Fetishes And The People Who Love Them

Fetishes And The People Who Love Them

Just because you're different doesn't mean that you need to be alone.

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Huh, I should take some of that to heart (even though I don't really have a certain fetish).

OOH! What if there could be an Ask Dr. Mark Panel at Expo 2012?

jdogtwodolla:
Huh, I should take some of that to heart (even though I don't really have a certain fetish).

OOH! What if there could be an Ask Dr. Mark Panel at Expo 2012?

Apparently his live panels are amaaaaazing :)

Of course, I have no idea what your sexual fantasies involve and I can certainly imagine some so violent and destructive that they would indeed be practically impossible.

Wow. It is good or bad that I didn't think of "impossible due to their violent and destructive nature" so much as "impossible because one will never have thirty tentacle-dicks"?

(body parts, articles of clothing, hardware, your iPhone)

Rounded edges: Good.
Lack of flared base: Bad. You will be a funny ER story.

Dr. Mark Kline doesn't remember as much sex in the Game of Thrones books as he sees on HBO.

I hate sex on the telly. I keep falling off.

Am I the only one that read the question and thought he kind of missed the point? From how the question is worded, I was guessing his/her fetish is along the lines of shrinking to the size of a mouse and being swallowed whole or watching your partner turn purple and inflate like a giant blueberry. In any case, I don't think the advice works if the desire is a logical/physical impossibility.

(Cue person complaining about too many fetishists on the escapist)

I really liked what he said about the need for human relationships to sustain whatever it is in us that desires sex. I've seen many, many people online, both male and female, who act as though relationships are an unnecessary construct from the past. Maybe "those" people can just materialize sex out of thin air with such frequency that they don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend, but for most people, it would really really be nice to have someone we can go to with a certain amount of regularity and form an emotional bond with. I don't even understand the concept of wanting to have sex with someone you didn't have feelings for. Maybe I'm weird, but the act of sex in of itself really doesn't compare to straight masturbation. The only reason the times I've had sex were fun and special were because I truly cared about the person I was fucking and wanted to have fun with her specifically. I don't know how people just fuck and leave without ever speaking again. It eats me up inside sometimes when I think back on my only experiences with sex (and being subsequently ignored).

I think the person who wrote the letter probably hasn't actually been in a decent relationship and such ancillary fetish stuff would go away in pursuit of two person activities. With internet pornography, we may have made ourselves too dependent on the orgasmic fantasies in our own minds and it doesn't translate particularly well to actual intercourse. It doesn't mean "regular" sex can't be enjoyable though. The first time somebody touched me, I was shaking involuntarily, not because of nervousness, but the foreign sensation of human contact. I found that a few hours after that, none of my porn or my fantasies "worked" anymore because it just couldn't recreate reality the same way.

So, short version of point I was trying to make - If you truly cared about someone other than yourself, then your fetishes wouldn't matter as much you think they do. It doesn't make you a "bad or selfish person," but you might not have had the opportunity to give something of yourself to someone else (emotionally). In other words, pursue relationships with other people and ignore what gets you off. And maybe months down the line you'll find out that he/she is "into it."

zelda2fanboy:
I think the person who wrote the letter probably hasn't actually been in a decent relationship and such ancillary fetish stuff would go away in pursuit of two person activities.

I'm sorry, but this is totally untrue in many/most cases. I suggest that anyone interested in this -- whether it's because you feel alone/you won't find anyone for you, or because you simply take an interest in psychology -- look up the Savage Love column by Dan Savage. It's a weekly column that's all about sex. One of the most common problems that people email him is how to satisfy a fetish within a relationship, or how to deal with the fetish of a partner. First, Dan Savage gives amazing advice. Second, people with fetishes won't feel nearly (or perhaps at all) as hopeless and alone once they read his stuff (though not all of it is related to this subject; you'll have to seek out those particular columns/emails, but they're pretty darn easy to find). Third, it's an awesome column and you should read it!

I myself have a fetish. It's a strange one, but not in any way destructive or hurtful to a partner. Still, I have never revealed it to a partner because I'm worried they'll see me as strange or perverted. Really, my fetish isn't any stranger than, say, a foot fetish, but it is a bit less common. I still don't know how I'll ever reveal it to a partner, or find a partner who is interested in it.

