SaneAmongInsane:

Darken12:

Zen Toombs:
I laughed and laughed and laughed. You'll probably want to add a touch more to your post so you don't get dinged for low content. See you 'round the forum!

Thanks, I think you delivered the point far better than I did.

SaneAmongInsane:
Ya know... *sigh*

That privilege stuff is really just a broad generalization. One that was enough to make me feel alienated enough that I didn't want to join/help/endorse the GSA in high school. Doesn't just go for the gay thing either, goes for a lot of things.

Everybody has problems. No one is born with acceptance on their back. Everyone feels alienated. Rich, poor, black, asian, whatever.

It's just one of those "Oh you think you got it hard?" blech. Doesn't bring people together, just drives them to be further segregated. Us vs Them. They couldn't possibly understand us and our problems, that line of thinking.

Feminism has a great concept called "the kyriarchy" (from the Greek word kyrios, meaning Lord or Master), which is a way to analyse our current society as a system of interlocking oppression. In it, one integrates racism, sexism, homophobia, classism and all the other -isms and -phobias as a network-like pyramid of oppression. What you're saying amounts to "the kyriarchy is okay because most of us are oppressed one way or another". And that's just tragic, really, because it's the best way to keep us all feeling feeling awful and keeping our society from improving.

Just because most of us are victims of the kyriarchy in one way or another doesn't mean that we should put each other down. It means we should help each other instead.

Um, no not what I said at all. I didn't say it was okay at all. <.<

You did however (by dismissing discussion of Straight privilege and queer safe spaces within the gaming community as exclusionary "Us vs. them" "Driving segregation" stuff) basically say is that because everyone has problems if you try to fix any problems without trying to fix all problems you're being unfair.

The existence of Gaymercon doesn't preclude anyone from starting a collective for poor gamers where they can trade and lend their used games and discuss being a gamer whilst being poor. It doesn't preclude a black gamer con or an asian gamer con. Queer gamers identified a problem within wider Gaming subculture: namely that many queer gamers *Do Not Feel Safe* in the wider gaming subculture. They proposed a solution: The creation of a specific safe space for themselves. There shouldn't be a controversy over this.

I, and I feel confident in representing a vast majority of the queer gaming community with this, long for a time where queerness is normalised to the point where the notion of a specific 'queer' gaming convention seems quaint and obsolete. We're not separatists. The point remains though that *we're not there yet*. Sure we'll push for greater acceptance within wider gaming culture, but until we get there, for goodness sake let us have our sandbox. It's not hurting anyone.

Zhukov:
It took me at least three looks to notice that the guy in the last panel isn't wearing any pants.

Honestly, I've asked the "why do they want their own con" question myself. Mostly because I don't know what one would do at a gay con that one wouldn't do at a regular con.

Then again, I've never actually been to a con. If the point is to fit in... then fair enough I guess.

Pretty much this. Except, due to not really hearing about it, I hadn't asked this question beforehand, and I had it answered by the end of the article.

It's an easy enough mistake to make, I guess. It's the point at which someone sticks to that view after having things explained that makes it willingly ignorant, I'd say.

Still, good comic. Gotta admit though...I'm pretty sure there's a brand of premium cider called "Gaymers". And now I want cider. Dammit.

Guestyman:

Ickorus:
Speaking without rancor, I don't think it's a particularly great idea you can insist all you like that the convention is open to everyone but it's still not going to change the fact that most straight people attending would feel just a little bit uncomfortable as the very name implies it's not intended for us. (Maybe that's the point, who knows?)

I think it would have been much more constructive if instead they didn't give it a specific focus on gay culture in gaming and instead simply made it part of their mission brief to be inclusive to all gamers with the promise of removing anyone who showed intolerance towards another part of our culture.

Maybe I've just lucked out here and I just happen to frequent some of the most down-to-earth and unprejudiced gaming hangouts about but I really do think our culture is one of the most inclusive and forward thinking ones around.

