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Press Junketeer  Posts: 464 Joined: 9 Apr 2008     | |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 1761 Joined: 3 Sep 2008     | it isnt important as long as you dont date a 5 year old or a granny |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008   | 3 years up 3 years down, anything else and it's weird. Though this only applies for 22 and up, if you are under that then it's 2 years in either direction. |
Press Junketeer Posts: 464 Joined: 9 Apr 2008 |
ya, kinda what i was thinking... this girl is about 2.6 years older than me..(which really sucks..) |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008 | Thinking about it it really differs, guys can go whatever up, in my opinion but at max 3 years down while women can go about 4 years down and whatever up. Just is part of society that an older guy dating a younger girl is considered a bit of a pedo while an older woman dating a younger guy is considered a bit strange but not that weird. If you like her and she likes you it's fine, if you were 18-19 and she was 15 you would be a bit of a pedo (literally, i think it's a law). Edit: Outside your problem there is a point where an age gap is just too strange and shouldn't be attempted, like between a 6 and 9 year gap is getting weird, at best it should be avoided. Double edit: i'm talking in adult relationships where both participants are at minimum 19. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 1664 Joined: 9 Aug 2008    | My issue with age stems mainly with two things. One, being that I have a younger brother who is two and a half years younger than myself. And me dating any person nearing my brother's age instantly becomes very awkward and morally wrong to me. Two, me already feeling that it is morally wrong for my own reasons, I have the disposition to date only girls of my age group or within about one or two years. But much to my dismary, all the girls in my age group are dating, guess what, guys who are upwards of two years older than myself. And more often than that, they are up to three, four, even five years older then themselves. I know teenage, high school girls who flirt around with grown men. All of this is highly disturbing and I am forced to rely very heavily on my dashing good looks and killer personality to get girls despite this handicap. Luckily I don't have to lower my standards for someone I wouldn't date due to this, I just work it out. Still. It makes things very difficult for individuals such as myself. And even then, the idea of me, being 18 dating a girl just entering high school, beginning her teenage life while I am legally an adult, that all just seems pretty... well, wrong I'm sorry to say. I don't hate people who do this really, just people who take advantage of that situation (if you catch my drift) and of the girls involved. Then I do hate that person, and really they just make me lose faith in common descensy. I don't want to be dating a chick whom, when I was trying to get toothy, amateurish blowjobs from girls my age, she was still playing with her Barbie Dolls (if I may draw a picture for you). So, it does matter to me, yes. I want someone who will age with me at the same time and rate, and who shares the same generational expierences as myself. I don't think that's too much to ask. That's my stance on the subject. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 2664 Joined: 4 Nov 2007   | The "weird threshold" is a gradually increasing number as age increases. A 4 year difference is weird when the younger partner is 16, but it's nothing to bat an eyelid at when that younger partner is 40. |
King of the Yetis  Posts: 2539 Joined: 15 Jul 2008   | Know what's morally wrong? People casting judgment on other people's relationships. |
Copy Clerk  Posts: 110 Joined: 26 Apr 2008     | Yea it varys by age. When your young anything 2 years or higher usually seems weird. The older you get the more range you get. My parents are like 6-8 years apart or something and it doesn't really seem weird at all. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 2904 Joined: 12 May 2008    | I think that the limit for when your under 25 is 3 years. Afterwards, age is just a number. I know a couple with a ten year age difference. Been married 24 years. |
Copy Clerk Posts: 60 Joined: 22 Mar 2008   | Sounds like a bad idea |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 2664 Joined: 4 Nov 2007 |
If only I'd put in writing my suspicion that someone would find the High Horse Stables only a couple of posts after mine - I'd have looked incredibly prescient. |
King of the Yetis Posts: 2539 Joined: 15 Jul 2008 |
Nah. High horse stables are next door. This is the 'you're condemning my relationship and the way I've chosen to live my life' car rental place. |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008 |
That place sucks they charge way too much and always attract the "Oh shut up who are you to judge someone even if they judged others crowd", I'd recommend the high horse stable in the future, plus you don't have to pay tax. |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 1664 Joined: 9 Aug 2008 |
I like the way you put it. That's my outlook on it, however, it doesn't change my preference of being with an individual who will age at the same rate as myself. |