But this last point is important, for reasons the Savage Love column elucidates. Most people who write in about it write in asking how they can satisfy their partner's strange fetish even though they themselves don't share it. Savage suggests that people be good partners who are willing to try anything within reason and comfortability if it will make their partner happy and satisfied. Why? Because they themselves will also feel satisfied, and will enjoy a better relationship. As I said: it has to be within reason and the partner must be comfortable with it. But this advice tells people that it's ok if your partner has a fetish that may seem strange, and it's ok to be trepidatious when it comes to fulfilling it; but, most of all, it's ok to engage with your partner in fulfilling it, and it's not nearly as strange as you might initially think.

EDIT: so I guess my main point is that, for all of those who feel they may never find someone with the same fetish, you have to know that it's ok! Even if you don't, you may very well find a partner who cares for you so much that they are willing to fulfill it anyway, provided that it's not harmful and doesn't make them uncomfortable (a good example of the former would be stomping small animals with heals; a good example of the latter would be anything involving poop or vomit....ewwwwuggghhhh).

zelda2fanboy:
(Cue person complaining about too many fetishists on the escapist)

I really liked what he said about the need for human relationships to sustain whatever it is in us that desires sex. I've seen many, many people online, both male and female, who act as though relationships are an unnecessary construct from the past. Maybe "those" people can just materialize sex out of thin air with such frequency that they don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend, but for most people, it would really really be nice to have someone we can go to with a certain amount of regularity and form an emotional bond with. I don't even understand the concept of wanting to have sex with someone you didn't have feelings for. Maybe I'm weird, but the act of sex in of itself really doesn't compare to straight masturbation. The only reason the times I've had sex were fun and special were because I truly cared about the person I was fucking and wanted to have fun with her specifically. I don't know how people just fuck and leave without ever speaking again. It eats me up inside sometimes when I think back on my only experiences with sex (and being subsequently ignored).

I think the person who wrote the letter probably hasn't actually been in a decent relationship and such ancillary fetish stuff would go away in pursuit of two person activities. With internet pornography, we may have made ourselves too dependent on the orgasmic fantasies in our own minds and it doesn't translate particularly well to actual intercourse. It doesn't mean "regular" sex can't be enjoyable though. The first time somebody touched me, I was shaking involuntarily, not because of nervousness, but the foreign sensation of human contact. I found that a few hours after that, none of my porn or my fantasies "worked" anymore because it just couldn't recreate reality the same way.

So, short version of point I was trying to make - If you truly cared about someone other than yourself, then your fetishes wouldn't matter as much you think they do. It doesn't make you a "bad or selfish person," but you might not have had the opportunity to give something of yourself to someone else (emotionally). In other words, pursue relationships with other people and ignore what gets you off. And maybe months down the line you'll find out that he/she is "into it."

I think that's a really valid point that I immediately got once you put it there in front of me. God knows I have a lot of fetishes I wouldn't dream of realizing but at the end of the day, once you are in a relationship and you start sharing your life with somebody, completely new parts of you grow and eventually all those fetishes that seemed like a pretty big part of you just change into something entirely different that is usually much more compatible with the person you love.

I'd just forgotten for a second that I was a different person long ago. So anyway, I agree with you. You shouldn't shy away from relationships just because you feel your sexual fantasies aren't compatible. If the thing was meant to work, those fantasies might not even have any effect on the relationship.

Revolutionaryloser:
Am I the only one that read the question and thought he kind of missed the point? From how the question is worded, I was guessing his/her fetish is along the lines of shrinking to the size of a mouse and being swallowed whole or watching your partner turn purple and inflate like a giant blueberry. In any case, I don't think the advice works if the desire is a logical/physical impossibility.

But he did say that it would be "too much to ask" of someone which leads me to believe that it's in the realm of possibility.
What occurs to me is that the one with the question may be into things that very few unstable people may be up for taking part in: cannibalism (many want to be eaten, few want to actually be digested), mutilation, or something like that. Of course then the one with the question would have to be pretty unstable too.

Revolutionaryloser:
Am I the only one that read the question and thought he kind of missed the point? From how the question is worded, I was guessing his/her fetish is along the lines of shrinking to the size of a mouse and being swallowed whole or watching your partner turn purple and inflate like a giant blueberry. In any case, I don't think the advice works if the desire is a logical/physical impossibility.

pretty much. When I read the question I instantly thought of this:

Dr. Witticism:

I'm sorry, but this is totally untrue in many/most cases.

