Yes or no? Just curious. Comment to explain your reasoning if you feel the need. It's a fairly gay friendly site, but even gay friendly communities do tend to be a transphobic.

For the purposes of the poll, you can assume said transgendered person is passable, and has all the appropriate parts (post-op).

Quite a few more options your poll is missing, though it's a bit limited here, yeah.

Though, really, is this something that can be explained or reasoned about? I mean, presumably you'd only date someone you fancy, and predicting that tends to be very iffy.

Considering all the MTFs I know, no. But that's a little unfair due to the limited sample size.

JoJoDeathunter:
Assuming their parts downstairs are fully functional, I don't see any reason why not. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, then it's probably a duck. Lack of reproductive ability might be a longer-term issue but I would be okay with adopting if there was no other choice.

It doesn't actually work or look the same. If you have a strong stomach, you can look for surgery pics.

I'd date a preop (M:F or F:M) if we were otherwise compatible and I was attracted to them.

Post-op, MAYBE a M:F if they did a good job on the cosmetics, but given they can't lubricate and most of the pics I've seen are "unnatural" looking I'm really not sure.

A F:M is out. Sorry, the fake penises neither look nor function as a penis. If I'm dating a man, I want a penis.

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

thaluikhain:
Though, really, is this something that can be explained or reasoned about? I mean, presumably you'd only date someone you fancy, and predicting that tends to be very iffy.

Well, transgenderism kind of throws a bit of a curve ball into the equation. Presumably for some, they could find the individual very attractive, but then suffer a massive squick attack when they realize the individual in question was not born into their apparent gender.

I'm not SUPPORTING that notion, just curious about how others feel about it. Could you get past it, mentally, assuming most everything else was in order.

This is one of those cases of "You want to be X, go right ahead, but it's in no way something I'd want to be a part of".

Can't say for sure but most likely, I would not. However, we'll never know until the situation presents itself.

Sorry but I don't think I would, I really mean no offence when I say this but it'd just be too weird for me.

Then again, you often don't know how you'll react to something until it happens.

It would have to be really convincing and thorough. I mean, not a trace of man left. But if they were all-woman and a good job of it, I think I could, yeah.

I was having some trouble with this question. Then I realized that, why would it matter? Seriously, more power to them. If I really felt connection with a transgender, I would date one. We are all people. Why should I care if they where once a guy like me?

Sure, I would be weirded out at first. But it's like anyone. The more you get to know them, the better the relationship would be.

Gotta go with "No" on this one. I most certainly would not do that.

Also, I would hope that it would never happen without my knowledge, either. I'm sorry, but admitting your former male-ness is some dirty laundry I prefer is aired right away. Don't fucking mislead me, and leave me to sort out the details for myself as soon as things might be getting a little frisky.

That could lead to domestic violence.

Voted Yes/Desperate. Stipulation, is that she's like Erica from Catherine. Where you wouldn't know at first glance. So my friends who don't know her will be like, wow you did well.

http://catherinethegame.wikia.com/wiki/Erica_Anderson

Well, I'd date them on the same standards as I date anyone: do I like you?

I honestly don't see how it matters in the slightest what they "used" to be. As for the cosmetics of their fun-department, I doubt it'd bother me. The fun-department of a real person (that is, not pornstars) tend to look rather ugly anyway, and it's not really something I'd judge the aestetics off. My undercarriage looks dreadful, and so does yours, most likely. As long as it's not too big of a handicap ("Just be careful, sometimes it grows a butterfly and mugs you!"), I'd be rather okay with it.

unoleian:
Gotta go with "No" on this one. I most certainly would not do that.

Also, I would hope that it would never happen without my knowledge, either. I'm sorry, but admitting your former male-ness is some dirty laundry I prefer is aired right away. Don't fucking mislead me, and leave me to sort out the details for myself as soon as things might be getting a little frisky.

That could lead to domestic violence.

So... You'd resort to violence? While I agree that it's wrong on many levels to withhold that information from you, I can't for the life of me fathom how beating them up for it would solve anything.

Probably not. But I won't discount the possibility. It's certainly higher than the chance of me dating a guy. :P

Not sure. It would have to actually happen. I'd be terribly reluctant, but idk how I'd end up feeling if it ever came to that.

I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

Kendarik:

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

Mental illness,and medical misconduct?! are you serious?! Being trans is NOT a mental illness. When it was first classified, and identified it was because people were ignorant, and didn't understand it. Now, that MUCH more research has been done, it has been classified as a physical "illness" (for lack of a better word. As for medical misconduct... not sure how to take this, i mean so a person who has any sort of plastic surgery would be in the same category then. To me, at it's core, can be "cured" with GRS, sooo that doesn't seem like a mental illness.

and for the record, i would date a trans person, if they were a good person and we got along.

It really wouldn't be a big deal to me, if I find them physically attractive, and emotionally attractive then so what?

(This from a mostly *straight* male)

Angry Juju:
I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

not a choice...

Melanie McGreevey:

Angry Juju:
I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

not a choice...

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

hazabaza1:

Melanie McGreevey:

Angry Juju:
I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.

(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)

not a choice...

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

it's like the choice to breath or not.

Melanie McGreevey:

Kendarik:

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

Mental illness,and medical misconduct?! are you serious?! Being trans is NOT a mental illness.

It meets all the requirements of body dismorphic disorder and would be classified as such except for the line in the diagnostic guide saying "unless its relating to gender reassignment surgery".

I'm sure that one day it will again be recognized as such and people will look back on the surgeons who did this work as butchers.

i mean so a person who has any sort of plastic surgery would be in the same category then.

Minor changes are fine, major changes fall into the BDD and surgeons are prohibited from doing the surgeries. Yes, the line is somewhat fuzzy between legit surgery and the disorder. I look at Michael Jackson as someone who was right on the edge...and possibly over the edge to a disorder.

