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Poll: Do you feel uncomfortable around people who are attracted to the same sex?

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So I have an attraction to those of the same sex and of the opposite sex of mine. I guess you could call it bi-sexual but I prefer the term "open"

But enough about me I was in a situation the other day when I told a person that I was attracted to men. He just got really uncomfortable and told me that he refuses to make friends with "fags" then walked away.

I've honestly never run into anyone who was against homosexuality in my life but I'm wondering if there are others.

Are you opposed to homosexuality?

wah?

no....because gay people do not want to screw every person of the same sex in their imediate vicinity, and if you hang out with a gay person they probably arent going to rape you

Nope. But then again, I am a member of the LGBT community, so it'd be quite hypocritical of me to feel that way.

I've encountered that mindset before. It's why I'm quite reserved when it comes to my personal life and sexuality. You never know when somebody is going to react with utter disgust and ruin the social setting you're currently at.

Vault101:
wah?

no....because gay people do not want to screw every person of the same sex in their imediate vicinity, and if you hang out with a gay person they probably arent going to rape you

But... but... what about TEH GAY? I can't be catching that from some homosexual guy!

OT: Nope. Hell, even as a straight guy, I was probably more stereotypically "gay" than some of the bisexual friends I had back in high school.

shrekfan246:

But... but... what about TEH GAY? I can't be catching that from some homosexual guy!

youve already caught "teh gay" its in the drinking water (government conspiricy to lower population) all it takes is a trigger....like playing Mass Effect 3 and having Kaiden/steve hit on you

you cant fight it

If they started hitting on me, I would get a bit uncomfortable. But other than that, I wouldn't really care.

Vault101:

shrekfan246:

But... but... what about TEH GAY? I can't be catching that from some homosexual guy!

youve already caught "teh gay" its in the drinking water (government conspiricy to lower population) all it takes is a trigger....like playing Mass Effect 3 and having Kaiden/steve hit on you

you cant fight it

Dammit!

I knew that water tasted funny... and I get all kinds of weird urges from playing Mass Effect 3. D:

How do I save myself from this horrible affliction?

shrekfan246:

How do I save myself from this horrible affliction?

home labotomy! (since they dont do them anymore)

you just need a powerdrill

Adultism:
So I have an attraction to those of the same sex and of the opposite sex of mine. I guess you could call it bi-sexual but I prefer the term "open"

But enough about me I was in a situation the other day when I told a person that I was attracted to men. He just got really uncomfortable and told me that he refuses to make friends with "fags" then walked away.

I've honestly never run into anyone who was against homosexuality in my life but I'm wondering if there are others.

Are you opposed to homosexuality?

I'm not opposed to it . But homosexuals do make me uncomfortable . Now i won't start throwing rocks at them or anything , but i feel weird around them and not in a good way . I won't discriminate against them though . Discrimination is bad , periode. Ironically homosexual males are some of the nicest people i have ever met . I can't say the same for lesbians though :/. But you know live and let live , it's my burden to bare not yours (theirs).

None at all. Except in a few situations.

Think of it as being the girl walking down the street, and a pack of council workers start wolf whistling at you. You're not interested in them and the attention is unwelcome. That's about the same feeling to me. Now I'm not going to react angrily per se, but it will irritate me nonetheless. Just as that kid following you around at school because you didn't flat out tell them to 'fuck off' or hit them (like everyone else did) is annoying.

And then there's the raging flamboyant "OMGIMSOGAAAAAAYDAHLING" types who are somewhere between "evangelical Vegan" and "door-knocking Jehovah's Witness who visits every week" on the Uzo 'Annoyatron 2000' (patent pending).

The men I know who are fun, intelligent, hard-working, and responsible members of society (who also happen to be gay) do not bother me in the slightest.

In short, if their sexuality means nothing in their relationship with me, then it means nothing to me either.

Although I am pretty damned sexy. I don't blame em for trying. (j/k)

Capcha: win hands down
Awwww yeah.

EDIT: I should be a little clearer on that first paragraph - if a gay guy were 'interested' in me I'd feel like that girl being wolf-whistled. I wouldn't be offended, but I would be irritated at the attention.

Vault101:

shrekfan246:

How do I save myself from this horrible affliction?

home labotomy! (since they dont do them anymore)

you just need a powerdrill

Brilliant! Nothing could possibly go wrong!

I shall return in about an hour, a whole man once more.

Nope. I've been around such people quite a bit, and had no uncomfortable feelings.

Vault101:
youve already caught "teh gay" its in the drinking water (government conspiricy to lower population) all it takes is a trigger....like playing Mass Effect 3 and having Kaiden/steve hit on you

Yep, that is one damn offensive game.

bit uncomfortable being nakid in front of gays. the whole "just because they are gay doesn't mean they want to screw you" defense is great up til the point they start watching you shower at the gym and getting googlie eyes

Adultism:
Do you feel uncomfortable around people who are attracted to the same sex?

