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Poll: Have you ever dated someone of a different nationality/religion/ethnicity?


I've dated someone with a different:
Ethnicity
8% (7)
8% (7)
Religion
8% (7)
8% (7)
Nationality
6.9% (6)
6.9% (6)
Ethnicity & Religion
14.9% (13)
14.9% (13)
Religion & Nationality
8% (7)
8% (7)
Ethnicity & Nationality
6.9% (6)
6.9% (6)
All three
21.8% (19)
21.8% (19)
None of the above
25.3% (22)
25.3% (22)
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Never successfully, but I've tried at various times to date an Indian Girl and a Chinese Girl. I've rarely gotten far enough to actually ask about religion though. I did grow up in Southern Calgary though, which is FULL of Mormons, and they don't date "outside" the fold, I had a friend who converted for a girl and I still have a bunch of friends who are of the Mormon persuasion. A good female friend of mine in University however was a devout Lutheran and one of her boyfriends was an Atheist, it was always fun watching them fight about religion. Also my Girlfriend WAS a Wiccan, but she has since followed me into the realm of healthy skepticism, though she is far more "spiritual" than I am.

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I'm not white but I've always lived in places where white people make up the overwhelming majority so I would have to say yes to all three.

Although looking back, it's amazing how utterly boring most white people are when it comes to being in relationships with them.

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i'm dating a girl from the west indies right now.
she's a different ethnicity and nationality from me.

(yay 700 posts!)

Gone Gonzo
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My first girlfriend was black and protestant. I am white and Jewish. Man, my mom really did not like that. There was a period where she wouldn't let her in the house. My dad eventually calmed her down but she never liked her and was happy as can be when we broke up. A part of me still resents her for that...

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Caliostro:

I'm sorry, but like famous comedian Dylan Moran said: "So I do respect all the differences [between religions] but I would say that if you believe in any of it you're a moron.". And I really wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone I'd consider to be stupid.

And I don't date people who let comedians decide their opinions for them, so I guess that leaves us as just friends.

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Zing!

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wilsonscrazybed:

Caliostro:

I'm sorry, but like famous comedian Dylan Moran said: "So I do respect all the differences [between religions] but I would say that if you believe in any of it you're a moron.". And I really wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone I'd consider to be stupid.

And I don't date people who let comedians decide their opinions for them, so I guess that leaves us as just friends.

I don't know what you crazy kids are calling now, but back in my day we'd say that bitch just got owned.

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Caliostro:

Discussing the topic itself I'm fine with, I just wanna avoid the unnecessary and unrelated drama that "ZOMFG RELIGION" tends to bring in.

Fair enough. Never really thought the religion part would be the controversial part!

HerrBobo:
Well not dated, but I have...erm...entertained women of several diffrent nationalities and religions at my flat.

Prostitutes?

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wilsonscrazybed:

Caliostro:

I'm sorry, but like famous comedian Dylan Moran said: "So I do respect all the differences [between religions] but I would say that if you believe in any of it you're a moron.". And I really wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone I'd consider to be stupid.

And I don't date people who let comedians decide their opinions for them, so I guess that leaves us as just friends.

That's not what you said last night wilson <3

And yeah, it's called a quote. If you prefer it I can be a little more brutal and put it my way. S'all the same with me.

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Caliostro:

That's not what you said last night wilson <3

It was a one time thing...

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All three. I'm a white Jamaican atheist. My first girlfriend was a black Jamaican Christian, second was a white American Wiccan and my current one is a half-black, half-Indian Jamaican agnostic.

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...Never date a Taoist if you're a cynical bastard like myself...ugh she pissed me off sometimes.

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i dated a Christan Korean girl, and a African girl i think she was Mormon .

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Well, I went out with a girl who I now doubt is even human, does that count?

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wilsonscrazybed:

Caliostro:

That's not what you said last night wilson <3

It was a one time thing...

Oh sure...Now that you got what you wanted... Typical.

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No, but I'm really attracted to an international student at uni. We get on dead well and she's just so lovely... Damn, I wish I had more confidence!

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Eggo:
I'm not white but I've always lived in places where white people make up the overwhelming majority so I would have to say yes to all three.

Although looking back, it's amazing how utterly boring most white people are when it comes to being in relationships with them.

It's true. I really wanna know how long it took you to figure that out. I'm white and it took me over sixteen years.

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Well I first started dating when I was 13...It took wayyy too long :(

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I briefly dated a girl of half Chinese ancestry if that counts. I think we were both atheist as well. Not many religious people at all round my way.

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I went out with a Jewish girl for a while at the beginning of uni, so i suppose that means a different religion and ethnicity, right? She had to keep me a secret from her parents cos they would NOT have approved. I found it a bit strange but I was fascinated learning about her culture. I'm from a very white middle class English city, York, and had not really encountered many ethnic minorities before. She had quite a lot of guilt because she was doubting her faith. I'm an atheist and, though it may be irrational, I also had a bit of guilt about making her doubt her faith. I didn't want to hurt her In hindsight I probably should have helped her deal with those doubts, but I didn't want to feel like I was forcing my opinions on her. We didn't stay together that long, but I don't think that was because of religion.

Also, one of my best friends is a girl of Indian descent who's family are strict Muslims. She went out with an evangelical Christian for a while a few months back but he ended up breaking up with her because she wouldn't convert! She has spent her life being smothered by her parents and their religious views (that's how she sees it) and she was not about opt into another. I think she also struggled with his 'no sex before marriage' policy, though he once told me proudly that fore-play isn't mentioned in the bible so God doesn't mind that!

