Ladies Love Cool Lex Luthor

Ladies Love Cool Lex Luthor

Some people have beginner's luck with love.

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Bro-fist to young Lex.
Get shaved, get an awesome hat, and swagger like a baws.

Be the best you can, man!

Lara Crigger:
Love FAQ: Ladies Love Cool Lex Luthor

Some people have beginner's luck with love.

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Looks like this week's theme is "confidence."

Cupid is learning that being confident about your choices doesn't mean "never doubting them." It just means staying true in the face of inevitable doubt. Curiosity is a reflex. You can't control it, so you shouldn't feel bad when it comes up -- unless you're the sort that also feels awful when you sneeze or blink. Also, curiosity is not the same as doubt. Wondering what another relationship would be like isn't the same thing as doubting the one you're in... except sometimes our conscious mind tries to make it seem that way because we feel "guilty" for even considering it. We aren't defined by our feelings, but rather what we choose to do about them.

Mislabeled is just a social anachronism. You're at the wrong age to be so right-minded, that's all. Bide your time -- your day will come. When it comes to maturity and confident self-identity, you're an early adopter... and like the first people to get the telephone, you can't really do much with it until other people get one, too.

Lex is learning that confidence is earned, not bestowed. It's not about feeling like you won the genetic lottery and got everything "right." That's not confidence. Confidence is taking an honest look at what you've got, and saying, "Alright. Here we are. Let's do this." Like Lara said, embrace it! There's something to be said for taking something you might not have planned for, and making it into "I totally meant to do that!"

So own it by shaving your head to hide it? Out of all the examples given none of those men would be considered half as sexy if the had some hair on the sides and none on top. From someone who has had to shave his head (or wear a hat) from about eighteen on, shaving is admitting that being in the process of balding is incredibly unattractive and giving up on it. I do like these articles, just take issue on that one point.

Laurence Fishbourne,

Pssst... "Laurence Fishburne". No O.

Not to mention guys like Kerry King and Devin Townsend!
Or, to appeal to you Geek interests, Tywin Lannister (Because screw the TV show, he's bald as far as I care).

Rylot:
So own it by shaving your head to hide it? Out of all the examples given none of those men would be considered half as sexy if the had some hair on the sides and none on top. From someone who has had to shave his head (or wear a hat) from about eighteen on, shaving is admitting that being in the process of balding is incredibly unattractive and giving up on it. I do like these articles, just take issue on that one point.

I'd like to raise a counterpoint here. A lot of people who have hair also spend a lengthy amount of time styling their hair to look serviceable. We get haircuts so we can maintain a specific look. Everyone has a style that suits them more and makes them look more attractive. For most of us, attractiveness bolsters confidence. It's not so much that you're shamefully hiding how you naturally look, but that you're taking control of your appearance so you can meet specific goals. If you're balding, the baldness might not be even, or it might be patchy, and the fact is that patchy hair is very difficult to work with. I'm not sure if that speaks to your own experience or not, but when my mom's hair was falling out from cancer treatment, she found that she felt much better about her appearance with a bald head instead of leaving her hair to just fall out.

Is there a difference between looking at other people while in a relationship and being curious/doubting? When it comes to fantasizing, can't those can lead to relationships breaking? A friend had her boyfriend leave her because he couldn't stop fantasizing about this other girl.

Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)

Well for Cupid: I had an ex of 5 years whom only dated me as her first relationship. We had the best times ever together, but she eventually evaluated her options and wanted to be single to maybe date some other guys, and she completely changed her personality, future, and priorities to pursue these guys and be more like them so they would love her.

In the end I respected her for her choices,though it was immaturish to not know what you are looking for in a Loving Relationship.

It's cheating in my book, when you go from one guy to the next, not knowing who you truely are or what you truely want on the inside. Might as well be labeled a Porn Star, and take it up as a career, and then try to get married to a guy, when they know your are being fucked by strangers with STD's every minute of every day.

