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I am about 80% sure that I would be okay with dating a MtoF trans. I mean, as long as I find them attractive, both mentally and physically, the fuck do I care what they were born as? Be a bit weird at first if our relationship is physical, me not being much of a fan of penis and all, and post-op vag is a bit...off...but hey, what's a relationship without obstacles to overcome? If I care enough about them, I'll get over myself eventually. And if I really care about them, then I doubt it will be a problem in the first place. | |
As long as she looks female, then sure. Also, I was in love with a FtM transsexual for a while. | |
I couldn't...because I have a partner already. Can't really imagine a life without her. | |
I wouldn't. If I knew someone was a transsexual, I can't imagine being in a relationship with that person. | |
most people would say no once they found out about the persons history | |
pretty sure no. i'm about as straight as you can get and even if i could be initially fooled into being in a relationship i just don't think i could do it. weird kinda double standard i have is that even though i support peoples decisions to be what they want i just can't bring myself to be attracted to anyone who is not happy how they are born, on a basic level that means breast enlargement and plastic surgery but i'm pretty sure transexuality follows the same rules | |
Nope. I couldn't. | |
Yeah. Wouldn't make a difference to me if I'm attracted to the person.
Generally, "transsexual" is the term for people who wish to take all steps necessary to be accepted by society as their chosen gender, while "transgender" is an umbrella term encompassing anyone who feels their gender identity/expression conflicts with what they were assigned at birth (eg transsexualism, crossdressing, drag, genderqueer, genderfuck, etc.) Pre- and post-op can refer to whether someone's gone through sex reassignment surgery, but some see the designation as problematic (placing undue emphasis on one medical procedure over a host of other changes, also possibly implying that SRS is a necessary and sufficient condition to be "complete.") But yeah, terminology can vary a lot based on the individual (what some find to be appropriate, others may find inappropriate or even offensive) so it's a thorny issue. | |
Well, this is a little weird for me. Thanks in no small part to certain porn I've seen over the years, I've developed a mild attraction to pre-op male to female transsexuals. That is, men who have undergone all the stuff save for the change in genitals. Basically, "chicks with dicks" as they're sometimes called. (Forgive me, I'm terrible at explaining shit). But that, for me, seems to be soley sexual. So as to whether I would date one? I don't think so. Can't say for sure though. | |
Would I date one? Probably not. Would I fuck a tranny? Hell yes. Especially if they still have their junk from previously. That shit would be exciting. | |
Nope, body modification is a pretty big turn off for me and someone who has had a sex change is a pretty extreme example of that. | |
Nope, a sex change would be an absolute deal breaker for me. | |
Nope. Because, well... basically because I have a philosophical objection to sticking bits of my anatomy in dudes, regardless of how many medical operations they've undergone. | |
Anyway, I guess if there's really that connection there I don't see why not. I've asked myself this question sometimes, just because if nothing else I'd love to see my family's reaction. I think my parents could deal with it once they got to know them, and I doubt the rest of the family on my dad's side would say anything to my face, but just seeing them sort it out in their heads and figure out how to react would be a fascinating experience. I think my grandparents on my dad's side would behave well enough on the outside, but until they got used to it be very concerned on the inside. I think the most dissent would come from my mom's side of the family. They are mostly Baptists, specifically the kind who a while back were all up in arms about keeping kids from reading Harry Potter or the Golden Compass because they didn't want the plagues of witchcraft or atheism to spread to their children. I'm not sure if they'd actively try to confront us directly or keep us away, but I don't doubt there would be a thick cloud of awkwardness hanging about us. | |
Maybe if I really liked them as a person I could change my mind. Though I couldn't ever date a genetic female that I couldn't personally relate to. | |
Eh, don't see why not. ... I could imagine a man who would only date a transwoman if he knew that, if she had a penis, it was smaller than his, though. | |
My fiance is trans identified. I don't get why people find stuff like this such a big deal. | |
No way in hell. I'm sorry for everyone who feels trapped in the wong gender's physique, but to me if you're a guy then you're a guy. And I'm attracted to girls. And there's more to it. I find people who have undergone heavy duty plastic surgery horribly unappealing. I wouldn't want to date a man who (surgically) became a woman anymore than I would want to date a woman who (surgically) became a man. | |
