A straight guy gives his 2 cents when they are soon to be around a gay person. These guys must have extremely inflated egos. They think just because he is gay he is automatically going to hit on him. It is always fun to tell the homophobe not to flatter himself. I have never been hit on by a gay guy. In fact I've never seen a gay guy hit on a straight guy period. Why would they? Have you ever encountered someone like this?

I'd say it is quite common for guys to react this way, though I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I have never seen a gay guy it on a straight guy before either. In fact, one of my friends when he found out I was bi, I told him I wasn't attracted to him though, and he just seemed disappointed even though he is completely straight....

Straight guy here, totally been hit on. We've been friends for a while and he knows I'm straight, not sure it was a joke but he said something a long the lines of "I'd totally do you ;)". I kinda just laughed it off but it was kinda awkward XD

been hit on. didnt give a fuck. he understood and left me alone.
maybe we should talk about how insane it is to be able to do the Gay panic defense.

The gay panic defense[1] is a legal defense against charges of assault or murder. A defendant using the gay panic defense claims that he or she acted in a state of violent temporary insanity because of a little-known psychiatric condition called homosexual panic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_panic_defense

i totally killed that cat because....uhm.... cat panic defense mechanism.

Well they hit on me and I was straight. I had many gays hit on me, try to convince me I was gay, or at the very least I'm bi. I had one start crying because I wouldn't accept that I was bi.(granted years later I discovered I was... my bad) They would give me bear hugs or that happy twinkle in the eyes thing. (which is more of a universal "I really like you" than a gay thing)

I can see how some people may take it the wrong way. I liked it, I mean women are use to men dressing and looking like crap, but I would like to think gays are attracted to a certain standard. It should be taken as a compliment.

I've had gay friends hit on me before. They know I'm straight and I made it clear that I'm staying that way and they aren't gettin any of this. With that said I did sometimes tease them. That was fun.

I've been hit on a couple of times by gay guys, one even sat on the bus with my gf at the time discussing my ass. I'm not really weirded out by it (apart from the last one, that was creepy) and think it should just be taken as a compliment. And obviously no leading on for attention/ego boost.

rhizhim:
been hit on. didnt give a fuck. he understood and left me alone.
maybe we should talk about how insane it is to be able to do the Gay panic defense.

The gay panic defense[1] is a legal defense against charges of assault or murder. A defendant using the gay panic defense claims that he or she acted in a state of violent temporary insanity because of a little-known psychiatric condition called homosexual panic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_panic_defense

i totally killed that cat because....uhm.... cat panic defense mechanism.

Oh wow, thats hilarious. "Oh no, a gay person is hitting on me! I CANT HANDLE THIS SHIT!!! WHAT THE FUCK OH MY GOD NOOOOO" *Pulls out gun*

rhizhim:
been hit on. didnt give a fuck. he understood and left me alone.
maybe we should talk about how insane it is to be able to do the Gay panic defense.

The gay panic defense[1] is a legal defense against charges of assault or murder. A defendant using the gay panic defense claims that he or she acted in a state of violent temporary insanity because of a little-known psychiatric condition called homosexual panic.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_panic_defense

i totally killed that cat because....uhm.... cat panic defense mechanism.

Yeah, that's actually a real thing...WTF?

Likewise, trans panic, but I don't think that's a legal thing, prosecutors just tend to ask for lesser sentences.

Esotera:
I've been hit on a couple of times by gay guys, one even sat on the bus with my gf at the time discussing my ass. I'm not really weirded out by it (apart from the last one, that was creepy) and think it should just be taken as a compliment. And obviously no leading on for attention/ego boost.

Damn lol. You and a lot of others have been hit on by gay guys. I never have =(. I would think of it as a compliment, and like others mentioned I could see joking around about it. I'm straight, but I often act gay around good friends just as a joke as well.

I've been hit on by quite a few gay guys. It doesn't help that I can be quite camp and when I'm drunk completely oblivious to the fact that these really friendly guys actually want to fuck me so I end up being really friendly and then having to explain later that I like women. It's kind of flattering to be honest.

