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Geek, Dork, Nerd

You may have been teased for it as a child, but this week we're celebrating how nerdy you are.

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Russ Pitts:
There's even a growing trend to "own" that moniker and make it a rallying cry.

For what it's worth, I've been flying that flag proudly since I first started playing 40k back in the Rogue Trader days at the tender age of six.

I've always been a geek, It's only as an adult I've been able to afford to do it 'hardcore'. :D

Hell...you were lucky to be the cool guy and at the same time have some nerdy activities.

Also, i was also bullied in school. It started in class 5 or so (i was about 11 i think), and got worse and worse. Some new kids came to the class (in year 8 or so)that made my life a living hell. But they couldn't even finish the grade and i got rid of them. I was bullied since i was one of the best in all of the grades, aka different, i think. It sucked really bad to be me. I started to hate recess, since that was the time they would come to "make me a visit".

But...then, in grade 9, something weird happened. It stopped. The bullies that were still in my class didn't move on to other victims...they just changed. I have no idea why, but I'm happy as hell.But still, that change was quite mysterious, i reckoned that it had something to do with being teenagers or whatnot.
My life was really miserable, but now it's all flowers and puppy-dogs. More or less.

I'm glad i didn't quit halfway through the time in my life called "I hate my life", be it by going to another school or something more drastic...

I'm proud to be a geek or nerd! (i don't really like dork, can you blame me? Maybe)

That picture with Darth Vader holding the worlds best dad cup...

Epic.

I was bullied from Kindergarten onwards. Kids aren't as evil as they used to be, they're much, much more evil nowadays.

Russ Pitts:

...but I can honestly look back on that time of my life as the point at which I stopped caring what other people thought of me and decided to be myself and stand up for my right to do so.

I came to the same conclusion about my junior year in high school, and it was incredible to finally shrug off all the bullshit that went with my teen years and go, "None of this is going to matter a year from now, so why should I feel ashamed about it?"

I was bullied in my early years, but then I literally turned Ninja because everyone mellowed out and stopped picking on me. Or, maybe it was because I was a head taller than everyone by grade 6? I don't know. Eventually I went to high school where everything was hell for a year in a half, but again, things turned better (mostly because the "bullies" either stopped coming to school or were just to high/drunk to do anything).For once I had friends instead of one and a half (some people I never really connected with). Nerds ftw!

For the most part I've had a similar experience to Russ.
I've never had trouble making friends despite having some more geeky interests, but I have of course been through my own social hardships because of it.
All-in-all worth it :)

HG131:
I was bullied from Kindergarten onwards. Kids aren't as evil as they used to be, they're much, much more evil nowadays.

This.

Facilitated by parents who have no desire to, along with school administrators, teachers, and other officials who completely ignore it, encourage it, or wave it away with a "kids will be kids."

The case-in-point is last week's Rutgers suicide. Using a hidden camera to record someone having sex without their knowledge is simply wrong, but spreading the video around is evil. And these were college "kids," who are supposedly mature enough to drive, vote, and join the military. The entire country will see them get a slap on the wrist, and it will spawn a new generation of kids just like them.

Unfortunately...I was a bully. I picked on kids who I saw as geeks, nerds, and dorks. I shoved them in lockers, laughed when I broke their toys, and did everything I could to make their lives hell... I did it because here were kids who were doing some of the weirdest shit I'd ever seen, and no one expected them to be doing anything different. They were happy. I was furious. I'd never been happy molding in with the crowd. They all stood together when someone got bullied, but for my group, if it got hot you were on your own. I couldn't stand that there was a group of people who were having fun doing what they wanted. Shortly after my second year of high school, I said fuck it and dropped everything that I was doing and embraced things that made me happy. I lost a ton of social cred, and my girlfriend at the time dumped me, but I didn't care. I was finally happy with who I was. Unfortunately, I looked back at some of the kids that I had bullied, and tried to apologize, but they didn't care. I had driven one of them to being a complete shut in. He dropped out of school, and stopped doing anything. When I saw him(he was sent to an institution.) I cried. I hated myself, and I still do. Nothing fixes bullying, and it's wrong for anyone to do it. If I could go back in time, I would kick the shit out of myself, regardless of age. Feel free to flame and hate P.M. me. I deserve it...

