Dating someone younger.

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Recently, I've found myself very vaguely attracted to someone younger than me, not seriously, but the attraction is there. By younger, I mean she's in the year below me at school. (I'm in 6th year, aged 16 and she's a year below, aged 15 I think). Where I'm from, 16 is the legal age.
While I don't plan to actually initiate a relationship in anyway shape or form, I want to know your opinions on dating someone younger than yourself.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

Opinions?

P.S. Just to clarify, this isn't about my case. Though the reason I'm not going for it is because we're practically strangers. Not really the best idea.

Half your age plus 7 has always worked for me. If you'd have been 30 and attracted to a 15 year old I'd have been worried (as I have seen more times than I'm entirely comfortable with), but I don't think by any standards 1 year difference is a bad one. I know people that cap it at 2 or 3 years younger as an alternative to the 1/2 age plus 7, either way it's good.

I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

I like to date people around the same age as me. Boyfriend is only a month older, and my only other ex was 6months younger than me.
Then again, that's just how it turned out, if boyfriend had been a bit older I still would have gone for it, and younger. It depends on the person and how mature they are but I'd stick within a few years because otherwise... it gets weird.

One year younger? Oh you sick pedophile you!

As long as the older one is under 18 I have found that apparently most people around here don't care much. 14+17? Oh how cute. But 14+18 suddenly is weird somehow.
Not personal experiments, just a small observational study.

Haha. One year is fine. You won't be ridiculed by anybody other than the jerks who try to find something to ridicule for. And then it's just kinda unjustified.

One year is pretty much nothing no matter what age you are, don't worry about it :).

You'll also find as you get older than your apparent age becomes a lot more subjective and ultimately a lot less important, I have been in relationships with people 3 years younger than me (was 19 at the time) and assumed to be her age, and then slightly more extremely I have gotten very close to people who were/are in their late 20s who don't realise at the time that you're almost a decade their junior.

SaetonChapelle:

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

I got mostly ninja'd, so I'l settle for saying I agree with this :p.

A single year age gap stops being weird at around age... 1. Assuming there's some sort of legal buffer zone, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this.

For me I've basically just only even thought about girls within two years of me. But I am still in high school so theres that.

Half your age+7 until the youngest participant is 18 then go fuckin' wild with whoever you want.

ThatRandomGuy42:
Recently, I've found myself very vaguely attracted to someone younger than me, not seriously, but the attraction is there. By younger, I mean she's in the year below me at school. (I'm in 6th year, aged 16 and she's a year below, aged 15 I think). Where I'm from, 16 is the legal age.
While I don't plan to actually initiate a relationship in anyway shape or form, I want to know your opinions on dating someone younger than yourself.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

Opinions?

Simply put, age is just a numerical value attatched to a person identifying how long they've been alive, that is all, as long as it's legal, I don't see it as wrong, and nobody else should either, just some people are age-ist... Experience, and relative maturety in different facets of your life are where the big important things are.

For me, I'm 26, I've dated women in their 30s, and I've gone with girls as young as 18, I prefer older women for the most part, just because they tend to have more life experience, be less kneejerk judgemental about stuff, and tend to get my humour more, but I've found a few younger women with relatively mature tastes, and a more experienced and relaxed worldview.

Not that I'm dating right now, or even interested in thinking about it, I'm at a point in my life where, unless a woman asks me out, I'm pretty much just going to coast, make me some money, and chill for a bit, figure out my life for myself, maybe I'll find my path, and find a woman to love, who can appreciate my eccentricities... Y'never know.

Also, never feel pressured to find someone on the quick, I know there's a ton of pressure to fuck as many girls as you can in the teen years, I went through that as did many many other guys, just take it easy, what happens happens, only bother with the girls that truly interest you, cuz let's be honest, a conquest for the sake of a conquest always leaves someone sour, also the sex isn't as good when you're not fully into it :P.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

there are people who only date people exactly the same age as themselves? that's f***ing hard. it's hard enough to find someone likable with any age, let alone someone with the same birth day.

