Definitely right. Hol-ee shit. |
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38.2% (105) |
Your reaction makes sense. |
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37.8% (104) |
Well, it was kind of stupid of you to react that way. |
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4.7% (13) |
What the fuck dude, you are mental as fuck! |
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1.1% (3) |
You will most likely become a serial killer. |
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3.6% (10) |
I would call you sane, but the rubber duck is questioning it. |
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14.5% (40) |
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He seems a bit insane. You couldn't figure out a complex task that you'd never faced before and he went off his nutter. You're definitely not in the wrong here, by my watch. | |
No need for the LOTR reference. Your dad sounds like he is insane. | |
Your father is off his rocker. I don't even....... How could your family defend that? | |
Probably because we are hearing one very biased side of the story in an attempt to get sympathy. | |
1st rule of this planet: | |
I wish someone would buy me new shoes. | |
I... I mean... what kind of lacing are we talking about? Also, if he can't do it, I fail to see why he expects you to. Nah, this is exactly the sort of crap I fall out with my father about. Apart from computer stuff, though, he generally knows how to do the thing he thinks I'm a moron for not knowing. But then my mother and sister will generally be on-side with thinking he's unreasonable, and his life's stressful enough, so I generally just go into town to give him some space for a few hours so he can calm down about it. | |
What the crap, man? Your father is insane. I recommend a nice white, long-sleeved jacket. | |
My thoughts exactly. If someone went out and bought me shoes that actually fit my duck feet, I'd be thinking "fuck yeah". In addition though, I feel as though there is some back story we're not privy to. Could be some past similar event or just a generally unpleasant history. If not and your old man is just generally a psycho, then I'm sorry you have to put up with that. | |
I don't know how you can take an argument that was presumably yelled in Swedish seriously. I mean, it's Swedish. Only Dutch sounds sillier than Swedish. Also, pics please. I want to see these mystery laces. | |
Perhaps your dad's going through some stuff he won't talk to you about. Doesn't justify his actions, but food for thought. I had a similar experience. When planning a trip to Manchester University for an open day, my father did some research also, and rather than SHOW me the information from his computer, insisted that I find it myself, and unfortunately the website was poorly constructed and I couldn't find the page he was on. For some reason he takes real issue with this and begins telling me I'm, essentially, a lazy good for nothing. When I took offence to this, he then threatened to SMASH MY LAPTOP. When I told him this was unreasonable, and he was being ridiculously harsh, he told me to get out. And I did. Went straight to a friend's and only returned when he ordered me back home over the phone, mostly so I could get my stuff away from him. Never even got an apology. I've had other stupid arguments, but I can't think of any specific examples at the moment. | |
Indeed. I imagine that there might of been a continuous series of events leading up to this. | |
They probably see it this way because it seems like he thinks he was trying to be nice by getting you the new shoes. So he may have interpreted you wearing your old boots instead of the new shoes as your way of saying "fuck your new shoes and fuck your generosity for getting them for me." Yes, it's not what you meant but it's what he heard. Your family likely sees it as you being inconsiderate of your Father's generosity. Yet again, not what you meant but its what they think. | |
I would've walked to the cellar, put the wet boots on and marched squishily to mom's. | |
That's seriously fucked up. He goes off because you wanted to wear a particular pair of shoes. that man is insane in the membrane... | |
Your dad sounds like he is under alot of stress, whether it be from work or someother personal situation. Your dad seems like he is on edge and you got the brunt of his anger. However, there are two-sides to every story. He does not sound insane. He just sounds like any other normal but under stress parent. Give him the benefit of the doubt and don't hold it against him. Arguments like that are irrelavent in the grand scheme of things. And a month down the line you both will have forgotten about it. | |
He definitely over-reacted to an extreme. You can wear whatever shoes you want, you aren't his fashion accessory. Being practical and wearing boots in bad weather is a perfectly reasonable thing to do. His reaction was way out of proportion for the event, and suggests he's got some other issue that this is just a proxy for. If there is any way to get him to discuss his feelings with you in a calm and mature manner, you should, before something like this happens again. Captcha: hoi polloi. How fitting. | |