The point isn't to make straight people feel uncomfortable, it's just not being the target audience has that effect. The need for such a con is because, your corner of the 'verse apparently aside, the wider gaming community can be quite shockingly homophobic, sexist and exclusionary at times. I'm really glad that situations exist where people can get the opinion of our culture as being forward thinking and inclusive, but the sad fact of the matter is that it is not the case.

Gaming culture is largely reactionary rather than forward thinking. Maybe it's because of our until-recent isolation and underdog status within the wider culture, or maybe not. I don't fancy doing armchair psychology. The fact is though that wider gaming culture is very defensive and monolithic. It's also not very inclusive at all. 5 minutes on voice chat in an online shooter will show you that. I've been called fag more times whilst online gaming than I was after being outed as bi in an all boys church high school.

I'll give you an example. Every year my home city has a festival of queer artistic culture. (Not that my city is particularly inclusive or anything, we have festivals for everything from guitars, to busking, to v8 supercars. We're a very festival-happy city) one of the big highlights of the community aspect of the festival is a big picnic in the town square. Nothing particularly 'queer' about it except that it's set up with the express purpose of being queer-friendly. Straight people are welcome to come along, but they're not the target audience.

You might ask "Why have a gay picnic? What would you do differently at a gay picnic than a regular picnic?" in the same way as you'd ask "Why have a Gaymercon? What would you do differently at a Gaymercon than a regular Gamercon" but you'd be missing the point. It's not about having a con or a picnic with a 'gay theme'.

I went to the picnic for the first time this year, and I had a great time sitting and eating with some friends of mine I didn't get to see very often. The striking thing about the picnic was that we didn't *do* anything different to a regular picnic. The only thing that was different was that as opposed to any other picnic was that here everyone knew or assumed I was queer and /no-one gave a rats/. There I was *normal*, and I don't get to feel that way very often.

So why have a gaymercon? It's not to focus on games with a queer theme, or to provide queer gamers with a place to 'hook up' (I'm not even going to begin to discuss people constantly making that assumption except to say it is a perfect illustration of why we need a con in the first place). It's to provide us a place where everyone either knows or assumes and nobody cares. A place where we can celebrate the gaming subculture whilst feeling normal when we don't get that very often.

It might seem small to you, but you get that everywhere you go, whereas in my experience gaming culture is largely a place where no-one knows or assumes and once they find out *everyone* cares, and you rarely, if ever, get to feel normal.

Case in point. This thread has over 260 replies. The one where Jonathan took a swipe at religion (At Christmas no less) only managed 74.

I'm really glad you posted, you've helped me understand so much, I hope one day none of this will be necessary but I can see why it is at the moment now.

Thank you.

SaneAmongInsane:
Actually if anything, you kinda pointed it out.

We can attack oppression on the big picture. Not the little picture. Big picture inclusive, little picture exclusive.

I'm sorry, I do not understand what you're saying at all. By 'big picture' you mean politics, laws, things that involve a senate or a court? If so, allow me laugh out loud as I link you a map of gay rights by state in the US. They don't come even close to tackling oppression or equal rights in the big picture.

And even if we did live in some utopia of equal rights, that doesn't mean that you don't face perfectly legal oppression every time you walk down the street. I don't know about you, but it doesn't strike me as insane to want a place where LGBT people can do all the things they do at a normal con without having to deal with stares, ostracism, rude language, snide remarks, straight privilege, ignorant remarks and all other kinds of perfectly legal but still incredibly uncomfortable bad attitudes.

Orekoya:

Abomination:

Orekoya:

And here is the answer: it isn't required. I have seen no mandate requiring it. This fulfills no needs.

Asking why it's required or needed misses the point of wants. IE: This is something some people want to do.

If it isn't required, if it isn't fulfilling some purpose then WHY is it happening at all?

There -must- be a reason and I'm trying to get to the bottom of it.

