So I'm coming up to my wedding, and throughout the entire process, everyone and their [bleeping] dog has decided that they ought to run the thing, and whatever I want is just plain stupid.
The thing is, I'm not having a big theme goofiness wedding with a cake in the shape of Chuck Norris, with me dressed as Queen Amidala and my fiance and I getting hitched on a rollercoaster in a snowstorm -- what we're doing is very simple, non-religious (because we aren't, makes sense I think) and without breaking the bank. Yet for every tiny detail, there is a HORDE of people, (family, friends, people I don't even know but were in the room at the time) having pretty much stated that I'm doing everything wrong and that I obviously haven't got enough brains to know what I SHOULD be doing.
I even had people outright INSULT me because I said I didn't want a bouquet, (the reason for them in ye olden times was to cover up the bride's smell). I'm not being given away or walking the aisle, so I'd hold an object that cost me money (a lot if I bought a real flower one) for about 10 minutes and then I'd never use it again. There's no point throwing the thing to the 1 adult unmarried woman coming and she sure as [bleep] doesn't deserve my money for grief she herself has given me not 30 minutes ago.
So tell me escapists, what recent decision/event/life changing choice have you had nearly or entirely hijacked by your medling and patronizing relatives and random third parties? Hell, add in a rating out of 10 for just how mad it made you and a rating for how bad they [bleeped] you over.
Frustration rating for me: 8/10 Disaster wedding rating: We Shall See
That's why you should have gone to Vegas. Get Elvis to do the wedding and paid some hookers/homless as witness. Cheaper, less stress, and a lot more fun.
Not cheaper, flying to the US from the UK would have cost MUCH more than what we have going on now. Also, its just plain not legally allowed. We have to get married in our town else the marriage is invalid.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd go with your original plans and get married the day before.
As for me, I can't think of much things that frustrate me. Plenty of events that made me angry, but not particularly frustrating. Working a charity event, in the cold, for some event you don't believe, for several hours, while doing physical labor, you're forced to do it, and you don't have any way of leaving -- THAT is the rage of the kings for me, and it happens so often. I'll give it a level 6/10.
That sucks. I hope you're able to get it sorted and can happily tell them to fuck right the hell off after all is said and done!
As for me, it's my class schedule. I know it's a much smaller thing, but EVERYONE has an idea about what classes I should take next and why. This is my education, people. Of course I'm going to take all the classes I have to take to get my degree, so what's wrong with me doing it in the order I want to do it in?!
DoveAlexa: I'm not having a big theme goofiness wedding with a cake in the shape of Chuck Norris, with me dressed as Queen Amidala and my fiance and I getting hitched on a rollercoaster in a snowstorm
Please send me pictures of all the people who suggested those ideas, so I know who to punch. I don't see why anyone would want to intrude. This is YOUR special day. You and the groom decide how things go down and everyone else has to live with it.
TheYellowCellPhone: Honestly, if I were you, I'd go with your original plans and get married the day before.
Also not legal/possible. You "give notice" which is legally binding for what day and exactly what time you get married, as well as exactly where. You can change that but you need to do it within a window of time that would leave me with 2 days to change everything. Also, rebooking venues and everything at the last moment is either very impossible or just too stressfull to bother with. The thing is in < 2 weeks.
TheYellowCellPhone: Honestly, if I were you, I'd go with your original plans and get married the day before.
Also not legal/possible. You "give notice" which is legally binding for what day and exactly what time you get married, as well as exactly where. You can change that but you need to do it within a window of time that would leave me with 2 days to change everything. Also, rebooking venues and everything at the last moment is either very impossible or just too stressfull to bother with. The thing is in < 2 weeks.
Well, it sounds like you have a problem, and no one else can help you, then maybe you can hire...
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On a more serious note, weddings can end up being a lot more stressful than they should ever have any right to be, even ones that nothing goes wrong at. I was at a wedding a while ago where they accidentally set the boquet of flowers on fire, and then soaked the mother-in-law trying to put it out. Luckily everyone there had a decent sense of humour and it was laughed off.
You just need to take a day off organising, chill out with your fiance, and remember the real reason you are getting married: Glorious, glorious tax breaks.
All the best for your big day. Don't forget to actually enjoy it when it happens.
