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No factor. How they choose to spend what money they have, that's a different question... | |
No Factor at all.. love is love id hope not monetary value of your significant other. | |
My girlfriend has more money than I do and it's a constant source of contention. I try and save money while she wants to spend all the time. For me money is a means to an end and not having enough to do all that I want sucks. | |
I really, really don't care about people's monetary situation. And I expect others to treat me the same. Why would they? | |
At this point in time, anybody who'd Normally though, it's not a huge factor. | |
Really think that there is no such thing as a relationship. Yeah you have two people coming together so they can have kids, add their money together. Can tell you this because I have seen it happen so many times that I have lost count. Alright so if a women loses her job, then it's expected of the man to stay with her until she finds another one. Really nice guy loses his job, then the women puts him on a time counter until he can find another one. Does depend on the women though, maybe she gives her boyfriend 1 month, 5 months, ect. | |
It makes very little difference to me, as long as she isn't homeless and can support herself without me. Not that I wouldn't mind dating a rich chick but that comes with a whole other set of problems. Speaking from a male perspective it seems that a lot dudes who didn't get much from their parents are interested in having sugar mama's, especially when they don't have a job or still live at home. Personally I think it is pretty shitty to use someone for their money, even if they are enjoying your company because you are basically treating them like a tool, an ATM. Self-sufficiency is sexy. | |
It's not exactly a big deal for me. I live within my means, and I expect them to as well. If they don't... I'm not paying their bills. | |
I can deal with being poor. I would hope someone wishing to enter a relationship with me could deal with it too. | |
I think that about sums it up. Honestly I think I'd rather go with a wealthy someone who shops at discount and, thrift places than a person living paycheck-to-paycheck who blows every last cent on the latest thing...then again, I would assume that to be the obvious choice anyway. As for the topic though, I despise the wealthy because I want to be one. I would not object to being a wealthy person's somebody. I'm happy where I am though and wouldn't change it for all of the change in a wealthy person's personal vault. | |
Women want a guy with at least some income I think. | |
I want a guy with a similar income to mine because I feel uncomfortable otherwise. I think it is best to date people who have the same money sense of you. I would no date with someone who earned less than me because some guys can get a bit egotistical about it. I would not care if they were much richer than me but I'd still like a rich person to be sensible with their cash. Money is one thing, class another | |
No, I don't want no scrub. A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me. Hanging on the passenger side of his best friend's ride, tryin' to holla at me. Other than that it's not that important. | |
Having enough money is important in successful relationships. If one partner does not feel like the other is not pulling their weight, it leads to resentment overall. | |
It's a turn off for me for a girl not to have a job for her income. Mind you I don't care if her income is low, but no job generally means that person has no concept of value. Still paying off the credit card from the exgirlfriend... *groan* | |
Money may not be important for DATING but its definitely important when you're looking to start a FAMILY with someone. | |
They need some money since I wouldn't support a freeloarder, but if they're poor but can make ends meet I'm fine. If they are rich and blow their money on stupid thinng and forget the important thing that's a dealbreaker. So I guess it's less of how much they have and more of how responsible they are. | |
It really just depends on career effort than how much money they make. To an extent anyway, nobody really would feel that great about marrying a person who is making a career out of fast food(unless they plan on owning a franchise). It's more about, can we afford to buy a house and have kids together? A younger woman who is a good friend of my Dad works in the ultrasound department and makes a good living from her personal wages, maybe 50-60K a year. Then she married a doctor who gets payed like 300K+ a year, maybe even more. They seem pretty happy together, and nobody seems to resent the difference in wages. She's not a freeloader and continues to work hard, even though she could just be a stay at home mom and live beyond comfortably with her husband's wages. | |
In my experience, money is not really a factor once in a relationship. Ensuring that you have similar financial goals is far more important. | |
Its a pretty big factor actually. If I (or she I guess) don't have the money to go to interact with her, the relationship is almost pointless. I can't focus on a relationship if I am starving or fretting about bills and how to keep a roof over my head. Also, a sex life gets very uncomfortable if I (or she) can't afford furniture. Money is quite the important factor. | |
