Virgin or Experienced Individual?
Virgin
54.8% (409)
54.8% (409)
Experienced Individual
28.1% (210)
28.1% (210)
I don't know, it's a dumbass question for dumbasses...
17% (127)
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Poll: You're a virgin, would you rather your first time be with another virgin or someone with experience?

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I lost mine with another virgin and I thought that was a great shared experience.

Who the hell would vote that it is a dumbass question for dumbasses? I mean really now, that is a legitimate question is it not?
Anyways, I would prefer someone more experienced than myself. While I understand that it would be viewed as more intimate, I do not expect the other to have waited their whole life just for me.
I may be a narcissist, but I'm not that bad.

Mind you, as I write this I am inebriated and do not mean to offend any that chose otherwise, it is simply my view on the subject.

Eh, I lost it to someone experienced. Didn't really make a difference, I was still laughably awful.

You're going to suck at it either way (you are, I'm telling you). I don't think it matters a whole lot whether they know what they're doing or not, though it might be a little less awkward if they don't.

Shared experiences build relationships. And like people have said, you won't look so bad if they're also new to it.

Personally, if I still had my virginity, I'd prefer to lose it to someone who knew what they were doing.

Sex is sex, yeah, but good sex still trumps bad sex.

Someone more experienced. Your first time will no doubt be better, and chances are, your next time will be too.
You cant learn from another person of your own level. If you have sex with someone who knows what theyre doing, they can tell you the good and bad. Your putting to much hip into it, dont grab at your partner's ass like that, try to be a bit more active because you look like your bored.

While you may feel like a n00b, and every moment might be embarrassing because you do something wrong, you only learn from those better then you. Its why school is taught by teachers, its why games come with a tutorial.

Its always better to learn something from someone who knows what theyre doing :D
Because learning on your own is hard, frustrating, and can lead to a lot of headaches.

Given a choice I'd rather be with someone as inexperienced as I am, ie another virgin; so that I (hopefully) won't feel like I'm being judged or compared to anyone else. Whatever the case I hope it's with someone who really loves me.

Listen, a lot of guys think it would be awesome to take some girl's virginity, a real ego boost, but do you really want a bunch of blood all over your dick? It's not a pleasant sight.

Casual Shinji:
It's probably best if atleast one of us knows what the hell to do.

So yeah, someone with some XP would be preferable.

And your first time is likely going to suck regardless.

XP you say?
What level do you have to be before sex is unlockable?
I'm just kidding by the way, someone put me up to saying it because we both agree the phrasing of it is rather funny.

Is anyone else reminded of the MW3 commercial?

Well, I doubt having us both be virgins would accomplish anything, other than making things more awkward. At least if the other person was experienced they'd know what to expect. I learn more, they aren't left disappointed. Win win

So the actual question is: Exactly how much of a fumbling awkward mess do you want your first time to be?

Radoh:

Casual Shinji:
It's probably best if atleast one of us knows what the hell to do.

So yeah, someone with some XP would be preferable.

And your first time is likely going to suck regardless.

XP you say?
What level do you have to be before sex is unlockable?
I'm just kidding by the way, someone put me up to saying it because we both agree the phrasing of it is rather funny.

This is a gaming website; Might as well roll with it.

well since sex is always a learning experience and you can learn more from someone with experience in the activity than you can from someone with none the only logical answer is to lose your virginity to a slut... got to plan for your future

Can I choose neither and remain a virgin? If so, I'd choose that.

Someone experienced. I don't want a girl to lose her viginity to someone who doesn't know anything about how to make it pleasurable.

I would actually much rather stay a virgin. I don't see why society has such an obsession with sex. It really boggles the mind.
I don't see any real value in the act of sex as I do not intend to reproduce.

A good experienced person will lead you into it like a teacher and will not expect you to preform expertly. They will not laugh at you and will turn you into better person sexually. A virgin may very well be clueless on this and it will lead to a bad first time on both sides.

Plus, someone who has had sex has already HAD sex. They wont get ultra pissed if it sucks because it wasn't their first time. Also because they are educated sexually they could make your first time very very good. Also you can usually rely on them to use protective measures correctly such as birth control and condoms.