DoveAlexa: Not cheaper, flying to the US from the UK would have cost MUCH more than what we have going on now. Also, its just plain not legally allowed. We have to get married in our town else the marriage is invalid.
UK won't recognize legal marriage in the USA?
Anyway what a shame. That's what I recommend to everybody. Go to Vegas the two of you ONLY. Hire hookers as witness and have Elvis do the wedding. Take less then 10 minutes. No fuzz. No stress. The best part is that you have your pictures taken with Elvis and Hookers. Can't get any better than that in a wedding. Something to remember forever.
If I were in your situations and couldn't go to Vegas for the wedding. I'll let those people do the wedding planing for me as long as they stay within budget. I'll play video games while they do all the work. Tell them to notify me when the wedding starts.
Hmm, now I remember why I went for a ceremony without any family or friends on monday morning. ^_^
As for meddling... Kickboxing and joining the military comes to mind. Especially my mother just wouldn't shut up about how I could get hurt that way, and still each time I get some injury she's ragging on about this means I should stop. And especially in the beginning I was racking up an impressive amount of injuries due to poor technique. So should I stop, yes, probably, but nothing is as relaxing as getting punched in the face. As for the military, just about all of the family smashed me for it at first and I can see why. Even chartered a veteran from the Balkan wars to talk me out of it, but in the I got what I wanted out of that, a contract of which I set the terms, a bucketload of cash and a unique experience, with only a bachelor degree. But almost getting blowed up on one occasion and waging a gun battle in an ambush a few weeks later was a bit more than I care to repeat. There being a remote risk of those is one thing, actually almost dying is a different thing entirely. Let someone else risk their life in the scorching heat from now on, call me again when the next country we try to rebuild is a nice temperate place with fewer buried bombs in the roads.
Shame you don't have my family as my two uncles and my cousin had their weddings in the same town hall over here (and likewise it was much more simplier compare to the tradational version). Sure it was bland but I can't understand their decision. As for me, the only time I got hijack (that I can think of at the moment) were my High School art project. In High school Art glass I was making this dragon using wire and cover parts of it with paste so it form a more solid shape which I did it during the weekend. I took it with me the next day only for the art teacher to be competely against it. She wanted me just had make the dragon the way it is without the paste. What the hell? I draw and painted the intended design beforehand, did she not take a good look at before I was going to make it? She made me to redo the dragon again (since I cannot remove the paste) using the wire sine she told me I would get a better marks for it. I can tell you for one thing that it is a pain in the thumbs to make thing using wires.
Frustration rating 8/10. Sure I got a good mark but I'm arrogant to say I was pretty danm good at Art anyway (well not anymore).
You win the internet for tonight. Entirely forgot you can do autoplay on here, which made it even better.
OT: Why does it have to be done in your home town? I didn't see an explanation anywhere. I think the worst thing would probably be A-levels/university choices, I was pretty much forced to do the harder subjects & get to a really good university. It's only been frustrating recently since I've realised I don't want anything to do with this degree, but I've still got another two years or so on it.
I dont let it happen. I've seen way too many people become unhappy because they let others decide for them. People know better than to try that on me.
Parents may have meddled a little when i was younger (cant remember details) but they have pretty much left me to it now. I have proved to them enough times i can make the right decision :) The plus to this being i seem to get on better when people just leave me to it :)
My wedding was completly taken over, I had a table of ten people that I'd never met before and my husband had'nt seen two of them since he was three years old, (the others where children and etc of the two who wre related to him). I didn't want flowers (some flowers make me sneeze my head off) but hey guess what appeared on the morning!
Long story short (cause the whole thing is long) The day before the wedding, my (now) hubby and I went on a long walk and swapped rings whilst overlooking a beautiful country view, and actually gave his best man our engagment rings to get married with the next day. Not a massive thing, but it ment the world to us.
Why not slip into the registrar office with two best friends sign that little bit of paper. Slip out and go phone up your family and go "I am married." then hang up. Done.
If you REALY want the service then ban everyone who gives you jip from the service and never send them invites, apparently they arnt worth the time.
OP: Weddings are hell, apparently. Someone ALWAYS gets offended no matter what you do.
My only advice would be to tell the people pissing you off "This is OUR special moment. WE make the rules. If you don't like that, don't come.". Yeah sure most of them would get upset at the roughness of that, but I'm sure that most of them would rather shut their traps than miss a wedding.
