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Well, there is your problem right there. You may want to change your locks as well if your address was somehow in the wallet. | |
Yeah, I'll be doing so. Also geez how is that a problem? Also wow I provide way too much context don't I? Eh, I predict lots of tl;dr. Oh wells. | |
How is it not a problem? You watched Indie Game: The Movie. | |
It's a good film for, like, film students and stuff. Well, it's just a good film. I dunno, I didn't want to just say GUYS MY WALLET'S GONE AND I SAD so I put in what I had done that morning for a bit of calm-before-the-storm narrative dramatics. | |
Don't beat yourself up about it. I've had my wallet stolen twice so far, and left my whole bag in a cafe once too (which contained my house keys and train ticket home). One of the times I had it stolen I had a driving test booked, which I then had to cancel and didn't get any of my money back despite having made a police report. Bad things happen, but you shouldn't let it get you down too much. I'm sure that everything in your wallet can be replaced. Just be sure to cancel all your bank cards. And to answer your question, no it isn't selfish. A bad thing happened and you feel down because of it. This doesn't mean bad things only happen to you, we have a tendancy to focus more on bad things when they happen rather than good things. I suggest you do something to cheer yourself up, treat yourself to something nice. Hope you feel better. | |
Thanks a lot. Also thanks for getting the thread on topic, haha. | |
I've had a watch, money, a bike stolen. Even when I knew who did it, no authority figure cared. "It would cost more money to hire lawyers and go to court than what was stolen" I was told. I think i've returned more things to people than i've had taken from me. Returned $40 in the snow near our mailboxes, someone who went to an advanced school had his wallet stolen and I found it strewn across the gas station parking lot. Didn't have any money in it but I still returned it because the bus pass and driver's license would be a hassle to replace. Recently I made myself a fake wallet. I made one out of duct tape, filled it with fake bills and CreditOne Platinum credit cards (which are cardboard and not real) and even put in one of those fake car keys that auto dealers mail you (claiming if your key starts the car, you can win it!). I keep it in my back pocket and have my real wallet inside my zippered jacket pocket. :P | |
You should just take an old wallet and put nothing in it - apart from a note saying "Fuck you. Think you can steal my wallet? Think again. This wallet is equipped with a motion tracker, better drop it fast and hope the police aren't already on their way." Worst case scenario; thief is a bit pissed and feels shitty, you still have your real wallet. Best case scenario; the thief is really stupid and starts shitting is pants because he thinks the police are gonna get him. | |
This is why I keep money in my shoes. ...What? I'm not paranoid. <_< Don't feel too bad about it though, my mum lost her house key when she was walking the dogs once, and all she did was ask me to go get some more keys cut while she was at work. (it actually turned up the next day when a neighbour found it.) If you're worried about it happening again, you could always get one of those key-chains that attach to your belt. As for the wallet, keep it in your front pocket? I know it's way comfier in the back, but if you live in that kinda city then you may wanna rethink. | |
See, if my wallet gets stolen the only thing that goes missing are cards I can cancel and change. Being broke sometimes has advantages! But yeah, I had that happen to me in Vancouver. Feels bad man. Pickpockets make you paranoid for a long, long time... | |
Everyone is out to get me. ;-; | |
Keep your wallet on a chain, seriously. I've had people try to pick pocket me three times and suddenly I felt a tug on my pants because my wallet is hooked to my belt, and I've met the person with a punch to the face. Though I don't recommend the punch always, I've had a guy pull a knife on me once, and I've been stabbed before (though not related to pick pocketing) and getting stabbed sucks. | |
I feel for you, man, I really do. At times like this I am thankful that I am as I am that my wallet is hard to pull from my pocket even by me. I will tell you a bit of a story that I am reminded of to at least let you know that a few people do the right thing. A chum of mine and I were at the state fair one year, we had come with a couple of our friends and like the tourists we were, we got separated easily and called one another to meet at the ticket booths near the enterance. When we got there, we had to wait a good amount of time before our friends appeared and as we were leaving I noticed a wallet upon one of the ticket machines (it wasn't hard to miss it was black and covered in flame-decals). I quickly asked those around me if they had lost it, took a good few minutes, but to no avail. So we did the civil thing and turned the wallet into the lost and found office, watched it get locked in a box with other valuables until such time as they are claimed, and continued on our merry way. Proud to say, didn't even look inside except to check for ID. I wish you better luck in the future and that the uppance will come to those who took your wallet. (also that thing about changing locks is probably a good idea.) | |
