Why are men attracted to lesbians?

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I figured it was because hot chicks are attractive, women that share your interests are attractive, and hot chicks that share your interests (i.e. hot chicks) are therefore way more attractive than hot chicks that don't. That being said, I'm pretty sure that hot nerd girl trumps hot lesbian.

ccggenius12:
I figured it was because hot chicks are attractive, women that share your interests are attractive, and hot chicks that share your interests (i.e. hot chicks) are therefore way more attractive than hot chicks that don't. That being said, I'm pretty sure that hot nerd girl trumps hot lesbian.

What about hot lesbian nerd?

Boris Goodenough:

What about hot lesbian nerd?

Well duh, much like the ninja pirate zombie on a pirate ship mounted on a T-Rex, adding more good things together makes a better thing. I suppose the next step up would have to be hot lesbian nerd in a bacon bikini right?

ccggenius12:

Well duh, much like the ninja pirate zombie on a pirate ship mounted on a T-Rex, adding more good things together makes a better thing. I suppose the next step up would have to be hot lesbian nerd in a bacon bikini right?

Now you are just trying to kill me with sensory overload, and it's working...(Disclaimer: I am not actually attracted to lesbians).

People want what they can't have and nothing is more unattainable than a legitimate lesbian. I say legitimate because there are a lot of women who are bi, or even straight, who pretend to be lesbians to get the attention of men.

You might be wondering "How can I tell if the woman I'm about to bang is a legitimate lesbian or a faker?" Well... is she going to have sex with you? Then she's faking. A lesbian wants a man's penis as much as a straight guy wants a man's penis.

Now the door swings both ways. Women find unattainable guys attractive to. That's why Jimmy Schmuck always has a woman on his arm with Tom Niceguy is always single. Jimmy Schmuck doesn't care what the woman thinks, she could leave right now and he'd get another one by the end of the day. At least in his mind. He ignores her. Flirts with other girls. Blows her off and be with his buds. Women have to compete to get and keep Jimmy's attention and that's attractive to them. While Tom Niceguy is always available and eager to please. There's no competition there. She doesn't have to work for his attention thus Tom Niceguy is friend zoned and always single.

Boris Goodenough:

What about hot lesbian nerd?

Nope. Because that makes dating her a bit of an impossibility for me. Granted, I'd still like to be friends with her, but that's because of the nerd part, not the lesbian part... unless she lets me watch.

As someone who also doesn't find it particularly attractive I assume it's one of those things you either 'get' or 'don't get' and trying to explain why it's attractive to someone who doesn't get it is pointless.

Why are men attracted to women? Because duh.
A better question would be why some men are interested in watching another couple bang.

Because there's two girls involved instead of one, simple as that. It's just more to fantasise over/watch. And also no guy involved, therefore no-one to be jealous of if you're insecure about your own appearance, I guess. Also the androgynous look that's typically associated with lesbians is pretty hot.

Happyninja42:
I would say it's also the fact that with 2 women, everything you are looking at is something you find sexually appealing. You aren't suddenly being shown an extreme closeup of some guys junk, instead of, you know, the woman you find attractive. No matter what angle or position or whatever, the camera is always being pointed at a naked woman, which for a straight guy, is appealing.

That's my feelings on it anyway.

I used to wonder about this when my male friend would practically call us girls heathens for liking slash/yaoi even when it was just about anime guys or video games but would act all holier-than-thou if we caught him with real lesbian porn. The double-standard was downright annoying.

In Search of Username:
Because there's two girls involved instead of one, simple as that. It's just more to fantasise over/watch. And also no guy involved, therefore no-one to be jealous of if you're insecure about your own appearance, I guess. Also the androgynous look that's typically associated with lesbians is pretty hot.

On a related note, two (or more) hot guys equals more eye candy for me, that's why I'm a slash/yaoi fan. It's why I usually can't stand het in fiction or other media (unless my favorite character is also a girl, though that's rare); too much focus on the girl (if I wanted to stare at boobs I'd look down) and not enough on the guy.

Logically, of course it doesn't really make much sense...by their very nature, both women wouldn't be interested in me, due to the presence of dangly bits.

Does that stop the sight of naked females engaged in sexual activity from being arousing? Of course not. Does it cause a brief "why DO I find this hot?" conversation with myself every now and again? Yes. Do I still ultimately find it hot? Yes.

Because then you have two chicks doing sexy things so every aspect of it is sexy. Without there being a guy involved there is no possibility of seeing a penis that isn't theirs. It doesn't matter that they will never be attracted to the person. The hot model likely won't be either. It's just fantasy.

A lot of girl like guy on guy as well.

I don't quite get the fascination. I mean watching two girls make out is pleasing in an aesthetic sense but when it comes to actual lesbian sex...it's kind of like banging two rocks together. No penetration is just no fun.

Miss G.:

Happyninja42:
I would say it's also the fact that with 2 women, everything you are looking at is something you find sexually appealing. You aren't suddenly being shown an extreme closeup of some guys junk, instead of, you know, the woman you find attractive. No matter what angle or position or whatever, the camera is always being pointed at a naked woman, which for a straight guy, is appealing.

