No Right Answer: America's Greatest Obsession Ever

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Xman490:

Kennetic:

We have guns to protect ourselves from a tyrannical government. Don't think that's a legit issue? Let's take a look at the NSA snooping on everyone's phone records, or how the Boston police raided several homes without warrants. Those things happened just this year.

Except such a tyrannical government does not exist anymore. Amendments 2 through 4 addressed wrongdoings because British soldiers were committing them. Not even those soldiers were working under tyranny, as Britain has had its Parliament for centuries up until and beyond that time period.

Now, that doesn't mean the "right to bear arms" and "protection against unreasonable searches and seizures" are pointless today. They just need to be given clarity and purpose in this modern world. Perhaps police brutality will near Syrian levels, and perhaps full-on searches of people's personal lives will be made just for stating the word "jihad." I doubt we're at those points.

The point of the 2nd Amendment is to prevent Syrian levels of brutality from happening in the first place. Sure, we're not facing British tyranny but what kind of voice to the people have if the government decides that freedom of speech doesn't apply anymore?

I didn't see a clear argument proving that viewing violence translates into a problem. Sexual issues resulting from porn and other such unrealistic sources has proven to have a myriad of significant negatives born out of a lack of education. The resolution to this kind of topic is to improve education about sex despite our cultural awkwardness towards it.

I can tell you what it looks like from outside:
That you're scared as hell of sex and idolize violence.

I grew up with sex being just a part of life. You do it, it's an enjoyable thing and it's not a big deal. No one makes a fuss about it and you don't get hammered with christian morality about how premarital sex is a sin or anything like that.
So no one throws a fit if a pair of tits show up in prime time television.
People might frown at it and they don't want people in the park screwing when kids are playing nearby, but even if that happens, it won't make the news, because no one gives a shit.

I think that goes for most of Europe at least.

Lightknight:
I didn't see a clear argument proving that viewing violence translates into a problem. Sexual issues resulting from porn and other such unrealistic sources has proven to have a myriad of significant negatives born out of a lack of education. The resolution to this kind of topic is to improve education about sex despite our cultural awkwardness towards it.

I don't know how normal violence is in the US. I know that my country frowns upon it in all cases and the one who commits criminal violence is seen as immature or some sort of lowlife.
Basically idiots who can't resolve their issues in any other way than using their fists.

The media in the US seems to glorify it though. "Shoot up a school and get famous!"

You guys seem sort of desensitized. Not because of games, movies or books, but it's not as hated or shocking as a bit of public skin is, in the news.

I don't see much problem with Violence unless someone can't tell fiction from reality or by calling something Violence to a group of people who like Violence. As in saying Rape is Violence only enforces that people like Violence & you won't really get the reaction you want. If anything Rape is an act of Enslavement forcing someone to do something they don't want to do.

The problem with Sex on the other hand is we can't have a discussion about it without it either being barred or being treated like only the porn industry is allowed to talk about it. And leaving it to the porn industry is just as bad as leaving Evolution to Creationists. I feel like I should Face Palm every time someone thinks touching Breasts causes women to moan.

But I doubt America has a bigger problem with Sex when there are way more creepy fetishes that have come out of Japanese porn.

Both sex and violence are good for narratives but only if they are used for strong narrative reasons.

Sex is based on a primal part of Humanity to reproduce. This is the type of thing that having too much or too little causes problems. No Right Answer covered the issues of too much sex: societal pressures, rape culture, slight issue with women representation. If you want an example of too little sex, check Japan: They are starting to have a low birth rate and the rape culture and victim blaming is worse. I heard an interesting anecdote about Japan that may or may be wrong, please correct if so: It is believed that holding your urges could cause an imbalance of yin and yang and that having sex cures you so raping someone may be seen by some to be saving yourself from dying of a fundamental imbalance. Regardless of true or not, it's still a problem

In America, We have an odd relation, sexuality is fine but sex is not. We can have a hot women advertise a product but we can't see the consensual act of sex. It's an odd double standard that needs some investigation as to why.