Edit: I am currently in Ghana as part of a project for university. I'm a music student and im training in traditional drumming and dancing and doing a photography project. I have a picture on Flickr of one of the dancers in the group I'm training with. I think she is beautiful. I know it's a shameless plug but here's the link:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/22753389@N06/2996255094/

If anyone has any constructive criticism on any of my photos, I'd really appreciate it, although please use Flickr, not this forum!

Another edit: I've actually started a thread asking for feedback on my photos. here's that link:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.77735?p=1#951180

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rossatdi:

Caliostro:

Discussing the topic itself I'm fine with, I just wanna avoid the unnecessary and unrelated drama that "ZOMFG RELIGION" tends to bring in.

Fair enough. Never really thought the religion part would be the controversial part!

HerrBobo:
Well not dated, but I have...erm...entertained women of several diffrent nationalities and religions at my flat.

Prostitutes?

Ha Ha! Ermm...no.

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Well, I've never dated anyone. But, if I did, I doubt I'd discriminate against nationality and ethnicity. But, religion is a problem, as my way of life and opinions could contradict hers, which would affect her decision to date me and vice versa.

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She believed in ghosts...does that count?

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the monopoly guy:
She believed in ghosts...does that count?

Well, that is a belief concerning the afterlife so...yes? I think?

Anyway, being Asian-Australian and living in the most hypocritically racist area of the entire US (that is, East Bay California where all the girls constantly spout how they don't like racists and racial discrimination yet exclusively date white guys [and it doesn't end there]) I haven't really had much luck with people of different ethnicities. I find most Caucasian females here to be too snobby and pretentious in that literally every school in the state is like a fashion show, we don't have any single black girls, and I haven't really found any latinas to make friends with yet.

Different religion, yes. Being an atheist I've been quite flexible in my choices, so far as to try dating an Evangelist.

And I haven't found another Ozzie in this state yet.

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rossatdi:
This came up as I was chatting with my friends yesterday. Most of us are white, English and atheist/agnostics and universally we appear to have gone out with similar people over the years.

I kind of bucked the trend with 2 Americans and a Scot but they were all white atheists. Considering I live and went to school in an area of London with a substantial mix of ethnicities I find this worrying.

Am I subconsciously avoiding non-white woman even if I find them attractive? Is this natural? Is it bad?

Do I automatically tune out when I find someone is religious? It certainly hasn't affected friendships.

I found the nationalities actually help as a conversation starter.

I find Latina women to be unbelievably attractive. I have never DATED one, per se, not for lack of trying, just because the ones I tried to date weren't interested. I always said (Sexism Alert) that if I were single and rich, I wanted to travel the world sleeping with women from every culture...

As for YOU being a racist or even just biased, I have no clue. I get on better with white women than Latina or even black women. That's all there is to it, we just have more in common. Not that I didn't flirt with a few black women in my day either. So yeah, anyway. Back on topic. Maybe it is just your preference (I don't get on well with Atheists either, so I don't see anything wrong with that. It is just easier to make a relationship work if you both believe in one thing.) That is all I can really add at this point...

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rossatdi:

AuntyEthel:

Didn't really mean scared of non-whites. Its just as you said in the OP: its a little weird which makes you subconciously avoid it. On my first trip to London I somehow ended up in Harrow with an Indian girl. The whole ethnic-nationality thing is bullshit, I agree. One Love, and all that jazz.

Agreed. You've been to Harrow? Poor you!

I think the most beautiful person I've ever seen in the flesh was actually a lady of African decent. I was drinking in a bar in New York and she came up next to us and ordered some drinks. She was clearly around 30 but actually blew us away. She looked like a model or an actress or something but seemed to just be hanging out with office folk.

*cues the playing of Sublime - Date Rape* Because thats the only way you will get with her.

EDIT: Agree with some of the above posts regarding same ethnicity relationships.

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zhoomout:
No, but I'm really attracted to an international student at uni. We get on dead well and she's just so lovely... Damn, I wish I had more confidence!

Just do it, you will feel better and you will be stress free. She probably doesn't even know you like her.

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Ethnicity & Religion, not too many though.

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ive only dated 3 or 4 girls, all of them of different etnicity, mostly cuz im mexican and i live in america. oh btw im only 14 so if the people who say they havent dated anyone r older then me im sorry to say this but, either lower ur standards or find out whats repelling girls from u

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but i dont want to offend anyone

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jim_doki:
i've slept with two asian chicks, does that count

At the same time? You get a bonus multplier!

I voted "none of the above" and suddenly remembered my first girlfriend was not my ethnicity. Sorry Sarah!

HerrBobo:
Well not dated, but I have...erm...entertained women of several diffrent nationalities and religions at my flat.

Like... with card tricks and stuff?

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I'm an Asian Catholic. Never was into Asian women.

Dated:
White Agnostic.
White Pagan.

Married:
White Protestant who converted to Catholicism.

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speedcoreXdandy:
Well, I went out with a girl who I now doubt is even human, does that count?

Was she a Twi'lek?

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I think that race preference is more of a result of our surroundings as a child. I grew up in a primarily asian/caucasian mixed heritage area, so I find women of that caliber attractive. I've never been attracted to any africans, pure whites, pure asians, etc.
Maybe I'm just picky
As for religion, as long as she doesn't try to influence me too much, I don't mind. Unless she's like, y'know. A Satanist. I don't like having dead pigs floating around my apartment.

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Dating a white Afrikaans (South African-Dutch) girl who is a Christian (I don't identify with any one religion). We get along pretty well, though sometimes it's hard to decipher what she's saying, as she doesn't have as good a grasp on the English language.

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Yes, I've dated an Asian girl briefly. Korean descent, if you want to get specific. It didn't last long, and the rest have been white like myself.

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