On the Record  Posts: 5674 Joined: 2 Dec 2007    | Do it the XKCD way: |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008 |
Thats actually really good. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 1464 Joined: 15 May 2008   |
This is basically the situation with me and my best friend. We dated and I had just turned 16 and he was 19. My stepdad didn't approve and as much as he denies it, I think that it added to our break up. He's now my best friend and we do occasionally indulge in each other's company, but I think that we're closer for it. If age is the only thing holding you two back, I'd go for it. You don't want to be left wondering "What if...?" No matter how old you both get, the age gap will still be the same. If you both feel like you can handle the age difference and could handle the relationship, go for it. -Rad. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 2302 Joined: 20 Feb 2008   |
Sweet I'm just the right age to still be dating 18 year old girls :P Edit: Okay serious face time again. Look when it comes to age in relationships American society at least really focuses on the youth when it comes to relationships. Of course in the end it is down to the individual and their family. As time passes the only other time people will focus on the age gap is when you are in the media as a "scandal" or political party. John McCain for example(Really do not mean to rag on him but he is current news and just makes things easy for me, and yes I am a registered republican shocked at the convention this year) is about 22 years OLDER than his current WIFE! That is right folks the potential oldest president married this woman because they had an affair is over 2 decades older than her. Not many people really focus on this because there is something else that is just screaming media coverage and that is the Republican V.P. Palin who's daughter is 17, pregnant and to my knowledge still in a relationship(I feel sorry for the guy really) with the guy that impregnated her. Strangely enough people are viewing this as okay and not really worried about the age difference or that the male in question commited pedophila(sorry it is really late I hope someone corrects me) against the daughter. I do have that stigma as well that when you are young you really have to watch that age bar closely because to the law and society and the people who love you, it isn't about love when you could get in trouble with the law. One of my friends in college is almost in his 30's and he is living with his GF from the same college and she is 23. I don't even think about it really because it is after college that you stop caring about the age of an individual but the actual potential to have a long term relationship. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 1113 Joined: 19 May 2008   |
My thought exactly. As long as both people are reasonably mature (say, 16+) it does not and should not matter. |
Pulitzer Laureate  Posts: 911 Joined: 20 Jun 2008   | As long as you dont do 'it' until she's the proper age no one will care. That why I love Austalia. In America you have to be 21 to drink and 18 to have sex. In Australia you have to be 18 to drink and 16 to have sex! |
On the Record Posts: 5674 Joined: 2 Dec 2007 |
It hasn't slipped up yet. So if tthor's 16, that means he should be able to date 15 year olds and up. Though an 18 year old should be a ble to date a 16 year old. He should be in the clear. But, who can put numbers on love? |
Pulitzer Laureate Posts: 911 Joined: 20 Jun 2008 |
I can. 69 |
On the Record Posts: 5674 Joined: 2 Dec 2007 |
I don't know if I should hate you or buy you a beer. Is it possible to do both? |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008 |
Buy him a lite beer. |
Pulitzer Laureate Posts: 911 Joined: 20 Jun 2008 |
Hell yes its possible. I do it all the fucking time. |
On the Record Posts: 5674 Joined: 2 Dec 2007 |
Ohh, good move. |
Pulitzer Laureate Posts: 911 Joined: 20 Jun 2008 |
AAARRRGHGHHH!!! Feel the forces of lite beer approaching! ARGH! ITS BURNS! buejlafbeutr6793q2gbyugfTYUI!KJ!! |
On the Record Posts: 5674 Joined: 2 Dec 2007 | PurpleRain buys ANTI-SANTA lite beer: |
Gone Gonzo Posts: 3587 Joined: 6 Aug 2008 |
You think thats bad? I could've said he should buy you a packet of menthols. |
Copy Clerk  Posts: 70 Joined: 4 Sep 2008 | 2-3 years is nothing. It's really common for people who I know (18-19 year olds) to be going out with 23+ year olds. |
Beat Writer  Posts: 135 Joined: 30 Jul 2008   |
Post of truth. |
Gone Gonzo  Posts: 2770 Joined: 13 Feb 2008 |
Yeah, but the High Horse Stable is right across from the Overextended Metaphor dollar store. That place just seems creepy. |
Muckraker  Posts: 346 Joined: 7 Jun 2008    | What if you were 13, but looked like 15 and the girl was 17... that would work...right?.... RIGHT? |
Muckraker Posts: 346 Joined: 7 Jun 2008 | What if you were 13, but looked like 15 and the girl was 17... that would work...right?.... RIGHT? |
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how important is age in a relationship?
for example,
im 16, and theres this 18(almost 19) year old girl thats basicly my best friend.
we get along great, we both act alike, we've both refered to each other as attractive, and both of us have even said that if it werent for the age difference, we'd probably date...
what do u think? how important is age in a relationship?