Violence is also based on a primal part of Humanity, defense and survival. This one is much more one sided than Sex but still odd. Violence is kept both at arms length and right in front of us. We love the cinematic violence: blood fountains, limbs and head being tossed around, guns blazing and the like but we seem to want to be ignorant of the issues that violence causes to both perpetrator and victim: Crushing guilt, mental damage and that's not even getting into the effects of war that is conveniently avoided in a lot of games and movies. It could be possible that we subject ourselves to this selective bias for the sake of confort and that we want violence to exist because it acts as a diversion from the stress of normal life

I think the problem is that we are obsessed with these things in unhealthy ways. Violence is conflict, so somewhat necessary for compelling storytelling, but we have taken it to a repulsively fetishistic level. Every show or movie has to go further than the last. Remember what the old Law & Order show was like? Every episode wasn't a multiple rape/homicide case. And the torture-porn movies are out of control (Saw 2 and on, Hostel, the new Evil Dead). For all the fear mongering about children not knowing how to differentiate between video game violence and real violence, I think people have forgot that adults have a seriously unhealthy relationship with it as well.

As for sex, it's the fact that we obsessed with it somehow being wrong that makes it unhealthy. There is nothing wrong with the human body or sex. It's normal and natural. But we act like it's a big sin. And the unrealistic body image problem has little to do with sex. It's more of an amorphous "you are a worse human being if you can't be this" message, quite disconnected from sex most of the time, and photoshop/editing/makeup has a lot to do with it.

Just my opinions.

Smilomaniac:
I can tell you what it looks like from outside:
That you're scared as hell of sex and idolize violence.

Yep, that's basically how it works here.

Smilomaniac:
The media in the US seems to glorify it though. "Shoot up a school and get famous!"

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!!! No, we do not glorify violence against innocent people, especially not when it's domestic. Shootings and shit like that freaks us out as much as anyone. We like watching fictional violence in media, but it's rarely being glorified.

Kennetic:

The point of the 2nd Amendment is to prevent Syrian levels of brutality from happening in the first place. Sure, we're not facing British tyranny but what kind of voice to the people have if the government decides that freedom of speech doesn't apply anymore?

Ya, because that's totally a realistic concern. We can't even keep weed illegal anymore, I think your first amendment is safe.
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Well now... it's been awhile since i've watched a 'No Right Answer' episode and it turns out to be a pretty serious one.
Props to Chris and Kyle for taking it seriously but remaining civil while expressing that no one's wrong but rather discussions are valid ether way. Major respect to these guys.

OT: Since I am American thus have lived in the USA for as long as I can remember... sex overtakes violence.
They're both just as bad thus I won't tell anyone who dislikes violence all the more that they're wrong because really... violence could easily take the cake. But on a larger scale, sex affects way more people here in the states. On advertisements everywhere from billboards, to posters, to TV commercials, to movie commercials, to internet ads, to gaming trailers, to simply anything relating to the media- sex is shown one way or another. It may be a woman stripping, or a couple getting close and hinting sex is going to unfold, or perhaps a figure is getting off a motorcycle only for that figure to remove the helmet in the sexiest way possible because it's a woman.

Also here's another way of showing why sex overtakes violence. Society in the USA is used to violence. We are entertained and thrive on violence especially in sports. Sure it's not gladiator death battles but we certainly get riled up when football players tackle each other, or when two hockey players throw down. Yet, when a pop singer exposes herself sexually in some fashion then the whole event turns to her. News articles, headlights, stories and rumors will fly across the country about the one incident with a woman exposing herself.

I guess the best way to put it is that America is used to violence, but obsessed with sex.
Also Chris brought up the best point in my opinion.. that an episode can show gore, violence, torture towards a character along with gruesome scenes but everyone's attention and conversations are going to be "Hey did you see the boobs? Holy crap I saw nipples and sexy ladies all stripping. Whoo!!" ... Yep.

OlasDAlmighty:

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!!! No, we do not glorify violence against innocent people, especially not when it's domestic. Shootings and shit like that freaks us out as much as anyone. We like watching fictional violence in media, but it's rarely being glorified.

There's covering a story, then there's every gruesome detail being explored and sent over and over again.
That's what I mean by glorifying it. These are the weapons he used, he shot this many times, there were this many victims, this many of them died, here's the killers past, here are his hobbies, here's what his mom, dad and neighbors think, this is where he was born and so on.