Yes you are being unreasonable. But so is he. There are no right or wrong answers in life. Try to find out the reason why he is upset. Arguments are never about the thing that is being discussed. There is always something else that triggers them. Maybe your dad is going through stuff at work. Maybe he is desperate to buy your love. Maybe something. You are not entirely blameless either. You could have put the shoes on, waited until you are a few blocks away, then switch them out. As soon as you got to your mother's house, leave the new pair there. Trust me, its not about the shoes. | |
If you have to ask, you are obviously wrong . OT: after reading your post ... This is the funiest thing i heard today . Lol you shoulda just shut up and wore the boots . Oh ... And You are right | |
Now I'm not completely sure about this but I have a feeling, just a small one mind you,, that this forum is a joke to make fun of people who present incredibly biased one sided stories to elicit sympathy. If that is the case then Good Job mate you had me in stitches, especially with the poll options. Otherwise if that is what actually happened and maybe you are spicing up the story for humor then your dad needs to take a chill pill. Some advice is to not to wear them and tell your parents that you are. | |
Good point. I suppose we will have to take his word for it, seeing as though I doubt the father has an escapist profile. | |
I don't know, it's sounds to me like neither of you can take the moral high ground in this case. Although I'm guessing your Dad was a bit hurt that you didn't seem to appreciate the shoes he got you, not that that excuses his reaction mind you. | |
...I just want to see these damn shoes I mean really!? Were they custom ballet shoes, what kind of laces are we talking here. Sure if what you describe is accurate, yes your dad obviously has other hang ups and this pushed him over the edge. Sucks. But the shoes... Please I need to see physical evidence of a pair of shoes who's laces cannot be tied simply by...tying... them. Gonna go to bed now, brain hurts, Diablo was neat, but I'm pooped. | |
I'm on your side. From Finland here, southern parts so we're starting to have descent weather but I don't see your dads problem. If he wants you to have new clothes give you some cash adn go buy it yourself, besides what was so wrong with your old shoes/boots? | |
That's my fellow Swedes alright. Making a big deal out of small things and being very wet and/or cold and having somewhat dysfunctional family relationships. Another day in det långa landet falukorv. | |
This is why I secretly record people on my phone while they're saying something stupid. I do it over the phone too (not all the time mind you, but while discussing something important). Technically it's illegal but I have no interest in using it in court. It's basically to make it easier for me to tell when somebody is lying or to be confident they definately were lying and I'm not misremembering things. It's for my own peace of mind. Just learn the button combination to get to voice recorder on your phone and do it in your pocket and casually put the phone down on the table or whatever. I lost a long lasting friendship because of this, and I'm glad I did. He doesn't even know I recorded him but I can know with confidence he straight up said one thing to me and then changed his story a few months later to everybody else. | |
Yeah, you're right. I don't think we're getting the most accurate view of what actually went down here. | |
Well, the poll alone has given me the facts I need to present a very lengthy PowerPoint presentation to everyone that said I was wrong. Just to clarify, this is not biased. It's the full scoop, really. Well, unless you call it biased that I left out that he's always stressed when he leaves for work, but I also didn't mention I spent 10 minutes trying to calm him down and that he previously flipped shit at me because he accidentally pushed over a chair. Fuck, this actually reminds me of that one time he called me, asking when I would be home for dinner, I said: "Like two seconds." and then I arrived about a minute later, at which point he wouldn't let me into the house because I had deceived him. | |
Well who's more cynical, the people who think stories can be distorted in the retelling, or those who seriously think there's a guy out there who was throwing a tantrum over a pair of shoes like that? =P | |
I want to see a picture of the lacing before I cast a vote (and to see lacing so complex two people didn't know how to do it, that must be a doozy) | |
