I asked her out. We're going to the zoo this weekend, so thanks for the advice guys!

I'm in a weird spot right now. I met this fantastic girl at a college acceptance orientation-thing last week and we've been texting and talking consistently ever since. This is the first girl I've met that I actually am interested in asking out, since others at my school just aren't my type. And I'm pretty much 100% sure that she's into me as well. But the problem is this: she lives a good 50 minutes away from where I live, and there's no guarantee I'll be able to see her too much. College starts in September, so the only time I'll be able to for sure see her on a regular basis is four months away. And I don't want to ask her out if I can't see her often, 'cause to me that just feels wrong.

So, do I: 1) go ahead and ask her out and just try to be there as often as possible? 2) Wait until college starts to do that? 3) Build the relationship more and just hang out with her first? 4) Just explain all of this to her?

I'm stuck here guys, and I feel like there's a statute of limitations on this thing before she starts thinking I'm not going to ask her out. Any help? Any other options?

I assume there's something more specific like not having a car or an especially busy schedule that would be in you way, yeah? 50 miles is like... an hour and halfish I think. That's not that bad really.

Anyway, I'd say if you're into the girl and you're pretty sure she's into you too, than it'd probably be a better idea to say something, even if not a direct ask out. I wouldn't say there's a time limit exactly, but you are allow for more chance for something else to come up on her end if you wait around. The flip side of that is it's not too likely that someone is going to start up a new serious relationship with such a short time before something like college, so it wouldn't be a huge risk if you want to wait it out a bit.

If you're regularly communicating, yeah, tell her about it, waiting for "the right moment" is kind of the worst thing to do because those "the right moments" have a tendency to never, ever actually pop up.

So, explain the thing to her, and who knows, if she feels the same maybe you two can actually make some plans how to see each other even in these 4 months. Sure you may not be able to see her every day, but a few times a month could still be feasible, depending on transportation, no?

Why do people make things difficult for themselves? Go for it, man. You have literally nothing to lose. Even if she says no, she'll be flattered and you'll have an answer. And if she says yes... well, use your imagination.

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Why do people make things difficult for themselves? Go for it, man. You have literally nothing to lose. Even if she says no, she'll be flattered and you'll have an answer. And if she says yes... well, use your imagination.

I'm not scared of asking her out, I just don't want to rush things before I even see her in person for the second time since I first saw her. But yeah, I'm probably going to just explain things to her.

I'd say just have a "define the relationship" talk. See how she feels, explain how you feel. If she wants to go out with you, great! If she doesn't then no harm done.

There are 2 couples that I know of at my university that started dating the summer before their freshman year. I worked out fine. Honestly, it's just 4 months. Facebook and Skype exist. Contacting someone isn't difficult. And 50 minutes? I have to drive that just to go into the city to go out on a weekend. If you really like her this is hardly a large distance. You don't have to see her all the time or anything or waste gas. But it's hardly impossible.
Basically, I'd do #1 or #4.

Ask her out and explain on the date, 50 minutes is really not a lot so if you both contribute to the journey you can see her on a pretty regular basis.

Waiting 4 months will just have you back with a "how to get out of the friend-zone" thread.

Go for it, really. You'd be missing out if you were. GO!

You're right, long-distance relationship have a tendency to go belly up. Seen it happen left and right during my army time.
Talking to her about it might be a good idea. At least then she knows you're interested, you know?

I don't quite understand why you can't make time to meet her though?

I asked her out. We're going to the zoo this weekend, so thanks for the advice guys!

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I asked her out. We're going to the zoo this weekend, so thanks for the advice guys!

Yay. Have a great time. I hope it works out for you!

I Have No Idea:
I asked her out. We're going to the zoo this weekend, so thanks for the advice guys!

I'm in a weird spot right now. I met this fantastic girl at a college acceptance orientation-thing last week and we've been texting and talking consistently ever since. This is the first girl I've met that I actually am interested in asking out, since others at my school just aren't my type. And I'm pretty much 100% sure that she's into me as well. But the problem is this: she lives a good 50 minutes away from where I live, and there's no guarantee I'll be able to see her too much. College starts in September, so the only time I'll be able to for sure see her on a regular basis is four months away. And I don't want to ask her out if I can't see her often, 'cause to me that just feels wrong.

So, do I: 1) go ahead and ask her out and just try to be there as often as possible? 2) Wait until college starts to do that? 3) Build the relationship more and just hang out with her first? 4) Just explain all of this to her?

I'm stuck here guys, and I feel like there's a statute of limitations on this thing before she starts thinking I'm not going to ask her out. Any help? Any other options?

I have a similar problem, but my issues with asking this girl out are I don't have a job at the moment, and she is graduating college soon and doesn't know where she is going, along with some other insecurities of mine.

...Now I don't remember where I was going with this, so I will leave you with:

Congratulations, glad things worked out for you.