i can truly say that not only is my comic book collection, DVD Anime collection, action figure collection, video game collection, and all of the above t-shirt paraphernalia collection extremely profuse, but i also have a large amount of team MVP sports trophy's(in real life). i am never ashamed of being the geek that i am. i own the entire series of dragon ball Z on DVD and adorn my room with geek posters. (and im married so you can imagine how my wife, who is of no geekiness at all feels about this.) no one ever messed with me in high school because i looked crazy. and to tell the truth, i might have been a little over exuberant in the effort to protect the small and geeky from the likes of the bully. In any case, i love that the world is moving towards a place where it is cool to be a geek. With shows on television like "the big bang theory" and video game terms like "Pwnd" moving out of the geek realm into the real world. well i just sit back and say, "Ive been doing it all along." there is a small amount of pride that comes when people start to come around to something you've always been into, and i definitely take pride in the fact that i have been a geek for as long as i can remember.

Eren Murtaugh:
Unfortunately...I was a bully. I picked on kids who I saw as geeks, nerds, and dorks. I shoved them in lockers, laughed when I broke their toys, and did everything I could to make their lives hell... I did it because here were kids who were doing some of the weirdest shit I'd ever seen, and no one expected them to be doing anything different. They were happy. I was furious. I'd never been happy molding in with the crowd. They all stood together when someone got bullied, but for my group, if it got hot you were on your own. I couldn't stand that there was a group of people who were having fun doing what they wanted. Shortly after my second year of high school, I said fuck it and dropped everything that I was doing and embraced things that made me happy. I lost a ton of social cred, and my girlfriend at the time dumped me, but I didn't care. I was finally happy with who I was. Unfortunately, I looked back at some of the kids that I had bullied, and tried to apologize, but they didn't care. I had driven one of them to being a complete shut in. He dropped out of school, and stopped doing anything. When I saw him(he was sent to an institution.) I cried. I hated myself, and I still do. Nothing fixes bullying, and it's wrong for anyone to do it. If I could go back in time, I would kick the shit out of myself, regardless of age. Feel free to flame and hate P.M. me. I deserve it...

you may deserve a lot of things but at least you tried to apologize and that is commendable in my eyes. not to mention we can all see by your avatar that you are no different from the rest of us now.

JashobeamZ:

Eren Murtaugh:
Unfortunately...I was a bully. I picked on kids who I saw as geeks, nerds, and dorks. I shoved them in lockers, laughed when I broke their toys, and did everything I could to make their lives hell... I did it because here were kids who were doing some of the weirdest shit I'd ever seen, and no one expected them to be doing anything different. They were happy. I was furious. I'd never been happy molding in with the crowd. They all stood together when someone got bullied, but for my group, if it got hot you were on your own. I couldn't stand that there was a group of people who were having fun doing what they wanted. Shortly after my second year of high school, I said fuck it and dropped everything that I was doing and embraced things that made me happy. I lost a ton of social cred, and my girlfriend at the time dumped me, but I didn't care. I was finally happy with who I was. Unfortunately, I looked back at some of the kids that I had bullied, and tried to apologize, but they didn't care. I had driven one of them to being a complete shut in. He dropped out of school, and stopped doing anything. When I saw him(he was sent to an institution.) I cried. I hated myself, and I still do. Nothing fixes bullying, and it's wrong for anyone to do it. If I could go back in time, I would kick the shit out of myself, regardless of age. Feel free to flame and hate P.M. me. I deserve it...

you may deserve a lot of things but at least you tried to apologize and that is commendable in my eyes. not to mention we can all see by your avatar that you are no different from the rest of us now.

In truth, I have no clue who the guy in my avatar is, I just picked it from a web comic I was making. He was gonna be saying that to lyrics of a song by Kesha. I have embraced a bit more geekyness since then , but it still doesn't fix the fact that I sent that poor kid to an institution.