Oh and if someone INSULTS you for not wanting a bouquet, you tell them straight up that you will hire a bouncer to stop them from attending if they do that again. And then follow through if they continue.
aegix drakan: OP: Weddings are hell, apparently. Someone ALWAYS gets offended no matter what you do.
My only advice would be to tell the people pissing you off "This is OUR special moment. WE make the rules. If you don't like that, don't come.". Yeah sure most of them would get upset at the roughness of that, but I'm sure that most of them would rather shut their traps than miss a wedding.
Oh and if someone INSULTS you for not wanting a bouquet, you tell them straight up that you will hire a bouncer to stop them from attending if they do that again. And then follow through if they continue.
Ahahaa, the bouncer idea sounds great. My fiance has a friend who's huge and very burly and he'd fit the bill. Else I'm sure the chav pub nearby would know some hireable muscle. At the very least though, the insulting bitch is NOT on the invited list anyways. No crashing allowed either else I'll make sure no one has a good time.
About why I have to be married in town is that it just how it is, mixed with me being a foreign national (Canadian). The whole reason is to prevent sham marriages to foreigners to sneak them into the country. Sure it doesn't prevent said sham being married in town but it's what we were told by the concerned authorities, so if its not true, its their fault. Besides, it does end up being easier this way. The reception is, however, slightly out of town at a very nice hotel. We get the conservatory. //thumbs up
Heh, another fun tidbit, my fiance's man-child of a stepdad demanded he be allowed to bring his demonic little dog, who shreds everything (which on the day would include my stockings and dress, and my fiance's nice suit). Fortunately, although no one told me for some reason, my fiance told his mum that he would not be allowed the dog and she was in complete agreement. She said she'd kill him if he tried. Crisis averted.
TheYellowCellPhone: Honestly, if I were you, I'd go with your original plans and get married the day before.
Also not legal/possible. You "give notice" which is legally binding for what day and exactly what time you get married, as well as exactly where. You can change that but you need to do it within a window of time that would leave me with 2 days to change everything. Also, rebooking venues and everything at the last moment is either very impossible or just too stressfull to bother with. The thing is in < 2 weeks.
Well, it sounds like you have a problem, and no one else can help you, then maybe you can hire...
Well I'm only 19, so my experience with weddings is rather limited (limited being non-existent). However, I'm pretty sure it would be well within reason for you to be able to tell those who are annoying and frustrating you to fuck the hell off. This will be a day for you and your fiance, not for anyone else. Everyone else are guests, and should be treated as such. If they interfere with your plans and enjoyment, you should be able to show them where the door is.
This is why I never, ever want to get married. I cannot be bothered with planning so much for one day and have people interfear and other shitty things.
I think in order to save your day, like someone's already said, is make it clear that it's YOUR special day, not anyone else's.
Weddings can be complete hell to organise and wrangle into being- I wish you and your partner the very finest, refined Luck Spice to help you through it!
Not being married or even dating someone, though, I can't give any advice just wish you and your Coop Partner the best of luck with dealing with interfering people. You sound like a tough cookie- I think you'll do just fine.
Thank to all the responses, believe it or not just being able to vent to an involved party makes things SO much better.
I did actually tell one group to "F***! OFF!" while they were on the phone with my fiance. I was in the background, hearing shit like how his sister was going to make us be separated for the day and take separate cars to the thing, as well as "who's dressing you?" After she then DEMANDED we extend invitations to a rather evil person who I've never met and who doesn't even speak to us, I screamed the above words out loud at the top of my lungs so she could hear me over the phone.
Made me feel a lot better.
After that she did in fact, f off and stopped forcing things on us. Before I broke my fiance had already hung up on her once. I think they got the message, as they apologized profusely. Worst part is, this sister of his hasn't even called him once in months, and we haven't seen her since November or even earlier. She was outright avoiding us and her Dad the whole time till just then.
Some people, eh?
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On the flip side, my fiance's Dad doesn't care at all what we're doing as long as we don't overspend. He said he'd be fine just going to the pub for the day. My Dad has absolutely no opinion whatsoever and my entire side of the family is too far away to successfully bitch at me about anything.
