Why are men attracted to lesbians?

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I remember this contestant from Big Brother mention his attractness to lesbians. In his view, he liked lesbian because there is no "man" in the said love making like making out therefore he project himself as a mystery man who get to joined in with the lesbians. He doesn't watched it to see another guy getting the action, only himself.

IllumInaTIma:
One beautiful lady=Good
Two beautiful ladies=Very Good
Two beautiful ladies loving each other=Very Very Good

For me, it's as simple as that.
However, by that logic, I'm genuinely curious if females find gays attractive.

While I wish to point out that voyeristic tendencies isn't as common in women as it is in men(testosterone thing I guess, feels like I'm intruding) it is true that a lot of women do find gays attractive, myself included. Not only because of the whole "two guys banging each other" sexyness factor, but also (quite possibly mostly) because the gay stereotype portrays him as always being well dressed, respectful and having excellent manners, all things most women look for in a man. "All the good guys are either taken or gay" - not too unusual saying in girl community. Something to think about ;)

Regardless of the fact that the man isn't involved, on the basis that he likes looking at women, looking at two and further, two in the context of sexual arousal, is going to be a turn on. But this has already been answered by TV more accurately than anyone else can hope to match.

Jeff said it best in Coupling:

kickyourass:
Aside from the bisexual bit (I'm straight) I agree with basically everything you said. It's the weirdest sense of mental dissonance when on the one hand I love lesbian porn, but if a fem-slash couple I really like is made into porn I'm usually repulsed by it. Is there a word for that? Cause I haven't found it yet.

Gah, I know! I don't know what it is, but there's something to it. I guess not totally porn, but if it's done weird and distastefully, in a way that seems unfitting for the characters, my brain just rejects it outright.

Abomination:
Also wouldn't the "ultimate conquest" be converting a lesbian to cock?

Aaand again bisexual people are utterly invisible, because you wouldn't be 'converting' anything; just introducing a new experience to somebody. :P

For the same reason girls write gay fan-fiction ( which is about 40% of fanfiction oddly)

I think its just the idea of two people of the same gender and both being physically attractive.

But then I don't get turned on by anything so I don't really know 100% OP

lax4life:
Well the man could be Hitler, and the woman could be abusing her children, and... Fuck, we're not going down this road again. This must never be brought up again.

What if it was Hitler and an abusive lesbian?

Some of us just don't like the look of the male form. Porn is not usually about what we want and more what looks best to us. I know many a female that does the name with Male gay porn. Still I do agree with the men who want relation ships with gay women, that is something i don't understand.

Professor James:
I'm a straight man and I never really been turned on by 2 girls banging each other. Can someone explain the appeal? I guess it's because a lesbian will never be attracted to me or even a fantasy is why I'm not turned on.

Because I don't want to see a hairy man's dick and asshole, because I'm straight.

This comic sums it up http://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=1023 (it's in link form because I have yet to figure u how to get the proper address for images with an iPad)

I honestly think some dudes are just too weirded out by a penis on the screen so they stick to the chick stuff.

IllumInaTIma:

However, by that logic, I'm genuinely curious if females find gays attractive.

Well, considering the popularity of yaoi, I'd say yes.

However, when it comes to porn, a lot of straight women watch porn meant for gay men because they find heterosexual porn and how women are depicted in them unappealing, or so I hear, anyway.

I don't like guys in my porn, photo porn, or masturbation videos. Therefore, lesbians.

IllumInaTIma:
However, by that logic, I'm genuinely curious if females find gays attractive.

Apparently there is a similar fetish there. Not finding gay men attractive, but of finding some bizarre stylised and sexualised version of gay men attractive, in the same way that male fantasies of lesbians aren't much like the real thing.

There are gay men who are more than a little annoyed about this.

Frankly I have never understood it. But like I said I'm the forever alone type so I don't "get" a lot of this kind of thing.

For me, at least, it's the excess of womanly bits plus the lack of manly bits. I don't enjoy seeing naked men, but do enjoy seeing naked women.

Two or more naked women at once? I'm down for that. Doing things of a sexual nature to one another? Well, I certainly won't be stopping them.

TwiZtah:
Because I don't want to see a hairy man's dick and asshole, because I'm straight.

Oh, don't forget the scrotal close-up.

Because that happens far, far too often.

Honestly, lesbian porn doesn't do a lot for me because of logic.

But I dig pixie cuts and women in skinny jeans and flannel shirts, so sue me.

I've always sort of wondered the same thing.

Lesbian porn? Sure, I can see why guys watch that, for all the reasons posted here. Not really big on it myself, but I'm not a big porn watcher either.

Real lesbians? Meh, I just don't get it. I remember one of my co-workers once saying, "There is nothing more attractive than two girls kissing. I was just walking down the street and I saw two women holding hands. I watched them the whole time I could in case they kissed." And this got me thinking about I went once to my friend's housewarming party. She happens to be a lesbian, and lives with her partner. On an endtable in their living room is a picture of them kissing on their wedding day. Both women are reasonably attractive, but was I really supposed to find this picture erotic?

Evil Smurf:
What if it was Hitler and an abusive lesbian?

Ah, but what if Hitler WAS an abusive lesbian?

That's an interesting Alternate History concept... though I suppose, given that Hitler was already known to be abusive in his relationships with women, I guess it's just "what if Hitler was a lesbian". Which still works!

I'd imagine it's because the fantasy is that both of those ladies would want you at the same time as each other. Double the chance to procreate, no risk of upsetting and losing one of the two mates, and no travel time between encounters. Bonus: one can cook meat while the other one... cooks the meat, if you know what I mean.