I hate to break it to you but there doesn't have to be any underlying reason or purpose for it. Some people just want this and apparently they find whatever exists now insufficient at fulfilling that want.

Everything has a cause.

I want to know what prompted this event. How have homosexuals been treated at previous non-homosexual focused gaming conventions?

I am not asking to prevent Gaymer X, I am asking so I know what issues there are at the universal gaming conventions.

SaneAmongInsane:
And I don't care about this con, that con. I don't go to cons. I don't care about cons.

I think talking in terms of privilege turns more people away from the cause of making everyone feel on the same page. I'm speaking from personal experience, I'm really very progressive towards sexuality. Don't even believe in the concept of physical gender. but I attended one GSA meeting and I felt the same way I did the time I attended a mass at church: Like I was a black man at a motherfuckin' klukluxklan rally. It does create an us vs them thing, and that doesn't help towards getting everyone on the same page.

Being privileged isn't anyone's fault. Nobody chooses to be privileged, just like nobody chooses to be oppressed or underprivileged. It's something that society thrusts into us when we're born and we all continue to go along with it because of cultural inertia. Now that doesn't give people the right to treat you badly, but you also can't deny that you do have things easier than LGBT people just by virtue of not being like them. Just because you don't like these advantages you have over them doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm a white male, and I have to deal with the fact that I have race and gender privilege. In the future, because of my choice of career, it's possible I will also have class privilege over a great deal of people. And even if I don't, I still have class privilege over the homeless and the poor. I have to accept these things facts and try to be aware of them. Not because I can get rid of them, but because I know that being conscious of one's privilege reminds us of people who have it worse.

Oh look, a thing.

...nah, can't muster the ability to take interest. It's probably the alcohol.

I'll be that guy, because frankly, Grey hasn't thought this through. Shaolin monks feel that their temples serve their religious needs. Women (And men) feel that separate bathrooms serve their desire for privacy. A separate con for gay gamers serves -dumb silence-.

What does it serve? A presentation of games from a homosexual viewpoint? Games like this are certainly in the minority (And I'd certainly be interested in them), but those are interesting to everyone, so why would you show them there? A place away from discrimination? Then it's our problem, and we need to kick the "homophobes" out, and preferably in the nuts too. Neither of these are served by the separate con.

Honestly, it makes as little sense as "Black History Month". It's not just their history, and gaming is not just their thing. It's all of our thing, and understanding it together is far more valuable than drawing the lines.

I mean, really, what's the difference in the hobby between a gay gamer and a straight one? They choose a difference robo-romance in Mass Effect? It's like making games about pink unicorns and calling those "Girl games", and then making the distinction that the shooters and the medieval combat and the RPGs aren't for girl gamers, because apparently they're different because reasons.

All cons should be safe spaces for everyone.

SaneAmongInsane:
It's a gross generalization to just assume someone else has had it easy for those reasons.

Privilege has nothing to do with the overall outcome of your life. Privilege means that society has given you an invisible bag of tools, keys and maps for your journey through life. The more instances of privilege you have, the bigger your bag is (with the biggest bag going to the physically attractive, intelligent, college-educated, rich straight cis white male born into a respected family). Just because your life ended up being crappy doesn't mean you don't have these extra advantages that other people don't have. It's entirely possible that a transgendered lesbian of colour may have had a better life than you, but it's undeniable that you had far more invisible tools at your disposal than her along the way.

Grey Carter:

Andy Shandy:

Cory Rydell:
Ok this thread got out of hand fast, it is getting challenging to keep up.

That must be the understatement of, admittedly, this very early year. XD

clippen05:

Oskuro:
Ok, everyone, important question time:

Is this Con banning non-gay people from attending? (Answer: NO)

If the gay culture is not your thing, then give the convention a pass. All these complaints almost feel like people are afraid that having too many conventions will somehow deplete the non-renewable convention resource! (Hint: it won't, you can have a theoretical infinite number of conventions with infinite themes, given enough geek critical mass)

Discussing whether there is a need for this convention or not is exactly the same thing detractors of videogames or comics argue regarding those conventions. Just because you don't get it, it doesn't mean it's worthless.

