Virgin or Experienced Individual?
Virgin
54.8% (409)
54.8% (409)
Experienced Individual
28.1% (210)
28.1% (210)
I don't know, it's a dumbass question for dumbasses...
17% (127)
17% (127)
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Poll: You're a virgin, would you rather your first time be with another virgin or someone with experience?

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I HAVE A CHOICE?!

Don't care, just want to get laid.

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I'd have to say someone with experience. But I've really only been with women with "prior knowledge", so my view may be a bit skewed.

Another virgin.

Think of all the awkward giggles we'd have. :D

Kendarik:

Ultratwinkie:

Kendarik:

You are in trouble in life if you are afraid to ask for help and advice. Life is about learning and you won't get far in life if you don't use the help that is out there.

Also why would they treat you like a lobotomized child or be condescending just because they are taking the lead? That's just silly and insecure.

Whenever I ask for help (teaching), the flow chart goes like this:

First comes the smug condescending tone.

Second comes the drawn out lectures that treat you like a child.

Third then comes the torrent of absolute crap and passive aggressive insults.

Fourth They finish, and I walk away learning never to do that again.

So that's why I learned never ask for help, ever. Because it goes right down the same path every single time.

This isn't meant as an insult, but a serious question. Do you have any sort of personality disorder? The reason I ask is while that result is possible from some people, its impossible that is 100% of the results you would get from people at large. Maybe its your approach? Or even just your perception?

The men and women of power that I've met got where there were by not guessing, not being afraid, but asking questions of superiors, coworkers, friends, and subordinates. This allows them to add their own expertise to the expertise they have in a multiplier effect. Those who fumble around never exceed what they are and can't grow.

But boy are we straying off topic lol...so to put it back on topic, the man who taught me never made me feel like he was looking down on me, he made me feel like I was incredible.

I must admit though at 17ish my first inexperienced guy probably didn't feel very good. I'm afraid I wasn't as mature as I would have hoped :( Ah well, I'm still not a great teacher at anything, I'm not patient lol

Not really, I just have crap resources when it comes to helping. I only have a very small pool of people I can call to help. None of them are particularly helpful. So instead of wasting my time I just avoid asking for help altogether. I basically learned to do everything myself on whatever topic I need.

My first time was with a virgin. So now that I think about it I would have it with someone who has experience just so they would know what they were doing and tell me what I was doing right and wrong.

Aerosteam 1908:
Another virgin, obviously. I don't want too look like a noob in front of someone experienced.

was thinking experienced then I saw this.

Virgin. I would want to be on equal terms with my partner. And indeed I was.

considering when I was a virgin I lost mine to someone more experienced...I'd rather go for the one I have the better connection with. Also, that's not really a great power so to speak....just because someone is a virgin doesn't mean they don't watch porn or know anything and just cause someone is experienced doesn't mean they're any good. I mean hell, you could be as unlucky as me and be with someone who couldn't care less about your feelings or anything and was just using you to meet their own needs leaving you to learn how to fake it really well

well, i am a virgin and the experience side of things doesnt bother me if im honest. i would have to completely trust the person im with in order for things to get to the point of sexual relations. regardless of experience in the matter for either person involved.

I'm gonna have to say an experienced girl that understands that I'm a total noob and we love each other. That'd be the way to go.

Besides the passive aggressive response, I don't see an option for me. I don't care either way, sex sounds nice and everything, but I don't think it right to sleep with another person outside of marriage. I also don't want to get married. Ever. So I'm in a sort of catch-22. And just to make it clear, I acknowledge my Forever Alone status.

I would rather lose my virginity to another virgin. It's the best option.

Instead of playing the catch up game I'd rather it be with another virgin. Though to be fair there's a wide gap between virgin and experienced where popping your cherry won't turn you into a sex god/goddess.

Well that's hardly a deciding factor in anything. But I'd go with virgin to not be embarrassed by lack of experience. It'll work itself out eventually.

You know what, if you're lucky enough to find a girl that is truly a virgin while you happen to be a virgin, Godspeed on your magical journey.

Seriously, the likelihood of finding an attractive girl who didn't lose it around 16 is so astronomically low that you deserve all the pleasure of breaking her in. Frankly, I don't go fishing around the kiddie pool so I'll leave this to the professionals.

So whether you like it or not, your first time is likely going to be with someone who has experience. Trust me though, this is ideal because you will be terrible. You can redeem yourself sure, but it is far better to disappoint someone who knows what to expect from a new sexual partner as opposed to someone who doesn't. You could effectively ruin a virgin's expectations of sex if her first wasn't with someone who had experience. She needs something to look forward to, after all.

And so do you. Girls with experience (for the most part) will treat you right and will tell you exactly what you need to do to get the most pleasure out of their bodies. Could be something as simple as kissing, touching certain erogenous zones, and whatever else gets their freak on. Then of course, the obvious intercourse stuff.

Being that you may have achieved some success with this partner, you take what you've learned and apply it to a new sexual partner. You may not get them off right away as all girls require a certain approach, but you won't be fishing in the dark. She might even call your amateur ass experienced if you play your cards right.

Now tell me, what sort of transferable knowledge what a virgin give you?