The biggest shock I got about Breivik is not the amount of people he killed or even that it could happen in Scandinavia, but the media coverage and the amount of detailed attention it got.
It's not that this information is uncovered, but it's the fact that we're exposed to it for weeks, every hour of the day.

If it's not perverse glorification, I don't know what it is :/

Big up to Chris and Kyle for the call to not rank this with winners and losers and instead to invite debate. Well done, gents.

Smilomaniac:
I can tell you what it looks like from outside:
That you're scared as hell of sex and idolize violence.

Yeah. I'm on the inside and it looks that way from here, too. It's not the way things are, of course, nor can I say I know anyone who thinks that being scared of sex and idolizing violence is a state they want to attain, but it does seem to be the way our fictions work. Off the cuff I'd say it's because it's nice to simplify complex things. I don't know that this explains the sex-fear (beyond it being too deep to simplify, maybe, and therefore should just be ignored), but it does cover a lot of what happens with violence.

I'd argue there's some bleed over from this treatment in fiction to how things are handled IRL, too. I'm not really down with arguments that lean towards desensitization but do think there's something to be said for encountering situations that only have a personal precedent in fiction and then being completely unprepared for how to deal with reality.

OlasDAlmighty:

Smilomaniac:
The media in the US seems to glorify it though. "Shoot up a school and get famous!"

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!!! No, we do not glorify violence against innocent people, especially not when it's domestic. Shootings and shit like that freaks us out as much as anyone. We like watching fictional violence in media, but it's rarely being glorified.

I know what you're getting at : mass murderers who shoot up schools aren't held up as good people and glorified. What Olas said, though, was 'get famous,' and he's totally on the mark. Our media absolutely makes those murderers famous. Within hours we know the clothes they wore, the games they played, the music they listen to. Who else, outside of the entertainment industry (and arguably polititians), gets that kind of publicity in our country?

Captcha : Good for nothing. Hmmm.... War... unh... good god, y'all.

Smilomaniac:

OlasDAlmighty:

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!!! No, we do not glorify violence against innocent people, especially not when it's domestic. Shootings and shit like that freaks us out as much as anyone. We like watching fictional violence in media, but it's rarely being glorified.

There's covering a story, then there's every gruesome detail being explored and sent over and over again.
That's what I mean by glorifying it. These are the weapons he used, he shot this many times, there were this many victims, this many of them died, here's the killers past, here are his hobbies, here's what his mom, dad and neighbors think, this is where he was born and so on.

The biggest shock I got about Breivik is not the amount of people he killed or even that it could happen in Scandinavia, but the media coverage and the amount of detailed attention it got.
It's not that this information is uncovered, but it's the fact that we're exposed to it for weeks, every hour of the day.

If it's not perverse glorification, I don't know what it is :/

It's not glorification, people can be fascinated with something without glorifying it. People like James Holmes are among the most hated in our culture. You think historians who do research on the holocaust glorify it?

Kennetic:

KaZuYa:

Kennetic:

We have guns to protect ourselves from a tyrannical government. Don't think that's a legit issue? Let's take a look at the NSA snooping on everyone's phone records, or how the Boston police raided several homes without warrants. Those things happened just this year.

It's the tyrannical government who's selling you those guns and defending your right to own them, but then what your talking about is the even bigger con "democracy", it doesn't exist.

I would like an an example of the US government selling me guns because that has never happened in my experience unless you're talking about the fast and furious scandal. And where does democracy not exist? Mind you, the US is a republic but I'd just like some clarification of the point you're trying to make.

The US government doesn't manufacture or sell guns per say but they create the infrastructure for those guns to be sold, they give power to organisations such as the NRA who are nothing but PR machines for gun companies.

There is no country in the world which has true democracy in the sense it was created by the ancient greeks. While you think you have a choice you really don't, You are told who you can vote for, people selected by committee under the control of the elite ruling class, and when it eventually comes down to polling day you only have two viable choices Democrat or Republican, deliberately polarised so it limits your choice further to no choice at all but in reality they both serve the same rich elite.

If you truly believe voting for someone you didn't chose, who is completely out of touch with the unwashed masses who doesn't represent what you stand for but is simply the lesser of two evils every five years is democracy then good for you.

