How did you have sex?

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THe first girl i had sex with is the girl i am still with, we have been together, we are both 21, and I love this girl with all my heart, i dont care about sex, its nice, but I have her, thats all i need.

Missionary me on top.

EDIT: That's all you wanted to know, right?

megaman24681012:

Matthew94:

megaman24681012:

OT: sorry that I can't contribute here guys. Trying to remain celibate and asexual. Though the prospect is intriguing. Also: ELLIPSES!!

How can you try to be asexual, you are or you aren't.

It's not like you can fend off homosexuality.

o.O

>.>

Not sure if serious. If you want me to clarify: I'm not in the mood for relationships or sexual encounters and probably won't be for a while.

....

Also, you just called me gay, didn't you? How... odd.

No, I'm saying you can't just be "trying to remain" asexual, you either are or you aren't.

There is a difference between "not being in the mood at the moment" and being properly asexual.

Are you an asexual or not, you post implies you just use the tag as you are trying to remain celebit .

You know, I have no idea. People say that I did but all I have is their word on it. I'm pretty sure the party, for normal persons but not me, bored me to death and I found a dark little spot where I could snooze through it.
I was pretty sure it was a prank but nobody has confessed to it. But I'm pretty sure that I was the only one sober so maybe they mistook a washing machine for me.
So yeah, that ?was? ?my? ?first? time.

to quote Poison:

At the drive-in
In the old mans ford
Behind the bushes
Until I'm screamin' for more
Down the basement
Lock the cellar door
And baby
Talk dirty to me

CrashBang:
Everyone's approaching this so awkwardly (probably cos it's awkward) but mine's really typical. We were 16, had been going out for a few months, had sex, it sucked and then we broke up. Ahh, youth.

Yea basically this. First time was terrible, two virgins just doesn't make for fun time.

CODE-D:

Ah....I see you found my true motives.....

I now imagine you as a bond villain, sitting in a wheel chair, gently stroking a cat.
OT: Me and my gf had been dating (if I have to use that disgusting word) for about a month, then we decided to have sex. She had experience, I had not. We were at it for like an hour when we decided that we were tired, and that I wasn't going to climax out of stage fright.

it was in highschool, like actually in the highschool, it's not as bad as you think, we had an entire room

then the zombies came

Im one of those people who doesnt believe in sex before marriage...
Same applies to my girlfriend of 1 year...

Considering we are both 18, I will leave you to figure out where this leaves me on this topic.

I looked down one day and found that i was a male.. that makes my sex male

Muha ha ha ha

Gardenia:
I now imagine you as a bond villain, sitting in a wheel chair, gently stroking a cat.

A hell of a euphemism if I ever saw one... the only way you could make it worse is if you inserted the word 'purring'...

OT: Now that I'm feeling less shitty and actually remembered my first post:

Met gf#2 in therapy... hooked up for the companionship. Went over to her place during the holidays to meet her folks and spend a long weekend there. Parents were out, brother was over at his gf's, other siblings had already moved out. We fumbled about and I made her bleed... not nice for either of us...

Second time, though, was all kinds of out of this world awesome... at that point I developed a certain kind of addiction, shall we say...

well we were friends first before we dated, and after 2 weeks together we were alone in her room and it just happened, we were making out and started undressing each other

I'm 15, haven't done it yet, got close not too long ago, and then her parents found out we were talking about it... didn't go down to well and now I'm never allowed to see her again... life goes on.

First time? Like a ninja. Mum was downstairs, mega quiet secks for me.

Missionary position, but not for the sole purpose of procreation...

A threesome with my ex and her girlfriend

It was weird/awesome

We were kissing on her couch, She straddled my waist and moved her nethers in a rubbing motion against me (which is a pretty clear indicator that a girl is aroused and wants to fuck you) I put a hand on her left breast, and we went from there.

Here's a tip for you OP. It's not everything you've built it up to be. Yes it's fun, yes it feels good at the time, but the fact that you're spending time asking people on the internet how to go about getting* a girl to fuck you and what's worse, you're actually reading the responses like they will help in your endeavor to get laid means you've already attached more significance to the act than it actually has. If you care that much and you're so worked up about it, just pay someone to fuck you and get it out of your system.

*getting: That's the other thing that struck me about your posts. You're asking (like a lot of virgins** on the internet) how to "get" someone to have sex with you. You don't. There are no magic words to open someone's thighs or make their dick hard. It happens pretty spontaneously. Just be open to the idea of it and don't be so awkward or nervous that you say something stupid or creepy and you'll get along fine.

** There is no shame to being a virgin. I know there's a negative connotation to that word, particularly amongst virgins, but there really isn't any shame to the state of not having had sex yet. Don't let it define you.

***Use protection, it's a scary world of VD out there and it's not worth having some unpleasant STD that won't go away for a few minutes of pleasure (and children count as an STD too).