That's my feelings on it anyway.

I used to wonder about this when my male friend would practically call us girls heathens for liking slash/yaoi even when it was just about anime guys or video games but would act all holier-than-thou if we caught him with real lesbian porn. The double-standard was downright annoying.

Generalizations based on personal experience time!
Yeah. I've seen a lot of hypocrisy around lesbians and gay men. Most girls seem to be fine with lesbians and bisexuals but a lot of guys seem to be really insecure and intimadated by gay or bisexual men.

Shadowstar38:

thaluikhain:
Possibly because lesbians wouldn't actually be interested in them IRL.

Or they are afraid of naked guys.

Are you personally afraid of naked guys?

Well, there is the Dave Chappelle rule of porn...

The one wang per fantasy rule...preferably one's own...

Also the menage a trois fantasy as well.

To be fair, the shoe's on the other foot with all my lady friends who are into the yaoi, or shows like Supernatural with sexy male leads; they just picture themselves in the sandwich.

Power fantasy mainly

plus it's one step behind the a great 3some ;)

Oh, and people want what they can't have and sex wise that's the equivalent.

Professor James:
I'm a straight man and I never really been turned on by 2 girls banging each other. Can someone explain the appeal? I guess it's because a lesbian will never be attracted to me or even a fantasy is why I'm not turned on.

You're a straight man and the idea of seeing not one but two naked girls isn't doing it for you?

Because you get to watch two hot bodies go at it with each other instead of a woman and a man's sausage.

It makes more sense when you actually think about it. A straight guy is attracted to women, he is turned off by seeing another man's privates/naked body. So while two different urges battle inside the man's body, lesbian sex is twice the desired sex without the repulsive image of the one you aren't attracted to.

Two girls are better than one. Simple as that...

Seracen:

Well, there is the Dave Chappelle rule of porn...

The one wang per fantasy rule...preferably one's own...

Also the menage a trois fantasy as well.

To be fair, the shoe's on the other foot with all my lady friends who are into the yaoi, or shows like Supernatural with sexy male leads; they just picture themselves in the sandwich.

In regards to Supernatural, some of us prefer to picture ourselves in the sandwich but just as many if not more (like me) prefer the leads with each other. 'Cuz if you're gonna hate ANY woman that's not Ellen, Jo or Jody in this fandom and you have 2 X-chromosomes, you have to exclude yourself as well.

Miss G.:

Seracen:

Well, there is the Dave Chappelle rule of porn...

The one wang per fantasy rule...preferably one's own...

Also the menage a trois fantasy as well.

To be fair, the shoe's on the other foot with all my lady friends who are into the yaoi, or shows like Supernatural with sexy male leads; they just picture themselves in the sandwich.

In regards to Supernatural, some of us prefer to picture ourselves in the sandwich but just as many if not more (like me) prefer the leads with each other. 'Cuz if you're gonna hate ANY woman that's not Ellen, Jo or Jody in this fandom and you have 2 X-chromosomes, you have to exclude yourself as well.

I love Supernatural (less of late). I have to agree with you, even being a guy. The writers didn't do themselves any favors, as few of the females are sympathetic characters.

Worst case was Bella. I know she was supposed to be some tragic thief with a heart of gold, but I found myself cheering in her final moment in the show when Dean told her "I'll see you in Hell."

Even Eric Kripke griped against Sara Gamble on that one.

Someone ask for some Chappelle?

His spin on life is always refreshing :)

Jarsh82:
Its just a juvenile fantasy that every boy outgrows once he start having actual relationships. I don't know of any grown man that''s preoccupied with that.

That's odd. I cannot think of any grown man I know including my self who does not find it hot. Be they are married,
divorced or just in a relationship or not.

DementedSheep:

Miss G.:

Happyninja42:
I would say it's also the fact that with 2 women, everything you are looking at is something you find sexually appealing. You aren't suddenly being shown an extreme closeup of some guys junk, instead of, you know, the woman you find attractive. No matter what angle or position or whatever, the camera is always being pointed at a naked woman, which for a straight guy, is appealing.

That's my feelings on it anyway.

I used to wonder about this when my male friend would practically call us girls heathens for liking slash/yaoi even when it was just about anime guys or video games but would act all holier-than-thou if we caught him with real lesbian porn. The double-standard was downright annoying.

Generalizations based on personal experience time!
Yeah. I've seen a lot of hypocrisy around lesbians and gay men. Most girls seem to be fine with lesbians and bisexuals but a lot of guys seem to be really insecure and intimadated by gay or bisexual men.

I guess it's that society sort of trains men to want to take. They want to pursue and more often then not it is the man that advances on the object of their desire, the women (not saying this is right or always true but society does train people to be this way.) I guess the idea is that with women, if someone approaches them and they aren't interested they simply decline. They are 'trained' by society to be able to react if they are chosen by someone undesirable. This skills translates pretty easily if a straight women is being hit on by a lesbian. They'll just politely decline like they would if a man they had no interest in pursued them. If they are interested they accept. This is a sweeping generalization but there is some truth to it.