I can just imagine the look on some scrawny bastards face as he saw you turn around. I wanna get pickpocketed now just so I can do that. OT: I've never had my wallet stolen, only a phone lost. I'd lose my shit if my watch was stolen though, it's expensive and I haven't seen the same model of it anywhere. My wallet would cost a bit to get replaced, 20 bucks for a new license and another 10 for my Gym card then I'd finally have to buy a new wallet which I've never done. | |
Never had my wallet stolen, but I have had someone steal one of my credit cards. Let me tell you how fun that was. You're not wrong for feeling paranoid. You are wrong for feeling like you let someone down though> That's silly. You didn't do anything wrong. Try and keep your chin up, and if they got a house key and your address think about changing your locks. | |
About a week ago, my house was broken into. Just saying, I'm pretty sure I know how you feel. That said...Yeah, your reaction is pretty insane. These people broke into my house, stole about 250 dollars worth of stuff, and walked right past an oblivious me to do it. (I was in my room with my door closed and headphones in. Only one in the house) I was a bit scared and pissed off for a while, but I'm over it now. Now, it sounds like you have to deal with a couple of simple facts: 1. Shit happens. This time, it happened to you. It sucks, but the damage has been done. There was nothing you could have done to stop it, so now the only thing you can do is GET OVER IT. Dwelling on it will NOT make it any better. Do whatever damage control is necessary (canceling cards, replacing ID, etc.) and get on with your life. There is NOTHING to be gained from dwelling on this. The best thing you can do is just forget about it. 2. By dwelling on it anyway and freaking the fuck out, you have made a mistake. You ARE being selfish and ridiculous and narcissistic and what-have-you.. But that's OK: People make mistakes. What really matters is what you do once you REALIZE you've made a mistake. Basically, you can either choose to sit around feeling shitty about your mistake(which, in this case, will put you in a bit of a downward spiral from the sound of things), OR you can learn from it, and add something to your "Big List of Things You Shouldn't Do Again", next to "touching the stove before Mom finishes explaining what it is" and "Eating anything that you think might be mayonnaise". (I'm assuming everyone else did these things as a child too) SHORT VERSION: Shit happens, get over it. If you do something stupid and you KNOW it's stupid, then stop doing that thing. It ABSOLUTELY IS that simple. | |
You broke down and went baby-up because you were violated. You were pocket-raped and they took your hard-earned (hopefully?) cash from you that you were likely planning to use on other things, like food. The idea of not having 30 dollars would freak anyone out, but having it taken so randomly by people out to destroy your innocence? Yeah. I'm too paranoid to have my wallet taken. Half the time it's on a chain, the other half I wear a long shirt or trench coat where getting through layers to take my wallet would be a challenge. Sometimes I will personally sew a button on my back pocket so the thief has to use both hands to get the pocket open first before stealing the goods. On top of that, I never keep actual bills in the wallet. Those go in one of my front pockets. Some of my pants have this little hidden pocket that I call 'crotch pockets'. I dare someone to steal from that. Would look like they're grabbing at my junk. If I saw someone taking someone else's wallet, I would call out like a freaking bird in the savannah so everyone would know. Then who's in the hot seat? Yeah right. Those fucking criminals and their deer in headlight look. Once had a friend who left their wallet in a gas station bathroom. Had to drive her down to the station to retrieve it. Everything was there but a credit card. When the bank was called, some asshole used it to pay for their gas. But it was refunded due to insurance and the card was canceled. | |
Lucky me I live in a small and, somewhat, quiet town in the frozen forests of Finland with a bottle of Koskenkorva. | |
Go take a shower, cool off, relax. Remember, it's nothing but an emotional response. It'll go away. | |
When in Japan my mother left her purse, filled with her passport and a shitload of American dollars, in a train station. Sorry, I guess that's not a great story to tell someone who just got his wallet stolen. | |