Smilomaniac:

Lightknight:
I didn't see a clear argument proving that viewing violence translates into a problem. Sexual issues resulting from porn and other such unrealistic sources has proven to have a myriad of significant negatives born out of a lack of education. The resolution to this kind of topic is to improve education about sex despite our cultural awkwardness towards it.

I don't know how normal violence is in the US. I know that my country frowns upon it in all cases and the one who commits criminal violence is seen as immature or some sort of lowlife.
Basically idiots who can't resolve their issues in any other way than using their fists.

The media in the US seems to glorify it though. "Shoot up a school and get famous!"

You guys seem sort of desensitized. Not because of games, movies or books, but it's not as hated or shocking as a bit of public skin is, in the news.

There's a signifcant misconception in other countries regarding violence in America. We just have a much more reporters on the ground starving for a story while also putting out movies that are very violent. In reality we're generally within about 2 or 3 incidents per 100,000 with countries like the U.K. where countries are concerned. Homicide, for example, the U.K. is a respectable 1.2 (Europe is a 3.5) whereas the US is 4.8 per 100,000. Russia is 10.2 and Honduras is the king of murders at 91.6 per 100,000 (nearly .01 chance per year that you'll get murdered!). Like Europe, we have states that have a very different homicide rate than others as well. Generally our border states have the worst numbers and Louisiana is simply awful. But as a whole, the US isn't significantly different and violent crimes have gone down while violence in all forms of media has gotten more graphic. The slightly higher violent crimes may be more closely related to our war on drugs, immigration and other such nonsense moreso than just regularly more violent people. We also have some of the longest borders in the world. But when you're talking about differences of .001's, it's not a huge difference.

We do have a puritanical view on sex and that's certainly part of the problem. It's actually the reason why there's a significant lack of information on the subject of sex due to cultural stigma surrounding the topic. This can all be tracked back to the works of Augustine who had a particular problem with it. It's one of the reasons why there is so little information about sex. It is still largely taboo to talk about and that's something that needs to change for the health of our society.

Sex isn't a problem... The LACK of sex is a problem.

I've always find it strange how Americans react to these two things.
You can show a thousand instances of death and violence BUT if you show one instance of sex (or sexuality)you've suddenly crossed the line!

For instance... This WILL make it on American television

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But this WON'T

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Strange isn't it?

***BTW***

I'm willing to bet that the escapist will block the photo of the busty girl but NOT the guy with his head sliced open.

I'd have thought that answer would be freedom, freedom to shoot up a school, freedom to have phones tapped, freedom to cheeseburger etc.

OMFG! Evil Smurf that is the cutest avatar picture ever!!

OT: I think America is more obsessed with violence than sex, as someone said earlier, it's so common in media it's almost white noise. While sex (not romance) is relatively scarce. I'd say we all think about sex a lot more than violence especially in real life as there's more detrimental consequences to acts of violence but finding someone attractive and having sex with them consensually is fantastic. We also tend to think or fantasise about sex more as we're always driven to breed as it's more or less the end purpose of us (in a primal animalistic way), violence is optional and most people will avoid it if not required for survival.

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Evil Smurf that cute kitten is REALLY distracting in cuteness!!
*resume*

As per the show name I don't think there's a right answer but I think it has more to do with the vagueness of the question, lack of parameters and definition of the question than a lack of answer. Going by media content, violence. If we could register what people think about the most in a 24hr period it will be clearly sex.

Going to have to go with "Sex". Americans are obsessed with sex and sexuality. Violence is simply a part of the culture, with low level violence being essential for most visual entertainment, be it simple slapstick comedy (both "real" and animated) to complex narratives based on violence (every cop show, most shows about ER doctors). One of the most prevalent American Myths is the Myth of the Gun; the Gun = Power to Resist Tyranny. That's just what America is.

Sex, on the other hand, is something that America has forbidden since centuries before it's inception. It's rooted in the religious fear of sexuality and the need to control it, to keep it out of sight and out of mind. Now that the religious power in America has faded to a shadow of its former power, sex is out in the open and Americans just don't know how to deal with it. In many ways when it comes to sex, America is like a 14yr old boy who's got a supply of hand lotion and a Costco cube of tissue paper, and whose parents have let him move into the near sound proofed basement. You just know he's down there wasting box after box, giggling with glee while there's a small part of his brain that keeps chanting "Chafing! Chafing! Chafing!" but so far, so good!