We also have a distraction in the form of a 6 month old baby coming, which usually would be a bad thing, but if conversations ever get too tense we can deflect judgment from the two of us onto the parents! I know all of them will be just dying for the chance to tell them how to raise their child.
jdun: That's why you should have gone to Vegas. Get Elvis to do the wedding and paid some hookers/homless as witness. Cheaper, less stress, and a lot more fun.
pretty much this OT can't you just tell them it,s YOUR wedding and ask them if they would kindly fuck off? or lie Jdun said run of to vegas and get hitched there
Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. If I had the opportunity, the first thing I'd do is dissolve all current marriages, disallow heterosexual marriage, and for a brief period, just to infuriate all of the religious sorts, allow gay marriage. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
This. It's a pointless waste of everything you put in and serves nothing to show your commitment to each other. I also can't do the whole tied by law crap they pull into it, the law has no place in love and relationships.
OT: Nope, people don't meddle in my business because I either play my cards close to my chest or tell them I don't give a shit about their opinion. Eventually they simply have no ability to meddle and disrupt.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. If I had the opportunity, the first thing I'd do is dissolve all current marriages, disallow heterosexual marriage, and for a brief period, just to infuriate all of the religious sorts, allow gay marriage. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
What if you are heavily religious and it is a huge part of your beliefs surely you should be allowed to get married.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. If I had the opportunity, the first thing I'd do is dissolve all current marriages, disallow heterosexual marriage, and for a brief period, just to infuriate all of the religious sorts, allow gay marriage. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
What if you are heavily religious and it is a huge part of your beliefs surely you should be allowed to get married.
In that case, I especially don't want you getting married. Any religious beliefs which involve marriage are hideously outdated and deserve to be snuffed out.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
This. It's a pointless waste of everything you put in and serves nothing to show your commitment to each other. I also can't do the whole tied by law crap they pull into it, the law has no place in love and relationships.
OT: Nope, people don't meddle in my business because I either play my cards close to my chest or tell them I don't give a shit about their opinion. Eventually they simply have no ability to meddle and disrupt.
You can't outlaw marriage! It's a goddamned institution! Why, without marriage, this wouldn't exist!
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OT: Having your life dictated sucks. I've not gone through it too much myself (Vive la resistance!) but two cousins of mine, both around the sixteen years old mark ... well, let's just say their parents are so controlling, they still have bed time. Yikes.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. If I had the opportunity, the first thing I'd do is dissolve all current marriages, disallow heterosexual marriage, and for a brief period, just to infuriate all of the religious sorts, allow gay marriage. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
This. It's a pointless waste of everything you put in and serves nothing to show your commitment to each other. I also can't do the whole tied by law crap they pull into it, the law has no place in love and relationships.
OT: Nope, people don't meddle in my business because I either play my cards close to my chest or tell them I don't give a shit about their opinion. Eventually they simply have no ability to meddle and disrupt.
Ha! Well are you currently even attached to anyone? Getting married is more than traditions and whatever obscure evils you attribute to it. Its about 2 people deciding that they've found the one for them to the exclusion of all others, and it also has to do with all the laws in the area. I especially have to be married to even exist in the same country as my beloved, if I do not get married NOW, I will have to leave the country and never return in a few months. You say the law should not apply, but until you make a magical, all encompassing, world covering, utterly flawless system that works better than marriage, marriage will just have to stick around and keep offending you even though its obvious it'll never involve you.
Saying that all current marriages should be dissolved won't exactly make everyone break up, but really, who ARE you to judge. If its meaningless, then let the people to whom is DOES matter do what they want. Or are you just pissed at your family telling you to get a girlfriend/boyfriend?
What does everyone else's marriages have to do with you? Are you really so upset by everyone else's commitments and happiness that you want to hurt all of them out of pure spite?
just my general school life seems to have been taken out of my hands and put into whoever wants it, for some reason all aspects of choice have deteriorated into teachers pulling me from one class to another to finish something or to recap on the other, and it's just pissing me off how they try to command me to focus on only THERE subjects when i have a much higher priority class that needs my attention, especially that fucking teacher that got a whole week of classes up to 3-7 pm and still is trying to pull me out of other classes and if i don't comply as their little appertain they threaten me with detentions, calling home, removing me from trips and all the rest
it's just a phase in school and i know it's probably going to get worse but it's still maddening, good luck with the wedding though for what it's worth.