Not at all. It's really not the ammount you lost, it's the vulnerability that you feel when some random douche can just take your stuff and leave. If that's selfish, then I have a story that shows I'm worse. Basically, this dude robbed me before school with his gang of friends (because no one can just stand for themselves anymore), and took all that was on me: a whopping $4 Anyway, the idiot didn't know that the school had cameras EVERYWHERE, and so he got caught easilly. By that point, I was just pissed that he would be such a jerk to steal money from a dude he didn't even know, so I made a point of having the principal (we weren't allowed to talk face to face) tell him that I could have put his useless ass in jail for 2nd degree robbery (seriously, stealing $4 will actually make that possible). In the end, he got suspended, or something, they never really told me, and I...never got my $4 back. I really don't know why, it seemed that nobody had bothered about that except for me at that point. The moral of the story is that when people act like jerks and victimize you (even for pocket change), it's more than losing what you had. It's the emotions of feeling powerless against the douchebaggery of others. I hope you feel better later. Ps have you checked to see if they had cameras in there? | |
I've had a fake wallet, but it was pointless to me because I tend to keep my wallet in my FRONT pocket and anything I get bumped I check it. I've had ONE asshole steal my wallet after 'bumping' into me at the mall in front of Gamestop. In the end I explained everything, showed them my wallet, had the employes vouch for me, and while they called the cops on him I got to buy my games. For me... captcha: | |
I know that feeling well, i too have the aspbergers and the last month or three has been the worst of my life If anyone cares here is my recent story: | |
I wouldn't feel down about it, angry sure. I certainly don't see why you should be feeling guilty about it, the whole 'first world problems' thing is a fallacy. there are people who have a worse life than you but why does that mean you're prohibited from feeling down when things go wrong for you. Last time my wallet was stolen was in a nightclub and I was slaughtered so I went outside and had a go at the bouncers (again, drunk) wasn't my best idea. Nor was wandering home and attempting to freeze my card and get it replaced whilst still smashed. Whoever the poor woman on the other end of the call was, she obviously couldn't understand a word i was saying so my replacement card was sent to Hull O.o | |
You have every right to be upset about it. It doesn't matter if there was $5 or $500 in your wallet, it is your property. Someone took what was yours, and it is perfectly acceptable for that to make you angry/depressed. Do not hide from your feelings, let them out and then you can move on. I will say that if 2 months down the line you are still upset, or find yourself keeping distance from people, then go find some help. It will get better. As an aside, my dad had his wallet stolen once, reported it to the police and everything. 2 weeks later the police come knocking, of course my dad thinks they found his wallet. Nope. They wanted to know why they found his wallet in a drug dealers house after they raided it. Brought him in for questioning and everything, only for him to explain "My wallet was stolen, you have the report..." So yea, fun times there. Right up there with getting a parking ticket in the mail for your stolen car. | |
Have a Hugs! Hope you feel better, and for the record: you aren't being selfish. or self-centered. or anything bad. Sometimes when to much shit happens in your life you just need to release some hormones through your eyeducts.... and has hugs! | |
I fail to see how having your wallet stolen is considering selfish. You have done nothing wrong. You have NOT let anyone down. I would be just as freaked out and angry as you are if i had mine stolen and im sure alot of other people here would too. | |
I personally keep my wallet in my front pocket, if someone wants to try and take it, they better be brave enough to risk feeling me up. Also because I can't stand sitting on it. I also never take out my wallet till the moment of payment, reduces the window in which someone can take it. Also don't think you're somehow selfish or it's your fault. It's your personal shit that you worked for etc. | |
I'm sorry for skipping on the rest of the post, but... Really? They actually presented him in a good light? He was acting like such a nonstop cunt, I didn't think it was possible. | |
Oh, it was really one-sided. But the man obviously was fractured, stressed and depressed. He was a cunt, but he was a cunt with the weight of the world on his shoulders. It was good ol' documentary heart-wringing tricks (sad music, clever editing, one-sided interviews etc.), but it was still pretty emotionally powerful. Plus it made FEZ look like a bright-eyed creative vision by a broken man, instead of just another gimmicky 2D platformer. But yeah, a lot of Phil Fish's story was about his parents dying and his girlfriend breaking up with him and fans yelling at him and basically him sinking his entire life into a project that seemed to be burning up in front of him at every corner. Made the man a sympathetic, tragic figure; if not less of a cunt. I think it was this bit that really got to me: they asked what he'd do if he didn't finish the game, and he answered, "I'd kill myself." Deadly serious. Eurgh. | |
PM me, I care. :( | |
Wow I don't normally have this much empathy for a stranger, but I'm glad they just stole your shit and didn't kill you. | |
You only had S30 and a housekey in your wallet? If I would have lost my wallet, I would have lost.... At least you won't have to apply for a dozen new cards.
