Do you prefer to date inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race
Inside my ethnicity as a male
52.5% (207)
52.5% (207)
Outside my ethnicity as a male
36.8% (145)
36.8% (145)
Inside my ethnicity as a female
5.1% (20)
5.1% (20)
Outside my ethnicity as a female
4.6% (18)
4.6% (18)
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Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?

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Recently I was asked if I like a certain "ethnic group(Indian)" of girl. My initial reaction was sure why not, but I thought about it after and while and while I would probably not object to a casual relationship or to the bedroom, I can't see myself in a long term relationship with a different ethnic group. A fling is one thing, but taking someone down the aisle is a whole new ball game.

It might sound petty, but if you were to construct an ideal mate most people wouldn't be flipping a coin when choosing skin colour. Oh and for the nerds, no fantasy races don't count.

Edit: I'm using the adjective definition of ethnicity so it applies to race, just to clear this up as apparently there was confusion. Even tho technically race when referring to humans is really a cultural, political and economic concept in society, and it is not a biological concept.

i.e. Caucasian, Asian, Black, Hispanic etc.

Outside, mainly because I find dark hair and dark eyes very attractive whilst I don't really care much about the skin colour, it happens that those features tend to be more common in non-white people and so that's what I tend to go for.

Where's the "Ethnicity doesn't affect dating habits" option?

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Outside, but it's not a strong preference. I have a large extended family, so most of the caucasian women I meet remind me of my cousins.

There are absolutely stunning members of every ethnicity, though, and I've dated black gals, white gals, and asian gals. They were all good women, and at some point you stop noticing the differences in ethnicity. You just notice the differences in personality.

Don't care about ethnicity. But my girlfriend is anglo-saxon like me.

I don't really date anymore, but when the people that I have been with in my life have all been caucasian. *As am I*

I agree with you, most people are attracted to their own race over other races, and people that are into other ethnic groups might have a hard time finding someone else that is also into other groups.

I am fine with most every race, some more than others, and I would most likely date anyone as long as I was into them. You are right though about the fact that if I pictured the ideal person, they would most likely be causcasion. I think because I go for people that are similar to me...yeah.

This is the same as some people are gay and some aren't it is all about preferance. I'm sure there are plenty of black girls into white booty.

Would that not depend what you mean by ethnicity?

Roma, Irish Travellers, Balts, Slavs and various other groups are all generally lumped together under "white", despite being various differences.

Likewise, "black" could refer to anyone with strong African or Indigenous Australian ancestry, and those are two very different groups.

Honestly I don't care I've gone inside and outside my race and the differences are slight. My only real complaint and I don't know how to say it without being racist so fuck it. I don't like black peoples hair. Its thick, gnarled, and makes it hard to snuggle up to someone when your being suffocated by their hair. Perhaps there is some secret that I don't know about, but it was pretty difficult to spoon with my X GF because of it.

Other than that, never really had any problems.

Well, it would seem I'm not most people.

I don't care what ethnicity a potential mate is. Just that you're hot. Ironically, when I was in junior high, I went through a phase where I didn't seem to find any guy that was my ethnicity attractive to me. And I didn't hesitate to say it. I said it to anyone who'd listen. It just didn't seem to be a big deal. But I found all the others very attractive.

Now, I've sorta outgrown that. I can find guys attractive with any type of ethnicity.

My family is relatively mixed in this thought process. But they seem to be coming around.

thaluikhain:
Would that not depend what you mean by ethnicity?

Roma, Irish Travellers, Balts, Slavs and various other groups are all generally lumped together under "white", despite being various differences.

Likewise, "black" could refer to anyone with strong African or Indigenous Australian ancestry, and those are two very different groups.

Yeah I understand what ya mean. My family is Irish-Canadian and a lot of them have a large distaste towards the Polish. Which of course, both are white. So white people can be racist towards other white people.

*I don't dislike polish people like my family, and the hatred between them is because we are a protestant Irish-Canadian family and someone in the family married a polish catholic woman. This joined our families together and the differences in the families started to show and bump heads with each other.*

madwarper:
Where's the "Ethnicity doesn't affect dating habits" option?

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Create an ideal girl from scratch. Does she have the same skin color as you? All that is required to answer the question.

thaluikhain:
Would that not depend what you mean by ethnicity?