Like others, I have been hit on numerous time by gay men. That said today married with children but I still venture out into the wilds. However, this was not to be not expected as I have had and continue to have gay friends and acquaintances. This is sort of interesting because I have been told on numerous occasions that I have a "gay-dar", or the uncanny ability to "know" when someone is gay and in the closet. I simply say it comes from having a better list of what to look for when making a guess.

So I think the "expectation" of people that didn't know me, or don't know much about me make an assumption that because I see fit to spend time with those who choose a different way of life, that I am also a member of that particular group. - associative bias (I have also studied the critter in it's native habitat). ;) ((that's a joke, don't get butt-hurt))...(((that's a pun...))) it's ironic... being ironic... some call it... Art? :) (but I digress).

It's a reasonable assumption, because utilizing stereo types and certain forms of bias are a shortcut for decision making. - justified bias

It's cloudy outside, I take an umbrella; I am not a weather man so I cannot perform an analysis in this case, and maybe I am to lazy to investigate the weather channel. - essential bias

It's the same thing in this case.

If a straight man is seeking the approval of another man, it could be ego driven. - a guess

Plausibly this is a stereo type bias. It may or may not be sufficiently justified but there it is. It's a belief. We gather more information to either substantiate the belief (the guess), and see if it holds or if a better guess makes more sense.

This is good use of "reason". It doesn't actually have to be true, it just needs to work as a guideline. If one becomes reliant on this and it ultimately proves to be false... we start all over again. - empiricism!

Eventually one may build a model or framework that works in many events, situations, and cases. This is knowledge based on framing an epistemology... the marriage of belief's (our nonsense and guesses), with truth's (how shit really is).

The thing is, we tend to be the average of the people we associate with as a mater of culture. So likely I have traits that are in fact, ON the list of "this is what gay people do/like/are/act" stereo type. It's like a false positive. This happens A LOT as well. We are all just a little gay anyways... dimorphism is a bitch.

Ultimately it takes us from this:

to this:

Never been hit on by a gay guy.
I don't really hag out in places where you hit on people though, so I have no idea whether gay guys, or anyone else for that matter, would want to tap my ass.

Well I'm bisexual so I wouldn't mind being hit on by a dude (got a bf though) but I can see how it can be uncomfortable for straight guys.
Same when gay girls get hit on by guys, it's gotta be uncomfortable, but I haven't understood the fear of it, they're not gonna jump on you and hump you silly, thats not how getting "hit on" works; getting hit on just means someone is checking if you're availible.
If you're not into dudes, just tell em, no harm done, if they keep advancing on you, tell em to gtfo, doesn't matter if they're female, male or both.
just be clear about it, and most people will back off.

I agree with many of you, just say no, but take it as flatter, when someone hits on you period, no matter what gender it just shows you're attractive to them (yet approchable, you can be a supermodel and not be hit on once)

Straight here, I once got hitten on by a gay guy, although he was drunk.

I got hit on by a gay guy's friends who thought I was the boyfriend he spoke about. Once by some other guy who did so infront of a mutually territorial girlfriend. Both instances were quite lulzy.

I've been hit on by gay guys a lot, but then I have also been playing gigs in gay pubs and bars for the last five years, so...

Yeah, gay guys don't hit on every man they see, that's utterly ridiculous, but still so many people believe it. It would be like asking a straight guy 'do you hit on every single woman you meet?' No, of course not, and with men there are so many more fattys and uggos you have to get by before you meet the hot ones.

I've been hit on numerous times. Got asked out by one dude. Never even knew he was gay until then. Awkwardly laughed, said I didn't roll that way. Awkward laughter from both of us. We got over it and moved on.

Doesn't really bother me unless its creepy. Like another guy constantly ogling my groin. Kid was later caught will child porn. Makes things creepier in hindsight. I have other stories about him. Dude was a creepy SOB. Him and my ex (was an ex back then and still is) both had a thing for me. Always got a good chuckle out of that.

I've only encountered one gay guy who may have been hitting on me. But then again, I have a hard time telling the difference between a girl hitting on me and a girl just being really friendly (was bullied in grade, middle, and high school, became jaded, story we've all heard/been in), so I doubt my ability to tell the difference when it comes to gay guys as well.