I guess the phrase "go away" was a little too strong, but I still think it wouldn't be as big a part of a person's life as you might think it would be. You're right, people are often more open minded than one might expect and what you're saying is sort of what I was trying to get across. You just can't lead with "I like this and only this and will only settle for someone who does this." As Chris Rock so eloquently put it, "There's no such thing as a soul mate. You aren't going to find another person who likes Seinfeld and the Wu Tang Clan." The point is that relationships are based around compromise. You try to find as much overlapping stuff in common as possible, but there's no reason to hold out for someone who is exactly like you in every possible way. Again, like that episode on Seinfeld, "I hate myself. I don't want someone just like me."

Revolutionaryloser:

I think that's a really valid point that I immediately got once you put it there in front of me. God knows I have a lot of fetishes I wouldn't dream of realizing but at the end of the day, once you are in a relationship and you start sharing your life with somebody, completely new parts of you grow and eventually all those fetishes that seemed like a pretty big part of you just change into something entirely different that is usually much more compatible with the person you love.

To share a personal story - I met a woman online who was really into BDSM, which I personally never really cared for. However, I was able to have some pretty great cyber sex via text, just by describing fantasy scenarios of BDSM situations. And stuff from my imagination that only mildly turned me on, REALLY turned her on. It was easy for me to do and she couldn't believe I could write it out so well. When we finally did meet and have sex, the thought of engaging in BDSM stuff hardly even occurred to either of us. (Though it was in the back of my mind when I tried a position or two. I could tell she appreciated it.)

Try to get a human relationship with someone who understands you have a fetish and can accept it.

Is a short simple answer to this question.

I believe that hiding your fetish from the person you have a relationship with is a bad idea. A fetish is a part of you and if your "second half" can not accept it then you should head of in search for your "real" half. Your second half (or for that matter third/fourth/fifth.. part) does not need to share all interests in your life and a fetish is most surely an "interest".
I sure have some "interesting" fetishes but it's nothing I would scream out on first date... But if I get in to a more serious relationship it wouldn't be something I could "not mention" just to have a "normal" relationship...
If nothing else fetishes can be fun to discuss between people whom you trust enough to tell about "your friends fetish" or "I saw this on the 'net".... ;)

Only people whom are afraid (as I see it anyhow) to be different refuse to claim they have fetish, it might be an average "boobs","but" or "arm" fetish or a slightly more exotic one like BDSM or old/young, to the truly unusual/less known/less accepted like poop, furry or necrophilia...
We all (almost I guess...) have one, it's just about what the one (or many) you like to spend the rest of your life with can accept them, (and if you can accept theirs)
Telling anyone what "interest" it actually is, is something different though... :)

(Find your and most "paraphilias" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias) ;)

Mark J Kline:
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Really glad to see you back, Dr. Mark!

This seems like a tough question to really answer without more specific details about the particular "impossible" fantasies involved, but I think you did a good job giving a blanket answer without having to pry.

Odds are, no one is ever "the only one." Even if you've got some fantasy about killing someone during sex, or having someone kill you during sex, you're bound to find someone who shares the interest and is willing to roleplay it with you (though we could also go into whether or not an idea like that is worth feeding...).

It's one of the fantastic things about the internet, really. It's the tool that allowed geeks, freaks, nerd, oddballs, and weirdos of all types to form communities and make friends, even if they're the only ones in their respective towns.

I personally have something that treads the line between fantasy and fetish, it probably helps in my case that it's only a costume related thing, but I've told every girl I've been in a serious relationship with, and while a few have laughed more than a little bit, they have all been mostly fine with it. As far as advice goes:

1. Everything Dr. Mark says is golden.

2. Don't refer to "traditional sex" as "vanilla" or even "traditional". There is such a wide range of socially acceptable sexual activity that you ought to be able to find something that you and a partner will enjoy. Calling sex vanilla places someone fairly obviously in the realm of pornography, rather than sexual activity.

3. Broach the subject with your partner as early as you feel comfortable. If it's a dealbreaker for you, and they don't feel comfortable with it, you're obviously not going to be compatible.

4. Reciprocate. Sex is about intimacy, and if it becomes too much about the scenario for you, you'll lose the ability to connect with someone on a meaningful level. Your fetish will likely take from most people, so be willing to give.

5. Honestly, sharing something this deep and personal with another person can greatly improve your connection with someone. However, you need to understand that they may not understand it or be willing to tolerate it. And that's fine if they don't.

