Pretty straightforward. How long do you wait or plan to wait before doing the deed with your significant other (or others)? I would prefer to wait until I'm married; however, I have yet to be in a long lasting relationship and don't know if I'd have the self control to do so. I am ve-e-e-e-ery curious about sex, that's for sure.

I don't wait, really, unless they want to.

Sex is special with someone you're with, yes.
But I also see sex as an enjoyment that shouldn't be kept just for relationships if I'm single, so I don't find a need to hold out.

First date. You should at the very least be making it apparent you're interested on that first date, and often that's enough. If you dither around too long on that front it's off to friend island with you.

I'm holding out until after my wedding. The way I see it, sex is primarily for reproduction and pleasure is just a side effect. And since I don't plan on raising kids until after I'm married, there's no need for a sexual relationship before then. Simple as that.

I said "wait until I'm sure they're the one." because that's the closest to my own view. I think it's best to wait until you're sure you've got the basis for a long term relationship going (not necessarily marriage, though. Just a long term relationship).

Personally, I'm in a relationship that's been slightly over a year. I'm not pushing for the sex. Why? Because that doesn't matter so much to me. I'm willing to wait until my GF wants to go for it.

Granted, I think it should happens before marriage, since you should be aware of all the aspects of the relationship BEFORE you commit to something that huge. But I'm really not all that fussed. It would be nice, but it's not essential to me.

TBQH, I'd be more excited to spend the night cuddling innocently together.

*waits for someone to accuse me of not being a "red-blooded male" or something like that*

FamoFunk:
I don't wait, really, unless they want to.

Sex is special with someone you're with, yes.
But I also see sex as an enjoyment that shouldn't be kept just for relationships if I'm single, so I don't find a need to hold out.

Pretty much.

I waited a few months with my first long term boyfriend but that was because we were both virgins at the time. I don't see sex as something sacred, it's fun. My current boyfriend and I didn't really wait at all.

If you think it will be a long term girlfriend/boyfriend-1 month
If you think it'll be less than a year-three meet-ups/dates
Elseif
5 hours

Based on science.
1 month is enough time to tell if you truly trust someone
3 meetings is enough to tell if you'd actually like to sleep with them
5 hours is enough to tell if they're insane, and might cut your throat or stalk you for the rest of your life.

I don't really 'wait'. I just let it happen really. My current girlfriend and I were in bed together mere hours after we met, and 2 years later still together. I don't think it matters much.

Nimcha:
I don't think it matters much.

It really doesn't matter at all. I think it's one of those things people came up with to explain why a relationship didn't work out. Like your communication problems, or her alcholism, or the fact that he's an asshole, or his tiny penis...that these problems could have been averted if only intercourse had been held off on for a few more dates.

First of all, it would be with someone that I am exclusively dating. I don't believe in casual sex because I tend to get a little paranoid around people who are willing to just give it up to anyone. From there, it would depend on the relationship; sometimes it would take a few months, sometimes a year.

It really depends on the person, I've varied from as soon as physically possible to three months down the line. Though I think I preferred to wait, it meant we could lead up into it through other things. You know, that helped us get to know each other better. Oh yeah, that was awesome...

Well, theoretically speaking, if it's serious, I'd wait until she was ready, but not a great deal longer than that. Unless, of course, you yourself aren't ready either.

I do it when the urge calls. Like everyday. Its fun, you should try.

Stagnant:
Five minutes. Give or take five minutes.

Oh dear, at least let the poor guy/girl finish their dinner! They might choke if you just jump on them.

Um, yes. I think waiting until dinner or drinks are done. I don't do blind dates so I know what I'm in for. I don't really see the point in waiting and I'm not sure how long I could wait if someone else wanted. But luckily I have not met anyone who has said "let's take it slow".

I don't need them to be THE ONE^TM, but I do need to have a significant relationship with a person before I feel comfortable sexing them.

After you're sure they are 'the one'.

I consider sex to be something truly special. I'm not opposed to the idea of waiting until marriage either but I wouldn't put that restriction on it. Thanks to my beliefs though it's quite possible I'll die a virgin. Such is life.

I waited a month before having sex for the first time, and that was my first really serious relationship.

Since then its usually either been on the first date or until the other person is ready, though i let them know i'm interested.
Forcing that stuff is baaaaad, theres laws and stuff against it.