Asperger's might explain it. I'm diagnosed with it too. I've got my routine and *please don't disturb it*. If you're already busy and a little stressed, and then something like this happens and you're routine is completely f*cked up... I understand it. As for the solution... I think the thing that might help a little bit... is the Merovingian from the Matrix.
Understand your own psychology. It gives you some kind of power over it. | |
Oh no, I had much more than just $30 and my housekey. That's all that can't be replaced without significant loss, I mean. I have like 30 cards to various things - ID cards for school and my driver's license and all that - but that won't cost me any money to replace. What is a significant loss is that my USB drive with all my schoolwork on it was in my wallet. *seethes* | |
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Yo, Escapees and such. This isn't so much a discussion topic as much as it is, I need to get this out of my system. And also I need some people to tell me I'm not going insane. Alright, that's what little context you're getting. Paragraph, awaaay:
So in our film course, we watched Indie Game: The Movie as part of, like, good documentary and stuff. And there was quite a lot in it that was incredibly moving and depressing - mostly, Phil Fish's story. Long story short, I came out of the film with this on my mind: gotta buy FEZ.
So I went to the game store to get a MS Points card! I had also bought some games to trade in because I like being utterly ripped off by EB Games, but whatever. Point is, as I leaned down to get games out of my bag, I felt a bump against me. Whatever, the store was crowded, oh well. I went to pay for the points and the realization dawned that my wallet - which my hands had been caressing not five seconds earlier - was missing.
Now this has actually happened before, I had "lost" my wallet. So I kinda laughed and shook it off, and started looking for it on my person and in my bag - thinking nothing of the two hooded kids walking by smiling at me with a "yeah, fuck you" look on their faces - only to, y'know, find it was missing. Stolen? I dunno. Maybe it's fallen under a counter. But all evidence points towards it being gone. And since now it's 12 hours later, the chances of me ever comprehending the difference between the two are pretty slim. The police know, but that doesn't stop what came after:
I cried. A lot. Now I suffer from mild depression ad Asperger's and such so I'm used to having crazy reactions to things, but such crushing grief! I felt like no matter where I go, failure finds me. I felt like no matter how hard I try, things are bad anyway. I felt like all my effort in life is for naught since life fucks me over anyway. And so we get to my question -
...am I selfish, for this?
Am I selfish, for losing $30 and a housekey? Am I selfish for feeling the weight of the world on my shoulders afterwards; like I've let everybody down, like I'm worthless and amount to nothing? It's weird; my brain says, no, that's not selfish, but my heart says... why the fuck are you thinking like this? Why did you cry, you cunt? What is wrong with you? And I sit and wallow in confusion and self-beating. I shouldn't feel like this... people have lost more than me, and any thought of "why me?" is overshadowed by the fact that anyone who isn't me would think the same thing. And yet, that makes me thing I'm being selfish; egotistical even, or incredibly vain and narcissistic.
I don't know. It feels like my head is a jumble of Christmas lights. Even after seeing my psychologist this afternoon about this very thing. I've been staring the "Cube Pack" sale on Steam, with thoughts along the lines of "if I had my wallet I could be playing Blocks That Matter right about now". So basically, I just wanna ask if I sound crazy and insane based on my reaction to getting my wallet stolen, or if it's normal and human-like, or... I dunno, you like waffles and really need to tell me about it? Engage me in some form of dialog.
Thanks for your (now I've read that back) rather large amount of wasted time. :3