Hey guys, I feel alittle akward asking something like this over the internet, but there's this girl I really like and I want to go out with her. We're friends, but not too close, so I need some advice on how to get close to her and ask her out

Get close to her. Then ask her out.

Sorry, I don't really see what there is to be confused about. What, specifically, are you having trouble with?

Anonymouse:
Too many threads on this subject right now @_@
I will try a different tactic for this one. You are not too close to her so have nothing to lose. So lift your skirt, find your testicles, walk up to her and just ask her.

I was going to say the same thing... without the insult.

Btw nice touch anonymouse

Tell her you want to take her out on a date and see if she says yes or no.

"I really enjoy the time we spend together but there are always other people around when i see you. I was wondering if you'd like to go out to *------* with just me so we could actually get a chance to talk" Simple, sweet, minimal balls needed.

And remember, don't whip your dick out unless she asks for it. Or she's sleeping.

I ask a girl out today actually. She's a friend, not too close.
I just walked up to her, started a conversation, after a while I said I should get going and then just casually asked her out. Worked like a charm! Now give me a cookie :)

Ask her if your rag smells like chloroform, then take her home and have a nice conversation with her.

First think of something for you to do with her.
Second make sure you can really do said thing(homework, money, transportation)
Third Ask and wait for it. Don't get yourself worked up to much, relax.

Sexual Harassment Panda:
Ask her if your rag smells like chloroform, then take her home and have a nice conversation with her.

Don't forget to tie her up though. She might.. resist.

Ask for a coffee. Not a date, as such, and take it from there.

Mariena:

Sexual Harassment Panda:
Ask her if your rag smells like chloroform, then take her home and have a nice conversation with her.

Don't forget to tie her up though. She might.. resist.

And don't forget to tie her up BEFORE the lotion goes on the skin, or the ropes just slip right off.

Just ask her out, but don't make it the whole topic of the conversation, ask around the time one of you has to leave.

Just try and talk to her more, its not complicated.

MaxMees:
Just try and talk to her more, its not complicated.

Sound advice. Don't go too fast, but don't just sit there. Get a group of friends together, a small group, to go to a movie or something, and then tell her that one of the group couldn't go, so you had an extra ticket,that kind of thing. It sounds corny, but ask her if she wants to grab coffee or lunch or something. Just start hanging out with her, let her get to know you, and let it escalate from there.

Just say hi everyday. you'll get closer as friends and try to do things that would make you best friends then you can try to ask her out then.

God, it really depends on how old you are. I rememeber early high school and everyone running around dating their friends and poking around to see if they can figure out if somebody is interested...

Whereas here most of us are old enough and confident enough that we'll probably figure out if somebody's interested fairly quickly and if they are there's not a lot stopping us from *going ahead and asking*. Ask what you say? Depends on your + her interests and whatever you think you have in common - or failing that, lunch. Because everyone needs to eat and if she doesn't then run away because she's a vampire.

Maybe don't lead with, "Do you want to go out with me?" That's a little...global. Pick a specific activity, like a movie or something, tell her you are going and then ask if she'd like to go with you. "Hey, by the way, I'm going to see [X] this Friday. Would you like to come with me?" And do really go to [X] whether she accepts or not. That way, you have a second try option. "It was really to bad you couldn't go to [X] with me the other day. It was great, I think you would have liked it. But maybe sometime we could go to [Y]." Etc.

Don't make her think that you are hanging on her for the activity. It works a lot better if she thinks you have a life and want to invite her along on it, rather than thinking you are relying on her to get you a life.

The_Deleted:
Ask for a coffee. Not a date, as such, and take it from there.

Yeah but if you do that your stuck in the perpetual "is she my friend or MORE" stage and that can only get uglier.

What country do you live in? (yes it matters)

Skullkid4187:
Just say hi everyday. you'll get closer as friends and try to do things that would make you best friends then you can try to ask her out then.