I've not done it yet before. However, I'll probably wait after a few dates. At least 5-10. Somewhere in between.

That seems like enough time to know if there's chemistry and if I want to go to town on some hottie.

Forlong:
I am ve-e-e-e-ery curious about sex, that's for sure.

Read: Extremely Goddamn horny.

I know that feel, bro.
Well... no, not... not like that. Stay away from me, people are beginning to talk.

I am essentially in your boat though. No, boat, not butt. Why would you even...?

*Sigh*

The moment you start planning a schedule, you're doing it wrong if you ask me. Also, I'm pretty averse to all this "making it to the whichever base it was again" as if someone's keeping score. Do whatever the hell you feel like doing and enjoy it, and if you start to wonder if you're doing it wrong, why, yes. Yes, you are doing it wrong.

Despite what religious institutions may tell you, there is no hard-and-fast (get it?) rule here. It varies from person to person and relationship to relationship. Personally, I find romance to be more a marketing ploy than an emotional connection... so I say as early as she's willing.

I wait extreme amounts of time. But I'm in the strange position were in I want it at all times like a heroine addict wants his fix. But I never speak up. It's just not my social pattern. I would never even suggest that this may be the time for sex. Curse my British subtlety...

Basically, I wait until I know I really love, or at least truly and deeply care about, who I'm with.

Since I basically can't be bothered to ask someone out until I'm well along the road to truly and deeply caring about them, you could almost say "right away" or "it's up to them".
But if I DID date random people, I'd have to do all that waiting til I got to that point.

Can't properly respect myself if I don't have my standards.

I have little intention to ever get married let alone have children, so generally whenever it happens with the person with no pressure form either side, I've been with my current boyfriend over 3 years and took a few weeks

I'm still waiting at the moment but I'd like to believe when I do finally go for it I'll wait until I at least know the girl. I don't like the idea of one night stands, too tacky.

I'd be careful with that "waiting to have sex until you're in love" stuff. I recently lost my virginity to a woman I truly loved (and still love) and she said she loved me. The sex itself was pretty dang fantastic once I got the hang of it (and she enthusiastically agreed). However, not long after we did it, she became less and less interested in me, until finally cutting off contact altogether. I could not stop crying for days. It sneaks up on me sometimes and I still feel horrible. I miss her every day. Sometimes all it takes is a faint smell or a word, or just a feeling, and I remember what it was like to be with her. And then I remember that I never will be again. God, it stings.

Another rule to live by is to try imagining what it would be like to have a kid with that other person. Keep in mind, that that is always a possibility. If the thought is absolutely repellant and horrifying and you can't live with that potential consequence, don't do it.

Don't women decide after like 10 seconds?

Forlong:
Pretty straightforward. How long do you wait or plan to wait before doing the deed with your significant other (or others)? I would prefer to wait until I'm married; however, I have yet to be in a long lasting relationship and don't know if I'd have the self control to do so. I am ve-e-e-e-ery curious about sex, that's for sure.

If you're in a long lasting relationship, it is SO hard to not have sex - at least in some form. IF you want to stay away from sex, you and your partner have to wholy commit to it.

I was planning on waiting till marriage, but my girlfriend and I are just sooo, SOOO horny/physical. One morning we fucked three times. JUST THE MORNING.. that was like a period of 2 AND A HALF HOURS, ahaha. Plus, we're in a long distance relationship and we like to touch and be with eachother as much as possible. In fact the first time we did anything I just sorta was kissing here and found my hand touching her... we both collapsed on the floor awkwardly but totally in love. That was within 3 hours of meeting in person to for the first time. :p it's pretty great though.

At any rate, the last thing I'd say about sex is that it's really great... but you also shouldn't feel disappointed if you haven't had it. What TRULY makes good sex is the person you're with. And if they're that important to you, anything can be super special

Until she turns to the age of consent.. giggity.

I see far too many people in this thread limiting themselves before anything has even happened. No, I don't mean you've never had sex, I mean you're limiting your sex life before you've even met this person. The second you start to limit yourself is the same second you decide you're going to live a truly unfulfilled life.

OT: Do it as it happens, that's how all things work. You don't mark it on your calendar, you don't wait for 3 dates, you don't wait until you've found this statistically-impossible-one girl; you do it as it fucking happens on impulse. So I guess you could say when you're ready and I guess you could say right away, either one would be pretty close.