Roma, Irish Travellers, Balts, Slavs and various other groups are all generally lumped together under "white", despite being various differences.

Likewise, "black" could refer to anyone with strong African or Indigenous Australian ancestry, and those are two very different groups.

Keep it simple, basically if most people couldn't tell if you're the same ethnicity or not than you are.

Rose and Thorn:

Yeah I understand what ya mean. My family is Irish-Canadian and a lot of them have a large distaste towards the Polish. Which of course, both are white. So white people can be racist towards other white people.

Not nit picking here consider them the same ethnicity i.e. Caucasian

I am more attracted to the norm of certain ethnicities, but know that any ethnic group has its hotties. As for fling vs. long term relationship... it honestly wouldn't be a factor at all.

Most people tend to be attracted to what is similar to themselves which is part of why you see people of the same ethnic backgrounds together I suspect. That being said I come from a Irish heritage and my girlfriend of 6 years comes from a Chinese heritage. So ya I will likely end up with someone of a different heritage. I am happy a bit though I find Asian girls to be easily the most attractive.

I don't consider it. If I like someone I like them :/

disgruntledgamer:

madwarper:
Where's the "Ethnicity doesn't affect dating habits" option?

Captcha: you good?
Yes, I am Captcha, thanks for asking.

Create an ideal girl from scratch. Does she have the same skin color as you? All that is required to answer the question.

thaluikhain:
Would that not depend what you mean by ethnicity?

Roma, Irish Travellers, Balts, Slavs and various other groups are all generally lumped together under "white", despite being various differences.

Likewise, "black" could refer to anyone with strong African or Indigenous Australian ancestry, and those are two very different groups.

Keep it simple, basically if most people couldn't tell if you're the same ethnicity or not than you are.

Rose and Thorn:

Yeah I understand what ya mean. My family is Irish-Canadian and a lot of them have a large distaste towards the Polish. Which of course, both are white. So white people can be racist towards other white people.

Not nit picking here consider them the same ethnicity i.e. Caucasian

You should probably use the word race then. Ethnicity separates people by sociological terms and culture, ie why most Poles and Americans look the same but aren't. While race separates people biologically, ie black, white, asian

eh it does not matter for m

also i feel deep down as a very large black/arabic guy i have been told no i don't date black dudes so much
i would feel like a dick if i told so person i didn't want to date them because of their race instead of them being generally, unlikable or i do not find them attractive.

being a large black dude who doesn't play a sport(professionally, i love some damn basket ball) doesn't have any many benefits
ehehe

disgruntledgamer:

madwarper:
Where's the "Ethnicity doesn't affect dating habits" option?

Create an ideal girl from scratch. Does she have the same skin color as you? All that is required to answer the question.

I don't have any one ideal girl. So, ethnicity does not factor into it.

Lionsfan:

You should probably use the word race then. Ethnicity separates people by sociological terms and culture, ie why most Poles and Americans look the same but aren't. While race separates people biologically, ie black, white, asian

I don't like using the term race because technically it's incorrect, different breeds of dogs are further apart than different races of humans. Different ethnicity is technically the scientifically correct term.

I find it interesting only guys are voting, they're 4 options right?

I don't prefer either. If I find the girl attractive i'd be willing to date her (providing her personality is good as well), I don't specifically go for one ethnic group, although I do admit that I very rarely, if ever find black women attractive... I don't know why.

Ethnicity doesn't matter in my "ideal girl", there are other factors that contribute to that.

disgruntledgamer:
I find it interesting only guys are voting, they're 4 options right?

This site is predominantly male, so answers are always going to skew toward male answers

I don't like using the term race because technically it's incorrect, different breeds of dogs are further apart than different races of humans. Different ethnicity is technically the scientifically correct term.

Different ethnicity is not the scientifically correct term.

Ethnicity: The fact or state of belonging to a social group that has a common national or cultural tradition. The googled definition.

A definition from an anthropology book:

Ethnic Group: Group distinguished by cultural similarities (shared among members of that group) and differences (between that group and others); ethnic group members share beliefs, customs, and norms and, often, a common language, religion, history, geography, and kinship.

For the question you're asking (skin color), race is the correct term here. Yes, as humans we're all very similar, so it's not a different dog breed type of thing, but there are differences between the groups involving small barely noticeable things like bone growth.