Your double-life sounds very familiar when I think of my growing up. I played hockey, I did alright in most of my courses, but in sciences something clicked into place and things just made sense before they were suppose to. I kept my head down for the most part, and was quite good at hockey so that helped some socially. I also have dyslexia, and so the long walk to 'Resource Room', or as the cool kids called it, "Retard Room," helped nudge me back over to the dork/geek/weird camp. I had friends on both ends of the spectrum; the bro jock, and the bespectacled D&D geek. And, on most Friday nights, after playing pick up hockey for a couple of hours, I would find myself playing video games (so many hours with my n64 and PS2) or watching Adult Swim.

It's interesting thinking back on it now, but one thing's for sure I am definitely consider myself a geek/nerd/dork now. Going out bars to hang out is about as appealing to me as hitting myself int he face with a hammer. But, staying in, cooking a fun meal, and watching Hitchhikers Guide sounds like my kind of ideal Friday night - luckily my gal thinks the same.

Halley M:

Eren Murtaugh:

In truth, I have no clue who the guy in my avatar is, I just picked it from a web comic I was making. He was gonna be saying that to lyrics of a song by Kesha. I have embraced a bit more geekyness since then , but it still doesn't fix the fact that I sent that poor kid to an institution.

bullshit.

You don't have to be a Star Trek fan to know who Captain Picard is, you just have to be alive and have access to any kind of television. You're clearly capable to surfing the internet and therefore have access to the basic information relayed there. Thanks to this post, I call bullshit on your whole story...the bullying, the dude who ended up institutionalized, that whole, clichéd little rant of yours that sounded like it was pulled directly from Dr. Phil.

but let me guess: you don't know who Dr. Phil is.

I know who Dr. Phil is, and for your information, I don't watch a lot of TV. I watch CMT in the mornings, and turn on PBS Kids for my nephews. I knew he was from the X-Men movies, but I never knew his name. Sorry I don't fit your bill of a TV obsessed mindless idiot. I read. But, I wasn't asking [i]you[i/] to forgive me for anything. If all you're here for is to try and call "bullshit" on my story, maybe you shouldn't be here. Believe what you will, I;m not gonna defend myself unnecessarily against someone who's gonna try and shoot down everything I say to them.
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Hmmm funny I've always (and still have) had a wierd experience.
To start it off I wasn't always a nerd, sure I may have played a bit of Doom and Wolfenstein and Half-life but it was never really serious..and back then i didn't know what the difference between a CD and a DVD was *shame* .
Then at the age of about ten things changed- i got a new computer (still using it now, soon will upgrade to a i7 DX11 machine :) ) and things exploded. In litellary two years I got into D&D, Hardware, Comics and a LOT of videogames. So suddenly after a year or so I realised- I was now a nerd. Crap I thought I must look really bad in peoples eyes. But was it because I was "normal" before, or something else I don't know but I never stopped my old habits. I still went out. I still played football a LOT.
To be honest I was always considered a bit nerdy since I am, well I really hate bragging about it but lets just say i have an "above average" IQ. Also people have told me I have a great sense of humour.
So logically I made friends EXTREMELY easy so I awlays knew closely at least 70% of the people from each class. Maybe thats why I never got bullied. Sure I was nerdy as hell but I dressed like the "cool dudes" I acted like them, I joked with them and so I never felt excluded in any way. I got invited to partys and birthdays, I had a ton of friends, everything was great.
I guess another factor was the fact I moved a lot. My first school was an ordinary one but when I reached 4th grade, my parents decided I should go to a better school. So I went to a mathematics school from 5th to 7th grade. I adjusted suprisingly well and had even MORE friends than before. Then at 7th grade I took the admitance tests (thats how things work in my country) and I got in everywhere. So I was split up... Most of my friends went to a higher tier mathematics college, but they were all the "nerdy ones" and also going there would make me go to math competitions and the like. My other choice was ACS- American College of Sofia( its in Bulgaria-Go Berbatov :P ), it was famous for its strict rules, discipline and how succesful all the kids that came out of it were. So I made a leap of faith. (On a side note whilst studying English outside of school I was a bit closer to a "nerd" since I watched a LOT of cartoons as little and was way ahead of the rest and as a result was 4 years ahead of my age. Let me tell you something being 10 and having to be with 15 year olds staring at you like your an alien all the time was NOT a good experience. Also the fact I won essay competitions and got an average of 97% didn't help either :/. It's a bit weird since I never have studied... EVER. I went to take a scholarship test and was first after exiting 20 minutes after the begining...the test was supposed to be 2hrs. And sinced I start feeling im braging a lot lets just continue)