Dear Dr. Mark,

The entirety of the scenes were on Dailymotion. You can enjoy them now.

Good question.

Good answer.

Mark J Kline:
Fetishes And The People Who Love Them

Just because you're different doesn't mean that you need to be alone.

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Great to see another one of these articles!

The original questioner seems to say that his fetishistic desires have reached a level where he cannot imagine being in a "normal" relationship. As if there was a progression, where the fetish has increased to such a magnitude that it's the only thing he desires. Would repeated exposure to fetishistic material through porn and fantasies generally strengthen the fetish or sate it?

If exposure increases the dependence could that be used as a valid argument against hardcore "fetish" pornography?

It's probably a case of different strokes for different folks (Given the subject matter I can't not use that phrase) but it's still interesting. Would the porn act as a healthy outlet or could it be addictive? Or more likely both or none at all?

*Captcha: "head case"

Revolutionaryloser:
Am I the only one that read the question and thought he kind of missed the point? From how the question is worded, I was guessing his/her fetish is along the lines of shrinking to the size of a mouse and being swallowed whole or watching your partner turn purple and inflate like a giant blueberry. In any case, I don't think the advice works if the desire is a logical/physical impossibility.

As some with a physically impossible fetish (one you mentioned even, how polite!), I actually would say that his advice is 100% solid. Even if a paraphilia can't be acted upon with 100% success, that doesn't disclude outlets like sexual roleplaying, online sex, etc. ...the part about needing to feel validated or like you belong is absolutely correct for every "odd" fetish, even the ones that can't exist.

I mean, I was in a relationship once and I was able to with a great deal of satisfaction play out my otherwise impossible fetish. It all hindered on exactly what Mark said here - finding and maintaining a relationship built on enough trust that such questions like "would you help me act out (fetish A)" are treated with dignity and respect, goes a long way to developing a satisfying and emotionally healthy outlet for that fetish. I've experienced it first-hand, and all of Mark's advice absolutely applies to it, even if it doesn't delve specifically into it.

And, also worth pointing out! This is a videogame forum. Surely most of us act out the impossible every day, albeit not in "real life"? People are drawn to experiences, and simulations work well enough for a great deal many things. Even sexual stuff. I mean, why else do you think Dark Souls sold so well? ...masochists were totally its target audience. Think about it.

XDravond:
Only people whom are afraid (as I see it anyhow) to be different refuse to claim they have fetish, it might be an average "boobs","but" or "arm" fetish or a slightly more exotic one like BDSM or old/young, to the truly unusual/less known/less accepted like poop, furry or necrophilia...

We all (almost I guess...) have one, it's just about what the one (or many) you like to spend the rest of your life with can accept them, (and if you can accept theirs)
Telling anyone what "interest" it actually is, is something different though... :)

(Find your and most "paraphilias" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias) ;)

I think you might be overstating the point a bit, or perhaps misunderstanding what a "fetish" really entails. To compare "liking boobs" to "having a boob fetish" is a little like comparing "liking beer" to "having an alcohol addiction," at least for some people. Basically, a fetish is a little stronger than just what might be considered an "oddball" preference.

This isn't to say that all (or even most) fetishes are destructive like addiction. It's just to say they're not simply the same appetite for a different food. They're a pretty different type of appetite, too.

Formica Archonis:

Of course, I have no idea what your sexual fantasies involve and I can certainly imagine some so violent and destructive that they would indeed be practically impossible.

Wow. It is good or bad that I didn't think of "impossible due to their violent and destructive nature" so much as "impossible because one will never have thirty tentacle-dicks"?

(body parts, articles of clothing, hardware, your iPhone)

Rounded edges: Good.
Lack of flared base: Bad. You will be a funny ER story.

Dr. Mark Kline doesn't remember as much sex in the Game of Thrones books as he sees on HBO.

I hate sex on the telly. I keep falling off.

Buh dum tish.

Also, I can't stop watching your avatar. It's addicting.

OT: I can't tell if I have weird fetishes... or normal porn has just become boring...

Dastardly:

XDravond:
Only people whom are afraid (as I see it anyhow) to be different refuse to claim they have fetish, it might be an average "boobs","but" or "arm" fetish or a slightly more exotic one like BDSM or old/young, to the truly unusual/less known/less accepted like poop, furry or necrophilia...