I will point out another short bald guy,the guy who plays Joe Longo from Mellisa and Joey. Just Google it.
Also, myself after Hajj(men are required to shave their head head the end of this pilgrimage). My profile pic was taken a year after that. Most people said I actually looked better with a shaved head.

Young Lex, if you haven't heard about Patrick Stewart's story with his baldness, it could persuade you to rock the Skullhead look:

Back when Patrick Stewart was in school, he too suffered from early male pattern baldness. He was mortified of it, he wore hats everywhere. His future wife and his best friend wanted him to get over it. So, after LOTS of talking didn't help, they held him down and cut the rest of his hair off. Since then, he's been looking like the Patrick Stewart we all know and love today.

If I was suffering from premature baldness as well, I would so fucking shave my head and keep it that way. It would kick ass.
Actually after thinking about that I can't remember the other two letters. :P

The_ModeRazor:
Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)

Two questions:
Why are you reading this out loud?
Is it ok that I say it in one word (/'Fæk/), or am I doing it completely wrong?

The_ModeRazor:
Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)

No because it's either "eff-ay-cue" if you say the letters, or "fack" if you pronounce it as a word.

You really have to work it to make it sound like "fuck you"...

Mr.Tea:

The_ModeRazor:
Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)

No because it's either "eff-ay-cue" if you say the letters, or "fack" if you pronounce it as a word.

You really have to work it to make it sound like "fuck you"...

Right. Was a bit racist there. That's how I'd say it if I were Hungarian (which I am) and used the english pronounciation of Q while saying it. Which I did. My bad.

If it helps, I'd like to mention that my very attractive younger brother has CHOSEN to shave his head, and he does it regularly because it grows back pretty fast. Vacuum is always clogged up though <_<

Damn, I think this is the best issue yet. Great job, Lara. I especially liked the first response too.

Whenever I start to wonder what it would be like to be back on the market, I just think back to all the girls I've heard whining about "why didn't he call/he just wanted to sleep with me/he already has a girlfriend/he's leading me on" and all the guys who I've heard whining about "she wants me to pay for everything/she only wants to go on dates where money is spent/she already has a boyfriend/she's psychotic and thinks we're in a relationship", and I'm suddenly very glad that I'm in a loving, long-term relationship.

After all, the next person you met could end up getting trashed on illegal substances and puking all over your bed on the first date (and yes, that did happen to my roommate. And he cleaned up her puke like a gentleman while I talked her through her bad trip).

For the fellow who's going bald:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOqIngh_-_A
Bald This Way!

Read the credits for a list of good examples!

Directed straight out at Mislabeled. The best way to negate the "oh look, gay" is to stop going to GSA meetings. On the campus I'm at, we have a local group and the first thing most people (myself included) think is "oh, they all gay." Why? Because most people don't give two shits in regards to gay rights so when you show you care... Well people might think you have ulterior motives. Hence the problem. And being sensitive is not helping.

Of course, it doesn't help that Berea's gay population is through the roof. Actually, disregard everything I just said. It probably won't apply to you.

Heh, that Lex Luthor advice is almost aimed towards me. My father is almost bald - think Homer Simpson, but without the lame combover and short hair on the back. What is sad is that no matter how I eat or wash my hair, I keep losing hair. I was planning on just shaving it bald when I hit the balding age, which was about 20-25 for my dad.

...Mainly because Vin Diesel looks damn awesome. And I'm growing a beard to make up for lack of hair.

The_ModeRazor:

Mr.Tea:

The_ModeRazor:
Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)

No because it's either "eff-ay-cue" if you say the letters, or "fack" if you pronounce it as a word.

You really have to work it to make it sound like "fuck you"...

Right. Was a bit racist there. That's how I'd say it if I were Hungarian (which I am) and used the english pronounciation of Q while saying it. Which I did. My bad.

I think most of the languages that derive from old Slavic languages read FAQ as "fuck you". I do, for instance, because it rolls off the tongue easier.