Violence is the only thing that distracts innocent children from sex, so that's perfectly ok

Rated "M"... For "Minor"
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EDIT: Oh c'mon, you snuck in more "Nice guy" debate by saying sex in advertizing and sexual clothing as the reason for it?

I know for once, just once, I'd like to see a cover of a Cosmopolitan magazine (no I don't read it, but you see it in the grocery store checkouts all the time) that didn't have the word 'sex' on it. "Have the Best Sex Ever" "Sizzling Sex Secrets" "Hot Summer Sex" and so on and so on. You know, all this shallow emphasis on performance is really disheartening esp. for me whose never had sex. In fact it's really frightening for someone like me whose never had it!


Sex sells better than violence, its the greater obsession.

Gonna have to say it's really more of a competition between food and violence, given that sex is most often hidden away as if it's something to be ashamed of. Game of thrones having it and being proud about it was such a novelty that it was actually brought up.

Plus y'know, Americans and guns so the violence in the media has a far more damaging real life parallel even if there isn't a direct cause-effect link, it still shows that the culture itself is inundated with way too much violence.

I think the biggest misconception in this video is that these two things are separate. They are in fact the same thing. Violence is there to get sex.

I'll bite. Violence: pretty much always bad. You intentionally hit somebody under anything except very special circumstances (for example martial arts training between people who know what they're doing and have precise control, two man-men best friends having a bromantic and non-serious slap fight, etc.) and you've done something horrible.

Sex, on the other hand, is not nearly so clear-cut. The worst part about it seems to be the prevalent idea that being in any way sexual somehow always harms a woman, that a woman is always definitionally being exploited by either having sex with somebody or being looked at in too sexual a fashion (generally speaking if the partner/viewer in question is a man it tends to set off this alarm much more readily). That men take/buy/rent, women give/sell, and if women render sex too cheaply then they're being taken advantage of. This alongside the underlying assumption that sex is always solely an economic exchange would seem to imply that the only women who don't get taken advantage of are prostitutes, porn stars or golddiggers; which I find questionable at best.

Gonna go out on a limb here: it is possible for a two people to want to have sex with each other and for it to be a nice experience for both of them. It is possible for a woman to be looked at in an appreciative way in regards to her sexuality without also being debased. But while there is a nice way to bone somebody you care about as thoroughly as you can, there is no nice way to punch somebody you care about as thoroughly as you can. The idea that there is a nice, good, noble way to beat another human to death is, from my perspective at least, a clearly much more damaging thing than an especially focused interest in sexytimes.

I think it all comes down to context and how it's being used.
sex - pleasure/life, great. Objectification/defacing/falsification, not so great
violence - plot/venting frustration, great. Objectification/over-glorification/depression not so great

violence and sex together I think is the greatest, but how often it goes together without basis.

Ah, Jessica Rabbit. How many young minds has that woman forever touched with her curves?

KaZuYa:

Kennetic:

KaZuYa:

It's the tyrannical government who's selling you those guns and defending your right to own them, but then what your talking about is the even bigger con "democracy", it doesn't exist.

I would like an an example of the US government selling me guns because that has never happened in my experience unless you're talking about the fast and furious scandal. And where does democracy not exist? Mind you, the US is a republic but I'd just like some clarification of the point you're trying to make.

The US government doesn't manufacture or sell guns per say but they create the infrastructure for those guns to be sold, they give power to organisations such as the NRA who are nothing but PR machines for gun companies.

There is no country in the world which has true democracy in the sense it was created by the ancient greeks. While you think you have a choice you really don't, You are told who you can vote for, people selected by committee under the control of the elite ruling class, and when it eventually comes down to polling day you only have two viable choices Democrat or Republican, deliberately polarised so it limits your choice further to no choice at all but in reality they both serve the same rich elite.

If you truly believe voting for someone you didn't chose, who is completely out of touch with the unwashed masses who doesn't represent what you stand for but is simply the lesser of two evils every five years is democracy then good for you.

