How to Find A Gaming Group

How to Find A Gaming Group

Finding a like-minded group of nerds to isn't as hard as you might think.

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Let's not forget that there's always the wonderful forums here on the Escapist.

That is to say: anybody up for D&D in the Philadelphia area? :D

This article just deals with the one problem I have...
Or better said, the one problem I had, now it's more a problem of time.

I WHFRP with some guys from Datarealms Fan Forums. They're pretty cool people. They're also really accepting of newbies, which surprised me. Especially given that most of them are relatively experienced with tabletop games.

Though, since there's a thousand or so miles between each of us, we use Maptools.

Maybe I'm late to this realization, but are we trying to take back the term nerds? Are we trying to get rid of its negative connotation? The way black people did with that other derogatory term. I only read the post here, not the article, and using the phrase nerd annoys me.

I checked out that meetups whatchamajiggy turns out there's one pretty much right down the road from me, whodathunk?

Oi! Don't knock it till you try it, not all LARPing is lame.

Ehhh actually, finding a gaming group, or new members to join yours, is kind of hard.

I'll admit, I'm a bit of a snob when it comes to nerd-things. In my mind, liking a hobby is fine, enjoying it is fine, spending hours of your day doing it is fine. But when you reach the nerdish obsessive levels that you see in stereotypical (and stereotypes exist for a reason) nerd, then I have a problem. Focusing on gaming: if you wear a cape and you don't have superpowers or it's not Halloween, then you're a tool. Loudly engaging in a discussion about race relations between elves and dwarves, or whether Anakin could have taken Obi-Wan (high-ground or not), at length in a public area....obsessive.

I know, I'm horrible. But is it too much to ask for players who are reasonable and sensible and can enjoy a game for what it is, and not have to deal with the sweaty neck-beards?

ERk-- Was going to ask about gaming in my area and then someone mentioned neckbeards. Its April alright? I just finished finals week and my shaving regimen was replaced with studying...

And seriously capes? Does ANYONE know someone who wears a cape?

For those interested in Roleplaying in and around the GTA, (By which I mean Greater Toronto Area) I'm probably the best DM you've got access to (unless you know a pro, or prefer gritty to campy or know Shamus Young...). I run DnD 4E, D20 Modern, D6 Adventures, Mutants and Masterminds and Two-Fisted Tales. I play loose with the rules in favour of the Rule of Cool and I've never been caught railroading.

BlueInkAlchemist:
Let's not forget that there's always the wonderful forums here on the Escapist.

That is to say: anybody up for D&D in the Philadelphia area? :D

That was oddly relevant to my interests. I was reading the whole article like "Why isn't there a website for playing D&D in Philly?"

Dude. Burning Wheel. Nice.

You missed one method of group finding.

The Student Games Society at your local uni. Give them a call/email most are willing to accept non-students, and when I was at Uni we had people in their late 30's, so not being 18-22 isn't as big a hindrance as you'd think.

I found this artical interesting. I got into TTRPG when I was a freshmen at high school. Then I got into games at my local game store even a couple of years after it closed. Now I am at a nice relitivly new comic shop on Saterday mornings playing a 1930's theamed GURPS game.

Thanks for the advice!

BlueInkAlchemist:
Let's not forget that there's always the wonderful forums here on the Escapist.

That is to say: anybody up for D&D in the Philadelphia area? :D

Sigh I tried that last night.
www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/9.189647-DND-personalls-add#5883836

JaredXE:

I'll admit, I'm a bit of a snob when it comes to nerd-things. In my mind, liking a hobby is fine, enjoying it is fine, spending hours of your day doing it is fine. But when you reach the nerdish obsessive levels that you see in stereotypical (and stereotypes exist for a reason) nerd, then I have a problem. Focusing on gaming: if you wear a cape and you don't have superpowers or it's not Halloween, then you're a tool. Loudly engaging in a discussion about race relations between elves and dwarves, or whether Anakin could have taken Obi-Wan (high-ground or not), at length in a public area....obsessive.

I know, I'm horrible. But is it too much to ask for players who are reasonable and sensible and can enjoy a game for what it is, and not have to deal with the sweaty neck-beards?

How is it obsessive? People talk about other passions and interests all the time in public areas. Two people could be comparing the merits of two sporting legends in a public place. Would you call them obsessive? As long as they aren't being obnoxious and loud, I don't see what the problem is. Is this gaming-related or just in general? I don't see why people see gaming as separate from every other interest or hobby. We're trying to get rid of that social stigma, not reinforce it by being ashamed to discuss the hobby publically.

khaimera:
Maybe I'm late to this realization, but are we trying to take back the term nerds? Are we trying to get rid of its negative connotation? The way black people did with that other derogatory term. I only read the post here, not the article, and using the phrase nerd annoys me.

Me too.