Gay Culture lol? Isn't the whole idea that lesbians and gays want to be seen as no different than any straight person? I didn't know that sexual orientations had a whole culture reserved for themselves...

No, they want to be "treated" the same way. Integration is about different people living in harmony, not reducing every culture to a homogenous soup. I mean think about what you just said there. Would you suggest the same thing about a Chinese person? That their culture somehow prevents them from being seen as "the same" as everyone else.

This may, in fact probably is, be a daft question but any chance I could be told the reason I was quoted? =P

I'm not sure if you agree with me, disagree, meant to quote Cory instead etc. Just confused is all.

SaneAmongInsane:

Guestyman:

SaneAmongInsane:

Um, no not what I said at all. I didn't say it was okay at all. <.<

You did however (by dismissing discussion of Straight privilege and queer safe spaces within the gaming community as exclusionary "Us vs. them" "Driving segregation" stuff) basically say is that because everyone has problems if you try to fix any problems without trying to fix all problems you're being unfair.

The existence of Gaymercon doesn't preclude anyone from starting a collective for poor gamers where they can trade and lend their used games and discuss being a gamer whilst being poor. It doesn't preclude a black gamer con or an asian gamer con. Queer gamers identified a problem within wider Gaming subculture: namely that many queer gamers *Do Not Feel Safe* in the wider gaming subculture. They proposed a solution: The creation of a specific safe space for themselves. There shouldn't be a controversy over this.

I, and I feel confident in representing a vast majority of the queer gaming community with this, long for a time where queerness is normalised to the point where the notion of a specific 'queer' gaming convention seems quaint and obsolete. We're not separatists. The point remains though that *we're not there yet*. Sure we'll push for greater acceptance within wider gaming culture, but until we get there, for goodness sake let us have our sandbox. It's not hurting anyone.

And I don't care about this con, that con. I don't go to cons. I don't care about cons.

I think talking in terms of privilege turns more people away from the cause of making everyone feel on the same page. I'm speaking from personal experience, I'm really very progressive towards sexuality. Don't even believe in the concept of physical gender. but I attended one GSA meeting and I felt the same way I did the time I attended a mass at church: Like I was a black man at a motherfuckin' klukluxklan rally. It does create an us vs them thing, and that doesn't help towards getting everyone on the same page.

Can you expand on what people did there specifically to you to make you feel unwelcome? Did they call you names? Threaten to beat you up? Or did they simply talk about subjects that you couldn't relate to? Were they being oppressive in their sexuality and not allowing you to feel safe in yours? Or were they just talking an awful lot about topics pertinent to a subculture you weren't a member of?

I'm actually quite perplexed here. You're painting this GSA as some kind of horrible dystopian Queeriarchy. I on the other hand am struggling to think of things they could have possibly done because the gamut of things a small group of people can do to affect this kind of fear response without actually breaking the law is rather small.

So there are four questions I'd like answered about this situation you describe.

1: Did this GSA actually *do* anything? Or were you just uncomfortable in a situation because it didn't specifically cater to you?

2:If they indeed did do something bad, are they at all representative of GSAs and other 'safe queer spaces' or are you taking one bad experience and using it to denigrate the entire concept of Queer people having a place where they can feel normal.

3: If they did indeed do something bad, what happened when you left? Did you enter a world that by and large doesn't give a rats about your sexuality and leaves you to your own devices? Or did you enter a world where routinely fundamental unchangable things about yourself are used as insults and your civil rights are threatened institutionally?

4: Given your answers to 1, 2, and 3. What is the big deal with a *severely* marginalised group carving out a *tiny* place for themselves? Does your need to feel at ease in *All* areas of society instead of just *in the overwhelming majority of cases* overwrite our desire to have *at least one*? What about your quality of life is actually affected by Queer people discussing privilege?