Not really. What makes me feel uncomfortable is if I'm around someone who is attracted to me (or whom I believe are attracted to me) if I'm not attracted to them, male or female.

Adultism:
Are you opposed to homosexuality?

Haha, fuck no. Lesbian porn is hawt.

I have no idea. I've never really met someone who I knew was gay that was around my age group, so I don't know how I'd feel. I'd probably be fine with them until/if they started hitting on me. I guess, at any rate.

Edit: And no, I'm not opposed to homosexuality. I have no reason to be, especially since I enjoy a lot of lesbian pornography. And it's really just a basic human right to be attracted to someone of the same sex and be with them.

Not at all, but I do feel uncomfortable when I'm in a 찜쟐방Jjimjilbang. Jjimjilbang's are basically Korean public bath houses/saunas where you pay ~$5 to have a schvitz, and bullshit with other men/women. In Korea, homosexuality is a giant taboo, but in a Jjimjilbang, all bets are off (mind you, you're naked the whole time). Straight men will sit VERY close, rub your shoulders and legs, stare for extremely long times, ask you questions about your equipment, etc...

When I go with my gay bestie, even he feels a tad uncomfortable.

Haven't hung around that many gay people in my time, but no.
The most "uncomfortable" I get is when you get those people. You know the ones. That whole "omg im so ttly *insert some obscure fucking sexuality here"
Ugh.

mokes310:
Not at all, but I do feel uncomfortable when I'm in a 찜쟐방Jjimjilbang. Jjimjilbang's are basically Korean public bath houses/saunas where you pay ~$5 to have a schvitz, and bullshit with other men/women. In Korea, homosexuality is a giant taboo, but in a Jjimjilbang, all bets are off (mind you, you're naked the whole time). Straight men will sit VERY close, rub your shoulders and legs, stare for extremely long times, ask you questions about your equipment, etc...

When I go with my gay bestie, even he feels a tad uncomfortable.

...so why keep on going?

I would imagine it would come down to the same thing as women. Are you less comfortable around women then men because you feel like they might be into you? Personally I don't really find these things occur to me unless someone brings it up but even then I am pretty open minded if someone is into me it just means I need to be cautious not to lead them on in some way by accident and maybe be a little more aware of their feelings.

If you feel uncomfortable for some other reason than I don't really know what to say except you might be just over thinking the situation people are just people and their sexuality is only as relevant as the situation.

hazabaza1:
Haven't hung around that many gay people in my time, but no.
The most "uncomfortable" I get is when you get those people. You know the ones. That whole "omg im so ttly *insert some obscure fucking sexuality here"
Ugh.

mokes310:
Not at all, but I do feel uncomfortable when I'm in a 찜쟐방Jjimjilbang. Jjimjilbang's are basically Korean public bath houses/saunas where you pay ~$5 to have a schvitz, and bullshit with other men/women. In Korea, homosexuality is a giant taboo, but in a Jjimjilbang, all bets are off (mind you, you're naked the whole time). Straight men will sit VERY close, rub your shoulders and legs, stare for extremely long times, ask you questions about your equipment, etc...

When I go with my gay bestie, even he feels a tad uncomfortable.

...so why keep on going?

Motel room after a night of drinking =$50

Jjimjilbang = $5

I should have clarified...You're not naked in the sleeping rooms, just the sauna and hot tub areas...

Depends?

Personal experience goes 50-50 between completely regular person to a full blown "helllllllo sailor" stereotype.

Adultism:
So I have an attraction to those of the same sex and of the opposite sex of mine. I guess you could call it bi-sexual but I prefer the term "open"

But enough about me I was in a situation the other day when I told a person that I was attracted to men. He just got really uncomfortable and told me that he refuses to make friends with "fags" then walked away.

I've honestly never run into anyone who was against homosexuality in my life but I'm wondering if there are others.

Are you opposed to homosexuality?

Tell the guy that it's just as well, because you feel uncomfortable around giant douchecanoes.

This may sound odd, especially since I'm a homosexual myself, but I'm just not sure how I would act if I met someone of the same sexuality. I guess I just wouldn't know how to conduct myself around them. It would probably boil down to me asking a lot of questions about their experiences and how they dealt with it. I'm still very much in the closet at this point.

I won't think lower of anyone who feels a little bit uncomfortable being around me; it's not something openly explored in society. I understand. However, if it begins to leave 'uncomfortable' and they start treating me like I'm sexually assaulting them simply by looking at them, I have one thing to say.