I prefer "Geek". To me "Nerd" has connotations of only living for school/college/university and forsaking all forms of social life in order to study. "Geeks" have a social life, but it is just as likely to involve plastic dwarfs as it does going to the pub!

I actually started a game with some friends last weekend. It was crazy fun but I can't play this weekend... it sucks having a life as well.

Going to GenCon eh, Mr. Tito?

Well then I'll see you there, Indiana would love to have you.

I saw some people LARPing in Central Park yesterday. This guy and girl were fighting with a foam ax and sword respectively. As I was watching, the girl swung at the guy and missed. Then, as she was recovering, this guy throws all 250 plus lbs of himself behind swinging his ax and clocks this girl onto her ass. She started crying, all the LARPers dropped character, went over to help her and gave the ax man dirty looks while he stood around awkwardly.

The lesson here, for people looking to join a LARPing group, is that making weak people cry is awesome, as long as you can deal with the awkward silences and stares that follow.

Yeah, i remember the first time i went to a D&D game, i got in since i insisted my brother taking me with him.

But the group I've played with for the last 4 years or so seems to be braking up. At the best times we had over 12 people wanting to game. Now, there are still players, but the good DM that we had (i have to say, every story he made was very good) went to became a policeman, and now, he doesn't have the time to make. And also, several good players, like my brother ,can't play often since they are away at collage. Tough most want to play again, they just can't get together anymore. Kinda sad seeing everyone going away... The only DM we have left ... well, I think his stories are stupid. And i haven't gone to his games for the last 3 or 4 times. Looks like i won't be playing D&D much more. Quite sad. D&D is one of the most fun things I've ever done, so many laughs, so many memories...

Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

I was very lucky when I first started gaming, I have a good few friends who game on a weekly basis(in fact most of my friends are gamers) &I expressed an intrests in wanting to RP with them, so when my friend Brian asked me if I wanted to join a new game he was starting up I jumped at the chance to join them // That was 2006, nowadays I game three times a weeks with three different groups of friends, althou there us some cross over, & I love each&every night of it

I think the most important that I get out of these are the chances to create character&take them somewhere&if it wasn't for the people I game with I would not be able to do this

-M

I miss playing tabletop.

It's hard to find a decent group (or even a crap group for that matter) out in the countryside of Norway.
Damn shame, I used to enjoy new World of Darkness a whole damn lot!

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Have you tried forum RPs. I've looked for one. It's hard to find a place that actually accepts new players.

My mother isn't one of those people who thinks D&D(Oooo an ampersande!) is the devil's work, but she does think that if I hang out with other geeks it will that mean she will never have grandchildren or something like that. I suppose I'll have to wait until college. Though, this might be out by then. Perhaps they will even have remote synchronization with each other. That would be EPIC and quite worth the wait(I hope).

Rex Dark:
This article just deals with the one problem I have...
Or better said, the one problem I had, now it's more a problem of time.

I hear ya, brother. But there is light at the end of the tunnel! It's no perfect solution, but there are lots of websites that offer play by post gaming. Try Googling Play By Post DnD, and you'll find there are lots of sites that give you the luxury of time while playing. If not for them, I would have gone mad from gaming deprivation a long time ago. Such is life with a hectic schedule.

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Have you tried forum RPs. I've looked for one. It's hard to find a place that actually accepts new players.

My mother isn't one of those people who thinks D&D(Oooo an ampersande!) is the devil's work, but she does think that if I hang out with other geeks it will that mean she will never have grandchildren or something like that. I suppose I'll have to wait until college. Though, this might be out by then. Perhaps they will even have remote synchronization with each other. That would be EPIC and quite worth the wait(I hope).

Indeed I have, I do do narrative RP's over the net, but we find it a bit awkward to roll dice and such.

....Well, that is kinda offensive, ohz wellz, I don't mind much, but I feel it silly when people sterotype like that, kinda disheartening.

Hmmm, is that the Microsoft table? (Sorry, feeling too lazy to open the link.) That thing DOES look awesome, I must admit, when it has other RP systems in it as well, I'll be happy.

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Have you tried forum RPs. I've looked for one. It's hard to find a place that actually accepts new players.

My mother isn't one of those people who thinks D&D(Oooo an ampersande!) is the devil's work, but she does think that if I hang out with other geeks it will that mean she will never have grandchildren or something like that. I suppose I'll have to wait until college. Though, this might be out by then. Perhaps they will even have remote synchronization with each other. That would be EPIC and quite worth the wait(I hope).

Indeed I have, I do do narrative RP's over the net, but we find it a bit awkward to roll dice and such.

....Well, that is kinda offensive, ohz wellz, I don't mind much, but I feel it silly when people sterotype like that, kinda disheartening.

Hmmm, is that the Microsoft table? (Sorry, feeling too lazy to open the link.) That thing DOES look awesome, I must admit, when it has other RP systems in it as well, I'll be happy.