Loonyyy:
I'll be that guy, because frankly, Grey hasn't thought this through. Shaolin monks feel that their temples serve their religious needs. Women (And men) feel that separate bathrooms serve their desire for privacy. A separate con for gay gamers serves -dumb silence-.

What does it serve? A presentation of games from a homosexual viewpoint? Games like this are certainly in the minority (And I'd certainly be interested in them), but those are interesting to everyone, so why would you show them there? A place away from discrimination? Then it's our problem, and we need to kick the "homophobes" out, and preferably in the nuts too. Neither of these are served by the separate con.

Honestly, it makes as little sense as "Black History Month". It's not just their history, and gaming is not just their thing. It's all of our thing, and understanding it together is far more valuable than drawing the lines.

I mean, really, what's the difference in the hobby between a gay gamer and a straight one? They choose a difference robo-romance in Mass Effect? It's like making games about pink unicorns and calling those "Girl games", and then making the distinction that the shooters and the medieval combat and the RPGs aren't for girl gamers, because apparently they're different because reasons.

All cons should be safe spaces for everyone.

They should. And I really want them to be. But they're not. Thus the need for a safe space of our own.

SaneAmongInsane:

Darken12:

SaneAmongInsane:
It's a gross generalization to just assume someone else has had it easy for those reasons.

Privilege has nothing to do with the overall outcome of your life. Privilege means that society has given you an invisible bag of tools, keys and maps for your journey through life. The more instances of privilege you have, the bigger your bag is (with the biggest bag going to the physically attractive, intelligent, college-educated, rich straight cis white male born into a respected family). Just because your life ended up being crappy doesn't mean you don't have these extra advantages that other people don't have. It's entirely possible that a transgendered lesbian of colour may have had a better life than you, but it's undeniable that you had far more invisible tools at your disposal than her along the way.

K. Fine. Nevermind, I've been stuck on "Easy Mode" and not aware of it. <.<

Peoples strengths and weakness are their own individual thing.

You are completely right when you say that Straight White Male is life's Easy Mode.

Strengths and weaknesses have nothing to do with privilege. Privilege isn't something you have any control over, it's something society bestows upon you as a reward for being born with the right set of labels.

Ickorus:

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Thanks man, that actually means a lot :)

Zhukov:
It took me at least three looks to notice that the guy in the last panel isn't wearing any pants.

Honestly, I've asked the "why do they want their own con" question myself. Mostly because I don't know what one would do at a gay con that one wouldn't do at a regular con.

Then again, I've never actually been to a con. If the point is to fit in... then fair enough I guess.

That's one thing that bothers me about the gay movement as a whole... why does it have to be such a big deal what you sexual orientation is? I don't change my entire lifestyle simply because I happen to like women. I mean parts of it change sure. But my ENTIRE LIFESTYLE? Nope.

It also seems unnecessarily exclusive, especially when homosexuals should probably be inclusive, showing others that "we're just like you! we just like the same sex :D" I mean, they could SAY it's inclusive, but the name "Gaymer Con" kinda sounds exclusive. It would be like having a "NegroCon" or something. No white people would go to that.

Still, I suppose as an act of raising awareness and stuff it's also good. Either way, it seems mostly pointless to me.

The Wonder of the net:
Is it possible to get the straight shirt changed to something cooler. Like a black and white rainbow and under it says MiB or just put the shirt up side down because he obviously needs proof to himself he is straight. On note to a gay gaming convention I think the game industry needs to learn how to make gay characters, by oh I don't know maybe HIRE WRITERS! Still think some games could be better with it having a gay character, like finding out Vincent from Catharine is gay. Hmmm Wait trade mark IT'S MY IDEA.

Did you know Erica from that game is transgendered? They hint at it throughout the game but I missed it and was surprised when I found out...