i don't know perhaps if i knew it AFTER i got to know the person better/good enough to want to be together with her; if i knew about it beforehand i can very well become friends with her, but more than that... no, i guess i am just to conservative/obstinate/whatever regarding that yes, i am a terrible person, i know. | |
you know what. i think i could. i have actually met one once that was very open about it. she was nice and polite and really much more fun to be around than most men and women i know. honestly i don't get the big deal. if you love her, date her. i will admit. it's gonna be awkward at first but i'll get used to it eventually. | |
I don't see why not. Obviously it depends on the person and if I like them or not. | |
Pretty sure I could, as long as they're attractive and we get on with each other then I'm happy. | |
Yeah it probably wouldn't bother me, gender is a fluid thing as it is. I thought I might be trans for a while, then I realised that I just don't give a shit about gender, so I'm bi, (or pan, but I don't like the term, it's fairly pretentious). Yeah, no reason not to. | |
Most definitely not. You can be the prettiest Tran in the entire world but if you were born a guy, I am sorry, I really am, but I wouldn't....no I couldn't be able to look past that. Why? It could be the background I was raised in, but I think the simplest reason to chock it all down to is that medically speaking, YOU ARE A MALE, and I don't date or have romantic relationships with males. I would hang out with you as a friend but there would be no chance for any courtship of any sort. | |
I would, if they completely look like a woman. I won't be attracted if they have a woman's body, but a male-ish face. I haven't thought about FtM, but perhaps I would if he looked completely like a man. Kind of shallow, but there you go ;P | |
It would be very difficult, if not, impossible and awkward if I knew beforehand...I don't really have a fetish for this. | |
Hey! I remember doing this exact same thread like a year ago. It went to like twenty pages and got really, really ugly by page four. This is one of those seemingly benign subjects that holds boundless potential for flame wars. Would I date a transsexual? Am I attracted to them? Then I suppose yes, right? I mean, that's why I don't date men. Not because I hate men, but because I am not attracted to men. Try as I might, the best I can do is objectively recognize a man is attractive, whilst feeling no sexual attraction whatsoever. If I found this hypothetical transsexual attractive, that would be one pretty big stumbling block out of the way, now wouldn't it? Now, it needs to be said, I have broken up with/stopped seeing people for some pretty stupid reasons. I am no paragon of open-mindedness. But these open ended questions can be kind of misleading, because we can substitute in anyone we please. I can imagine the most attractive, convincing transsexual of all time. Of course I'd date that. I'd be silly not to. Would I date the AVERAGE transsexual? One who retained a number of masculine features? Say a strong jaw and some 5 o' clock shadow? Or big line backer shoulders? Or man hands? Eh...probably not. But I'm a shallow prick. | |
....I'm not even completely sure what to say here.
Please don't besmirch medicine to try and defend your feelings on the matter. Medically speaking, a MTF transsexual is not male. I'm not saying you have to want to date or even like transsexuals, but don't hide behind "medicine" to cover YOUR issues with it. That's akin to saying "scientifically speaking, the negro is an inferior species" to explain why you'd never date a black person. You can't just slap "science!" on your phobias, sorry. | |
how fortunate that one does not need a fetish to follow through. | |
I wouldn't know untill I was in love. | |
Absolutely not. I won't judge, but if you have a Y chromosome, in my book, you're a dude. | |
I could, and am. Bits don't matter to me. The thing that bothers me most about it is that she's not comfortable in her own skin, partially because douchebags insist on seeing her as her body, not her. If you're not attracted to people who are transsexual, then fine, you're not attracted to them. Don't be a douche about it, though, and mess all over yourself and each other to try to 'justify' it. | |
True but it's not something I'd enjoy sexually. Still, that said would like to have a child one day[1]. [1] Some distant mystical future | |
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Could You Date A Transexual?
Not cross dressing, because that's fun no matter who you are, but an physically/medically changed person.
But rather a full 'the person went under the knife and had a bridge built or a hole dug' (I'm sure there's a better way at putting it, but I'm not that smart) type of person?
-This question brought to you by me reading the current "Questionable Content" story arc.-
I, personally, am not sure.
While I have transsexual friends, one of whom I'm a godparent to her kid, I'm just not sure if I could do so.
It's one of those weird middle grounds for me where I support the community, but am unsure if I'd be comfortable joining said community in any way outside of friendship or a march.