At least thats what I think. I have never taken a virgin and I don't think I want that responsibility. I recall what I was like after I lost mine... the clinginess, the false love, admiration, the undignified.... huh, where was I? Anyway, I did and prefer someone who knows what they are doing. Especially when doing it wrong can pop out a baby.

Virgins - Worrying too much about their first time since always!

It doesn't matter whatsoever and I suspect anyone who thinks it does is making said judgement with all the experience of, well, a virgin.

Also my dearest virgins, there exists a difference between sex and making love. If you want it to be nice the first time, make love, don't just have sex. In other words, have sex for the first time with someone for whom it isn't just mindless humping.

A virgin, easily...

...I watch enough videos and practice enough that I'd like to think I have some idea what the hell I'm doing, but I'd still like the other to be oblivious to the fact that I'm pretty much stabbing in the dark...

BakaSmurf:
I'll -NEVER- have sex with a virgin girl if I can help it, the thought of causing the lady extreme pain while there's blood and she's squealing in pain... *shudder* It sends a wintery chill through my very soul. As far as I'm concerned pleasuring the lady takes top priority, and somehow I doubt that's even possible when you've just literally punched a bloody hole through her crotch that's causing her ungodly amounts of pain.

That doesn't happen to every girl and I've never heard of anyone having to squeal in pain either. The hymen can break because of other things too.

OP: I chose experience in the poll but I lost mine to a virgin and it wasn't that bad. Don't get me wrong, the sex wasn't very good, but we had been together a while and it was nice to be each other's first. It is awkward though, a lot of fumbling and second guessing yourself.

FrostyChick:
I would actually much rather stay a virgin. I don't see why society has such an obsession with sex. It really boggles the mind.
I don't see any real value in the act of sex as I do not intend to reproduce.

wha? how can it "boggle your mind" that society has an obsession with something that is required to continue it's existence

it's like me saying I don't understand why you have such an obsession with breathing

Colour-Scientist:

BakaSmurf:
I'll -NEVER- have sex with a virgin girl if I can help it, the thought of causing the lady extreme pain while there's blood and she's squealing in pain... *shudder* It sends a wintery chill through my very soul. As far as I'm concerned pleasuring the lady takes top priority, and somehow I doubt that's even possible when you've just literally punched a bloody hole through her crotch that's causing her ungodly amounts of pain.

That doesn't happen to every girl and I've never heard of anyone having to squeal in pain either. The hymen can break because of other things too.

Yeah thats a bit flippping dramatic `Extreme pain`, it hurt less than a grazed knee.
Also, I dont know anyone who bled. I didn't.
It's really not a big deal.

OT: I lost mine with another virgin, which was good because back then I was immature and thought being a virgin was important, when now I realise it really isn't. My boyfriend now wasn't a virgin when I met him, and before I lost mine I might have been bothered by that because I thought it was a big deal.

No way to say this without sounding like I'm bragging, but...

I lost mine to someone with experience. I didn't tell her it was my first time until after, when she asked me how I'd gotten so good at it. She didn't believe me.

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In answer to the question though, I'd have still chosen someone with experience. That way, she could tell me if I was doing anything wrong/badly, so I could fix it. Would rather be told I'm doing it wrong than think I'm doing it right.

I lost my virginity to another virgin. Oddly, I think I was the one in more pain than she was.

I'm kind of torn on the whole subject. I liked the kind of mutual clumsiness about the whole thing the first time I did it...but there was some awkwardness and some pain too that lessened the whole thing. The very next girl I slept with was also a virgin, and being the more 'experienced' one and her being very comfortable in her own skin meant we had an amazing time.

Honestly, if you're comfortable with that person and confident in yourself, then it should be something great regardless.

I get a little sad though when most people I know lost their virginity to some random guy/girl on a night-out and don't even remember it. Sadface.