"Do you hit on and attempt to have sex with every lady you meet? Then I'm sure we can inhabit the same room without a problem."

Of course, that's assuming the person in question is male. Ladies are just as capable of homophobia as anyone, but I just don't see it as often. At least in the case of homosexual men.

Nope. Why would I?

I can't even say I'd feel uncomfortable if a girl tried to hit on me because I'm all bicurious and wanna know what it's like some day to be with a woman.

But yeah, I can only see myself uncomfortable if there's PDA. It's nothing to do with them personally. I just dislike PDA period. With anyone, no matter the orientation.

Nope. I actually enjoy their company. Some of the best times I've ever had were with my gay friend I met through an old job, and he was as openly gay as they come. He was also invaluable support for my adventures in reeling in the ladies when we went out. I had (have) no style, but he did, and always made sure I was dressed to the nines in sexy on those nights.

I wished he was still living here. Haven't made any good friends since he moved back home, to Alabama of all places. He still visits often though, so it's always a blast to fire bomb the hang outs with awesome.

I feel no more uncomfortable around gay people than I do around straight people.

Yes, but not for the reasons you're probably thinking. My lack of contact with openly gay people is a result of the tiny midwestern town I come from where open homosexuality was scorned. I've had a few gay friends, but not many.

I have no illusions about my privilege giving me the ability to forget that not everyone has the sexual orientation that I take for granted. I am also well aware that my gay-dar is hilariously bad. It generally doesn't even occur to me that someone might be gay until they explicitly say so.[1] So the first time I find out someone is gay, I have this uncomfortable moment where I mentally backtrack through everything I've said around them and think to myself, "Oh my god, did I say anything offensive?" Not that I have a habit of saying things that should be offensive to homosexual people, but like I said, I know I'm pretty privileged and oblivious in this regard. Once we meet and get along for a couple of times I usually get past that discomfort and start seeing them as normal people.

It's something that I've been trying to work on, particularly when I consider the possibility that I may have homosexual students. Particularly since a large portion of my students are Muslim men from Saudi Arabia, they may be students who feel strong pressure to conceal their homosexuality. They may even say anti-gay things in order to put up an appearance of being straight.

[1] It's even worse for lesbians. I've had an unfortunate tendency to find myself more attracted to quite a few women who are not interested in men without even realizing they might not be straight.

My little brother's gay...

...so that's a negatory good buddy.

He tells the funniest stories about his hookups. That can get a little awkward, but in a hilarious OMG!-WTF?-TMI! kinda way. So I just tell him about vaginas and then he gets to squirm.

It's a thing we have.

Not really, one of my godparents is actually gay, he's been one of my mum's best friends for a very long time, and I've known him all 24 years of my life. Aside from that, I have a number of gay friends that I see on a regular basis. The difference in sexuality barely registers, I just see them as a friend. If they start talking about their love life, then yes it registers, but it never bothers me.

I just made plans to go to a concert with a gay-guy, so I hope I'll be able to talk to him as if he were an actual human being...

In other words, no I don't have problems with gay people in genaral.

No.

Apparently, though, there's a strong overlap between people who do, and people who feel oddly rejected/offended when told that a given gay person doesn't find them attractive, which seems odd.

Usually I don't really feel uncomfortable around homosexual individuals but I have had an encounter with a bisexual individual in high school who would, at times, describe his sexual life in detail to me personally with the expressed intention of desiring sexual interaction with me. As in he had said specifically that he had feelings for me which I did not share. It made talking to him a little bit uncomfortable. I do find myself generally siding with the arguments presented by gay rights advocates but even I have certain limits in terms of social interaction, though I might have the same reaction if some woman I don't like came onto me so it is an overall mixed bag for me. Sorry people.

Only in the presence of... I guess "extreme" homosexuality, as in when some tool turns the flamboyance up to 11. But that doesn't really have anything to do with homosexuality since I would find a straight individual being that happy-go-lucky and excitable just as annoying.

Nope.
I've been around gay people my entire life, my mum's best friend is a lesbian. And for the `it'll confuse the children` folks, it never confused me at all.
In fact I used to spend the majority of my time with a girl who happened to be attracted to girls and boys.
Unless you are planning to do the nasty with someone, their sexuality is really not important.
I'm also cool with (slight) PDA of all kinds, hugging and no tongue kiss and all that, show affection to your loved one by all means, but no matter what your sexuality, no slurping their face please.

Nope. I've been hit on by guys before, and it never bothered me. I would just inform them that I wasn't gay, and it they understood. Never had any problems with anyone regarding the matter though.

Berithil:
If they started hitting on me, I would get a bit uncomfortable. But other than that, I wouldn't really care.

This. I have nothing against homosexuals but if they hit on me then there will be a problem

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