Well, amongst other advices I'd like to give any traveller wishing to exist peacefully on these circles of the internet, I'd like to give this;

Privilege is a soar, tender pulp you don't go prodding at unpunished. No matter the circumstances.

Darken12:

SaneAmongInsane:

Darken12:

Privilege has nothing to do with the overall outcome of your life. Privilege means that society has given you an invisible bag of tools, keys and maps for your journey through life. The more instances of privilege you have, the bigger your bag is (with the biggest bag going to the physically attractive, intelligent, college-educated, rich straight cis white male born into a respected family). Just because your life ended up being crappy doesn't mean you don't have these extra advantages that other people don't have. It's entirely possible that a transgendered lesbian of colour may have had a better life than you, but it's undeniable that you had far more invisible tools at your disposal than her along the way.

K. Fine. Nevermind, I've been stuck on "Easy Mode" and not aware of it. <.<

Peoples strengths and weakness are their own individual thing.

You are completely right when you say that Straight White Male is life's Easy Mode.

Strengths and weaknesses have nothing to do with privilege. Privilege isn't something you have any control over, it's something society bestows upon you as a reward for being born with the right set of labels.

You know, after all this time I think I finally figured out why being called priviliged annoys me so much. By saying that straight white men are privileged, people seem to imply that I automatically have it easy. I struggle with anger issues, depression, an inferiority complex, I have difficulty socializing, I'm a major shut in, and I have a rather hellish home life because of a sister that suffers from bi-polar disorder that has gone out of her way to make years of my life very unpleasant. I guess I just don't like people implying that my life is hunky dory when I have to go through a lot of crap.

SaneAmongInsane:
well right on, I'll go back to eating caviar, watching Doctor Who on my solid gold Xbox fully content with my own life then. Maybe I'll take my rocket ship encrusted in diamonds out for a spin later flying over everyones heads pitying them they didn't have the advantages I did and think whimsically how all of life was served to me on a damn silver platter. Do you know I have an asian girlfriend, and because I'm on Easy mode she never poos? She eats all right, she's medically okay, but because she's dating me her bum is magic! White straight male power! EVERYTHING IS FANTASTIC AND I HAVE NO IDEA HOW IT CAN NOT BE THIS EASY FOR ANYBODY ELSE! ITS SO FUCKING SIMPLE TO BE HAPPY EVERYONE! JUST BECOME WHITE, MALE AND LIKE PUSSY! HORRAH! MAYBE I'LL CURE CANCER LATER.

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I'm just a person. You're just a person. For fucks sake. Telling others "They have it easy" seggrates them, doesn't help put people in the same boat. It "Others" them. Not helping.

I understand your frustration, but you don't get it. Being straight white and male doesn't mean your life is automatically good, it means you have more tools at your disposal to make life easier for yourself. Let me put it this way: if you want to marry your girlfriend, you can. Pretty much anywhere. If you two can't have children and want to adopt, you can. It might be somewhat difficult depending on your personal lives, but it's possible. If you want to walk with her holding hands down the street, nobody's going to stare, whisper, give you disgusted looks, laugh at you or beat you up (or at least, none of this will happen because of your genders. It might happen because of something else, as per the kyriarchy, but it won't happen just because you're a male and she's a female). If you want to walk around in the middle of the night alone, the worst you can fear is being mugged. You don't have to be afraid of rape. And on that note, if you're in a location full of predominantly male strangers who could easily overpower you, again you need not fear rape, because you're male. And if you are involved in an instance of violence, the police and court system won't be biased against you because of your race. As a straight white male, you're more likely to end up making more money, having laws passed that benefit you, your opinion being heard, having the entertainment industry cater to you, and end up making political decisions that impact everyone else.

