always thought that.
However i now see it as a way of showing just how committed i am to that person. makes it properly official if you know what i mean.

Personally? I don't believe in marriage, not because of the tax breaks, but because if you want to be with someone you should just be with them; you shouldn't have to metaphorically "Chain" them to you in order to get loyalty.

Also, if it just happens to not work out you don't have to go through a divorce.

Personally, I feel that going to a gaming website for relationship advice is like sticking your penis in a blender because you have genital warts.

lazy_bum:
Right. Here's the deal. I recentley proposed to my girlfriend. We have been going out six months.

Well that was about the time I proposed to my girlfriend and well all I can say mate is make sure you this girl well. after about 2 more months of out I started to find things out things she was doing on DATE WEBSITES (I like to add she never cheated but the things she was doing not right). Started to lie about what she was doing and a hole pile of shit I try to put it up with it because I love her so much (yea that's right I still do) but after time them things get to you and well the person I turned into was not nice. The point really is if you love her and think you know her well mate go for it may be the best or worse thing in your life. I wish you all the luck in the world mate.

lazy_bum:

firedfns13:

lazy_bum:

firedfns13:
6 months to 2 years?

Quite a range of time there.

I probably should have looked at the op.

LOL it often helps,

out of curiousity why such a wide time frame?

Probably because I make up my mind so quick about people.. without living with them. So its better to make sure you can live with them first.

yes, i am officially the first person to put as soon as you meet them, in all honesty why wait just get it over and done with.

Congrats!

I would say wait at least a year, but then again, if you know, you know, right?

I dated a guy for three years and we didn't decide it wasn't going to work until after we had lived together. Test drive it before you buy it.

Anything shorter than 3 years and you really haven't seen the "real" person you are dating. (seriously, trust me on this one)

Anything longer than 3 years and you are just being commitment phobic.