Also you are only one year apart, there is nothing wrong with that. in fact i'd have to say it'd be pretty stupid NOT to ask her out. You either have to be older or younger than someone, and that means that 1 of the 2 people involved in the relationship will always be younger. This is simple logic here.

As for me, i don't care the age of someone, as long as i like them and they're legal. Also i doubt anyone is attracted to a number, you aren't attracted to a "16 year old girl" you are attracted to her, whatever her name is. she's an individual, not just a number.

I have never been with someone older then me, everyone I have been with have always been 1-3 years younger then me.

My ex-lovers family didn't like me very much as when we first fell in love, I was 18 and my lover was 15. We were together for three years, so that isn't bad. Right? Of course I had the luck of being one of the few people that didn't care what my peers thought about age differences, although I understood enough to share a laugh with them in the first few monthes. I suppose it was a little odd.

I have also been with someone a year younger then me and my last romance was two years younger then me.

It works because they have all looked older then me, due to my young features. Especially the one who was two years younger then me, he had a beard.

Age isn't important to me, it just happened by coincidence that I am always the older one. Though lately I have been the only one.

SaetonChapelle:
I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

Try guys up to 70 years old. They're so hawt.

OT: One year? Really? It's fine man. One year ain't anything to get worked up about :D

And for me my range is 15 - 45 for women. I like to keep my options wide and varied :D

Age has never mattered to me as much as maturity does, and that can sometimes be difficult with someone younger. But overall, if you're happy, and of the same mental and emotional maturity, I see no reason why an age gap (especially one as small as one year)should bother you if you two are happy. Go for it pal.

SaetonChapelle:
I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

What about older gentlemen that look young?

That's my problem. My bizarrely healthy lifestyle keeps me young, so the ladies that are my age have ZERO interest. The only women that are interested are the younger ones and that makes me uneasy because I have a hard enough time relating to people my age.

But anyway, 16 and 15 is never a big deal. It's probably even legal to fornicate with her because most places have a two year rule where statutory rape will not apply if the participants are within two years of age. But I would check the legal code in your area before you make with the sexy time.

If dating people younger than yourself were somehow wrong, I don't think there would be much of a future for humanity.
Besides, a 1 year difference? That's about as hard-hitting as the slightly downcast weather we're having here in terms of discussion value.

1 year is nothing. If legality is a big issue, wait till she's 16 before you go at it.

Personally, I'm a girl who prefers older guys. I'd feel odd dating a younger dude, but if he was super awesome, I'd still go for it. Age is but a number.

Quaxar:
One year younger? Oh you sick pedophile you!

As long as the older one is under 18 I have found that apparently most people around here don't care much. 14+17? Oh how cute. But 14+18 suddenly is weird somehow.
Not personal experiments, just a small observational study.

You have no idea mate. I'm 18 and am dating my gf of a year now who is 2 years younger. The entire time i was a senior in high-school we didn't take any flack from the "He's too old" aspect. The instant I graduate and keep the relationship even though its long distance and suddenly everyone and there mother is telling her to break up with me(yeah someone's mother actually did tell her that).

It really is very annoying and contrite from my point of view.

OT: Yeah I obviously have no problems dating someone younger than myself and since we've been dating for a year, even though I'm at college now, we are both quite happy together. It all relies on trust and honesty, age really isn't a factor in those besides maturity and even that's variable.

um...its a year difference. you are making this in to a way bigger deal than it is

Yeah, the Half your age + seven... only works for so long. When you were born in 1906, means you are able to look at those fine ass Bettys aged 60. You might as well buy a box of date night pampers that is so young. How on earth can you connect with someone like that. You have no mutual experiences coming from different generations. Why...your old enough to be her great great grandfather.

Ewww.

I've broken the "age 2 + 7" rule. I find it's much more about emotional maturity. In fact I've only ever been out with younger girls. Not that I'm opposed to going out with someone my own age or older, it just so happens that everyone who I've asked out/has asked me out has been younger than me.

deathzero021:

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

there are people who only date people exactly the same age as themselves? that's f***ing hard. it's hard enough to find someone likable with any age, let alone someone with the same birth day.