So long as it doesn't continuously get in the way of spending time together in an enjoyable fashion, it isn't that important. However money can create different lifestyles so some compromise may be needed if they clash. | |
Money shouldn't be important. If I was dating a girl, and she was really concerned with money I would find that very unattractive, and would dump her. | |
Right now, I only say yes because money troubles is one of the things that driving a wedge into my relationship with Mr. Boyfriend. :'[ | |
It's pretty important if the relationship is that of client and prostitute. | |
Alright so class has nothing to do with it, you wouldn't date a poor guy, end of story. Another shocking story, all women on the planet think like you do, welcome sister to denial road, where it goes on and on. | |
You vastly oversimplified her argument to make your own point. That's a logical fallacy. | |
A simple remark she was making. A simple statement can be ten times more powerful than something drawn out. A simple logical fallacy is just par for the course, we humans make tons of mistakes. A simple rule to follow, always add something to an argument, don't just point out mistakes, people tend to care less. | |
You don't understand what a logical fallacy is, I see. No, you didn't trim the fat; you removed the context of her argument and changed it to suit your own bias so as to prove a point you wanted to make. In effect, your comment had no value. | |
Alright so now your passing judgement without knowing me, strike two. Alright so what did I say earlier about people not caring, maybe it's time to say goodbye to those that don't listen. | |
A) you didn't address any of the points I made (because you cannot). B) "your [sic] passing judgement without knowing me" is a hypocritical statement. If you would wish to contend that one cannot make comments to another based on what they have said here, you could not therefore have made your comment regarding the woman you quoted. If this is the case, you have added nothing at all to the thread. If it is not the case, you must accept my critic of your post as valid. C) you would choose to pretend to take a high ground rather than answer for your mistakes, making you appear immature. Three strikes and you're out, to turn your phrase. | |
Aright so what are you getting out of this? Alright so make a point next time. A series of attacks gets you nowhere, you don't sound smart, more like a person who is sheltered. A simple goodbye is all you get, your not worth talking to. | |
Well, the husband and I just found ourselves in a rotten position where I had no job because of medical issues and he unexpectedly lost his full time job. We now have no source of income, our plans to buy a house and start a family are set back, and we are living with my parent in laws. Relationship-wise, it doesn't matter. We've gotten through some big things before, we'll do it again. It's a pain and a worry, but while I'm afraid of poverty, I'm not less attracted to my husband because of it. I guess in regards to relationships and money, we've experienced most situations. When I met my husband he was studying and had no income, while I was doing quite well in a full time job. As time progressed, we both went to study, and we lived very simply on government assistance. Then both of us got employment, and during that time we were able to get married. As I mentioned earlier, I quit my job for medical reasons, while my husband kept working, right up to this week, when he was laid off. I found money was not a relationship problem at any of those times. Ok, sometimes I would have liked more money to throw around, but we have very similar outlooks on life and priorities. We have learnt to communicate about money, being very honest about what we both want from our money. Certainly, financial status was not an issue when I was considering pursuing a relationship with my husband, and I certainly don't find him more or less attractive depending on how much money he has. | |
Statistically? It is absurdly important. Like generally marries and dates like, there is little chance that you are seriously going to date someone more than one class of separation from yourself, though there are an absurd number of reasons for this. Personally? I want her to have life goals. This involves a career. If she does not have any real career aspirations I have no desire to date her really. I know many women I would find immensely attractive if they had career aspirations beyond teaching preschool or child care, both of which I understand are vital and fulfilling, yet both of which I know are not careers in the same sense as my own aspirations. In the end I suppose putting yourself in a mentally demanding career is what I find more important, those just happen to pay more. | |
I did make a point--I rebuffed your statement and attempted to show you your logical fallacy. You are attempting to appear as a victim, attacked by a bully. When in fact you overtly malformed a fellow Escapists' comment to both attack her and attempt to push your bias as arguably proven fact. Don't pretend to be in the right here and don't pretend to be immune from valid, well worded critique. You of course may exit the conversation, but you do so out of forfeit and not out of mistreatment. | |
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... and specifically; do you find someone more, or less, attractive based on their financial situation?
Is a wealthy person more alluring?
Is someone, who's struggling financially, unappealing?