RAKtheUndead: Personally, I think anybody who wants to get married in this day and age deserves any disruption that they get. I strongly believe that marriage is a long-outdated sacrament, and one that should be straight-up outlawed. If I had the opportunity, the first thing I'd do is dissolve all current marriages, disallow heterosexual marriage, and for a brief period, just to infuriate all of the religious sorts, allow gay marriage. The only winners that I can observe out of a marriage are the divorce solicitors.
WTF!?!
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The Unworthy Gentleman: This. It's a pointless waste of everything you put in and serves nothing to show your commitment to each other. I also can't do the whole tied by law crap they pull into it, the law has no place in love and relationships.
OT: Nope, people don't meddle in my business because I either play my cards close to my chest or tell them I don't give a shit about their opinion. Eventually they simply have no ability to meddle and disrupt.
What?! Why do people agree with that?!
Why would you want to outlaw marriage? For determining parenthood and ownership et cetera, it's a pretty useful institute.
DoveAlexa: Ha! Well are you currently even attached to anyone?
Oh look, I wasn't expecting the whole "you aren't in a relationship, you clearly know nothing of love," card. Oh no, I definitely was and I planned to disregard it as childish banter.
Getting married is more than traditions and whatever obscure evils you attribute to it. Its about 2 people deciding that they've found the one for them to the exclusion of all others, and it also has to do with all the laws in the area.
The obscure evils I attribute to it is laws and what it's supposed to represent. The entire thing is a farce. You show that you love each other through acts toward each other, not through a legal and religious ceremony.
I especially have to be married to even exist in the same country as my beloved, if I do not get married NOW, I will have to leave the country and never return in a few months.
And do you not think that law is stupid? Do you not think you should be allowed to stay regardless of whether you're married or not?
You say the law should not apply, but until you make a magical, all encompassing, world covering, utterly flawless system that works better than marriage, marriage will just have to stick around and keep offending you even though its obvious it'll never involve you.
My all encompassing, utterly flawless system that works better is called love. It doesn't require the involvement of the judicial system, bureaucrats, bankers, the politicians or anyone other than you and your partner.
Saying that all current marriages should be dissolved won't exactly make everyone break up, but really, who ARE you to judge. If its meaningless, then let the people to whom is DOES matter do what they want. Or are you just pissed at your family telling you to get a girlfriend/boyfriend? What does everyone else's marriages have to do with you?
I'm not pissed that people do it, if it suits you then do it, but I'm not going to abandon my opinion on something just because it doesn't affect me. I don't like marriage and I'm not gay but I'm all for gay marriage despite it not affecting me. If someone wants to marry then they can marry, but I'm still entitled to my opinion.
Are you really so upset by everyone else's commitments and happiness that you want to hurt all of them out of pure spite?
No, my alternative is entirely about endorsing happiness and commitment through emotion rather than commitment through law. I wouldn't exactly call that spite.
Also, Fuck off.
Yes, end on a high note. Congratulations on limiting your childish displays in your response.
So I'm coming up to my wedding, and throughout the entire process, everyone and their [bleeping] dog has decided that they ought to run the thing, and whatever I want is just plain stupid.
The thing is, I'm not having a big theme goofiness wedding with a cake in the shape of Chuck Norris, with me dressed as Queen Amidala and my fiance and I getting hitched on a rollercoaster in a snowstorm -- what we're doing is very simple, non-religious (because we aren't, makes sense I think) and without breaking the bank. Yet for every tiny detail, there is a HORDE of people, (family, friends, people I don't even know but were in the room at the time) having pretty much stated that I'm doing everything wrong and that I obviously haven't got enough brains to know what I SHOULD be doing.
I even had people outright INSULT me because I said I didn't want a bouquet, (the reason for them in ye olden times was to cover up the bride's smell). I'm not being given away or walking the aisle, so I'd hold an object that cost me money (a lot if I bought a real flower one) for about 10 minutes and then I'd never use it again. There's no point throwing the thing to the 1 adult unmarried woman coming and she sure as [bleep] doesn't deserve my money for grief she herself has given me not 30 minutes ago.
So tell me escapists, what recent decision/event/life changing choice have you had nearly or entirely hijacked by your medling and patronizing relatives and random third parties? Hell, add in a rating out of 10 for just how mad it made you and a rating for how bad they [bleeped] you over.
Frustration rating for me: 8/10
Disaster wedding rating: We Shall See