Yes. |
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44.2% (119) |
No. |
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17.8% (48) |
Sometimes. |
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29% (78) |
What is this I don't even..? |
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8.9% (24) |
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Yeah. But I have social anxiety irl too so it's only natural it would affect me online somewhat. I expect someone will be barking at me or something or telling me I'm stupid for simply opening my mouth. I overanalyse what I post and what other people are posting and behaving towards me. *shrug* I guess it's best to remember that people on the internet can't hurt you for saying something, even if they make threats and insults. On this forum, they'd be punished for that sort of behaviour. | |
Just roll with it dude. It's just like talking (granted, typing on a forum requires less confidence but still), you just need to be confident about the thing you're trying to say, get it across in a clear way, and avoid the Religion & Politics section of the forums. For that way leads to madness. | |
I don't know if it's as much anxiety as it is a mentality of "Eh, why bother". It's usually me thinking, "Nobody's going to read it, nobody's going to care. Why am I wasting my time with this?" | |
I think I get almost the opposite of forum anxiety. As time has gone on and I've been a member of the Escapist for longer I've realized how little forum goers actually care about or notice each individual post. Lately I've found myself losing interest in actually writing out my opinion half way through typing my post. | |
I can relate to a lot of that, though as of late I've tried to train myself out of it. c: For the most part, what people say to you on the internet can't hurt you anyway - it can only affect you as much as you let it. Thankfully, I can't say I've been on the receiving end of any hateful or hurtful comments as of late.
Very, very true. I can't say I can relate to the bit about Religion & Politics, but perhaps that's for the best? Bahaha. >.>
You'd be surprised. There have been times when I've posted and thought nothing of it, kind of working under the assumption that nobody was going to read it anyway - then I've had people respond, whether through quoting or PM, saying that my post has helped them or that they can relate to it or whatever. At the very least, I'm sure the lurkers read your posts. I'm pretty sure they read everything. :3 | |
I (thankfully) don't suffer from forum anxiety. However, I suffer from the more common and severe social anxiety, as I don't know if I would get screamed at, beaten or sued if I talked to someone in a non-professional manner. | |
I have anxiety around girls. Typical conversation me and a girl will have. Girl: So do you like coming to this bar? Me: Alight I guess(stares at the ground for no reason) do you like it? Girl: It used to be alot better than it is now, to many dumbass college kids. Me: Yeah you got a point there(Stares at her cleavage and then almost drops drink.) Girl: Are you nervous or something? Me: (Every damn girl asks me this) No I am just trying to get warm, it's freezing in here.(Falls off chair and tries to play it off.) I am a ladies man, what can I say, lol. Goth chicks and emo chicks love it for some reason. All the girls I have been with are either goth or emo looking. | |
It's only natural!... I think. I mean, every likes a good first impression. Moreso, making that impression. Forum anxiety is something everyone has at some point, although most people have 'em when they're new here. User Groups and/or Forum Games/ Role Playing are fantastic places to learn how to deal with the anxiety. Based on my own experience. =p Cheers, | |
Sometimes I find myself writing a post, then deleting just deleting it. Just getting to type out my feelings on a subject is enough sometimes. Other times I stop because I'm just getting too rude. I guess those are a sort of forum anxiety, fear of boring or offending other people. | |
Nope. Never suffered from that. I will strut through these forums just not giving a fuck till the banhammer hits me. | |
Nope. Not really, worst thing that will happen is that someone on the internet won't like me. I'd like everybody to like me, but if me expressing my opinions causes someone to dislike me, its not a huge loss. | |
Sometimes, I don't want to seem the bad guy to others when arguing with just one person. I just want to be liked... | |
I get nervous when I post because I have a tendency to make perfect sense to myself but no one else. I also worry about coming off as stupid 0-0 But overall I overcome my worries and post anyway because it's not like I'm going to meet anyone here in real life. And it's not like anyone remembers anything you post in the long run. | |
Sometimes but my reason to be anxious is due to my spelling and grammar or thinking my thread is not worth discussion (zero replies) about and was a waste of time typing it all out. | |