All these things area advantages that make your life easier. In your particular case, the kyriarchy might oppress you in different ways (as your example demonstrates, the kyriarchy might oppress you because of your socioeconomical class). However, it doesn't mean that those advantages don't exist. Ignoring those advantages keeps perpetuating them. The first step in solving those inequalities is being aware of them, and dismissing a minority when they try to raise awareness about privilege because "most of us have it bad one way or another" keeps those issues from being dealt with.

erttheking:
You know, after all this time I think I finally figured out why being called priviliged annoys me so much. By saying that straight white men are privileged, people seem to imply that I automatically have it easy. I struggle with anger issues, depression, an inferiority complex, I have difficulty socializing, I'm a major shut in, and I have a rather hellish home life because of a sister that suffers from bi-polar disorder that has gone out of her way to make years of my life very unpleasant. I guess I just don't like people implying that my life is hunky dory when I have to go through a lot of crap.

Allow me to repeat myself: being privileged doesn't mean you have it automatically easy. It means that society gives you an invisible bag of tools, keys and maps that lets you navigate the journey of life with an advantage. If you don't use them, use them improperly, or life just throws a greater amount of crap in your face than most, you end up having a crappier life than someone who belongs in a minority. It happens. But it doesn't mean you don't have privilege, because you do. You can't get rid of that invisible knapsack any more than a person of colour can get rid of their race or a gay person can get rid of their sexuality.

Something to keep in mind: it's not your fault. A lot of straight white males interpret privilege as an accusation, and it makes them defensive. While understandable, it's not the intent. Nobody believes that being privileged is a choice (again, it's something society bestows on you for having the right set of labels). When minorities get angry at you, they don't get angry because you're privileged, they get angry because you repeatedly deny your privilege or insist that you have it 'just as bad or worse' as them. Nobody's running a 'who's got the crappiest life' competition, we're just trying to bring awareness to issues that affect us all.

erttheking:

Darken12:

SaneAmongInsane:

K. Fine. Nevermind, I've been stuck on "Easy Mode" and not aware of it. <.<

Peoples strengths and weakness are their own individual thing.

You are completely right when you say that Straight White Male is life's Easy Mode.

Strengths and weaknesses have nothing to do with privilege. Privilege isn't something you have any control over, it's something society bestows upon you as a reward for being born with the right set of labels.

You know, after all this time I think I finally figured out why being called priviliged annoys me so much. By saying that straight white men are privileged, people seem to imply that I automatically have it easy. I struggle with anger issues, depression, an inferiority complex, I have difficulty socializing, I'm a major shut in, and I have a rather hellish home life because of a sister that suffers from bi-polar disorder that has gone out of her way to make years of my life very unpleasant. I guess I just don't like people implying that my life is hunky dory when I have to go through a lot of crap.

You aren't as privileged then. It's "straight white male" as an example not because those three things are the only parts of privilege, but because listing all of the types of privilege would take an entire book, which I'm sure some psychologist has already wrote.
Privilege is just what you have been born with. You say that you have depression, which means that you didn't have the privilege of perfect mental health. You say that your home life is difficult, and that just means you didn't get the privilege of a perfect home life.
Being a straight white male doesn't mean you have auto easy mode, as like I said, there is far more to a person than just that. So the easiest way to say it is like this: let's say you have all of the problems you stated, but instead of being white, you're black. Just by changing that one thing means that you have an outward characteristic that makes you less likely to be hired at a job, more likely to get arrested for minor offenses, more likely to be treated suspiciously, etc. Being born white hasn't given you "easy mode," but it's given you an "easier mode" than a black version of you. That means that you have the privilege of being white, because just being white has given you more opportunities than you can count when compared to the opportunities that you would have had black.

CAPTCHA: "Well Done". And I just got the privilege of the Escapist forums already congratulating me on this post. Well done indeed, computer.

*self snipped for being drunk as hell at time of posting*

SaneAmongInsane:
Look, I've dwelled on this enough. I'm not buying it, and I'm not going into it because I don't want to lay my own personal struggles out on the table. I've being lucky in places, dealt with shit in others. Everyone has. Everyone gets dealt they're own deck of cards. There is a lot of societal bullshit thats wrong in this world, and I stand against a lot of it... But I do so as an individual and not alongside groups of people that stand to judge that I've had shortcuts because again, that's a hypocritical generalization to just make about a person especially when one is suppose to stand for civil rights issues.