Personally I only date my twin sister because I am afraid that society will judge me for dating someone younger or older. We are 5 minutes apart, but I hope that's close enough to avoid judgement...

OT: You're one year apart so I don't see any problem here. I am quite prudish myself when it comes to dating younger girls, so I limit myself to those over 20. Still, if you're interested, go for it, as others have said, it's one year. That's possibly as close as you get to no age difference.

Ehh... if you like someone and they like you, fuck the haters? Within reason. Judge it on a case-by-case basis anyway, if someone seems mature enough then its cool.

I'm of the mindset that age limits are more or less arbitrary and only useful insofar as courts and police officers and the like need something as a general guideline. But if you're only planning on dating then legal age isn't really a concern at all, and if you really do just want opinions on whether dating people younger than you is ok... well, you have them. I think most people don't worry about it this much.

That one year is nothing.
Also for those who are afraid to date younger people should know that in that case they are always going to be the younger part.
The how much younger can I date depends a lot on your own age, I mean when you get to 25 or so I think you can start applying the "half your age plus 7" but before that you should just use common snese I think, which is funny since most teenagers don't seem to have that...
But also think a lot from person to person and the maturytu of said individuals.

Really 1 year i mean com-on who cares but the immature twats at the school. If you feel its an issue then you always will and that will eat you away.

When i was 20 i went through a phase of dating lady's in the 30s was awesome one was 42 and wanted to move me in with her almost did. Yeah i got plenty of stick from friends and my mum and aunties.
Now am 31 and the missis (her indoors) is 23. she the step daughter of one of the guys who i play rugby with. Not once has anyone said anything to me or to her maybe cos we kinda hooked up when she was 21 and me 28.

We do somtimes get some younger girls down the club watching us play i look but there's nothing in it and yeah i have had a few of them basically offer them self's to me and pretty much everyone in the team has. We just laugh it off and stroke our egos the missis kinda likes it she says yeah they want you but ive got you.

ThatRandomGuy42:
Recently, I've found myself very vaguely attracted to someone younger than me, not seriously, but the attraction is there. By younger, I mean she's in the year below me at school. (I'm in 6th year, aged 16 and she's a year below, aged 15 I think). Where I'm from, 16 is the legal age.
While I don't plan to actually initiate a relationship in anyway shape or form, I want to know your opinions on dating someone younger than yourself.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

Opinions?

My ex was a year younger, my current (and much, much more serious) girlfriend is a year older and we are happy. no one really cares about 1 year.

i never heard of half age +7 rule but it soudns stupid to me. so that would mean that at 18 you cannot date somone that is bellow 16? how does that make any sense?
date whoever you want and stop caring what stupid people say.

Uh just to clarify, the year difference isn't why I'm not doing it, I simply wanted opinions...dunno where all this "1 year is ok" stuff is coming from.

My dad is 10 years my mom's senior.

I've never dated someone my age. ('Sjust sorta how it's happened thus far.) They've always been a year younger, and the most recent one was three years.

So, I'm certainly not against it. Age difference really isn't a factor for me. If I'm attracted to a person, it really shouldn't matter. Age doesn't define a person by any means.

As long as they don't act like they're a lot younger.

Heck, I broke up with girls of my age that were increadibly childish, but right now I'm in a serious thing with someone waaayy younger then I am.

One year difference should be good, though. Regardless of your age or any legal matters. Just make sure you're on (at least) similar grounds.

An age difference of one year isn't a problem ever. When a 20 year old starts dating a 14 year old, something is wrong though.

As for me, my first girlfriend was one year younger than me(17 at the time), to which nobody batted an eye about. My current girlfriend is two years older than me, and while we do get occasional "cougar getting a boytoy, eh?"-jokes from our friends, there's still nobody that really cares about that either.

If you feel like asking this girl out, just do it. You've got nothing to lose, except you might want to wait a bit before you start having sex, for obvious reasons.

My girlfriend is younger than I am. She is legal and we are deeply in love. I see nothing wrong with this.

Ultimately, it doesn't really matter once you go past the legal aspect. Once she turns 16 it's fine.

The youngest I've dated was 11 years younger than myself. The closest to my age was about a year younger than me.

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