We all (almost I guess...) have one, it's just about what the one (or many) you like to spend the rest of your life with can accept them, (and if you can accept theirs)
Telling anyone what "interest" it actually is, is something different though... :)

(Find your and most "paraphilias" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias) ;)

I think you might be overstating the point a bit, or perhaps misunderstanding what a "fetish" really entails. To compare "liking boobs" to "having a boob fetish" is a little like comparing "liking beer" to "having an alcohol addiction," at least for some people. Basically, a fetish is a little stronger than just what might be considered an "oddball" preference.

This isn't to say that all (or even most) fetishes are destructive like addiction. It's just to say they're not simply the same appetite for a different food. They're a pretty different type of appetite, too.

Yep you're right and I'm bad at expressing my thoughts properly... :)

I was astonished by the claim that fetishes would be 'in'. What is 'in' is to make actresses in movies wear ridiculous outfits with elements randomly selected from items asociated with BDSM, or maybe let them be humiliated a little in a somewhat sexual context. That doesn't make anything 'in', all it does is show that Hollywood producers are dumb shallow people (I know, no news value there).

Doesn't change that you can expect to be looked at weirdly, shunned, sacked or worse if it comes out you're either having a fetish, or happen to be into bdsm.

People have faced prison sentences because of being into bdsm. A Belgian judge was robbed of his job and pension because of a video with him and his wife doing bdsm, the video was also illegally obtained evidence. In the UK there is the infamous Spanner case; people being sent to prison for going against Christian morals.

Let's just suffice by saying it's not 'in' at all.

XDravond:
Yep you're right and I'm bad at expressing my thoughts properly... :)

Nah, I wouldn't say that. I was more clarifying for the purposes of the discussion, not specifically to "correct" you or anything...

Alexnader:

Mark J Kline:
Fetishes And The People Who Love Them

Just because you're different doesn't mean that you need to be alone.

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Great to see another one of these articles!

The original questioner seems to say that his fetishistic desires have reached a level where he cannot imagine being in a "normal" relationship. As if there was a progression, where the fetish has increased to such a magnitude that it's the only thing he desires. Would repeated exposure to fetishistic material through porn and fantasies generally strengthen the fetish or sate it?

If exposure increases the dependence could that be used as a valid argument against hardcore "fetish" pornography?

It's probably a case of different strokes for different folks (Given the subject matter I can't not use that phrase) but it's still interesting. Would the porn act as a healthy outlet or could it be addictive? Or more likely both or none at all?

*Captcha: "head case"

Interesting thoughts but I wouldn't say that constant exposure to fetishes will make need more or become addicted. I know for me at least I never even started with regular stuff I was drawn to BDSM from the get go and while there were some things I disliked at first I have since grown to like. I don't think these changes occurred because of constant exposure but me slowly getting to understand myself.

Dr. Witticism:

zelda2fanboy:
I think the person who wrote the letter probably hasn't actually been in a decent relationship and such ancillary fetish stuff would go away in pursuit of two person activities.

I'm sorry, but this is totally untrue in many/most cases. I suggest that anyone interested in this -- whether it's because you feel alone/you won't find anyone for you, or because you simply take an interest in psychology -- look up the Savage Love column by Dan Savage. It's a weekly column that's all about sex. One of the most common problems that people email him is how to satisfy a fetish within a relationship, or how to deal with the fetish of a partner. First, Dan Savage gives amazing advice. Second, people with fetishes won't feel nearly (or perhaps at all) as hopeless and alone once they read his stuff (though not all of it is related to this subject; you'll have to seek out those particular columns/emails, but they're pretty darn easy to find). Third, it's an awesome column and you should read it!

I myself have a fetish. It's a strange one, but not in any way destructive or hurtful to a partner. Still, I have never revealed it to a partner because I'm worried they'll see me as strange or perverted. Really, my fetish isn't any stranger than, say, a foot fetish, but it is a bit less common. I still don't know how I'll ever reveal it to a partner, or find a partner who is interested in it.

But this last point is important, for reasons the Savage Love column elucidates. Most people who write in about it write in asking how they can satisfy their partner's strange fetish even though they themselves don't share it. Savage suggests that people be good partners who are willing to try anything within reason and comfortability if it will make their partner happy and satisfied. Why? Because they themselves will also feel satisfied, and will enjoy a better relationship. As I said: it has to be within reason and the partner must be comfortable with it. But this advice tells people that it's ok if your partner has a fetish that may seem strange, and it's ok to be trepidatious when it comes to fulfilling it; but, most of all, it's ok to engage with your partner in fulfilling it, and it's not nearly as strange as you might initially think.