Hi guys, I'm his father and I'd like to share my side of the story. Basically, I had a bit of an argument with my Son. No, I'm not even pretending that I am not proud of him or want him to "grow up" like any father over 40 or any mother under 50 would say, I'm just a little disappointed with him for overreacting to a joke. Everyone in the family seems to agree, but my son still thinks that I am in the wrong, but since he always thinks he is right about everything I suppose this is to be expected. It boils down to this: Anyhow, I'm about to go to work for a week and my son prepares to leave for his mothers. He puts on his boots and I give him a glance because it's a rather warm day. He immediately flips his shit. I'm standing there and he just rips the boots off his feet hands them to me and says *fine I know what that look means just chuck them you bastard* and urges me to throw them in the old food cellar that we don't use, and screams at me for about 15 minutes how I am egotistical, he's ashamed to be my son, I'm a fuckin' bastard and an idiot for not being able to understand him. I notice he's having trouble with the lacing on his new shoes, in an attempt to lighten the mood after his rather abrupt and seemingly random outburst, I jokingly poke fun at him. He starts screaming at me (while I'm calming listening) asking me why I can't simply help him with it, I couldn't believe he misinterpreted my joke like that. I jokingly respond I don't know how, but attempt to salvage the joke by saying "but you should be able to do it, you know everything remember!" (not the best joke for the situation I agree, and I regret saying it). Noticing his face darkening and getting ready for a rant, I then suggest it's really time to get going, and that I'd give him a lift to his mothers so he didn't have to walk, I mention maybe she'll be able to figure out the shoes, since neither of us can. He just starts screaming again saying; TL;DR: This is a really tiny, unimportant event that caused my son to stress out and turn me into horrible person. This post is basically to explain my actions and defend my family from the abusive letters we've been receiving from Escapist members saying that we are "fukin mental nd crazie". | |
Well, if crazy shoes with laces neither of you can figure out is the source of the argument... yeah, I don't know where I'm going with this... Unless something else went wrong, the outline of the argument you gave suggests he was angry at you because you didn't wear the new boots/shoes... And because you couldn't figure them out, didn't wear them... That's enough reason to think someone has lost it 'somewhere' in the past couple of days... I mean, hell, I've had close to the worst week of my life and every little thing just adds to the pent up anger I'm concealing... So, maybe something bad happened recently that you don't know about... But now I'm just repeating things people have already said without quoting them... Worst case: look up the shoes online, gotta be a guide somewhere... | |
This is probably gonna sound stupid but whats intricate lacing? | |
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Basically, I had a bit of an argument with my father. No, I'm not even pretending that I hate him or want him to die like any male under 20 or any female under 40 will do, I'm just quite fucking annoyed with him. However, everyone in the ol' family seems to think that I am in the wrong and since I'm always correct, they must be wrong. It would feel a bit better if someone could assure me that I am correct however.
It boils down to this:
I had a pair of boots. I liked these boots. They were watertight, they had a great grip and they were warm and cuddly.
Now, in the land of Sweden the last snow is just beginning to disappear but it's still pretty wet and shitty outside, so I decided to keep using my boots for a while longer. We have a few negative degrees celsius, rain and terrible wind.
My father, however, decided that this was an outrage. He bought me some new "hipper" shoes (to be honest, it's probably the shoes that the whitest rapper in 3rd grade uses, but fashion is not the issue) for about 200 kronor. There was some intricate lacing on these motherfuckers, let me tell you. Never seen anything like it. I couldn't figure it out.
Anyhow, my father is about to go to work for a week and I have no desire to stay there while he is away, so I put on my boots and- oh wait. He flips shit. I'm sitting down and he just fucking rips the boots of my feet and throws them in the old food cellar that we don't use (which is flooded, btw) and screams at me for about 15 minutes how I am egotistical, he's ashamed to be my father, i'm a fuckin' hillbilly and an idiot for not being able to figure out intricate lacing.
He then suggests that I let my mother (who lives about 20 blocks of rain and shit away) do it. I ask him calmly (while this bearded fuck is yelling, mind you) why he can't simply help me with it, since it simply astounded me. He says he don't know how and again calls me an idiot for not being able to do it. He then orders me to get into the car so he can drive me to my mother who will figure this out (because females have some built in clothes-manual to everything) at which point I've had enough. I tell him
"Yeah, I'm not going with you. You're fucking mental.", so I'm forced to walk back home with nothing but my socks and people seem to view me as the bad guy, especially after I say "I'm returning these shoes to him tomorrow. It is a strange fate that we should suffer so much fear and doubt over so small a thing. Such a little thing."
TL;DR: This is a really tiny, unimportant event that caused everyone everywhere to flip shit and turn me into horrible person. This thread is basically to ascertain that I'm not mental for reacting the way I did.