Most men just aren't equipped to the idea of being approached, especially if what they are being approached by is undesirable (a gay man). It's just stupid all around. It boils down to a percentage of men not being as prepared to deal with other people's advances. If they aren't prepared for a women to advance on them it's pretty simple because they may be attracted to them. But if a man hits on them? Suddenly wild thoughts of being sexually harassed appear in their minds. There's also the fear that because they are being pursued by gay man it means that they 'look' or 'act' like a gay person does. And of course they're supposed to keep up the persona of being manly and a women magnet. And being 'gay' makes them look like a sissy for some reason. Not all men are like this but there is a large percentage that are.

It kind of makes being a gay man a little bit hazardous compared to being a lesbian. I mean both orientations have their ups and downs. And lesbians are also treated unfairly for many reasons. I'm not saying that either group has it better or worse. But being gay you are always afraid of offending someone. If I find a straight man attractive it is social suicide to approach them or hit on them because they may take offense. Then who knows what will happen? If a lesbian hits on a straight women they'll just treat them like they do everyone who approaches them despite their disinterest. Men just aren't as prepared.

Sorry if this comes off as a gay man's whining. It's just been my observation over the last few years. It obviously isn't universally true and I don't want to come off as ungrateful or anything.

Shadowstar38:
Because watching people bang is hot, and the breast ratio doubles.

You got it in one. There is nothing more to it.

Because I hate cocks in my porn.

Why? It's simple really; there are more sexy curves, more breasts to ogle at, more sexy moaning, and no guy parts blocking what you really want to see.

But that's just me.

TheYellowCellPhone:
Imagine you're in the mood to bring ten million sperm cells into the world. Happens pretty often, you say. You open up your favorite .com and start going with one of the first page videos.

Well, you don't like the guys that are banging the girls in most of the videos you choose. Some are belligerent to the women, some remind you of someone from high school, some have really annoying voices, some are just plain nasty. You can't do it, there's only so many slapping balls and facial closeups and watching the necessary seven minute blowjob on a ten minute anal video that your penis can take.

So, you decide to skip around that. Lose the man for a woman, go for twice the breasts and none of the balls and chesthair. Win-win, your penis is happy.

Pretty much this i think.

As one who finds females having pleasure attractive, doubling the numbers simply makes the experience more appealing.
It's a beautiful thing.

For me at least it's about the aesthetics. I like to watch pretty people doing the nasty, and that's sometimes harder to find with girl/guy. Women in porn are more consistently attractive than their male counterparts, so with girl/girl I'm just more likely to find two pretty people, rather than one stunning and one not so much that is so common in "straight" porn

Are we differentiating between "lesbians" and "lesbian pornography" here? Because there's a couple of different things going on.

Lesbians: Tricky, but I like femininity. That's a horrible thing to try and pin down, but the upshot is that lesbian relationships (or at least fictional depictions thereof - I don't think I know any actual lesbians) are always keen to emphasise those values, like caring and tenderness, that appeal to my horrifically introverted self. I know I'm going to be friendzoned for the next five years (see Mid Boss above), so lesbianism has always seemed the most effective way of vicariously finding that dream myself. Plus, you know...

Emily Fitch:
Yeah. I like girls. I like sex with girls. I like their rosy lips, their hard nipples, bums, soft thighs. I like tits and fanny, you know?

I'd be an awesome lesbian. I like tits and fanny as much as the next girl, and I've got nine Sarah McLachlan albums.

Lesbian porn: MOAR BOOBZ, plus less risk of being mid-stroke when there's a dick on the screen. Ladyparts may be scary, but manparts are just plain ugly.

You're making the assumption that all men find lesbians attractive. I can only speak for myself, but I find them disgusting.

What a lot of people fail to realize is that lesbians in porn, and lesbians in real life are two very different things. In porn, the "lesbians" are usually straight women who are getting paid an obscene amount of money (I should hope so) to do what they do.

On the flip side of that, real life lesbians are usually dykes who look more like men than actual men, something I've never understood.

Personally, it makes me wanna throw up, but that's just my two cents.

Professor James:
I'm a straight man and I never really been turned on by 2 girls banging each other. Can someone explain the appeal? I guess it's because a lesbian will never be attracted to me or even a fantasy is why I'm not turned on.

I thought so too but then I went to a club and saw 2 attractive women making out in the middle of the dancefloor. It was really hot.
Also, a lot of women like to watch attractive men having gay sex.

I don't know.
I'm also a straight guy who is turned on by 2 girls doing the deed, but I can't explain it.

Jux:
Most 'lesbian' porn is aimed at straight guys. So yea, it's just fetishizing it.

I have an interesting story related to that point.
My best friend is a lesbian and I found out all her porn was straight porn.
So I was like "What the fuck? Are you secretly in to dicks or something?"
her reply was "You watch straight porn and you're not in to dicks."
"Touche, but there isn't one girl on girl video in this folder"
Her response, which shook my faith in porn forever was "My biggest fear is watching a woman fake an orgasm. Why would I want to see that while I'm trying to masturbate?"

Mind blown...

Girl on girl porn is one of those things that doesn't make sense on any level but we LOVE it!

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