And I'd say that you're not attracted to this because you have the higher mental functions to rationalize "But they're inherently not into what I'm offering, why waste time?" and that can actually trump simple animal instinct.

Like it's been said, Some men see it as a conquest to turn a lesbian to bisexual or straight, or hopes of "joining in" on a threesome.

Same as how some gay people I know fantasize about turning a cute straight guy, gay or bi.

HellbirdIV:

Evil Smurf:
What if it was Hitler and an abusive lesbian?

Ah, but what if Hitler WAS an abusive lesbian?

That's an interesting Alternate History concept... though I suppose, given that Hitler was already known to be abusive in his relationships with women, I guess it's just "what if Hitler was a lesbian". Which still works!

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I've had enough internet for the day. I don't want to see this movie.

Professor James:
I'm a straight man and I never really been turned on by 2 girls banging each other. Can someone explain the appeal? I guess it's because a lesbian will never be attracted to me or even a fantasy is why I'm not turned on.

Well then, Professor James. All you now need to do is enter the stage name of the actresses into Google and you're almost statistically certain to see your would be lesbians wrangling all the sweaty man flesh that you could ever possibly wish to see being wrangled by a woman. It really doesn't matter what their sexual preference is. They're sexual mercenaries, and pornography is all about selling outlandish sexual fantasies. It's not like heterosexual men are lining up around the block to watch realistic depictions of lesbian sex.

In fact, there is only one maligned group of people queuing up for grim, grounded & realistic depictions of sex.

Boring people. :P

Because in standard porn, we have to deal with a guy and his giant cock flopping about. With lesbian porn...no man to ruin the mood. The last thing I want to hear while fapping is some dude moaning loudly with a shot of his ass taking up most of the screen...

When you're a man making passionate love to a "lesbian" and she comes like a howler monkey it's like you're NTRing an entire sexual orientation.

It makes you feel incredibly powerful

And then theres the whole aesthetic level thing.

But then again, I have just about every sexual fetish known to man, so I can understand OPs confusion. however, like I always say in these threads

>Not liking lesbians
>Not wanting to prove how great your dick is by turning a lesbian into a cock fiend
>You probably don't like preop transvestites or traps with their delicious boy pussies either
>What are you? Gay or something?

The idea of someone narrowing their sexual experiences baffles me; I know girls who have never ridden a dick in their lives, and they're just like "I don't want it". But you've never tried it! "Still, I don't want it, men are different". But you don't know how we're different!

It really just seems like a wall to me, to stop yourself from getting hurt.

To be honest, I've only ever been able to convince one lesbian, and she wasn't big on penetration so... she still had her hymen... It ended just as it started unfortunately. Still... I chase that dream of turning a lesbian.

So, there's that and the aesthetics of two women pleasuring each other. I tend to be very judgemental when it comes to porn though.

Don't have to look at another guy's dick I suppose.

That said, it's not like laws of attraction are really in any way rational.

Shadowstar38:
Because watching people bang is hot, and the breast ratio doubles.

Zhukov:
It's like being able to make a sandwich without bread. Just the tasty bits.

It's what these guys said. There is absolutly no deeper meaning or psychology involved.

IMO there are a lot of factors. Unattainability, the fact that unlike watching a man and woman bang there is nothing not to look a, a feeling that maybe its wrong or naughty and particularly with 'first timers' or 'drunken friends' type scenarios the suggestion is there that almost any girl, maybe even your GF might consider trying it out at least once, leading to a possible FFM threesome.

My favourite thing about sex, doubled? Do I NEED to explain this?

Evil Smurf:

thaluikhain:

Shadowstar38:

Are you personally afraid of naked guys?

If you were on a bus, and you looked up and everyone else on the bus was a naked guy and they were all staring at you and not saying anything, would you be scared?

Not G. Ivingname:

Er, that doesn't necessarily follow. They are not behaving the way real lesbians normally would, yes, but that is not what they are being paid for. OTOH, statistically, yes.

If a naked man and a naked women were each drowning, and you could only save one, which one would it be?

AND IT BEGINS!!!!

Depends on which one I knew, I mean if it was my bro in the water I gotta get him out, bros before hoes.

I'm not attracted to them in real life. In porn though, you won't have to look at men. Seems like a no-brainer.

You know what I can't stand about most lesbian porn? It's just so goddamn violent most of the time... Seriously I can't watch Lesbian porn anymore cuz its just an immediate turn-off with how violent and angry they seem. Has anyone else noticed this?

Straight Men find women attractive sexually

Straight men do not find men attractive sexually

Lesbian porn is all the naked women of regular porn, except two of them, and there's no men to get in the way to ruin the experience with a close up of his ass crack or ball sack or OH-face.

I think men are naturally lazy so a kind of sex were they don't have to bother to do anything is quite appealing.

Shadowstar38:
Because watching people bang is hot, and the breast ratio doubles.

Pretty much nailed it (heh) in the first response.

I'm with the OP though, I've always been more into man-on-woman that woman-on-woman.

A couple things come to mind.

First, I find the womanly form to be absolutely gorgeous. Not that I have a problem with the male body, but there is just something about the ladies that make it hard to keep your eyes off them.

Second would be that I have a strange attraction to lesbians. I don't mean in a sexual way, but that the girls I meet and whose company I enjoy tend to be gay. Not sure why it works out that way.

And finally, in my experience sexuality tends to be more of a spectrum than a gay, bi, or straight. You'd be surprised how many girls I have dated who identified themselves as gay beforehand. It's not always about genitals, but about the behavior and mindset we have come to expect from certain groups of people.

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