To me, at it's core, can be "cured" with GRS, sooo that doesn't seem like a mental illness.

You could equally "cure" someone's fantasy that they were a dog by doing surgery to make them more dog like and calling them a dog. You would however not have made them a dog, nor would you have fixed the screwed up part of their brain that made them think they were a dog. In fact, rather than help them, you have reinforced their illness and just hidden the symptoms.

Only very recently it was declassified as a mental illness. So irregardless as to what it "fits into" it's not a mental disorder anymore. BDD could be anyone who has a body life after loosing weight, or a face lift that changed their appearance. or breast augmentation, to me those are all drastic.

the whole dog thing is ridiculous, plus people do that already, and there's apparently nothing wrong with them. Haven't you seen the cat man (facial surgeries, and drastic piercings). Or the lizard man, sub-dermal implants, full body tattoo, and split tongue?

there's a VERY specific set of diagnostics for trans people, and they in fact do NOT fall into the category of BDD.

Yeah i chose desperately lonely, so...yeah, as long as I'm in love with them i wouldn't care if they're transgender.

Melanie McGreevey:
Only very recently it was declassified as a mental illness. So irregardless as to what it "fits into" it's not a mental disorder anymore. BDD could be anyone who has a body life after loosing weight, or a face lift that changed their appearance. or breast augmentation, to me those are all drastic.

the whole dog thing is ridiculous, plus people do that already, and there's apparently nothing wrong with them. Haven't you seen the cat man (facial surgeries, and drastic piercings). Or the lizard man, sub-dermal implants, full body tattoo, and split tongue?

there's a VERY specific set of diagnostics for trans people, and they in fact do NOT fall into the category of BDD.

I'm so, so sorry. I actually agree with you, you're doing a fine job here, but IRREGARDLESS is not a word. I'm sorry! I'm really sorry.

Sorry.

BloatedGuppy:

Melanie McGreevey:
Only very recently it was declassified as a mental illness. So irregardless as to what it "fits into" it's not a mental disorder anymore. BDD could be anyone who has a body life after loosing weight, or a face lift that changed their appearance. or breast augmentation, to me those are all drastic.

the whole dog thing is ridiculous, plus people do that already, and there's apparently nothing wrong with them. Haven't you seen the cat man (facial surgeries, and drastic piercings). Or the lizard man, sub-dermal implants, full body tattoo, and split tongue?

there's a VERY specific set of diagnostics for trans people, and they in fact do NOT fall into the category of BDD.

I'm so, so sorry. I actually agree with you, you're doing a fine job here, but IRREGARDLESS is not a word. I'm sorry! I'm really sorry.

Sorry.

LMAO you're right, i get going and i don't think about what i am typing, i just know what i am trying to say LOL not a problem, i meant regardless.

Melanie McGreevey:

hazabaza1:

Melanie McGreevey:

not a choice...

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

it's like the choice to breath or not.

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

hazabaza1:

Melanie McGreevey:

hazabaza1:

I think that it is a choice to trade in your penis for a vagina. It's not compulsory or anything.

OT: No, I doubt I would. Bit weird for my tastes.

it's like the choice to breath or not.

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

the thing i don't think you understand is the "choice" to have the GRS is one-like breathing (you may want the surgery, but affording it is another issue, and 2- I don't know a single (although i bet they are out there) trans person who given the opportunity to have the surgery wouldn't jump at it. Most trans people don't begin transition only to get 75% of the way there. Really, they may "choose" not to have GRS because they are older, and only want to live life as complete as possible, or can't afford it.

It's realy not easy to explain, but i have never met a trans person who chooses to go through everything they have to go through only to stop short.

Melanie McGreevey:

hazabaza1:

Melanie McGreevey:

it's like the choice to breath or not.

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

the thing i don't think you understand is the "choice" to have the GRS is one-like breathing (you may want the surgery, but affording it is another issue, and 2- I don't know a single (although i bet they are out there) trans person who given the opportunity to have the surgery wouldn't jump at it. Most trans people don't begin transition only to get 75% of the way there. Really, they may "choose" not to have GRS because they are older, and only want to live life as complete as possible, or can't afford it.

It's realy not easy to explain, but i have never met a trans person who chooses to go through everything they have to go through only to stop short.

Fair enough. It just seemed like a rather obvious assumption to me but I guess this is more something you need to experience to understand.

hazabaza1:

Melanie McGreevey:

hazabaza1:

I honestly doubt that. I recognise that the emotional side of this is not a choice, and I'm not trying to argue otherwise, but the OP is talking about somebody who actually had the operation from M-F or vice versa. That is a choice.

the thing i don't think you understand is the "choice" to have the GRS is one-like breathing (you may want the surgery, but affording it is another issue, and 2- I don't know a single (although i bet they are out there) trans person who given the opportunity to have the surgery wouldn't jump at it. Most trans people don't begin transition only to get 75% of the way there. Really, they may "choose" not to have GRS because they are older, and only want to live life as complete as possible, or can't afford it.

It's realy not easy to explain, but i have never met a trans person who chooses to go through everything they have to go through only to stop short.

Fair enough. It just seemed like a rather obvious assumption to me but I guess this is more something you need to experience to understand.

It really is. I would not want to argue and fight, and tell you, you are wrong, it's just a deep, complicated subject, that most trans people can't adequately explain to most people, without over simplifying it.

I occasionally enjoy some ladyboy porn >:D
I think that makes my position on the matter clear.

I don't think that I could do it. Its nothing to do with the other person, I'm sure there are plenty of transgender people that I would get along with very well, however, I don't think I could ignore the fact that they used to be a man.