EDIT: so I guess my main point is that, for all of those who feel they may never find someone with the same fetish, you have to know that it's ok! Even if you don't, you may very well find a partner who cares for you so much that they are willing to fulfill it anyway, provided that it's not harmful and doesn't make them uncomfortable (a good example of the former would be stomping small animals with heals; a good example of the latter would be anything involving poop or vomit....ewwwwuggghhhh).

This is all very true you remind me of myself in some ways. I was dating my gf for almost 3 years before I told her my fetish and even then we had been practicing hers for well over a year. You defiantly get a sense of satisfaction from making your partner happy. You will likely find someone one day that you will be comfortable with enough to tell and it will help a lot with your own comfort, it really strengthens the relationship to know each other so deeply

Blablahb:
I was astonished by the claim that fetishes would be 'in'. What is 'in' is to make actresses in movies wear ridiculous outfits with elements randomly selected from items asociated with BDSM, or maybe let them be humiliated a little in a somewhat sexual context. That doesn't make anything 'in', all it does is show that Hollywood producers are dumb shallow people (I know, no news value there).

Doesn't change that you can expect to be looked at weirdly, shunned, sacked or worse if it comes out you're either having a fetish, or happen to be into bdsm.

People have faced prison sentences because of being into bdsm. A Belgian judge was robbed of his job and pension because of a video with him and his wife doing bdsm, the video was also illegally obtained evidence. In the UK there is the infamous Spanner case; people being sent to prison for going against Christian morals.

Let's just suffice by saying it's not 'in' at all.

Of all the fetishes out there BDSM is by far the most excepted. Even when women in movies aren't wearing ridiculous outfits like you say you still see allusions to men dominating women and vice versa in movies all the time. They have MASSIVE conventions dedicated to it. Hell I've seen them cover the conventions on G4 a surprising amount and I don't really even watch that channel anymore. EVERY sex toy shop has BDSM equipment. You just don't find equipment for more obscure fetishes like you do for BDSM. Saying it's in may be taking it a bit far but speaking personally there are much much much more unaccepted and deathly embarrassing fetishes to have.

That seemed like a generally good response to an unfortunate but probably both common and reasonable question.

Not sure where the commitment part comes from though. In a sense it seems like good advice, but it's probably for further down the road than for somebody still uncomfortable with their sexuality. The relationship you have when you're awkward and clumsy in the bedroom is very different from the one in which you feel confident and comfortable, and your long-term significant other might not be able to make the transition with you if you move from one to the other. At that point, it's good to reevaluate whether you're staying in the relationship because you want to or just to spare their feelings.

I feel like the person asking the question probably knows about fetish comunities on the internet, so yeah ...

I also feel like whatever they want to do probably falls in the basket of stuff nobody would or could ever let them do, given their signature line.

And I feel like this is fine, because it sounds like whatever they want to do probably should not in fact be done to anyone.

NameIsRobertPaulson:
Also, I can't stop watching your avatar. It's addicting.

Thank you.:) Since its recent update to add more stuff it's been getting a few comments.

NameIsRobertPaulson:
OT: I can't tell if I have weird fetishes... or normal porn has just become boring...

There's such a thing as "normal" porn? Seems like it's all got a slant of some sort. Fake amateurs, naughty bosses, surprise A2M just as you were getting close goddamn it, barely legal, MILF, high heels even on the beach (now that's just comedy), barefoot fetish, etc. etc. Sometimes it seems like normal porn is porn whose kinks aren't overstated.

Somewhat related: I remember a 4-issue webcomic dealing with the topic.

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(Ah, I used to love Bad Gods. Shame Lore doesn't have the full archive back up.)

Mark J Kline:
endlessly seek novel experiences with different partners.

Yes, I know this post is from forever ago, but I just read the article today, so here goes.

I always find this concept odd - that people would seek "novel experiences with different partners." It seems to me that constantly being with a new partner would get samey after a while.

I personally prefer to endlessly seek novel experiences with the same partner - possibly in different and unique combinations with other partners, but most often just with one partner as we continue to explore our sexual desires and preferences.

Anyway, OT, I thought you gave very good advice in this column. ^^

 

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