So here I am 9th grade... I have a girlfriend, I am in the school soccer team, i actively play tennis, I am now learning to play the guitar adn yet... I'm nerdier than ever.
I have no idea how this happened but it's awesome. I feel great now. The teachers like me. The "cool kids" all know me and like me and the nerds accept me as one of their own. I am my class representative at the moment so yeah I'd say im pretty popular in the school. I seriously don't know how i do it. I always seem to find the biggest amount of friends for the least amount of time. I've always felt like the link between all the worlds. I have emo friends, death metal friends, nerdy friends, athletic friends even a couple of gothic female friends. Most of them would never even CONSIDER talking to each other, yet, they all accept me.
Is it humour? Is it charisma (I always disregard that stat in RPGs :P ) I don't know.
I have no idea how I pulled it off but I love my life.
Being a nerd and enjoying it to the fullest whilst being greeted by everyone in the hallways feels great.
So yeah there goes your anti-social nerd theory...
P.S. I'm sorry for the chaotic style of writing and the grammar/punctual mistakes in it i'm kind of in a hurry right now so yeah sry :)
Also excuse me if I've gotten waay to arrogant in the post, I honestly did not do it on purpose.
P.S.2 I almost forgot three very important things in my story which im not proud of...
-first of all I have done something that I'm really ashamed of before- hurting nerdy kids so as to seem cool in front of the "cool kids", even after appologising I feel really bad for all I've done :( (And will never do it again)
-People have tried to bully me twice:
-once in 4th grade a bunch of 7th graders tried to punch one of my friend in OUR OWN FREAKING classroom no less, so I flipped and I might have punched three or four of them and I did throw my self knee forward into one guys stomach... I'm not really proud of that but people did somehow start to respect me more so two weeks later those same guys met me behind school and tried to surround me but about 20 kids from our grade jumped on them and chased them away. The fact they stood up for me made me feel great and I think it shows there are good friends out there. (I don't really like friends who run away when you need them). Two weeks after that the 7th graders came to me shook my hand and appologised.
- In 8th grade when I was still a "newbie" in the school a 9th grader tried to pull me out of my polace in the cafeteria. So I stood up and I asked him are you really sure you want to get yourself hurt and expelled for some crappy cafeteria food? (the rules in the school are VERY strict about the guy who attacks first) I think that caught him off guard because he stood there staring at me and then grumped and walked away. We are now great friends and play games regularly. SO don't misdjudge bullies people. They have hearts too :)
P.S. Sorry about it being so HUGE :(
tl;dr Nerds aren't always outcasts of society.

Eren Murtaugh:

I know who Dr. Phil is, and for your information, I don't watch a lot of TV. I watch CMT in the mornings, and turn on PBS Kids for my nephews. I knew he was from the X-Men movies, but I never knew his name. Sorry I don't fit your bill of a TV obsessed mindless idiot. I read. But, I wasn't asking [i]you[i/] to forgive me for anything. If all you're here for is to try and call "bullshit" on my story, maybe you shouldn't be here. Believe what you will, I;m not gonna defend myself unnecessarily against someone who's gonna try and shoot down everything I say to them.
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LMAO!

my my, you sure went from "Feel free to flame and hate P.M. me. I deserve it..." to insanely defensive pretty quickly. Maybe I was wrong about you, you seem to have the same kind of personality traits as a typical bully - able to dish it out but just can't take it.

you seems to think you've grown up since your childhood days but believe me, you haven't. Some free advice: if you're going to hang out on the internet freely offering up personal information and participating on message boards, learn to grow a thicker skin.

Karma's a bitch.

Halley M:

Eren Murtaugh:

In truth, I have no clue who the guy in my avatar is, I just picked it from a web comic I was making. He was gonna be saying that to lyrics of a song by Kesha. I have embraced a bit more geekyness since then , but it still doesn't fix the fact that I sent that poor kid to an institution.

bullshit.