Matthew94:

megaman24681012:

Matthew94:

How can you try to be asexual, you are or you aren't.

It's not like you can fend off homosexuality.

o.O

>.>

Not sure if serious. If you want me to clarify: I'm not in the mood for relationships or sexual encounters and probably won't be for a while.

....

Also, you just called me gay, didn't you? How... odd.

No, I'm saying you can't just be "trying to remain" asexual, you either are or you aren't.

There is a difference between "not being in the mood at the moment" and being properly asexual.

Are you an asexual or not, you post implies you just use the tag as you are trying to remain celebit .

You got a point there. Damn me for misunderstanding terms again! Thanks for pointing that out. ^.^

T'was actually my Girlfriend who did the convincing the first time. Still together after 3 years, still loving it. Since then though the dynamic in who initiates it has shifted somewhat.

Well if you're looking for advice, you can always make sex into a bit of a workout with a happy ending. A good bit of cardio so you get in better shape and feel good about yourself. Nothing beats a good sprint after someone in an alley than a good orgasm at the end of it.

This is a weird topic.

How did you have sex your first couple of times?
- The first couple of times Tom and I made love it was spur of the moment. The attraction between us was immense to say the least.

By which I mean how did you convince another person to do the do with you?
- I'm just that awesome.

Were you boyfriend/girlfriend? How did you meet?
- Yes we were boyfriend/girlfriend. We met over the internet. lol.

How did you get close enough to permit the act?
- I just walked up to him and pressed my body close to his. Though he did also pull me close and we had a passionate kiss.

How long were you together before?
- We were together for a little over a year? Though, if it wasn't a long distance relationship it definitely would have happened sooner. The connection between us is a strong one. :) That and I doubt I would have had the strength to say no to him. o.O I love that boy so much. :)

EDIT: We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary of being together February 17th! :D <3 <3 <3

CODE-D:
How did you have sex your first couple of times?

I did it with my penis.

The first couple of times it sorta just happened. Then we became couple after that. It all came very naturally to both of I think, since we were attracted to each other. Even though I hadn't really known her for more than a month or 2.

Strain42:
I first had sex with a girl I met in my class that basically used to collect virgins like baseball cards. You know "got, got, need, got, I want it, but only in better condition, got, got"

In fact one of the very first things she said to me was "I smell virgin on you..." I then told her "...I'm John, by the way."

.... What dimension do you live in where a girl actually does that, and how the fuck do I get there?

You are the luckiest person I've ever heard of.

OT: Hasn't happened. I noticed there's a few people here who are saying "I got lucky", and in my case, it's more along the lines of "I'm extremely unlucky".

It's not so much my fault, but more along the lines of it really just hasn't happened. Besides the one time when I broke up with a girl after she told me she was wanted to lose her virginity with me... Though I don't regret that. She was cute, but was crazy... and she's now dating my best friend, and they're super happy. So yeah, don't regret that.

I've dated a few girls over the years, but nothing more than making out ever really happened. But I'm in college now, and slowly becoming more confident. I'm hopeful that I'm gonna meet someone soon.

Recommendation for the OP: Stay safe, use protection.

My first time? It had been with my girlfriend. We started playing around, kissing, flirting, and then I decided to go for it. It was amazing. Awkward, yes...but still amazing. Still with her, 6 years later. I've loved her every single day of those years.

I was 15, I met a girl online, found out that she lived near me and we said we would meet up. I suggested sex since we had been flirting a bit and so when we met up I took her back to my boarding house and we had sex. I had Karate so we went back to my school and after that we foole around a bit in one of the computer rooms.

I and six or seven of my friends were drunk and high and we all just paired off over the course of an evening

First time was with my girlfriend, we'd talked about it before hand and it was a kinda nervous experience for the both of us seeing as it was our first time..

Although a far more interesting tale is of when I hooked up with a girl at a music festival, we met randomly during My Chemical Romance's set and went back to her tent where we had a bit of a frenzy of vodka and weed. To this day I don't know her last name

Amberella:
- I'm just that awesome.

How did you get close enough to permit the act?
- I just walked up to him and pressed my body close to his. Though he did also pull me close and we had a passionate kiss.

How long were you together before?
- We were together for a little over a year? Though, if it wasn't a long distance relationship it definitely would have happened sooner. The connection between us is a strong one. :) That and I doubt I would have had the strength to say no to him. o.O I love that boy so much. :)

EDIT: We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary of being together February 17th! :D <3 <3 <3

^^ I just wanted to let you know, you made me "Awww!" reading this. ^^

Congrats on three years!

Oh, and I enjoyed your overly-literal answers to the OP's questions. ^^ Seriously, this entire post made my day. ^^

With my penis.