Probably next to nothing, assuming she speaks to you again. You made the poor thing cry, after all.

I lost it to someone with experience, and that's the wiser move. At least, it was for me. I'm still with him, so that's something.

It wouldn't matter to me. If I could choose, then I'd like to be with a virgin, because not only would it be something new that we would both share, but we could also improve ourselves during our time together.

I wouldn't feel comfortable asking. After doing it, yeah, I could ask "did you...do it with anyone else before me?" But asking before then just seems awkward to me. I don't want to think about the other guys my girlfriend plowed. That's just creepy. I'm just sayin'.

A virgin, I suppose. Less chance of STDs and such.

I've pretty much got no choice. My GF has already had a couple before I came around, I haven't.

Not that it would bother me any way.

Apathy is apathetic. What is relevant to me is whether I have a close connection with a person before I sleep with them, not the number of partners they've had. Though I would want non-virgins to be tested for STIs, but that should be a given.

camazotz:

alandavidson:

bojackx:
A simple question really: You're a virgin, and for some random-ass reason you've had bestowed upon you a great power, the power to choose whether you lose your virginity to some other virgin, or an experienced individual. They are identical in every other way.

Wait, we can't choose who we lose our virginity to if we haven't been granted a great power? I thought that was a big part of "growing up".

I just assumed it was a really, really lame superpower that precisely mimics a normal feature of life.

Quick! We need to alert the studios that "Virginman" needs to be made.

Wait... I think I watched that last week.

I can see why some people might prefer one over the other, both seem to have minor advantages - for the virgin, it seems more special, you're sharing something, there's less pressure, and for the experienced, they know what they're doing and it's less likely things will go horribly wrong.

Personally, I don't think that any difference between tese hypothetical situations would be all that significant. Both sides of the tradeoff seem to be very, very minor, paling in importance to more important questions on the situation. Ultimately, it doesn't matter to me, I'd be just as fine either way.

Ultratwinkie:
Whenever I ask for help (teaching), the flow chart goes like this:

First comes the smug condescending tone.

Second comes the drawn out lectures that treat you like a child.

Third then comes the torrent of absolute crap and passive aggressive insults.

Fourth They finish, and I walk away learning never to do that again.

So that's why I learned never ask for help, ever. Because it goes right down the same path every single time.

If that's true in general, then... well, that's rather unfortunate. I've met people who were like that, and I don't have a high tolerance for them. But not everyone is like that.

I mean, everyone's experiences are bound to be different, but there's a good reason why a (potential) sexual partner would NOT act that way: they would be ruining it for themselves. They want to have a great time having sex, too, and that's not going to be served by them being condescending and insulting you.

And I think, in a working relationship in general, if there is trust, then at some point they're going to lean on you, and at some other point you're going to lean on them. You support each other, and help each other. When one person is weak, the other is strong, so you can complement each other in that way. If you refuse to allow anyone to help you, then it means you don't trust them, which is only going to be a barrier to any normal relationship sooner or later.

And if you do get that reaction from someone when asking them for help, it doesn't necessarily mean that you were wrong to ask. It just means that particular person was an asshole, and maybe you should find someone else more worthy of your trust in the future.

dobahci:

Ultratwinkie:
Whenever I ask for help (teaching), the flow chart goes like this:

First comes the smug condescending tone.

Second comes the drawn out lectures that treat you like a child.

Third then comes the torrent of absolute crap and passive aggressive insults.

Fourth They finish, and I walk away learning never to do that again.

So that's why I learned never ask for help, ever. Because it goes right down the same path every single time.

If that's true in general, then... well, that's rather unfortunate. I've met people who were like that, and I don't have a high tolerance for them. But not everyone is like that.

I mean, everyone's experiences are bound to be different, but there's a good reason why a (potential) sexual partner would NOT act that way: they would be ruining it for themselves. They want to have a great time having sex, too, and that's not going to be served by them being condescending and insulting you.

And I think, in a working relationship in general, if there is trust, then at some point they're going to lean on you, and at some other point you're going to lean on them. You support each other, and help each other. When one person is weak, the other is strong, so you can complement each other in that way. If you refuse to allow anyone to help you, then it means you don't trust them, which is only going to be a barrier to any normal relationship sooner or later.

And if you do get that reaction from someone when asking them for help, it doesn't necessarily mean that you were wrong to ask. It just means that particular person was an asshole, and maybe you should find someone else more worthy of your trust in the future.

Its not that I don't trust them at all, its me trying to avoid some nasty surprises I seen actual couples go through. What I wanted was to ensure I actually have something to bring to the table, and not be dependent. I seen couples do that, and it never ends well for them. One couple even ended up homeless because of it. I rather not walk down that road if I can help it. Since no one I know has ever had a relationship that didn't end in court, police involvement, attempted kidnappings, etc its not like I can ask people for advice. So all I can do is see what people did wrong, and work on avoiding those flaws.

That, and I don't like the idea of not handling my own business myself. I seen people become dependent like that, and it always ends horribly.

theemporer:
A virgin, I suppose. Less chance of STDs and such.

Well I did say they were identical in all other ways, so if the experienced person had STDs, then the virgin would too, which I mean would be pretty rare.

Don't care just need to get laid.

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