That is not even remotely how it works. Firstly it's 4 years. Secondly the major republican and democrat are chosen through primary elections. And lastly, YOU DON'T HAVE TO VOTE FOR EITHER OF THEM! My sister voted Libertarian in the last election. So no you do not have to pick between the lesser of two evils.

Congratulations on picking the sexy topic but I found the debate really weird without a discussion of the actual end state the act leads to. Violence leads to pain and killing... even in moderation it can, at best, prevent worse pain and death. It has no positive end state in modern society at all. Sex can lead to objectification and rape at worst but its kinda needed for the continuation of humanity.

Both are basic human instincts but since one is far more beneficial than the other and if were talking about which obsession is worse than I think that does come into the argument. America's greatest and most unhealthy obsession is with violence not sex. Also if one were to grab any newspaper and flip through the pages counting instances of both, violence would come out on top every time. Whether discussing it from a perspective of their relative merits or their proliferation it seems a bit of a non-argument and I will never understand why american culture continues to be so scared of the evils of sex and accepting of the entertainment inherit to other peoples suffering.

(I guess what I'm saying is that I want more porn in my video games... lets have adult street fighter sex edition)

Obsession? From an external point of view of the U.S, it IS violence, from the many movies and television shows, to the very well known army glorification.

Sex on the other hand is seen as a "bad" thing, as much as a very good advertisement technique. Having a sex scene will most likely make whatever the movie/game/show instantly mature, while violence will not (depending on the level thou).

I feel that violence is more of an obsession than sex. Because, while we do stress details about sex and go to absurd lengths to stop it while also glorifying it, we happily consume all source of awful violence to the point we don't even care. When's the last time you watched one of the 500 murder mystery shows and felt bad for the victim? I don't mean like 'oh, that's awful,' but instead were like 'holy shit, what kind of monster would do that to a human being?' Criminal Minds has a few of these that I've seen that were just so bad. And this is a public show that kids can watch without parents getting up in arms about it. However, one nipples appears on public television? WHAT THE FLIPPING JIMMINY IFHSAHDIWQJDIWNCIEWFHDWISD!?

That's the problem. Sex is an obsession. But sex, by itself, isn't a bad thing. Objectification is. Self-image issues (which aren't tied directly to sex, but instead to sexuality in my opinion, if that makes sense) are bad. Rape is one of the worst things one person can do to another (though one could make the argument that rape normally involves violence as well). But sex in general isn't bad.

Violence is normally considered bad in pretty much any case. Except sports for some reason... which makes me realize something. American's obsession with violence isn't only in television shows and in games. It's in our sports too. The number one sport in America is a bunch of guys attacking each other while trying to get the skin of a pig from one place to another. It seems fairly violent in it's nature.

I think both obsessions aren't good. But I feel the obsession with violence is stronger than that of sex. That doesn't mean that I think the obsession with sex isn't worse. I feel the pull towards violence and our general obsession with it is stronger.

Allow me to propose a social experiment: would you sit down and watch a movie rated PG-13 with your pre-teen child? What if it involved the hero casually shooting and killing a faceless villain? Would you watch Die Hard with a ten-year-old boy?

Next, would you watch a totally non-violent realistic porno with the ten-year-old boy? Assuming there's nothing weird about it: no giant dildos in ear canals or midgets blowing donkeys. Just normal, real, sex.

Now, say it's a couple years later, would you rather your boy engage in murder or sex? We Americans have this massive taboo around sex as being inappropriate and therefore more desired and we seem to be only too happy to perpetuate this taboo. Meanwhile our national gun related death rate is about 20 times the global average and nobody bats an eye. The question is: how do we define obsession? Common practice or unspoken desire?

The problem isn't sex OR violence, it's people's attitudes. If people complain that porn isn't like real sex...WELL IT NEVER CLAIMED TO BE!

There's probably a few cops that moan about police procedure in the Die Hard movies, but no one pays them any mind because there's an intended disconnect for added drama in certain forms of entertainment. Sometimes a movie or show e.g. The Wire, will come along and go the gritty, 'real' route, but any rounded individual can see whatever the specific type of media is trying to be.

We (Western Society) are not becoming disillusioned,or misaligned, or even corrupted....we are becoming ENTITLED!