You don't have to be a Star Trek fan to know who Captain Picard is, you just have to be alive and have access to any kind of television. You're clearly capable to surfing the internet and therefore have access to the basic information relayed there. Thanks to this post, I call bullshit on your whole story...the bullying, the dude who ended up institutionalized, that whole, clichéd little rant of yours that sounded like it was pulled directly from Dr. Phil.

but let me guess: you don't know who Dr. Phil is.

i don't know if his story is true or not but i can only weep in knowing that the king of all space pimps (captain Picard) isn't known by someone who is a frequenter of a forum such as this.

Pariahwulfen:

Russ Pitts:
There's even a growing trend to "own" that moniker and make it a rallying cry.

For what it's worth, I've been flying that flag proudly since I first started playing 40k back in the Rogue Trader days at the tender age of six.

High 5 for 40k!

But back on topic:
OK didn't we just get told not to use the word "gamer" by like 3 different people on this site because it was pidgeon holeing us and making us outcasts, how is nerd, geek or dork any different?

I call shenanigans!

I was bullied like that too. And in 4th grade I snapped as well and pushed back. And when he tried to push me again, I dodged to the side and he fell over. This kid was a jerk so everyone laughed when he fell over in the cafeteria.

To the young geeks out there now, you're welcome. People like me and Russ and almost all the members of this site suffered so you don't have to nowadays. And we most likely would do it again in a heartbeat. I know I would.

Probably a little overdramatic, but oh well.

ironlordthemad:

But back on topic:
OK didn't we just get told not to use the word "gamer" by like 3 different people on this site because it was pidgeon holeing us and making us outcasts, how is nerd, geek or dork any different?

I call shenanigans!

whoa, who said we can't use the word "gamer"? It's called owning who you are and not being ashamed of it. I'm a proud gamer and a geek and anyone who says there's something wrong with that has issues with their *own* self-esteem, that has nothing to do with the rest of us.

I am a geek. I have always been a geek and I think I will remain a geek. I never joined a sports team, I got serious about school, I've never drank alcohol and I only moderately care if the Roughriders win the Grey Cup or not.

I am never going to change who I am. I too had a bully experience and I too was humiliated. But that is behind me. The bully now works part time in an Esso late at night, in the toughest part of Saskatoon. I don't hold the grudge and I think he has moved on from being the jerk too.

So, wearing my Geek to the Core badge on my profile on the Escapist, I continue to live my life as I like it.

Screw you society. I'm not an anarchist but I don't like being told who I should be.

I will rather be a geek then a "cool guy".
Because I know that is not who I am.
For I am UBERWAISNER.

Halley M:

Eren Murtaugh:

I know who Dr. Phil is, and for your information, I don't watch a lot of TV. I watch CMT in the mornings, and turn on PBS Kids for my nephews. I knew he was from the X-Men movies, but I never knew his name. Sorry I don't fit your bill of a TV obsessed mindless idiot. I read. But, I wasn't asking [i]you[i/] to forgive me for anything. If all you're here for is to try and call "bullshit" on my story, maybe you shouldn't be here. Believe what you will, I;m not gonna defend myself unnecessarily against someone who's gonna try and shoot down everything I say to them.
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LMAO!

my my, you sure went from "Feel free to flame and hate P.M. me. I deserve it..." to insanely defensive pretty quickly. Maybe I was wrong about you, you seem to have the same kind of personality traits as a typical bully - able to dish it out but just can't take it.

you seems to think you've grown up since your childhood days but believe me, you haven't. Some free advice: if you're going to hang out on the internet freely offering up personal information and participating on message boards, learn to grow a thicker skin.

Karma's a bitch.

2 points on your retort. 1, you didn't hate or flame on me, you called into question my entire story because of some arbitrary character I didn't know, pushing me instantly to the wayside because I didn't fit your bill of a reformed person.
2, I can take it as well as anyone, as long as it's not some belligerent, stupid attempt at
trying to disprove an entire story someone has because they don't know one person. That's like you playing a game, and someone saying to you "That's bullshit, you never played the game because you don't know the name of this guy who has nothing to do with that game, but is in fact an entirely different character from some odd, unrelated topic." It makes no sense whatsoever, and is an inanely stupid reason for not believing someone about anything. Try not jumping to conclusions, and I'll try to care about your opinions.

ironlordthemad:

Pariahwulfen:

Russ Pitts:
There's even a growing trend to "own" that moniker and make it a rallying cry.