Oh right, you meant how did I get to have sex.
Well...

Were you boyfriend/girlfriend?
Yep. For a while actually, although it would have been sooner. There were a few mishaps with condoms... had one that broke immediately, one that was too small, one that felt horrible. We both hated the damned things, so in the end we both got checks for diseases and she went on the pill. It just ended up being simpler.

Howd you meet?
School. She loved metal too so that gave us a starting point and then we got closer.

Howd you get close enough to permit the act?
Emotionally close? Don't know. If you want hints, I can't help you. We had a lot in common and I could make her laugh easily (by being crude or cynical mostly) so that helped.

How long were you together before?
A few months. Like I said, there were mishaps...

A gentleman never tells.

*sips tea*

Quite.

jthm:

** There is no shame to being a virgin. I know there's a negative connotation to that word, particularly amongst virgins, but there really isn't any shame to the state of not having had sex yet. Don't let it define you.

Easy for an outsider to say. For awhile, it was all I could think about and it dominated my life. It was not pleasant and just saying "stop thinking about it" doesn't help.

Hmm, I almost don't want to share my story because I'm afraid someone will try and replicate it, getting as hurt as I did, or worse. Oh well. I begin this with the caveat of "don't ever do this," but I did it. I'm 25 and was when this happened. For years I didn't believe I was attractive at all. I didn't understand that women found any men physically attractive, let alone that I could be, too. Using this forum, someone put up a thread that said "Am I attractive" and people put up their photos. I did, too, and a couple of females responded that I was cute. This was shocking. This led to me building a profile on a dating website, a practical enough idea. But I also started doing something else.

I went on a porn equivalent of chat roulette (regular chat roulette was heavily censored at that time). I found that through hours and hours of looking at penises, I could very rarely find a woman on there. And sometimes I could get them to talk to me. This led to many, many webcam sex sessions with numerous women. I almost set up an affair with one who lived relatively close, but she changed her mind. Eventually I met another who lived about 6 hours away. This just seemed too far.

But I added her on skype and we talked online for months. I fell in love with her, and she told me that she loved me too. I tried to set things up, but I was terrified. Finally, after striking out on my second date with a woman from the dating site (after months of trying), I felt I had no other choice. I loaded up the GPS, packed my bags, and told her I was going to see her. The drive wasn't as nearly as difficult as I thought it would be. The hotel wasn't that expensive. She showed up and we spent the best two nights of my life together. I don't think I've ever been happier. Not only that, but I was good in bed, which is shocking after 25 years of celibacy. Our "intimacy" would last for hours at a time. She told me it was amazing and she had never experienced anything like it.

After I got back home, I was just as in love as I ever was. I was going to try and get a job and move out there. For once, I had direction and purpose in life. But she had changed. She didn't talk to me like she used to. Her tone was different. She didn't love me anymore. I understood and I wasn't upset about it. My love is not conditional. I wanted to be friends. I wanted to know what she was doing with her life. I'm pretty sure she had found another guy she wanted to be with, and I wanted to know how it went because I want her to be happy. And just last weekend, she deleted me from her facebook. I'm not sure if I'll ever get to talk to her again. Spent yesterday crying.

zelda2fanboy:

jthm:

** There is no shame to being a virgin. I know there's a negative connotation to that word, particularly amongst virgins, but there really isn't any shame to the state of not having had sex yet. Don't let it define you.

Easy for an outsider to say. For awhile, it was all I could think about and it dominated my life. It was not pleasant and just saying "stop thinking about it" doesn't help.

I don't think truer words have been spoken on the subject than this:
"Sex is like oxygen - it's only important when you aren't getting any."

I'm not a virgin, but I've been on a dry-spell for over a year now and its driving me nuts. I miss the companionship of a girlfriend and I miss the sex for sure.

I lost my virginity back when I was 17, and being 29 now I've had my share of girlfriends a couple of FWBs and so on. I'll say I can count the number of women I've been with on two hands and leave it at that.

Really I've found the times I've had the most success with women was when I wasn't specifically looking for it, or trying. Its strange - I've never actually successfully "Asked a girl out" - every time I've ended up with a girlfriend or getting laid somehow its always started as being friends and then one thing eventually leading to another and we'd be making out, and then we'd be naked.

Looking back on my life I've probably missed out on many opportunities for girlfriends and hook-ups where when I think about thins in retrospect the girl was clearly into me but I was being too dense at the time to notice (I'm good at that).

Really I think the best advice I can give you is to just approach women without expectations, be yourself, and see where things go.

cynicalsaint1:

I'm not a virgin, but I've been on a dry-spell for over a year now and its driving me nuts. I miss the companionship of a girlfriend and I miss the sex for sure.

a YEAR? ... dude there are these things called hookers... they have been around since mankind decided clubbing women wasn't OK... fix you right up! :P

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