That has been my experience. Also, people seem to not come back after a while.

...Quite

Yep. That's it. The software is called Surfacescapes. The programmers don't even need to code all RP systems. Graphics would be difficult, but releasing a development kit would be awesome, especially because some people create their own RP systems.

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Have you tried forum RPs. I've looked for one. It's hard to find a place that actually accepts new players.

My mother isn't one of those people who thinks D&D(Oooo an ampersande!) is the devil's work, but she does think that if I hang out with other geeks it will that mean she will never have grandchildren or something like that. I suppose I'll have to wait until college. Though, this might be out by then. Perhaps they will even have remote synchronization with each other. That would be EPIC and quite worth the wait(I hope).

Indeed I have, I do do narrative RP's over the net, but we find it a bit awkward to roll dice and such.

....Well, that is kinda offensive, ohz wellz, I don't mind much, but I feel it silly when people sterotype like that, kinda disheartening.

Hmmm, is that the Microsoft table? (Sorry, feeling too lazy to open the link.) That thing DOES look awesome, I must admit, when it has other RP systems in it as well, I'll be happy.

That has been my experience. Also, people seem to not come back after a while.

...Quite

Yep. That's it. The software is called Surfacescapes. The programmers don't even need to code all RP systems. Graphics would be difficult, but releasing a development kit would be awesome, especially because some people create their own RP systems.

It would be awesome, even if just to have there so I don't have to be keeping thousand of pieces of paper. I don't think you could use it online, at least not on this table, but in the future, who knows? Maybe they'll add natal to it as well so you can see all the other boards in a little section at the top of the table.

But yes, I agree, they should release a development kit, so at least people could try put other systems into it as well.

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:

IHateDaManSkirt:

Dyp100:
Shame I doubt it'd be able to find anything like that in London.

There is like 3 shops that sell RP stuff in the whole of London. -Facepalm- THREE, in the most populated city in Europe.

I tried to get my friends together to play Dark Heresy, but they are pretty busy, plus I'm sure it'd fail at making up a lot. (I would much prefer experience as a player first.)

Annoyingly, if I did find some stuff, I'm only 15, plus I don't know any D&D rules.

Haha!There is at least 4 there. There is only one in my town.( Yes, since I am an American, I can compare my small, xenophobic town to London!) But, I can't go to it of course. My mother would kill me before I ever RPed.

Still 3. xD Gamestation is like the UK Gamestop. Still, those shops only sell supplies, annoyingly. Wish I could get a group together.

Also, your mother one of those people who thinks D&D is the devils work, or nerds are bad people or some shit?

Have you tried forum RPs. I've looked for one. It's hard to find a place that actually accepts new players.

My mother isn't one of those people who thinks D&D(Oooo an ampersande!) is the devil's work, but she does think that if I hang out with other geeks it will that mean she will never have grandchildren or something like that. I suppose I'll have to wait until college. Though, this might be out by then. Perhaps they will even have remote synchronization with each other. That would be EPIC and quite worth the wait(I hope).

Indeed I have, I do do narrative RP's over the net, but we find it a bit awkward to roll dice and such.

....Well, that is kinda offensive, ohz wellz, I don't mind much, but I feel it silly when people sterotype like that, kinda disheartening.

Hmmm, is that the Microsoft table? (Sorry, feeling too lazy to open the link.) That thing DOES look awesome, I must admit, when it has other RP systems in it as well, I'll be happy.

That has been my experience. Also, people seem to not come back after a while.

...Quite

Yep. That's it. The software is called Surfacescapes. The programmers don't even need to code all RP systems. Graphics would be difficult, but releasing a development kit would be awesome, especially because some people create their own RP systems.

It would be awesome, even if just to have there so I don't have to be keeping thousand of pieces of paper. I don't think you could use it online, at least not on this table, but in the future, who knows? Maybe they'll add natal to it as well so you can see all the other boards in a little section at the top of the table.

But yes, I agree, they should release a development kit, so at least people could try put other systems into it as well.

The table is connected to a computer. The internet aspect could come from there. I'm sure other Microsoft Surface developers have used it with the internet. How would they add "natal" to it, though?

Ha! I can't believe all these tips are cropping up at The Escapist at the minute! I just started DnDing after Christmas and this would have been seriously useful.... oh well.

one i use is warhorn but im not sure if its just a local thing or not

Yeah finding a gaming group wasn't easy for me, i kept trying to convince different groups of my friends to join me in a game of D&D. But, sadly they never seemed to stick to the idea. I had one friend that i used to play with, but at one point he moved away. So, for a couple years i was RPGless. Until one day, i found out that one of my friends actually DMed a group of his own. so, I got a place and time and met up with them . it's been a lot of fun getting back into it with a friendly group.

 

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