Ethnicity is social, race is biological

Ethnicity doesn't matter. As long as my date is a nice person and good to be around [1], I'll date anyone from any ethnic group.

[1] And somewhat good looking. I'm really liberal here, so it won't count in the long run for me.

Lionsfan:

A definition from an anthropology book:

Ethnic Group: Group distinguished by cultural similarities (shared among members of that group) and differences (between that group and others); ethnic group members share beliefs, customs, and norms and, often, a common language, religion, history, geography, and kinship.

For the question you're asking (skin color), race is the correct term here. Yes, as humans we're all very similar, so it's not a different dog breed type of thing, but there are differences between the groups involving small barely noticeable things like bone growth.

Ethnicity is social, race is biological

No it's not the correct word to use here, what year is that book from? We are not separated enough to be considered a different race, Biologically Race Doesn't Exist In Humans.

"Race is a real cultural, political and economic concept in society, but it is not a biological concept, and that unfortunately is what many people wrongfully consider to be the essence of race in humans -- genetic differences," Templeton said. "Evolutionary history is the key to understanding race, and new molecular biology techniques offer so much on recent evolutionary history. I wanted to bring some objectivity to the topic. This very objective analysis shows the outcome is not even a close call: There's nothing even like a really distinct subdivision of humanity."

Source

http://wupa.wustl.edu/record_archive/1998/10-15-98/articles/races.html

http://www.scienceagogo.com/news/19980909040042data_trunc_sys.shtml

http://www.press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/distributed/S/bo3622374.html

As for Ethnicity I'm using the adjective definition not the noun definition.

dictionary.reference.com

ethnic or ethnical

- adj
1. relating to or characteristic of a human group having racial, religious, linguistic, and certain other traits in common

2. relating to the classification of mankind into groups, esp on the basis of racial characteristics

merriam-webster

2
a : of or relating to large groups of people classed according to common racial, national, tribal, religious, linguistic, or cultural origin or background <ethnic minorities> <ethnic enclaves>

So you can use ethnicity to to describe race, but race is technically wrong. You are right tho I could of used a better term but I honestly can't think of one.

disgruntledgamer:

Lionsfan:

A definition from an anthropology book:

Ethnic Group: Group distinguished by cultural similarities (shared among members of that group) and differences (between that group and others); ethnic group members share beliefs, customs, and norms and, often, a common language, religion, history, geography, and kinship.

For the question you're asking (skin color), race is the correct term here. Yes, as humans we're all very similar, so it's not a different dog breed type of thing, but there are differences between the groups involving small barely noticeable things like bone growth.

Ethnicity is social, race is biological

No it's not the correct word to use here, what year is that book from? We are not separated enough to be considered a different race, Biologically Race Doesn't Exist In Humans

Source

http://wupa.wustl.edu/record_archive/1998/10-15-98/articles/races.html

http://www.scienceagogo.com/news/19980909040042data_trunc_sys.shtml

http://www.press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/distributed/S/bo3622374.html

As for Ethnicity I'm using the adjective definition not the noun definition.

dictionary.reference.com

ethnic or ethnical

- adj
1. relating to or characteristic of a human group having racial, religious, linguistic, and certain other traits in common

2. relating to the classification of mankind into groups, esp on the basis of racial characteristics

merriam-webster

2
a : of or relating to large groups of people classed according to common racial, national, tribal, religious, linguistic, or cultural origin or background <ethnic minorities> <ethnic enclaves>

So you can use ethnicity to to describe race, but race is technically wrong. You are right tho I could of used a better term but I honestly can't think of one.

So you're asking what year my book was printed (2011 by the way), and you're giving me sources that are 14, 14, and 10 years old?

Second, you shouldn't be using the adjective definition of ethnicity, not for the question you're asking, grammatically it doesn't make sense. In general terms a noun is a person, place or thing, and you're question: "Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity?" is using ethnicity as a noun. So you can't use ethnicity as a noun in your question, and then decide to use the adjective definition.

But I don't really feel like arguing this anymore, so I'll answer your question.

As a White American, I would probably only date within my Ethnicity.

I mean when all these woman are in my ethnicity:

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why wouldn't I date in my ethnicity?

Sure I'll miss out on these women:

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but oh well, my ethnicity is good enough for me

Lionsfan:

So you're asking what year my book was printed (2011 by the way), and you're giving me sources that are 14, 14, and 10 years old?