Nope, no anxiety in posting on a forum. Though sometimes I question whether it's worth the trouble for particular posts. | |
Yeah, I'm like that as well. I get anxious because I am afraid that I would offend someone or make myself look stupid. It tends to make me want to edit. I ignore it though, being anxious about this stuff does not help me. I just remember that making mistakes allows me to learn from them. | |
I've always been very tense and nervous about joining new communities, but making posts in these forums? I've been here too long for that. The forums feel more like home to me now. Not like I'm some guest in a stranger's house, having to be on my best behaviour. In related news: | |
I used to but then I got comfortable with the people here and now the anxiety is gone. Sometimes I'll get nervous when I'm starting a thread or something (I don't start that many threads) but I have some friends who reassure me so It only lasts for a short time. | |
I tried this and it changed my life... fix you right up and it's incredibly simple | |
Which will happen in one infraction, it seems. | |
Sometimes I get the feeling that I really don't care about what I'm writing. When that happens I flush the thread and leave it unposted. I don't really get nervous about posting though. People will disagree with me? UNHEARDOF! No nervousness here although sometimes I have to consult the rules before posting. Just in case. | |
Wahey! You're back! *jumps on* ... Tea? OT: *ahem* Yah, I get that too, mainly with replying as opposed to thread starting, mainly because I build up a lot of vitriol on some threads and end up forcing myself to not post so I don't have a hammer swung at me. | |
Yeah, I have that too, there are many times I've started making a thread and then delete it, and sometimes I can spend hours typing a single paragraph just making sure it communicates exactly what I want to say, but I seem to screw that up too. | |
Yeah, I kinda have that too. But it really only gets better over time. | |
I have occasionally worried over a post, but it is extremely uncommon. I usually just stand by what I said. You can always edit your comment later if you want :) | |
Spend some time on 4chan. The anonymity thing actually leads to turning off your common decency when you type... There's a reason I'm on probation on here at the moment. But really, sticking to the blue boards should keep you away from most of the horrible things. Go there, lurk, put noko in the email field whenever you post something, and learn how to talk as though you couldn't give a blue fuck what another person thinks. | |
Post what you mean and mean what you post. Then you have nothing to fear. No regrets. Although I try to stay on the polite side so I don't get in trouble. When I'm meaner than usual I might be a little nervous at the possible repercussions. | |
Yes, I do. Quite a lot in fact. It's usually worrying I don't get my point across properly and then I start getting bombarded with quotes from people telling me how stupid I am and that I don't make sense. That's never actually happened, but yeah, I do get like that quite a bit. | |
There's always the expectation of criticism. | |
No. I typically refrain from posting for one of the following: a. Have no interest in the topic/discussion. The last one there is typically in the "Flame war" threads. I'm not going to bother writing out my stance and thought process if it's just going to be disregarded. I have better things to do with my time. | |
Yep, for the next 4 months or so anyway. Looking forward to it? | |
No, mainly because I'm not talking directly to anyone and people may not even read my post. Sometimes I do look over it, wonder whether it's meaningful or adds anything to the thread, and possibly delete it. The good thing about talking over the internet is that you can back out at any time. I'm socially anxious and have low self-esteem IRL, though. Even with my close friends, I tend to stutter multiple times in conversation or flat-out don't know what to say, sometimes for fear of saying something stupid or no-one listens, making me feel like a twat. | |
Waddayamean 4 months? Or do you mean 4 months until you start receiving amnesty? | |
Not here. Used to in a few other places when I was learning how the internet worked and the etiquette, but confident enough I know what's what now. | |
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Hi, Escapists!
Despite having been a forum-goer for several years now, I still find myself mildly tense when it comes to writing a post, creating a new thread or in some cases, writing/responding to a PM.
I'm not entirely sure why this is - perhaps a fear of what people will think, or that I won't communicate my ideas properly? - but it's an interesting occurrence, and one I feel can't be too uncommon given how similar it is to social anxiety, something which seems to be a lot more common nowadays.
Does anyone else ever feel this way when browsing the Escapist, or indeed any other forums you may frequent? Do you have any insight as to why this happens to you?