Liquidacid23:

wha? how can it "boggle your mind" that society has an obsession with something that is required to continue it's existence

it's like me saying I don't understand why you have such an obsession with breathing

You confuse obsession and biological compulsion.
One is natural, the other is a potential problem.
To be obsessed with breathing one would have to focus a good deal of their concious effort on the act of breathing alone, savouring each breath above and beyond what is vitally necessary. To hold it up as some mystical method to making yourself a better person by doing it in a certain way.
Now imagine everyone did this, it was sensationalised by the media and held up on a pedestal like some sort of unwritten convention.
Now imagine you're the only person who doesn't feel this way about societies view on breathing. Doesn't the world look strange to you now?
Now you see where my view on sex comes from. It is not some mystic arcane right, it is not some piece of mighty knowledge passed onto man by an all powerful sky-daddy.
Is it really so hard to believe that someone doesn't get why the mere act of procreation is regarded as one of the single most important things in a species that has long since advanced beyond the stage where large families are a requirement for survival.

FrostyChick:

Liquidacid23:

wha? how can it "boggle your mind" that society has an obsession with something that is required to continue it's existence

it's like me saying I don't understand why you have such an obsession with breathing

You confuse obsession and biological compulsion.
One is natural, the other is a potential problem.
To be obsessed with breathing one would have to focus a good deal of their concious effort on the act of breathing alone, savouring each breath above and beyond what is vitally necessary. To hold it up as some mystical method to making yourself a better person by doing it in a certain way.
Now imagine everyone did this, it was sensationalised by the media and held up on a pedestal like some sort of unwritten convention.
Now imagine you're the only person who doesn't feel this way about societies view on breathing. Doesn't the world look strange to you now?
Now you see where my view on sex comes from. It is not some mystic arcane right, it is not some piece of mighty knowledge passed onto man by an all powerful sky-daddy.
Is it really so hard to believe that someone doesn't get why the mere act of procreation is regarded as one of the single most important things in a species that has long since advanced beyond the stage where large families are a requirement for survival.

''mere act of procreation''

Everything you have to say on the topic falls apart right there. Sex isn't just about procreation, if you don't get that then the entire subject will be lost on you.

Irrelevant. I would want to have sex with someone I loved.

Wow...super gay.

lost mine to a girl with experience; i didn't really care - sex is sex after all, and it's fun - but i guess having someone who knows which buttons to push *winkwink* has its advantages.

so does being with another virgin, i'd say, as neither has to wonder "will s/he think that i was too clueless?"

long story short: enjoy it (that's important, do not freak out!! it's just as natural as breathing, and as naturally it'll come to you), and whatever the situation may be focus on the positive aspects *thumb-up* :)

Oh god my first time man>.>...man that was just ...It went bad>.> But hey it was my first time So....w/e..

Speaking from experience I didn't really feel like "I was made a man" until the third time (or girl) I had sex with. My first time was with a girl who wasn't a virgin, and it was as predictably short and awkward. Then the next time was drunk, worse and frankly more embarassing. But that third time I had a more experienced partner, she was helpful and patient, helped get into a good position and rhythm, afterwards she made me appreciated the other was you can make a women happy.

I think this story is to point out that just because a women isn't a virgin doesn't mean it's immediately better or worse, depends on the person, but really if there's was a chance I could have had the third person for my first I would take that over the virgin.

Starik20X6:
No way to say this without sounding like I'm bragging, but...

I lost mine to someone with experience. I didn't tell her it was my first time until after, when she asked me how I'd gotten so good at it. She didn't believe me.

That happened with the first time I performed cunnilingus. Got complimented on that. Did it the way I thought was logical and having been doing it that way ever since.

As Vincent Chase once said, "I don't ever want to be anyones first... or last". Which I have oddly also stuck to.

So I'd take the experienced one.

It's better to have at least one of you know what you're doing. I know this from experience.

I'm far too paranoid to put up with someone who has a sexual history.

Westaway:

PaganAxe:

Kpt._Rob:
I'm going to say that if I were a virgin again I wouldn't give a shit whether the person I was having my first time with was a virgin or not. The importance that is assigned to whether someone is a virgin or not is downright moronic. It doesn't matter even a teensy bit. What's important is if it's someone you really care about, that'll make a first time much more memorable than whether the person is a virgin or not.

This.

Woah, watch out for low content posts, you'll get a warning

Yeah, and I did. Some sites are more strict on this than others. Not a big deal.

On topic: I'd want the first time to be with someone I really cared for. It sounds really stupid to track down a pornstar and pay her to take your virginity.

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