Second, you shouldn't be using the adjective definition of ethnicity, not for the question you're asking, grammatically it doesn't make sense. In general terms a noun is a person, place or thing, and you're question: "Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity?" is using ethnicity as a noun. So you can't use ethnicity as a noun in your question, and then decide to use the adjective definition.

The sources have not been refuted and they're many others out there "Race is a real cultural, political and economic concept in society, but it is not a biological concept," When referring to humans.

As I said I should of used a better term, but couldn't think of one so I used the adjective definition for ethnicity, since using race to describe different humans really rubs me the wrong way.

If it's that confusing for you and will make you feel better I'll edit the post and put a disclaimer explaining exactly what I mean. Happy?

It doesn't really matter to me. Living in an area that's hispanic and being hispanic myself, that's who I've dated mostly. Gorgeous women to be sure.

But I have a preference for fair skinned white girls with red hair. And that's exactly what my girlfriend is right now :D

I'm more attracted to white girls than any other skin colour, as I live in a very homogenous area and it's quite rare to see anyone who isn't white. As long as their skin isn't tanned orange...

I'm probably more attracted to white men, but my longest relationship was with someone of Chinese descent (3 years). So I guess it mostly depends on the person individually. As for just looking at, well, it's context sensitive as well. If Chris Hemsworth is in the room, nobody else exists... but if Isiah(sp?) Mustafa (Old Spice dude) is in the room and Chris isn't... no one else exists.

I grew up in a very diverse area - right by a university, so, actually, there were more kids of different races put together than there were white kids in my area in the 80's, so skin colour isn't an issue for me in the slightest. I was also raised incredibly open-minded, so... probably doesn't matter at all.

Moonlight Butterfly:
I don't consider it. If I like someone I like them :/

Yeah but what do you prefer? Everyone has a preference, just a matter of a certain degrees.

IndomitableSam:
I'm probably more attracted to white men

I grew up in a very diverse area - right by a university, so, actually, there were more kids of different races put together than there were white kids in my area in the 80's, so skin colour isn't an issue for me in the slightest.

Kind of a contradiction there.

I'm ethocentric. I can't imagine myself dating girls outside of my ethnicity unless the girl is Asian. I wouldn't mind dating Chinese, Japanese, Tai, Korean, or Viet, but I just can't go beyond that :/

I only date white girls. I'm black . I don't find black girls attractive at ALL . I would like to date a asian girl though . So outside for me .

I haven't really found myself attracted to someone outside my ethnicity/race. Unless you want to count Jews as another ethnicity/race (the boyfriend is Jewish and seems to believe that Jews are different enough to count as a separate ethnicity/race).

I'm coming off as a major antisemitic/racist aren't I? -_-'

so...your telling me you'd only go on a long term relationship with someone who is your race?

How does that make logical sense, exactly? all ethnicity is, is the square footage you happened to be pushed out on and melanin in your skin, its not like people of diffrient ethnicities are any diffrient in any appreciable way romanticly or sexually. (sorry if that was a bit technical, and Im not saying your wrong for doing that, you gotta live your life your way)

So...no. its not something that matters to me. At all. In any way.

disgruntledgamer:

Lionsfan:

You should probably use the word race then. Ethnicity separates people by sociological terms and culture, ie why most Poles and Americans look the same but aren't. While race separates people biologically, ie black, white, asian

I don't like using the term race because technically it's incorrect, different breeds of dogs are further apart than different races of humans. Different ethnicity is technically the scientifically correct term.

I find it interesting only guys are voting, they're 4 options right?

Yeah but I assumed most of the girls were of the ethnicity doesn't matter portion.

disgruntledgamer:
Oh and for the nerds, no fantasy races don't count.

Harsh! If I don't have fantasy, I don't got nuffin'!

But speaking as a pale white boy, I want a pale white girl to spend my life avoiding sunlight with.
I'm not exactly adverse to anyone else, but that's my... default preference, I suppose.

game-lover:

Yeah but I assumed most of the girls were of the ethnicity doesn't matter portion.

Yep, cant vote, don't care either way.
I can't `picture my perfect person` because there is no such person, there are a certain amount of people that I wouldnt like and some I would like and ethnicity doesn't really come into it.
Doesn't matter what ethnicity they are, as long as they are a massive nerd.

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