Coping with S.e.xual Lust?

As a subject with some "mature" content I preferred to include everything in a spoiler


Hope to receive some kind of advice
thank in advance

I guess age plays a major role, if you are a teenager then there's nothing to worry about :P

Also this might come in handy.

well im closing to 30 ><

Siyano:
As a subject with some "mature" content I preferred to include everything in a spoiler


Hope to receive some kind of advice
thank in advance

I... have no idea what's going on here. I think you need to mentally restrain yourself by saying "NO BRAIN, I AM A RESPECTABLE PERSON; THERE IS NO WAY THAT I WILL DEGRADE MYSELF JUST FOR A STUPID SEXUAL DESIRE."

Other advice: get married. It'll divert your mind away from those urges that you have. Other than that, I got nothing. Oh, well; I tried.

Jerk it nightly.
Seriously, the urge will probably go fairly soon. Also check out that food thing.

hazabaza1:
Jerk it nightly.
Seriously, the urge will probably go fairly soon. Also check out that food thing.

it's also proven to reduce the risk of prostate cancer

capture: axe
yes capture i guess castration is also an option

well, like I said, jerking it is not enough...

Diagnosis: You are horny
Treatment: Have more sex

Really though, enjoy it while it lasts. Your sex drive does have a shelf life. There are worse things than being horny all the time. At least you're learning self-control!

Do you have a fulfilling life? It's very common for young people who are currently aimless, depressive, bored or unchallenged to resort to sex as the only activity that gets their adrenaline and endorphines going. If you aren't passionate about your career or hobbies, it's only natural that your mind will cling to sex as one of the only few things that make your life interesting.

Find something to be passionate about, something that enthrals you, motivates you, makes you exhilarated with happiness. If you have no idea what such a thing could be, start trying out stuff. Try out new hobbies and activities, sign up for classes on anything from art to dancing to crafts to debate to carpentry and so on. Try volunteering at places, gardening, reading, writing, singing, exploring your city, travelling, driving, sightseeing, sports, hiking, climbing, the activities you could be doing are practically endless.

If none of this works, you might be depressed. Anhedonia (the inability to derive pleasure from most activities) is one of the most common symptoms of depression, as are asthenia (physical weakness/tiredness), apathy, irritability, insomnia/excessive sleeping and low willpower.

You're an adult male who wants to have sex. What's the problem? Go get some.

I kind of have the same issue, and have for a good 10 years now :(

This seems to only happen to me in the strangest places.

Like church.

:/

Siyano:
As a subject with some "mature" content I preferred to include everything in a spoiler


Hope to receive some kind of advice
thank in advance

Go get some hookers. That should make the sexual lust go away for awhile.

^Dumb advice.

If your sexual urges are getting the better of you, try looking for swinger groups or the usual "no strings attached" posts on sites like cragslist. I don't recommend hookers because you're paying for someone with potential STDs, although that might seem the same as everyone else, they have sex with random men all the time as part of their 'job'.

Ziadaine:
^Dumb advice.

If your sexual urges are getting the better of you, try looking for swinger groups or the usual "no strings attached" posts on sites like cragslist. I don't recommend hookers because you're paying for someone with potential STDs, although that might seem the same as everyone else, they have sex with random men all the time as part of their 'job'.

hookers are prolly less likely to have STDs than the average person assuming you don't pick one up from the red light district of thailand, after all i'm sure they are as wary of sex with strangers as you are

Siyano:
Hope to receive some kind of advice
thank in advance

Question - I take it you are not in a relationship at the moment? Have you tried dating?

Someone mentioned casual sex hookup sights. That could work. Do you have any friends who might be willing to become friends with benefits?

What it comes down to is - if you want more sex, then get more sex. If you're asking about how to get more sex, then that's a different question.

Fappy:
This seems to only happen to me in the strangest places.

Like church.

:/

I bet that's all anyone thinks about in there.
Granted, I don't go to church but it's so boring and you know you're not supposed to think about it so, of course, you're going to constantly think about it!

Colour Scientist:

Fappy:
This seems to only happen to me in the strangest places.

Like church.

:/

I bet that's all anyone thinks about in there.
Granted, I don't go to church but it's so boring and you know you're not supposed to think about it so, of course, you're going to constantly think about it!

Holy necro CS! How'd you find this ancient thread!?

Fappy:

Colour Scientist:

Fappy:
This seems to only happen to me in the strangest places.

Like church.

:/

I bet that's all anyone thinks about in there.
Granted, I don't go to church but it's so boring and you know you're not supposed to think about it so, of course, you're going to constantly think about it!

Holy necro CS! How'd you find this ancient thread!?

Holy shit, it was on the front page of the advice forum for me!

That's so weird.
I didn't even realise.

Its normal even women get it. As long as you can control it without harming others your fine. A bit of advice though watch your physical expressions or you'll come off as a creep.
And why do you not have someone to act out your fantasies it would certainly help. If anything back in my teens I would internet sex. Its like sexting except you have the option of breaking out a webcam.

i have learned to suppress it.i got married and well i just have to. it doesnt mean i am not 99% of the time in a semi lust craze, it doesnt ever stop being hard, it just becomes the demon in your belly. acting out with strangers online is surely a fine game to pass the time. hunting down fellow perverts online or simply seducing vulnerable ones is not at all hard. keep in mind if you ever find one person who fuels you indefinitely that doesnt mean they will be able to satisfy or the hunting urge. they may be incapable, not the same level etc.i love my husband more than anything in the world. i do not have the ability to keep up my old habits. think hard before you let yourself become accustomed to the life of a free spirited perv if you ever ever want to settle down for the family kid kind of life. the more you escalate the less of a chance you will be satisfied if you ever get trapped by the love thing. you cant ever go back. do yourself a favor and just control yourself. if i can do it you can.

Zack Alklazaris:
Its normal even women get it. As long as you can control it without harming others your fine. A bit of advice though watch your physical expressions or you'll come off as a creep.
And why do you not have someone to act out your fantasies it would certainly help. If anything back in my teens I would internet sex. Its like sexting except you have the option of breaking out a webcam.

I too have this problem OP, and I cannot help you for I haven't found a way around it. I tried rubbing the problem away but this didn't help because I do it like 7 times a day and it really hurts. I mean... it REALLY hurts. So OP, whatever you do DON'T masturbate, find a better way.

 

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