Was Told To Leave Home. Awesome. - UPDATE

So, I just was told by my mother to get out of the house over Christmas break. Now, I'm not surprised by this, given that I'm doing something similar, if of a lesser magnitude, to something which my sister did in Sophomore year of college. I have a D in a class, and two guaranteed Bs, and one class which I'm not sure about. I just took the final today, so I won't know until the weekend or so.

Now, this ultimatum doesn't bother me. I understand, and it's her right to kick me out of her house. I'm 19. However, I haven't a clue in the world as to what I should do. I don't have any friends who would let me crash at their place, as far as I can tell, and my only other family in the state is my grandparents, who live up in Winder, GA. I'm in Macon.

So, what should I do? My first thought was to leave tomorrow, and see if she takes it back, but I need to have a plan either way, and that won't work. Thus, I come to you, rather than trying to ask for anything else, because I don't really deserve it.

For those who might want to know: no, I don't have a job, which is part of it, no, I don't have my own car, but I do have a bike. And honestly, after thinking about calling her "bluff," I then thought: "Alright, take clothes, something to wash with, and that's it. Leave everything else." Because I don't want to bring a laptop with me, and nothing else is really worth it. Maybe, maybe my cell phone.

Help me, please?

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Update on the situation: My mother told me she doesn't want to leave, though obviously, still pissed. Thank you, Mekado, for making it seem far less frightening when I thought I wouldn't have much of any place to stay.

I'm not sure what resources are readily available where you live but i got kicked out of my parent's house when i was 17. I lived for almost a year in a "youth hostel" sort of a mix between a managed home and a "get back on track" program. Now this was mostly funded by the government here and all it cost us was 7$ per day (for a home,food,etc that's *very* cheap) which we could also pay "when we could" they didn't leave anyone (eligible) outside. That's a Canadian program but i'm pretty sure something like that exists south of the border too, you might wanna call social services to inquire.

If you don't like the idea, i'd say your only real shot is either your grandparents or the street (not really an option heh). Don't try to "violin" your mother into changing her mind, nothing good will come out of that, if she keeps you out of pity, the first time you'll get on her nerves you'll be back at square one.

Take your phone, wherever you go you'll probably have to get yourself a job quickly, and a phone to be called back at is somewhat invaluable hehe.

Good luck, it sucks and when you hear "get out" it's a miserable feeling but it gets better as long as you don't just sink in the ground wallowing in self-pity. It's a rough kick-start but if you have heart (and some luck) you'll be fine in a few months :)

Mekado:
I'm not sure what resources are readily available where you live but i got kicked out of my parent's house when i was 17. I lived for almost a year in a "youth hostel" sort of a mix between a managed home and a "get back on track" program. Now this was mostly funded by the government here and all it cost us was 7$ per day (for a home,food,etc that's *very* cheap) which we could also pay "when we could" they didn't leave anyone (eligible) outside. That's a Canadian program but i'm pretty sure something like that exists south of the border too, you might wanna call social services to inquire.

If you don't like the idea, i'd say your only real shot is either your grandparents or the street (not really an option heh). Don't try to "violin" your mother into changing her mind, nothing good will come out of that, if she keeps you out of pity, the first time you'll get on her nerves you'll be back at square one.

Take your phone, wherever you go you'll probably have to get yourself a job quickly, and a phone to be called back at is somewhat invaluable hehe.

Good luck, it sucks and when you hear "get out" it's a miserable feeling but it gets better as long as you don't just sink in the ground wallowing in self-pity. It's a rough kick-start but if you have heart (and some luck) you'll be fine in a few months :)

That's what I'm hoping... Fortunately, I've technically got a couple of weeks, so I'll have time to be less bitter... If I left now, there would be a massive middle finger facing them, and I don't want that.

It's a little bit of a dick move to do that in December but there you go i suppose. Yeah i'd try to keep things civil, you certainly don't have to be happy about it but "all-out war" with your parents wouldn't do any good either.

You have a good relationship with your grandparents ?

Also, do you have a little money or you're flat-out broke ? It might make a huge difference in your choices (take a bus to Macon,etc)

Pretty much flat broke. So, currently, I can either bike 106 miles, which isn't a bad plan considering it would only take 8 hours, or I can walk it. And that's interstate, so I can't actually take a bike on that. So, for the first dozen miles or so, it would actually be much more, because of back roads and such. But, if that's my option, I'll take it. I do have a good relationship with my grandparents, and I could help them out around their house and farm, since they live on a relatively small farm that mostly is for horses and animals. See about getting a job around there, working my way to being independent, maybe taking classes for a degree if I get my act together... This could work. It would suck to begin with, but it could work.

Pfheonix:
Pretty much flat broke. So, currently, I can either bike 106 miles, which isn't a bad plan considering it would only take 8 hours, or I can walk it. And that's interstate, so I can't actually take a bike on that. So, for the first dozen miles or so, it would actually be much more, because of back roads and such. But, if that's my option, I'll take it. I do have a good relationship with my grandparents, and I could help them out around their house and farm, since they live on a relatively small farm that mostly is for horses and animals. See about getting a job around there, working my way to being independent, maybe taking classes for a degree if I get my act together... This could work. It would suck to begin with, but it could work.

Being uprooted always sucks to begin with hehe ;) This seems like a decent plan though and if you can help your grandparents around their property so much the better. I'm also going to hazard a guess that the atmosphere at home has been bad and worsening lately so a "change of air" might do everyone some good. Trying to get yourself a job (even if it's 20hrs/week for your expenses so you're not a "burden") and possibly going to school are all excellent avenues i think. It'll also help rebuilding your own confidence as right now i'm guessing it's pretty low.

This could definitely work, you just have to keep your head up as the first month or so you'll have to readjust to a lot of things but your attitude seems a bit more positive now.There's always sunshine after a storm (hey clichés exists for a reason), even if sometimes it's hard to see you just have to keep moving forward, it'll get better as long as you put some effort into it.

Sorry if i sound like a moralist, i actually was in a very similar spot at one point in my life and i know it's real dark sometimes but it *really* does get better if you want it to, it's not just white noise :)

Mekado:

Being uprooted always sucks to begin with hehe ;) This seems like a decent plan though and if you can help your grandparents around their property so much the better. I'm also going to hazard a guess that the atmosphere at home has been bad and worsening lately so a "change of air" might do everyone some good. Trying to get yourself a job (even if it's 20hrs/week for your expenses so you're not a "burden") and possibly going to school are all excellent avenues i think. It'll also help rebuilding your own confidence as right now i'm guessing it's pretty low.

This could definitely work, you just have to keep your head up as the first month or so you'll have to readjust to a lot of things but your attitude seems a bit more positive now.There's always sunshine after a storm (hey clichés exists for a reason), even if sometimes it's hard to see you just have to keep moving forward, it'll get better as long as you put some effort into it.

Sorry if i sound like a moralist, i actually was in a very similar spot at one point in my life and i know it's real dark sometimes but it *really* does get better if you want it to, it's not just white noise :)

Thanks, man.

 

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