Straight guy here. I have been hit on a handful of times. I don't care at all. The only time it gets on my nerves is when they don't stop after you tell them you're straight. They wouldn't like it if I was a chick hitting on them shrieking at them about how they are straight. I'm not trying to convince them they dig chicks...Respect who the individual is.

I find it uncomfortable to be hit on by either gender (I'm a straight male). That whole process just...bothers me. More relevantly, though, I think this was most nicely handled by a guy I met a few years ago. When it looked like we were going to start hanging out, he said, "I know you're straight, and I'm bi. I won't hit on you. Is this going to be a problem?"

I love flat honesty (and no, it wasn't a problem).

A really good friend of mine is bi, and he often jokes that he 'would'.

I can't tell if he's joking, so it's kinda awkward.

I've never knowingly been hit on by a gay guy. That may have something to do with the fact that I'm a woman...

It is frustrating how a lot of people seem to assume that just because they find out a friend of the same gender as them is gay, he/she must automatically fancy them, but it's not the end of the world. You can imagine how fun it was/how many egos got bruised when I came out as bi back in school. Suddenly I "fancied" just about everyone I ever spent any time with :P

I don't really get why it has to be such a huge issue for some people though. Just treat it the same way you would if anyone else you weren't attracted to hit on you. Doesn't have to be (much) more awkward than that.

I think one problem is that everyone has different definitions of hitting on. Some people have some pretty loose definitions: "This gay guy is hugging me. Shit he's hitting on me."

Ando85:
A straight guy gives his 2 cents when they are soon to be about a gay person.

What.

This sentence makes no sense at all matey.

Anyway, as for your post - I am a straight guy and in university a gay guy who was in my circle of friends used to constantly hit on me when he was drunk. Really uncomfortable, but nothing worth getting upset over.

I may actually have been on the other end of this situation!

I had a real "ground, please swallow me" moment in my late teens. It was past midnight, I'd had a couple of drinks, and I'd ended up sat next to this absolutely gorgeous girl.

I was doing really well - keeping it casual - when something made me blurt out, "This is going to sound weird, but you have amazing legs."

She didn't bat an eyelid. She just said "Thanks" in a fairly neutral tone, then sat waiting to see what I'd say next.

I chickened out and changed the subject.

Hitting on guys is so much less stressful than hitting on girls because I know the odds are in my favour. And even if I do end up making moves on a gay guy, they tend to be really understanding. (It's only happened to me once, and he was almost apologetic!)

The only gay guy I know did quite frequently try to grab my junk and asked mutual friends about whether or not I'd be good at sex.

I was ok with it.

Well I have been hit on by gay men in the past on multiple occasions. Its a fairly disturbing experience if you happen to not be gay, because you have to wonder what "vibe" are you giving off that is kicking on gaydar. But, I try to look at it with the old logic of "Just because you do not wish to go to the party does not mean its not nice to be invited" and civily decline.

But its not always about the assumption of the hetero. Some gay men are aggressive about their sexuality. I used to work with one gay individual who once stated "Any guy is only a 6 pack away from a gay encounter" and was aggressive in pursuing that ideology. He gleefully admitted on how many straight guys he nailed. Some gay men like the challenge. I have also been informed by gay friends that this is not an uncommon theme amongst part of the gay community, though it is frowned upon. But still it is No different than any other sexual predilection. The people like what they like and will go to any ends they feel needed to satisfy their personal niche.

I was hit on by a Bi guy at one point...didn't really go anywhere from there though. I've never really experimented before honestly and was somewhat open in the before time. Not that I'm anti but because I'm taken. Yay monogamy!

Yosharian:

Ando85:
A straight guy gives his 2 cents when they are soon to be about a gay person.

What.

This sentence makes no sense at all matey.

Anyway, as for your post - I am a straight guy and in university a gay guy who was in my circle of friends used to constantly hit on me when he was drunk. Really uncomfortable, but nothing worth getting upset over.

Meant to say "A straight guy gives his 2 cents when he is soon to be around a gay person."

Bi guy here, only time I hit on a straight guy is when I am messing with them and they know I am messing with them. Guy I do it the most to has a girlfriend and she just laughs and says we would make a good couple.