Let me put it this way: we're not inventing reasons to attack you. We're pointing out facts. Privilege is not some vague abstract concept whose existence can be disputed. It's a fact that can either be ignored or acknowledged.

The stuff you're saying here is exactly why I said before that you sound like you support the kyriarchy, it's because you keep insisting that 'everyone gets lucky in places and deals with shit in others'. It seems to imply that we should all shut up and stop talking about privilege because we all get crap thrown in our faces. Ignoring privilege doesn't solve anything. It doesn't DO anything because you're ignoring it.

I know it's hard to accept, but we're not going to stop pointing out all the different kinds of privileges because we all had it bad at some point in our lives. In fact, people who've had it bad in their lives should be even more aware of privilege, because they've been at the receiving end of it. If someone is disabled, they know what it's like when everyone else has advantages that they lack just because they're able-bodied and/or able-minded. If someone is poor, they know what it's like to have door closed on them, be mistreated or judged because of their income. Just because we get screwed by the kyriarchy on one zone doesn't mean we don't have advantages in other areas. Refusing to acknowledge those advantages, regardless of what impact they have on the whole of our lives, is closing our eyes to cold hard facts.

SaneAmongInsane:
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No-one is judging you, dude, and no-one is saying that you've had it hunky and dory because of your straight white male-ness. That is the entire point of the term Kiriarchy, that everyone oppresses everyone else. That everyone has privilege to unpack. What people are objecting to is when you use the existence of the Kyriarchy to criticise and delegitimise attempts to counteract certain parts of it. The "Everyone has it bad, that means your concerns aren't worth trying to address unless they address everyone's problems at once."

You do get the difference between you, an individual having a difficult life and the systematic oppression and discrimination against an entire class of people, yes?

Abomination:

Orekoya:

Abomination:
If it isn't required, if it isn't fulfilling some purpose then WHY is it happening at all?

There -must- be a reason and I'm trying to get to the bottom of it.

I hate to break it to you but there doesn't have to be any underlying reason or purpose for it. Some people just want this and apparently they find whatever exists now insufficient at fulfilling that want.

Everything has a cause.

I want to know what prompted this event. How have homosexuals been treated at previous non-homosexual focused gaming conventions?

I am not asking to prevent Gaymer X, I am asking so I know what issues there are at the universal gaming conventions.

According to another poster it's because of the casual use of the words "Gay" and "Faggot" and so on at conventions and on Xbox live. I mean if that's really the case then I wanna know where the convention is for all the Irish gamers that are called "Micks" and accused of being alcoholics all the time.

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Bealzibob:
What exactly would you have at a gay gamer convention that would be different to any other gamer convention or is it just got a gaudy stereotypical colour palate and gives you the comfortable feeling that everyone around you can relate because not only are they gamers but they are also gay?

This is pretty much what I was thinking, also I can't think of a single time I've gone to any con and my sexuality has been an issue.

So what does this mean for straight people? Are they not allowed in this convention, or is it a case of "you're welcome as well, but the rules against homophobia are much more greatly enforced" or is the convention only for gay people? If that's the case, how exactly would you go proving that? Also, if straight people weren't allowed into these kinds of conventions, would that mean they are allowed to create conventions that gays aren't allowed to participate?

The difference between this and say "women having their own bathroom" is that women don't expect to be able to freely go in and out of the men's bathroom. There is a place only men can go into, and a place only women can go into. However, I guarantee you if anyone ever tried to make a "straight-only" convention, they would be called a horrible person in no time flat.

Still, I wouldn't mind going to a convention for gay gamers. I think it would be kind of interesting to see what it's like (not that I'm expecting anything massively different, but even just the more understanding environment would be great).