The world doesn't owe us anything, and it never did.

Parents, teach your kids what's real and what isn't, media didn't fail your kids, YOU did.

Adolescents, focus more on whats real and whats entertainment and quit being offended all the time.

Adults, try to direct your opinions, time & money towards dealing with REAL issues, help to elevate REAL people and ridding the world of REAL pain.

I don't think the world is too obsessed with sex but I do think violence is far far too overexposed and glorified in media. I don't know how it can really be fixed though, I'm not a fan of censorship or creative limitations so who knows.

As for how people think and act based on the media they are exposed to. Well that's less to do with the media itself imo and more how said media is messaged. A magazine with a picture of some pretty celebrity saying "look how pretty she is" is relatively harmless but if that's then followed up by: "here's 5 tips on how you can look like her too!" is when it all goes wrong and girls in particular start getting stupid ideas in their heads.

One of my ex girlfriends back in highschool was utterly obsessed with her perceived imperfections and I thought she was absolutely beautiful, but no matter how many times I told her this she would continue to think she was ugly, and worthless because of it. Her obsession wasn't a result of sexual media but that said media seems to always come hand in hand with the BE LIKE THIS OR ELSE message.

Just, better management all around is required. Porn sites need better systems for keeping kids out of them, magazines need to stop telling women how to look and adverts need to stop using sex so blatantly to sell things so often. Internet ads in particular are just getting depressing with how desperate they seem to be for clicks now.

I would say violence is the bigger obsession. Violence has gone beyond just being in within American (hell, this applies pretty much everywhere)media, it has become media itself. Violence, when you think about it, is a terrible thing, humans harming other humans being is detrimental to our species, yet it is so heavily ingrained within our media and it is just accepted as the norm, that there is nothing wrong with it being this way.

Violence barely budges the ratings on any form of media, hell, there actually pressure on content creators to include it because it will actually boost ratings/interest. Violence has surpassed being desired, it has become a necessity, despite how regressive the obsession is we refuse to change.

Sex on the other hand, is actually a requirement for the success of our species. Yet just the idea of including it in our media causes an explosion of fear within society. Sex is natural and necessary yet the vast majority of people will fight tooth and nail against its presence in any form of media. There is an obsession with sex, though it is primarily because of the way it has been presented to us, people will react very strongly to something rare or considered to have not have been supposed to happen. The reaction is stronger but the actual obsession pales in comparison.

The obsession with self image is connected to the obsession with sex, but they are not the same, they over lap and are a part of each other but they each have other elements outside of the other, there is just a brief over lap really.

The obsession with sex is further diluted by the various issues associated with it, such as:
* The trivialization of sex (it IS important/serious)
* The over dramatization of sex (not THAT important/series)
* The fear of sex (STD's and teen pregnancy, oh my!)
* Issues regarding sexuality (straight, gay, bi, tran)
* Objectification (leaving this one at that)
* Etc (the rest!)

There are that many individual aspects of the sex obsession and the varying views and opinions on each of them that is just a big weird mess, we barely know what we think we might possible consider potentially fear any more.

Says something about human nature really, or perhaps just western culture (that eventually spread out to other directional hemispheres), that we actively seek and immerse our selves with the destructive violence obsession, yet we shun and revile the beneficial sex obsession.

What is to blame? religion is a corner stone of many cultures and many of them promote these same values (violence = good, Sex = bad UNLESS YOU DO [insert ritual here] FIRST), could be some sort of conspiracy that someone/s has been conditioning humans to follow a path of self destruction but that seems unrealistic due to the scope and the fact that the people/s pulling the strings gain nothing from it. Maybe it's a reaction built into our DNA to help us control our population, some other animals do similar things so this could be it. Maybe were all just terrible people who enjoy other's suffering. Maybe its some other thing, but definitely probably one of the things that I already mentioned because I am out of idea.

clearly, violence is more damaging for society then sex because

violence leads to death
sex leads to (life?) well children...

and

violence typically feels bad (painful) for atleast someone involved
sex generally feels good (or so im told, *virgin*) for most people involved

Just to throw in my own 2c, and this is far from a bottom line, the worst case scenarios of sex involve sexual violence. The worst cases of violence do not involve violent sex.

Make of that what you will.

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