For what it's worth, I've been flying that flag proudly since I first started playing 40k back in the Rogue Trader days at the tender age of six.

High 5 for 40k!

But back on topic:
OK didn't we just get told not to use the word "gamer" by like 3 different people on this site because it was pidgeon holeing us and making us outcasts, how is nerd, geek or dork any different?

I call shenanigans!

I believe this should answer your question rather well. http://www.bjccreations.com/geek/vol1/comic.php?17

I guess I was destined to be pretty nerdy since the day my parents named me, my name is an anagram for "a nerd".

Hmm... most of the Escapist goes on and on about not using the term "gamer", "geek", etc., then Russ Pitts tells us that it's a badge of honor... I smell unrest!

OT: I've never really had an issue with it, as being a geek/nerd was always fun. I never really got "picked on"... not really sure why.

I wasn't really picked on for my hobbies, or what I did. I was picked on because I was basically the freak show. I was 6'4"(at age 12), weighed 180 pounds, and didn't get all the trendy clothes like everybody else. I didn't really have any friends until about the 7th grade, when I met a guy who had their family move in from Ohio.

We ended up just hitting it off, and he seemed pretty normal for the most part. Turns out we were born on the same day, and just seemed pretty similar. I did the whole "gifted" math thing for a while, until I just decided to coast through high school.

I don't even know where I went with that. I know that I've changed, and gaming has gone from a private secret shame to mainstream. It's okay to have a Wii in your living room, or an X-Box 360, or PS3.

Man... FUCK passive-aggressiveness!
I remember how in middle-school there were always some vicious pranksters, bullies, and a lot of bigger kids; but I always stood-up to all of them and didn't take no shit from Nobody.
Yes, that did get me into trouble more often than not, but I realized from an early age that living in fear is no way to live.

So when a bigger kid came-up to me demanding for something, I'd just punch them in the gut before getting lost in the crowd. And when someone would stick-out their foot to trip me on the Hallway, I would just stomp on their toes and casually stroll along ...and if they'd call me out for it I would just be like -Oh, sorry! I didn't See you There :P

I think I'll proudly be myself till the day I die. I wanna be the loser grandpa who spends his weekends out on the porch with his PSP out on his lap. :D

yea i was in a very unique situation in my jr. high school, i was the only person in the special ed class without a wheelchair, so most of the severely mentally handicapped hated me, and then because i was in special ed the regular bullies/cool kids picked on me. i suffered through that all with heavy doses of experimental medication and lots of trips to the library to hide. i finally snapped on the main bully one day though.

he came at me as usual with a big grin and some kinda attitude, he threw his stuff on the ground and as the first punch connected with me i noticed he had a skateboard. he hit me a couple more times and i grabbed for it and started swinging it at him. i hit him good in the face with the edge of it, then i proceeded to hammer away at his leg. one broken kneecap and leg later i hit him in the chest with his board and walked home.

his family tried to sue us, but our school had a security system installed that showed most of every incident he started and i lost. we took it to court and had charges filed against him. we made them pay for the court fees and didnt ask for any money.

i met him again last year and he almost shit himself when i tried talking to him.

EadI was very much a nerd up until high school - gifted classes, dorky clothes, lack of girlfriend etc. I didn't care o it didn't affect me too much. I had a bully that hated me but I didn't really know what that meant and he never did much. However I was lucky because 1. I was friends with s lot of tougher cooler Judd because we all grew up together. One of my friends was in the bully's crowd (mostly they were kids who failed grades).

On top of that my schools were very academically focused and such. The kids who did poorly were kinda the pariahs (Plano TX).

In high school I found theater design and guitar playing and became edgy instead.

And now I'm back to geek. Quite happily, too.

I wear the term geek like a badge of honour. I'm happy being called geek or nerd.

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