Bad advice. That will lead you into the friend zone rather than the potential boyfriend zone and its damned hard to escape. Just suck it up and ask her out. She'll already know if she's attracted to you or not, getting closer before asking won't make a blind bit of difference. And don't make a big deal if she says no either, after all its not like you have anything to lose right?

If at all possible, get to know her friends, too. You will eventually earn their trust, do stuff with them, and you at one point will be able to casually ask to do something and let her know it would be just you two. It took me two and a half weeks, but it was worth it.

AfroNinja117:
Hey guys, I feel alittle akward asking something like this over the internet, but there's this girl I really like and I want to go out with her. We're friends, but not too close, so I need some advice on how to get close to her and ask her out

Get her drunk.

AfroNinja117:
Hey guys, I feel alittle akward asking something like this over the internet, but there's this girl I really like and I want to go out with her. We're friends, but not too close, so I need some advice on how to get close to her and ask her out

lol i had a simlar problem. I asked her out on facebook, she didn't reply. I sent her a mesdsage, she blocked me. I see her all the time and she hasn't spoken to me since.
Not very halpeful am i?

Direct application of blunt force to the back of the head will render her unconscious. Then grab her comatose form by her hair and drag her back to your cave. Once she comes about, she will realise that escape is pointless and gather for your tribe.

bad rider:

Anonymouse:
Too many threads on this subject right now @_@
I will try a different tactic for this one. You are not too close to her so have nothing to lose. So lift your skirt, find your testicles, walk up to her and just ask her.

I was going to say the same thing... without the insult.

Btw nice touch anonymouse

i also thought that too, there seem to be a new thing where guys post their girl troubles on the escapist forums in the past few days lol

Haha, just use words to the effect of "hey you wanna go (insert activity) this weekend?"
And depending on your age, ask her to go out FOR the weekend, but before thursday. i got in trouble for this, and still do, with my current girlfriend. Oh, and it helps if the activity is not the regular dinner/movie crap.

Or.. you could just get real close to her at some point while you guys are out, and lean over and kiss her. then see what happens. worked for me :P

Sexual Harassment Panda:

Mariena:

Sexual Harassment Panda:
Ask her if your rag smells like chloroform, then take her home and have a nice conversation with her.

Don't forget to tie her up though. She might.. resist.

And don't forget to tie her up BEFORE the lotion goes on the skin, or the ropes just slip right off.

Bad sexual harassment Panda. You make me a sad, sad human

Clearly since you're asking a Forum for help and saying you feel awkward, you're probably not ready to ask her yet, (maybe try a friend or something next.)

Personally with relationships, I like to have a good sturdy friendship beforehand, but that's because I would want to make sure I get to know their nature, and what they would want in a relationship.
It certainly helped in finding me a lifelong partner.

However since you're probably not looking for an ETERNAL commitment,
I recommend you just suck it up, put on some shades, and ask her out to pizza hut.

If your honestly asking for advice on the internet then just give up..

DethFan666:

AfroNinja117:
Hey guys, I feel alittle akward asking something like this over the internet, but there's this girl I really like and I want to go out with her. We're friends, but not too close, so I need some advice on how to get close to her and ask her out

Get her drunk.

I really don't like you, but I totally agree with you on this point. Have some drinks, it'll loosen you both up, just don't do anything you'd be ashamed to do sober, because it could lead to an awkward day after.

I could make some sly dig about asking for some advice on relationships on a gaming forum, but then again, I know the feeling (though I still wouldn't use a place like this as a source of advice :P). One thing I will say is that you definitely shouldn't rush things (though not knowing how old you are and/or what kind of relationship you're actually looking for, makes any specific comments a little difficult). I've long since learned that the fast approach isn't best recommended. If you really like someone, then I can understand the desire to want to cut right to the chase, but at least some kind of friendship beforehand can only help matters.

Though you know, if only I was able to sort myself out...:P