Abedeus:
Heh, that Lex Luthor advice is almost aimed towards

The_ModeRazor:

Mr.Tea:

No because it's either "eff-ay-cue" if you say the letters, or "fack" if you pronounce it as a word.

You really have to work it to make it sound like "fuck you"...

Right. Was a bit racist there. That's how I'd say it if I were Hungarian (which I am) and used the english pronounciation of Q while saying it. Which I did. My bad.

I think most of the languages that derive from old Slavic languages read FAQ as "fuck you". I do, for instance, because it rolls off the tongue easier.

You do know hungarian is not a Slavic language right?

Dear Young Lex Luthor,

A bald head is simply a solar panel for a sex machine.

Sincerely,
Slightly older Lex Luthor

Ignuus66:

Abedeus:
Heh, that Lex Luthor advice is almost aimed towards

The_ModeRazor:

Right. Was a bit racist there. That's how I'd say it if I were Hungarian (which I am) and used the english pronounciation of Q while saying it. Which I did. My bad.

I think most of the languages that derive from old Slavic languages read FAQ as "fuck you". I do, for instance, because it rolls off the tongue easier.

You do know hungarian is not a Slavic language right?

Actually, it has roots in it. Hungarian broke off at the very start. All Eastern European languages share the same roots, until some point.

Bald is beautiful, high school sucks, and the grass is always greener.

All true. I've read this exact advice before elsewhere, I still find this article pretty entertaining.

Abedeus:

Actually, it has roots in it. Hungarian broke off at the very start. All Eastern European languages share the same roots, until some point.

I thought that the only language that even resembles Hungarian is Finnish, and that it shares little with the languages of the surrounding countries?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hungarian_language#Controversy_over_origins

Though I suppose that it has to share something with the surrounding countries.

Also, I thought that the Hungarians weren't Slavs either, though Hungary borders some Slavic nations.

I ask because I'm ethnically Hungarian and that's just what I've always been told about it.

jurnag12:

Or, to appeal to you Geek interests, Tywin Lannister (Because screw the TV show, he's bald as far as I care).

He's not bald in the books, is he?
I always pictured him as having the blonde hair of the rest of the lannisters.

I can kinda relate to Mr. Mislabeled, in the fact that I actively refused to be 'part of the group' for most of grade school and all of high school & college. Actually it wasn't entirely by choice. I tried making friends with the fellow geeks in high school, but for some reason I was always just left behind and regarded as an outsider. I had one, maybe two people I could regard as actual friends in high school, a girl and her boyfriend. That pretty much fell apart when one day for some reason, the boyfriend lashed out at me and almost fought me because he thought I was trying to steal his girlfriend. The rest of the geek group i thought I had befriended pretty much shunned me when I publicly went to the dean because I was being bullied and none of the teachers or TA's gave a shit. Needless to say the rest of the girls in school totally ignored me and wanted nothing to do with me, but I honestly didn't give a shit.

Actually, this has nothing to do with being mislabeled. I just refused to be labeled, so I never fit in in high school. College (well, culinary school actually) was totally different in that no one cared about groups. I was accepted because we were pretty much all either delinquents or social misfits. Still didn't get any interest from the opposite gender. Still don't. Still don't really give a shit.

To me, if being different means being feared and avoided, so be it.

Uszi:

jurnag12:

Or, to appeal to you Geek interests, Tywin Lannister (Because screw the TV show, he's bald as far as I care).

He's not bald in the books, is he?
I always pictured him as having the blonde hair of the rest of the lannisters.

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He started going bald, so he shaved his entire head, because 'Tywin Lannister does not take half measures'.
He does have some wicked sidewhiskers, though. So technically you're right, I suppose.

That was an interesting read for a bald person such as myself. I went bald at 16 and have worn a bandanna to cover it up at school/college. I'm now 19 and after much medical treatment, my hair is growing back, though the process is slow and patchy and I'm wondering whether to just once again, shave my head and go bandanna-less for the first time in public.

 

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